周五 (12/4)1.一個媽媽被判死刑/死刑存廢 2.療癒

  新埔捷運站1號出口 旁邊7-11巷子進入20公尺 看到夏朵美髮左轉 --- 板橋區文化路一段421巷11弄1號 (陽光甜味咖啡館)一個媽媽被判死刑/死刑存廢New Taipei woman sentenced to death for murdering her two children New Taipei, Nov. 26 (CNA) A woman who killed her young son and daughter before attempting suicide earlier this year was sentenced to death by the New Taipei District Court on Wednesday, for a crime described by the court as "extremely cruel and cold-blooded." The 30-year-old woman, surnamed Wu (吳), was a single mother who raised an 8-year-old daughter and 6-year-old son on her own after a divorce. On Feb. 13 this year, after an argument with her brother and his wife, Wu drove her children to a motel in New Taipei's Wugu District to stay overnight. While in the room that night, she attempted to suffocate the children with pillows, but failed as they fought back, according to the court. Two days later, however, Wu drugged her children with sleeping pills before strangling them with a rope in the motel. She later texted her ex-husband a message that read: "I'm gone. I'm going to be with the kids, or they will feel lonely," according to the court. Wu's ex-husband rushed to the motel only to find his children dead and Wu lethargic after taking sleeping pills, antidepressant drugs and alcohol. Wu was rushed to the hospital and treated. During the trial, Wu confessed to committing the murders, saying that she had felt overwhelmed with the burden of caring for two children on her own. "These seven years, I've been looked down on, left to face the pressure of public opinion and all sorts of dirty looks, all while being unable to find a steady job," she said. "It has only been me caring for them 24 hours a day, without any kind of freedom for myself." In its verdict, the court wrote that Wu had committed the "extremely cruel and cold-blooded" murders solely because of stress and dissatisfaction with her personal circumstances, and had failed to show any sign of remorse for her crimes. While acknowledging that there is an ongoing debate over capital punishment in Taiwanese society, the court said it had a responsibility to uphold the "inherent right to life" guaranteed to every child, citing the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child.----Pro-Con: Should the death penalty be abolished?By Ashley Nellis The American criminal justice system has been getting some much-needed renovations lately: people with nonviolent and low-level convictions are being diverted from receiving harsh sentences, prison populations are declining in many states and policymakers are open to new approaches to addressing crime. At the deep end of the system we see reforms as well: efforts to eliminate the death penalty are gaining ground and public support for the death penalty is at its lowest point in 40 years. For the first time in Gallup’s polling history on the question, a majority (60%) of Americans say that life imprisonment with no possibility of parole is a better punishment for murder than the death penalty. Ten of the current Democratic presidential candidates publicly support abolishing the death penalty. The declining support for the death penalty is indeed a victory and comes about as a result of successful abolition campaigns that bring together unlikely allies. Exonerations based on new evidence, exorbitant costs and the drawn-out appeals process means far fewer people are being sentenced to death than in the past and executions have become increasingly uncommon. Death row currently comprises 2,500 people, reflecting a steady decline in the size of death row for nearly 20 years. Maintenance of the death penalty has become difficult to justify as concerns about efficacy, deterrence value and morality converge. But the presence or absence of the death penalty should not be our sole barometer for a proportionate sentencing regime. The sentence of life without parole — touted as “the humane alternative” to death — is highly problematic for many of these same reasons, plus additional ones. The well-documented deficiencies of the death penalty process should raise serious concerns about sentences of life imprisonment, sentences that receive substandard critical review. On this point, Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor recently expressed her uneasiness with life sentences without parole, writing, “A statute that shields itself from judicial scrutiny of sentences of life without the possibility of parole raises serious constitutional concerns.” Capital punishment is routinely set apart from all other sentences in terms of the judiciary’s willingness to regulate it, based on the notion that “death is different.” This has led to a separate, heightened system of review of death-eligible cases. Take, for example, the fact that attorneys in death penalty cases often receive specialized litigation training. And while procedural errors and substandard representation still occur with these protections in place, there is an established protocol for review when such claims are made. But the heightened standard of review does not take place with life imprisonment, creating an increased likelihood that innocent individuals will be convicted. In the absence of a rigorous review process, one cannot know precisely how widespread the errors in life imprisonment are. Capital defendants sentenced to death also have a right to state-appointed counsel for appellate reviews, but those sentenced to life imprisonment do not. In addition, appeals are time-barred in all but death penalty cases. Even with stringent regulations around the death penalty, errors are rampant. Just imagine the scale of errors in life imprisonment among the 53,000 people serving their sentence, 21 times the number of people on death row. The logical inference from the U.S. Supreme Court’s categorical finding “death is different” is that all sentences other than death are not different and can thus be held to a different (lower) level of scrutiny. (The sole instance where this categorical ban has been reconsidered comes from recent rulings disqualifying most juveniles from receiving life without parole on the basis of the categorical ban that “children are different.”) In public polling on support for the death penalty, the only alternative punishment offered is life imprisonment with no chance for release. But why must we limit punishment considerations for our most serious crimes to only these two terminal sentences which are, in the end, the same: both result of an individual dying in prison at the hand of the state? There are many other sentencing options that could be made available. Those that afford regular review and a meaningful opportunity for parole are ideal. Sanctions can accommodate a legitimate desire to punish, but allow for the chance for evaluation at regular intervals. Though it seems counterintuitive, the science on offending tells us that in most cases, even individuals who commit serious crimes grow beyond their poor judgment and learn to abide by the law. The United States should follow the lead of other Western democracies in abolishing both the death penalty and life without parole. Genny Rojas was 4 years old when her aunt and uncle, Veronica and Ivan Gonzales, tortured and murdered her. They suspended her alive by a hook on the closet wall in their apartment. They shook her violently, strangled her, beat her with a hairbrush and handcuffed her for days. She died after she was forced into a scalding bathtub for three minutes. A California jury sentenced Veronica and Ivan to death, and the California Supreme Court upheld their convictions. If anyone deserved the ultimate punishment, they did. There are, to be sure, heartfelt arguments for people to be against the death penalty, not the least of which are religious, moral or other reasons and beliefs. There are also valid arguments regarding the historical use of the death penalty against minorities, especially in the South. Yet a majority of Americans, quite reasonably, support the death penalty in appropriate cases and believe that, despite its imperfections, it is constitutional. The Supreme Court has held the death penalty to be constitutional. The Fifth and 14th amendments carry express approval of the death penalty: a person may not be “deprived of life, liberty or property without due process of law.” A majority of states (29) have the death penalty on the books. Similarly, the federal government and the military have the ultimate punishment for the most heinous crimes. Since 1976, when the Supreme Court reinstated the punishment, there have been 1,512 executions, with whites making up the majority of defendants executed (55%), followed by blacks (34%). Whites make up the majority of victims in death penalty cases (76%), followed by blacks (15%). A majority of Americans support the death penalty, and have since polling began in 1938.Q:Should We Abolish the Death Penalty? 療愈6 Tips for Healing Emotional WoundsBy Margaret Achieng, Freelance writer Emotional restoration is viable. Get unstuck with those pointers to heal your emotional wounds. Do you ever marvel if healing from emotional wounds is honestly possible? Can a person definitely heal from trauma, rejection, despair, a broken heart? Perhaps you’ve been hurting for a long term and things don’t seem to be getting better. Perhaps you feel caught like you’ve attempted the entirety, and it hasn’t helped or possibly you experience like you’re too old or it’s too overdue to change. When you feel so broken and defeated, the project of rebuilding or reinventing yourself and your life may be overwhelming. It’s natural to have doubt and to be surprised if emotional healing is absolutely possible. 1. Emotional healing is feasible.I want to guarantee you that emotional restoration is possible. As a therapist, “I see human beings make extraordinary recoveries, becoming healthful, glad, and extra completely themselves – regularly in ways they can’t imagine.”As told by one therapist. However, it’s real, not all of our returns to emotional health. A few individuals maintain to revel in deep emotional ache, unhealthy behaviours and relationships, and battle with negative, distorted thoughts. In my 20+ years, one psychotherapist and social employee, said,” I’ve observed a few commonalities among those who heal absolutely from their emotional wounds and ache. I hope those reflections and guidelines will assist you to heal, as properly”.2. Tips for recuperation from Take baby steps. Seeking to make too many changes all of sudden can backfire. You can end up crushed if you set unrealistic expectancies. And dramatic adjustments are regularly unsustainable. Making micro-modifications – small, doable, incremental modifications – create emotions, wish, fulfilment and encouragement that is crucial to carry you through your recovery process. You may learn more about making micro-modifications right here.Keep in mind that you must not heal 100% at once to improve your life. Many people mistakenly believe that emotional healing is not a big deal any more, this notion can be misleading and overwhelming. But most importantly, it’s not accurate. Any modest quantity of recovery will improve the first-class of your existence. Take it one step at a time and you’ll register small improvements for your mood, capability to cope with triggers, relationships, vanity, and capacity to complete your day-to-day activities. 3. Be patient and persistent.. Recuperation is lots of labour. We need to be patient and allow for the time needed to benefit new insights and skills. And we need to be persistent and keep going even if it gets difficult, be inclined to try new processes, and challenge yourself with new ways. Set sensible expectancies. I’m a big believer in the importance of setting practical expectancies. When we don’t, we end up upset and pissed off frequently, at yourself, which doesn’t assist you to heal. One of the most common unrealistic expectancies that I see is looking forward to progress to be always forward. Nobody simply gets more potent and stronger, healthier and healthier. Development is much more likely steppes step backwards. And, virtually, don’t be surprised if every so often it steps backwards and one leap forward. This isn’t a failure, it’s a reality. And sensible expectations coupled with patience, staying power, and self-compass forwarding cause ahead development, it simply may additionally consist of a few detours and be slower than you’d like.4. View setbacks as a part of the technique and learning the possibilities. Not only are setbacks normal, however, but they’re also additionally regular, we learn more of what doesn’t work and what does. So, rather than trying to avoid setbacks or relapses, except that they’re a part of the method and undertaking you’re to be curious about what you can learn to help you move forward and toward greater recovery and self-love. Prioritize self-care and self-compassion. As you ask a whole lot from yourself, you need to provide a lot to yourself. And working a lot on emotional restoration takes a lousy lot of strength, time, and on occasion cash. With a purpose to keep going, you need to truly take note of your emotions and your physical sensations in your mind such as tight muscle mass, complications, fatigue, and so on, due to the fact those are your body’s way of telling you what it wishes. Take more time to pay attention and take desirable care of yourself.5. Be inclined to system your feelings from your the past. Seeking to keep away from what took place in your past doesn’t work. The one’s feelings have a tendency to stick around, occasionally, mendacity dormant or numbed for a while, however, they finally burst back into our recognition with a vengeance. That is why therapists so often talk about desiring to “feel your emotions”. We want to feel them and give them space before they lose their strength over us with time and absolutely become part of the past. You could slowly work on sitting quietly, permitting your feelings to resurface, talking about them, and exploring what they’re about. To a lot of people, that’s pretty hard and working with a therapist can be beneficial. Ask for assistance. Recovery isn’t meant to be performed in isolation. It isn’t easy to ask for assistance, in particular, if people have betrayed before. But reaching out for assistance has a lot of advantages – emotional guide, steerage, and the ability to slow down the disgrace. And assistance can take much paperwork depending on your desires, so I’m hoping you’ll take it like every other type of self-care and ask for the sort of help that best meets your wishes.6. The Way to Heal emotional wounds and recovery of emotional ache.Recuperation Meditation In case you feel discouraged, a guided meditation or mantra permits you to shift your mind in the direction of more hope, advantageous outlook. You may experiment with the quick recovery meditation written underneath or attempt developing one which in particular demands your own situations and wishes.Q: what are the steps for healing the past wounds and emotional trau...

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周五 (11/27)1.他人 如何影響我們的快樂 2.新聞的影響

  新埔捷運站1號出口 旁邊7-11巷子進入20公尺 看到夏朵美髮左轉  板橋區文化路一段421巷11弄1號 (陽光甜味咖啡館)他人 如何影響我們的快樂How Others Influence Your HappinessUniversity of Wisconsin Hospitals and Clinics Authority UW Health psychologist Shilagh Mirgain explains how other's happiness affects our own  Is your happiness dependent on your neighbor’s? To some degree, yes. “Happiness isn’t just a personal experience, it is actually affected by the individuals around you,” explains UW Health psychologist Shilagh Mirgain, PhD. Mirgain uses the description of a ripple effect. Like when a pebble is dropped into the water causing ripples – our words, actions and feelings affect those around us, who in turn affect individuals who come into contact with them, and so on.  “How an individual feels can ripple through his or her social groups and actually influence how the group feels in general,” she says. “In some ways, our emotional states are like a virus – we can spread the positive and negative experience to those around us, even with strangers.”  She points to research done over a period of time that found the happiness of an individual extends up to three degrees of separation (that is - our level of happiness impacts the happiness levels of the friends of our friends’ friends.) Similarly if you have a friend, relative or neighbor who lives within a mile and becomes happy, this increases the probability that you will be happy by 25 percent.The Impact of Negative Emotions  Think about how your own mood can be impacted by a sales clerk who smiles, is helpful and kind versus one who is rude and unhelpful. In one case, the clerk’s happiness creates a positive connection between you, while the other experience may leave you feeling frustrated or even angry. In both cases, a complete stranger’s attitudes influenced your own and you may in turn, pass that attitude along to others – either through your good mood or your irritation.  In the case of negative emotions, Mirgain explains that they can actually have a greater impact than positive ones. When comparing the effects of a positive relationship to a negative one, the de-energizing connection (or negative) has an impact that is four to seven times greater than a positive or energizing relationship. One place where this is easily seen is in the workplace.  “Research has shown that a ‘toxic’ co-worker – someone who is always negative, gossips about others or has a poor attitude – can actually be damaging to a workplace,” she says. “The negativity may lead to an environment where there is less information sharing, more conflict among team members, less trust and a lower performance by all members overall.”  Dealing with a negative co-worker can leave others feeling emotionally tired, unhappy and dissatisfied, which is why it’s important to address the negativity rather than try to ignore it. The same is true when dealing with a negative friend or family member. In both cases, it may not be possible to stop all interactions, but it’s important to have a strategy for when you do need to interact. Mirgain explains that it starts by creating physical and emotional distance from the individuals.Facebook Live: Owning Your "Ripple Effect"Dr. Mirgain recently held a Facebook Live session to talk about owning our "ripple effect." “Consider the ways you can minimize interactions with the person and set boundaries,” she says.  Managers may consider reassigning projects to limit the interactions the individual has with the overall team. Co-workers can consider not engaging the individual beyond the minimum necessary. And if it is a friend or family member, limit conversations to those topics you known won’t trigger the negativity.  “It can be challenging, but don’t let yourself get sucked into the negativity by joining in with it, such as complaining, gossiping or even by dwelling on the person’s behavior. It will only bring you down,” Mirgain comments. “Remember that the other person’s behavior has very little to do with you – they are dealing with their own issues.”Tips for Staying Positive  While it may seem like we’re at the mercy of others’ attitudes, Mirgain notes that we do have some control – we can choose how we respond. To start, she offers some tips:  Share Your Feelings  When something gets under our skin, we can spend a lot of mental energy thinking about it. Instead, Mirgain suggests finding someone you trust and sharing your thoughts and feelings. It can take the sting out of the hurt and help you get moving in a positive direction again.  Talk to Yourself  Think about what words you can tell yourself to help gain some perspective on the situation or that can help calm you down when a “hot button” issue gets brought up. A simple phrase to remind yourself like “let it go” or “breathe deep” can help refocus your thoughts.  Surround Yourself with Positivity  Your time is a valuable and limited resource. Just like any investment, choose wisely how you are going to spend it. Limit the time you spend with negative people and situations and instead, focus on the positive. It may mean you limit the amount of time you spend with someone, which can be particularly difficult when it is a loved one. But negative emotions – like positive ones – can impact your overall health and sense of well-being. While it may feel selfish on some level, you are taking the steps you need to care for your own health.  Get Some Sleep  Mirgain points to two studies on the effects of poor sleep and a couple’s ability to resolve conflict in their relationship. Essentially, couples who experienced poor sleep experienced more conflict in their relationships,were less empathetic toward the other person when trying to resolve the issue and less likely to achieve resolution. When you’re tired, you don’t have the mental energy needed to redirect negative emotions and can more easily be overwhelmed by them. So get the sleep you need so you have the energy to deal with any issues.新聞的影響You Asked: Is It Bad for You to Read the News Constantly?Markham Heid  time.com A recent survey from the American Psychological Association found that, for many Americans, “news consumption has a downside.” More than half of Americans say the news causes them stress, and many report feeling anxiety, fatigue or sleep loss as a result, the survey shows. Yet one in 10 adults checks the news every hour, and fully 20% of Americans report “constantly” monitoring their social media feeds—which often exposes them to the latest news headlines, whether they like it or not. Of course, many people feel it’s important to stay informed. And it’s understandable that news you find concerning could produce stress and anxiety. But recent changes to the way everyone gets their news—coupled with the style of news that dominates today—may not be good for mental and even physical health. “The way that news is presented and the way that we access news has changed significantly over the last 15 to 20 years,” says Graham Davey, a professor emeritus of psychology at Sussex University in the UK and editor-in-chief of the Journal of Experimental Psychopathology. “These changes have often been detrimental to general mental health.”Get our Health Newsletter. Sign up to receive the latest health and science news, plus answers to wellness questions and expert tips. Thank you! For your security, we've sent a confirmation email to the address you entered. Click the link to confirm your subscription and begin receiving our newsletters. If you don't get the confirmation within 10 minutes, please check your spam folder. Davey says today’s news is “increasingly visual and shocking,” and points to the inclusion of smartphone videos and audio clips as examples. These bystander-captured media can be so intense that they can cause symptoms of acute stress—like problems sleeping, mood swings or aggressive behavior—or even PTSD, he says. Some of Davey’s research has shown that negative TV news is a significant mood-changer, and the moods it tends to produce are sadness and anxiety. “Our studies also showed that this change in mood exacerbates the viewer’s own personal worries, even when those worries are not directly relevant to the news stories being broadcast,” he says. While increased anxiety and stress are reason enough to be wary of overdoing it when it comes to the news, these and other mental health afflictions can also fuel physical ailments. Stress-related hormones, namely cortisol, have been linked to inflammation associated with rheumatoid arthritis, cardiovascular disease and other serious health concerns. So if the evidence suggests the news can stress people out, why do they keep going back for more? For one thing, it’s entertaining, Davey says. The human brain is also wired to pay attention to information that scares or unsettles us—a concept known as “negativity bias“. “In a state of nature, our survival depends on finding rewards and avoiding harm, but avoiding harm takes priority,” says Loretta Breuning, a former professor of management at California State University, East Bay and author of Habits of a Happy Brain. Breuning explains that the human brain is attracted to troubling information because it’s programmed to detect threats, not to overlook them. “This can make it hard for us to ignore the negatives and seek out the positives around us,” she says. “Our brain is predisposed to go negative, and the news we consume reflects this.” While your brain may find the latest news enthralling, it’s hard to argue that all of that news is truly illuminating. Breuning says much of the opinion and commentary that passes for news analysis is the equivalent of lunchroom gossip. “There’s this idea of following the news in order to be an informed citizen, but a lot of what you see today is gossip elevated to a sophisticated level,” she says. And if the news you consume is getting you worked up or worried—and some would say this is exactly the goal of much of today’s coverage—it’s probably not doing your health any favors, she says. But other experts say the effect news has on a person’s health varies from one individual to another. “News is not an infectious and contagious pathogen like anthrax or the Ebola virus that impacts humans in relatively predicable ways,” says Chris Peters, an associate professor of media and communication at Aalborg University Copenhagen. “It’s extremely complicated—if not impossible—to predict how people in the aggregate will respond to news.” He says we shouldn’t focus on the amount of news we consume each day, but rather on the ways in which we engage with news in relation to our everyday lives and the people who fill them. If you find your news habit is messing with your relationship or well-being, some changes to the ways you interact with the news may be helpful. “Try to be aware of how [the news] changes your mood or makes your thoughts more negative,” Davey advises. If you notice a news-induced surge of pessimism, taking a breather with mood-lifting activities like listening to music, exercising or watching something that makes you laugh may all help counteract those dark vibes. You could also pare back your news habit. “Most of us these days have news alerts set on our smartphones, and 24-hour news on continuously in the background,” he says. “That’s probably far too much.” Breuning agrees, and recommends limiting your news consumption to one block of time each day—say, at lunch or before dinner—if not less. At the very least, don’t watch or read the news before bed, she says. Staying aware and informed is a good thing. But when it comes to your health, too much news can spell trouble.&nb...

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(週六) 10/21 1.有魅力的人2.兩篇新聞時事討論 3.幫助入眠法

 聚會時間 晚上7:30-9:30板橋區文化路一段421巷11弄1號 (陽光甜味咖啡館)新埔捷運站1號出口 旁邊7-11巷子進入20公尺 看到夏朵美髮左轉 1.有魅力的人2.兩篇新聞時事討論 3.幫助入眠法(新聞時事文章 現場發放)10 Traits of Exceptionally Charming People  huffpost.com Sure, everyone knows blunt, impolite, and even rude people who are somehow extremely successful. (I know a bunch of them.) But since we’re all more likely to do business and build professional and personal relationships with people we like, we’re naturally drawn to people who are polite, modest, agreeable, kind. In short, people who are charming. I...

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周五 (11/27)1.他人 如何影響我們的快樂 2.新聞的影響

  新埔捷運站1號出口 旁邊7-11巷子進入20公尺 看到夏朵美髮左轉  板橋區文化路一段421巷11弄1號 (陽光甜味咖...

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周五 (11/20)1.夜難眠 2.乾笑話

   新埔捷運站1號出口 旁邊7-11巷子進入20公尺 看到夏朵美髮左轉  板橋區文化路一段421巷11弄1號 (陽光甜味咖啡館)夜難眠Nearly 25% of Taiwanese experience insomnia | Taiwan News TAIPEI (Taiwan News) — Nearly a quarter of Taiwanese have trouble falling asleep at night, according to a survey conducted by the National Suicide Prevention Center (NSPC) in July. The survey results, released Saturday (Sept. 26) during the 2020 National Health Research Institutes (NHRI) Forum, showed that 23.3 percent of Taiwanese aged 15 and older had suffered insomnia in the week prior...

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周五 (11/20)1.夜難眠 2.乾笑話

 新埔捷運站1號出口 旁邊7-11巷子進入20公尺 看到夏朵美髮左轉  板橋區文化路一段421巷11弄1號 (陽光甜味咖啡館)夜難眠Nearly 25% of Taiwanese experience insomnia | Taiwan News TAIPEI (Taiwan News) — Nearly a quarter of Taiwanese have trouble falling asleep at night, according to a survey conducted by the National Suicide Prevention Center (NSPC) in July. The survey results, released Saturday (Sept. 26) during the 2020 National Health Research Institutes (NHRI) Forum, showed that 23.3 percent of Taiwanese aged 15 and older had suffered insomnia in the week prior to taking...

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