週二(11/1)1.星座與壓力的關聯? 2.最樂觀國家&最悲觀國家

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星座與壓力的關聯?

Find out your zodiac sign's areas of anxiety    

By Simone Butler   tarot.com

Aries (March 21 - April 19)

You count on your dynamic Ram energy to get you through the day, and feel vulnerable when it runs out. Especially when you're down or ill, you feel overwhelmed and stress about all the tasks you can't accomplish. You're used to playing Superman or Superwoman, and forget to take time off and be a lazy slug.

Gemini (May 21 - June 20)

You don't suffer fools, Gemini. When the car in front of you pulls a bone-headed move in traffic, your stress-o-meter hits the roof. And, little things get to you -- like words being mispronounced or misspelled. You're apt to blow a gasket dealing with slow or stubborn people, where you feel like you're talking to a wall. You need regular activities that calm your overactive mind, like yoga or throwing pots in a ceramics class.

Cancer (June 21 - July 22)

Feeling unsafe is a sure ticket to stress for you. The Crab puts up a front that makes you seem tougher than you really are, so others don't realize how deeply you're affected by criticism, angry outbursts or being ignored.

Libra (September 23 - October 22)

Not being treated fairly is very stressful for you, Libra. You'll spend hours weighing the pros and cons of confronting someone -- so much so, you can even make yourself sick! Rather than seething in silence or overreacting defensively, respond calmly in the moment.

Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21)

You're all about movement, Sagittarius, so sitting in traffic is your own personal hell. You're also not big on formal events or business meetings where you have to act properly and "behave" according to corporate culture. Any situation that reins you in, like a partner pressuring you for a commitment or a boss demanding you punch in at a time clock, can trigger stress.

Capricorn (December 22 - January 19)

You demand a lot from yourself, Capricorn. And, you feel pressured when you fail to live up to your high expectations. You can end up going over the "what ifs" or "if onlys" of life 'til you're all lathered up, asking questions that can't be answered or longing for what you can't have. The remedy is to live in the moment, the only place where joy can be found. And, be sure there's plenty of time to relax in your hectic day.

Aquarius (January 20 - February 18)

Though "live and let live" is your motto, Aquarius, you really like to have your way. You get frustrated when you can't justify doing what you want without a good reason. Nor can you abide people who try to bend your will to theirs. Already high-strung, you become stressed by the pressures of time, and often feel there's not enough of it. Yet ironically, by slowing down you'll actually get more done and feel more relaxed.

Q:

In your opinion, what start signs of people are much easily feel overwhelmed and stress?

Who to deal with when you feel overwhelmed and stress?

Is your personality really like your astrological sign?

Do you like playing Superman or Superwoman?

What start signs of people easily get frustrated?

What are the factors that trigger stress?

What to do when you cannot live up to your expectations?

 

最樂觀國家&最悲觀國家

The Most Optimistic Countries In The World Might Surprise You, And The Most Pessimistic Definitely Will

By Claire Warner     bustle

It's a pessimist's world out there. No, really — according to a recent survey of the most optimistic countries in the world, the idealists of the world are far outweighed by the Debbie Downers. When you consider the derision directed at most optimists, this isn't exactly surprising; pessimism is a far more fashionable attitude in many circles (probably because it gives people the chance to say, "I told you so," if we're being honest). If you ask most people, the sky is threatening to fall at any given moment.

According to the Independent's i100 blog, researchers did exactly that: Ask people, albeit in a more scientific manner. Researchers surveyed 17 countries across the globe, asking whether respondents thought the world was improving, and the results may surprise you. China was the most optimistic country by far, with 41 percent of percent of respondents reporting that they thought the world was getting better — almost 10 times more than the United States. The second most optimistic country, Indonesia, trailed behind by 18 percentage points, and the number of optimistic respondents quickly dwindled from there. France was the most pessimistic country, with a mere three percent of respondents saying the world was looking up, and 81 percent reporting that it was getting worse.

Hong Kong and Australia made a good showing as well, with 71 and 70 percent of respondents writing that the world was going downhill, respectively. The United States remained largely in the middle of the pack for both pessimism and optimism, although the bar for optimism was so low that a measly showing of 6 percent landed us firmly in the middle. In contrast, 65 percent of American respondents said that the world was getting worse. I'm not saying this has to do with Donald Trump, but... it probably has something to do with Donald Trump.

Judging from the results of the survey, the pessimists of the world far outnumber the optimists — which is unfortunate, considering that optimism has been linked to better physical and mental health.

The Optimists

1. China, 41 percent

2. Indonesia, 23 percent

3. Saudi Arabia, 16 percent

4. Thailand, 11 percent

5. United Arab Emirates, 10 percent

The Pessimists

1. France, 81 percent

2. Hong Kong, 71 percent

3. Australia, 70 percent

4. Thailand, 69 percent

5. Malaysia, 68 percent

Q:

What do you think “the most optimistic countries and the most pessimistic in the world”?

What are the factors make people optimistic? Or pessimistic?

Is it bad to be a pessimist?

How to be less pessimistic and more optimistic?

What are the benefits of being optimistic?

How to have better physical and mental health?

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週五(10/28)1. 厚黑學 2.建立人脈網絡

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厚黑學

Thick Face, Black Heart – Thick Black Theory     by thebamboosea

    When you conceal your will from others, that is Thick.

    When you impose your will on others, that is Black.  – Li Zongwu

In the West, Machiavelli’s book The Prince is probably the best known work on simulation and dissimulation. In Chinese culture however there is a rich and deep seam of literature on strategy and deception. Sun Zi’s Art of War is the most famous, but the more recent book, Thick Black Theory (厚黑学 – Hòuhēixué), written by Li Zongwu (李宗吾) in 1912, is possibly the most important when it comes to trying to understand the Chinese strategies of today.

“Thick face” is in essence a shield to protect a person from the criticism and negative opinions of others, thus preserving and thickening their own “face,” both in their own eyes and in the eyes of others, by refusing to accept the limitations or criticism that others have tried to impose or force upon them.

“Black heart” is the sword used to do battle with others as well as oneself. The black-hearted practitioner focuses their attention purely on their goals and ignores the possible cost to themselves or others. Together with this well-defined and honed killer instinct, the cutting edge of a practitioner’s sword is dispassion – to do battle without or, in spite of fear, and to be able to detach themselves completely from their own and others’ emotions so that their presence does not thwart or hinder them from achieving their ultimate goals.

In Thick Black Theory, the methods by which people use the idea of “thick face, black heart” to obtain and hold on to money, status and power, and how they use these to preserve their position and accumulate more are described in detail.

Li Zongwu’s original intention was to publish Thick Black Theory in a series of three articles in The Chengdu Daily in 1912. However, the official outrage and violent reaction caused after the first article was published led to a cancellation of the series. This series of three articles was later published several times between 1934 and 1936 in a single volume in Beijing by friends of Li Zongwu. Despite the controversial image of Chinese society that it portrayed, each edition sold out immediately before being banned by the government – a deliciously ironic fact given that in 1989; when the ban on the book was lifted, it was published by the Central Party School in Beijing. The book is now a consistent bestseller throughout mainland China, has been published in multiple editions and has spawned a whole sub-genre of “self-help” books, as well as in-depth studies of historical events and characters following the “thick black” premise.

Q:

What do you think the thick face, black heart – thick black theory?   

Is it good to conceal your will from others?

Should you be dishonest to get what you want?

What are the strategies to survive in a competitive society?

What re the reasons that why people are dishonest?

How to deal with “thick skin” people?

Is it good to be honest as a business person?

建立人脈網絡

Tips to build your network              specht.com

    Attend industry gatherings

    All industries have key groups and organisations where people of similar background gather, many are free or require minimal investments other than your time.

    Get a personal business card

    When you build your network you want to make sure that it is transportable from employer to employer. By handing out a personal business card, not one from your current employer will assist with this process.

    Meet 5 new people

    Don’t always associated with the same people. Every time you go to a professional or social event make sure you meet at least 5 new people.

    You are a brand

    Brand yourself to your network in order to build it further, the more people know you to more people will want to know you.

    Globalise the network

    When you were growing up, perhaps you had a pen-pal in a different country, in a global marketplace you never know when knowing someone in Tanzania will come in handy.

    Become an information sponge

    Use a contact management tool to record e-mails, phone numbers, and everything else you can about the people you know.

    Take control of your virtual presence

    Make sure that when people look for you online, your image is both accurate and flattering.

    Join the virtual communities where your target market lives

    Once you have joined one group, ask the members where else they connect with like-minded people. Be sure to look for smaller groups within larger sites.

    Take a leadership role in your industry

    Write a blog to cover your domain, and perhaps create an online community around your unique interests

Q:

What are the tips to build your network?            

Why networking important?

How to start a conversation to new people? 

How to get friends and become popular?

How your friends can help you reach your goals?

Are internet friends a good thing?

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週四 (10/27)1.愛情勝過金錢?2.處理幾種 難相處的人?

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愛情勝過金錢?

 Is love more important than money?        debate

Yes

    Love SHOULD be more important than money for anyone who has a husband or wife. Love is everlasting. Money IS important to live, but having a companion you can always trust and care about should come before that. If you love each other, you will both work hard to help each other live a wonderful life together.

  

    Love is definitely more important than money. When people are upset they do not turn to their money for comfort, or to talk to, people do not call their money to have a girl talk or guys night out, money will not shed a tear for anyone if something happens to them, money feels nothing so how can anyone have an emotion to a piece of paper. Sure a person that loves money over love can use it to temporarily fill voids strip clubs, night clubs, things that will allow u to meet someone on a whim but it's just temporary. Money doesn't love, but it's the love of money that is the root of all evil. If a lover of money died that green piece of paper they chased, valued, and loved so much will not shed a tear, the persons loved ones are the ones that will cry and miss them, money is just a harmful necessity in life, many of relationships have fallen apart because someone in the relationship fell in love with and started chasing money.

 No

    Money can open up the world to you and give you anything you can realistically dream up..Including plenty of virgins that will more than likely fall in LOVE with you, it's a deep rooted thing in women. So in reality money can buy what is essentially real love.

  

    Love doesn't bring food to the table

    If you enter a relationship, you must have money to take that person on a date and buy them gifts.

    Love is great however when times of desperation such as having a home, living expenses or food, you need money to support all that. What good is love if I can't take my loved one anywhere or spend on something nice. The only time love exceeds money is with family, that kind of love is built on trust with a special connection.

    I laugh at people who are romantically together and claim that love is more important. You need money to eat, buy a home, send your kids to school and have a retirement when you're frail and old. Also when you are poor with a family you struggle to make ends meet. It is no wonder parents divorce when one can't have the money to support.

    Furthermore, females always look for a mate who will provide for their children. Meaning if they have enough money to support their kids to have a good education and quality lifestyle.

  Q:

Is love more important than money?

Would you marry for money or love?     

Why love is more important than money?

Why money is more important than love?

Why do many actresses marry wealthy people?

Can money issues really end a relationship?

處理幾種 難相處的人?

Difficult Types of People and How to Deal With Them      By Clay Tucker-Ladd, Ph.D.

The Hostile Co-worker or Boss

Dealing with hostile people requires both tact and strength. Since persons who feel they have been wronged are more likely to be belligerent and violent, you should first try to be sure they have been dealt with fairly.

If you can divert the angry person’s attention to some meaningful task or a calm discussion of the situation, the anger should subside. Also, offer him/her any information that would explain the situation that upsets him/her. Point out similarities or common interests between him/her and the person they are mad at (you). Let him/her see or hear about calm, rational ways of resolving differences.

The Chronic Complainer

What about the chronic complainers? They are fault-finding, blaming, and certain about what should be done but they never seem able to correct the situation by themselves. Often they have a point — there are real problems — but their complaining is not effective (except it is designed to prove someone else is responsible).

Coping with complainers involves, first, listening and asking clarifying questions, even if you feel guilty or falsely accused. There are several don’ts: don’t agree with the complaints, don’t apologize (not immediately), and don’t become overly defensive or counter-attack because this only causes them to restate their complaints more heatedly.

The Know-It-All Expert

The true expert may act superior and make others feel stupid; they may be bull headed and impatient with differing opinions; they are often self-reliant, don’t need or want any help, and don’t want to change. If you are going to deal with the true expert as an equal, you must do your homework thoroughly; otherwise, they will dismiss you. First of all, listen to them and accurately paraphrase their points. Don’t attack their ideas but rather raise questions that suggest alternatives: “Would you tell me more?”

The pretentious-but-not-real expert is relatively easy to deal with because he/she (unlike liars or cons) is often unaware of how little he/she knows. Such a person can be gently confronted with the facts. Do it when alone with them. Help them save face. They simply want to be admired.

The Pessimist

Another “burden” to any group is the pessimist –the person who always says, “It won’t work” or “We tried that.” These angry, bitter people have the power to drag us down because they stir up the old pool of doubt and disappointment within us. So, first of all, avoid being sucked into his/her cesspool of hopelessness. Don’t argue with the pessimist; don’t immediately offer solutions to the difficulties predicted by the pessimist.

Q:

How to deal with difficult types of people?    

How to deal with the hostile co-worker or boss?

How to divert the angry person’s attention?

How to deal with the know-it-all expert?

Do you hate the person who act superior and make others feel stupid?

How to deal with the chronic complainer?

How to deal with the pessimist?

   

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