週二(6/2)1.真人芭比 2.變聰明?

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 真人芭比

The new 'Human Barbie  By Annabel Fenwick Elliott for MailOnline

‘I'm a living doll’: Meet the new 'Human Barbie', a 26-year-old Russian whose parents choose her clothes, refuse to let her date or go out alone

 Angelica Kenova, a 26-year-old model from Moscow, Russia, still lives with her hyper-controlling parents, who have been honing her drastic look all her life - dictating her diet and exercise programme so she can maintain her miniature six-stone frame.

'Growing up, my parents raised me like a princess and never let me go out, date boys or have the usual adult experiences,' Angelica says. 'As a result, I am not fit for real life - I'm like a living doll.'

Angelica has been dressed up as a Barbie doll since birth and is only allowed to go on dates if her mother, Natalia, accompanies her.

Yet bizarrely, the diminutive blonde - who claims to be a child psychologist and a ballet dancer as well as a model - regularly poses for half-naked photos, which her parents approve of.

Angelica maintains that her walking-talking doll looks were achieved without plastic surgery and has amassed thousands of fans on social media.

She boasts the same unrealistic body proportions and wide-eyed features as a Barbie, with a tiny 20-inch waist and a 32E bra size.

'I have never had plastic surgery,' she insists. 'Cosmetic work is only necessary when an individual has serious faults with their face or body.'

Angelica - who has one older brother, Roman - still lives with her parents and can only date men with their absolute approval - which has so far never happened.

Q:

What do you think the new 'Human Barbie?

Why some people Promotes Unrealistic Beauty Standards?

What do you do if your parents refuse to let you date or go out alone?

What do you think about celebrities with plastic surgery?

What do you think about the unrealistic beauty of actress?

What do you do if you live with highly controlling parents?

 變聰明?

Small Things You Can Do Every Day to Get Smarter  By Jessica Stillman

Intelligence is a work in progress. Maximize yours with these simple habits.

1. Be smarter about your online time.

Every online break doesn't have to be about checking social networks and fulfilling your daily ration of cute animal pics. The Web is also full of great learning resources, such as online courses, intriguing TED talks, and vocabulary-building tools. Replace a few minutes of skateboarding dogs with something more mentally nourishing, suggest several responders.

2. Write down what you learn.

It doesn't have to be pretty or long, but taking a few minutes each day to reflect in writing about what you learned is sure to boost your brainpower. "Write 400 words a day on things that you learned," suggests yoga teacher Claudia Azula Altucher. Mike Xie, a research associate at Bayside Biosciences, agrees: "Write about what you've learned."

3. Have smart friends.

It can be rough on your self-esteem, but hanging out with folks who are more clever than you is one of the fastest ways to learn. "Keep a smart company. Remember your IQ is the average of five closest people you hang out with," Saurabh Shah, an account manager at Symphony Teleca, writes.

"Surround yourself with smarter people," agrees developer Manas J. Saloi. "I try to spend as much time as I can with my tech leads. I have never had a problem accepting that I am an average coder at best and there are many things I am yet to learn… Always be humble and be willing to learn."

4. Read a lot.

OK, this is not a shocker, but it was the most common response: Reading definitely seems essential. Opinions vary on what's the best brain-boosting reading material, with suggestions ranging from developing a daily newspaper habit to picking up a variety of fiction and nonfiction, but everyone seems to agree that quantity is important. Read a lot.

5. Do random new things.

Shane Parrish, keeper of the consistently fascinating Farnam Street blog, tells the story of Steve Jobs's youthful calligraphy class in his response on Quora. After dropping out of school, the future Apple founder had a lot of time on his hands and wandered into a calligraphy course. It seemed irrelevant at the time, but the design skills he learned were later baked into the first Macs. The takeaway: You never know what will be useful ahead of time. You just need to try new things and wait to see how they connect with the rest of your experiences later on.

Q:

What are the things you can do every day to get smarter?

How to improve you intelligence?

How often do you browse online ?

How often you check your social networks?

Did you write down what you learn? How often you read books?

Pros and cons of have smart friends?

Have you ever done random new things/ take risks and do something new?

  

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週六(5/30)1.愛上外國人2.防癌飲食

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我們的會長Sherry  我親愛的創會夥伴Sherry  日前因急病去世  痛哉 哀哉

這些年 sherry 負責維護說吧網頁   義務相助 功不可沒  頓時 晴天闢歷

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愛上外國人

What is it like to be in an interracial relationship? Chung Leung

I've been in a lot of interracial relationships (including my current one). The problems that can come up are in three main areas:

1) Problems with family - this is a tough one...and something that you usually don't find out until AFTER you've been dating and realize the other person is someone you would like to be with. If your significant other's family doesn't accept you or vice-versa, it can be very tough on a relationship. Usually the closer you (or they) are to the parents, the more difficult it is. Even when neither of you care what the parents think...then you still have it hanging over your head that you lost (or caused the lost) the relationship with family because of love.

2) Problems with the public - this varies in seriousness...depending on the personality and previous experience of the couple. Some people are easily hurt and offended by what other people (strangers especially) will say and do. Others could care less. Very rarely do I run into any overt rudeness when out with my boyfriend in public though (I live in PA). However friends may joke and say things like, "Oooo, you've caught a White boy with Jungle Fever" or something stupid like that. These off the wall comments almost always focus on the superficial and stereotypical aspects of interracial relationships. Some people may be hurt by this. If you let it get to you, it can cause serious problems.

3) Problems between each other (based in cultural misunderstandings) - I've had more than one non-Black man date me...simply because they "were curious". Now they didn't come out and say this...but I realized it pretty early on. It's hard to describe, but you get the sense that you are a living curio...something to "discover" and try out. You might hear things like "Oh White girls don't know how to do that" or "I love the way your hair feels...it's so cool!" Yeah, that's being objectified...and it's wrong. Other than that you may have to deal with someone who is genuinely interested in you...but you'll have to educate them a lot in regards to cultural differences and what is acceptable to do and what isn't (as in, 'don't pull on the weave during sex'). You can avoid this a bit if you are not your significant other's 1st interracial relationship. But if you are, don't take the ignorance personally; but also learn how not to put up with being some sort of 'exotic fetish' (unles that's all that you want).

Q:

What do you think about interracial relationship?

Do you oppose interracial marriage?

Good or bad of interracial relationships?

Pros and cons of marrying a foreigner?

What if you fall in love with a foreigner?

What is your dating experience?

Why Taiwanese girls like dating western foreigners?

What is the fleeing of falling in love?

防癌飲食

FOLLOW THE CANCER-PREVENTION DIET.  prevention.com

Buy organic.

Exposure to certain pesticides is linked to at least nine different cancers. Buy foods with the USDA-certified organic seal. (Think you can't afford it? Try these 8 Ways to Eat Organic on a Budget.)

Make fruits and vegetables daily companions.

Consume a range of fresh, colorful produce. Berries, cruciferous vegetables (such as broccoli, brussels sprouts, and cabbage), tomatoes, and dark-green leafy vegetables are especially potent cancer fighters.

Add fiber to your diet.

Every 10 g of daily fiber intake reduces the risk of colon cancer by 10%. Good sources include whole grains, fruits, and vegetables. Aim for 25 g daily.

Eat more fish.

Fish that are low in saturated fat and high in omega-3 fatty acids, such as salmon, Atlantic mackerel, Arctic char, and sardines, reduce inflammation, which is linked to cancer.

Drink green tea.

Green tea contains catechins, antioxidants in a class of compounds called polyphenols, which may protect cells from DNA damage, strengthen the immune system, and activate enzymes that curb tumors.

Get enough vitamin D.

Higher blood levels of this vitamin are associated with lower rates of colon, breast, ovarian, renal, pancreatic, and prostate cancers. Have your blood level tested, and discuss supplementation options with your doctor. For more on vitamin D research, check out the work of the GrassrootsHealth organization.)

Flavor your food with turmeric.

Another polyphenol, this Indian spice has anti-inflammatory properties.

Avoid red meat.

Beef, pork, and lamb are linked to cancers of the colon, prostate, pancreas, and kidney.

Don't eat trans fats.

Trans fatty acids, used in baked goods and deep-fried foods, raise the risk of prostate and invasive breast cancers. Don't buy anything containing partially hydrogenated oil, code for trans fats.

Q:

Ways to reduce cancer risk?

Is vegetables really good for us?

Is eating red meat bad for our health?

Do we need vitamin supplements?

Does eating fish make you smart?

What are the reasons tea is good for you?

Organic foods: are they safer? More nutritious?

Any idea about trans fats?
每五分鐘一人罹癌！癌篩漸流行
遠見雜誌作者： 文／滕淑芬 | 遠見雜誌 – 2015年5月16日 

癌症時鐘逐年增快，令人聞之驚恐。民眾定期健檢，就是深怕不幸中標，也希望能早發現，早治療。然而，儘管篩檢能把關健康，但日常作息飲食習慣更是重要！

若用一天二十四小時、一千一百四十分鐘比喻人的一生，台灣癌症的致死率分分逼近，令人心驚膽顫。

根據衛福部國健署二○一五年四月發布的「二○一二年癌症登記報告」顯示，二○○三年台灣每八分二十四秒有一人罹癌，到了二○一二年縮短至每五分二十六秒，癌症時鐘較十年前加速了一‧六倍。

台灣十大癌症發生率，最多的是大腸癌，其次為肺癌、肝癌、乳癌。但致死率最高的，男性第一位為肝癌，其次為肺癌、大腸癌、口腔癌；女性則為肺癌、肝癌、大腸癌、乳癌。

肝癌〉逾六成是由B肝引起

癌症令人恐懼，癌篩也成為健檢的重要項目。但並非所有癌症均能篩檢到，因此一般癌症篩檢的最大公約數是，篩檢常見且治癒率高的癌症，如大腸癌、子宮頸癌、乳癌、甲狀腺癌、胃癌、鼻咽癌、某些淋巴癌等。

因為這幾種癌症的檢查工具，如超音波、乳房攝影和大腸鏡，費用不高；即使發現了病灶，治療療效也較好，的確是應該優先檢查的項目。

和信治癌中心醫院內科醫師王詠表示，健康檢查希望透過早期診斷、早期發現危險因子，得到最好的治療成果。在歐美國家，子宮頸癌、乳癌、大腸癌、口腔癌、肝癌等，都已是共同建議的健檢項目。

例如肝癌，是國人第二大死因，一年新增一萬一千名患者，每年死亡人數超過八千人。目前台灣肝癌超過六成是B肝引起的，二成來自C肝，其餘就是喝酒和肥胖等危險因子。

台灣自一九八六年即全面對嬰幼兒施打B肝疫苗，三十歲以下的年輕族群帶原率僅有一％～二％。只要抽血確定肝功能正常，不是B肝、C肝帶原者，沒有家族史，得到肝癌機率就相對降低。

但是肝癌雖罹患率高，卻是屬於比較容易治療的癌症。肝癌通常由病毒引起，知道原因，就可以有效控制，也比較容易預防。因為肝是人體最大器官，即使切除三分之一，也會快速再生，人還是可以存活。但因為肝很耐操，不會痛，常常讓人忽略它已經生病了，健檢就是希望發現被忽略的病癥。

子宮頸癌〉早期發現 治癒率高達九七％

至於子宮頸癌，台灣每年約有一千五百名新患者，平均每天有兩人死於此癌。子宮頸癌是少數可以用篩檢即成功預防的癌症，早期發現的治癒率高達九七％。

子宮頸抹片檢查可以降低六○％～九○％子宮頸癌發生率，國民健康署也補助三十歲以上婦女免費接受子宮頸抹片檢查。有性經驗的女性，尤其是早婚、生育子女多、性伴侶較多的女性，最好每三年至少接受一次子宮頸抹片檢查。

國泰健康管理中心醫師陳皇光說，子宮頸抹片的敏感度不算高，但因成本低，又能明顯降低死亡率，是疾病篩檢學上最好的範例。現在又有疫苗可打，等於又把預防戰線往前跨一大步，進到初期預防的階段。

目前一般國中女生可自費施打疫苗，不過疫苗僅能預防六○％～七○％的子宮頸癌，三十歲之後的女性還是要定期接受子宮頸抹片檢查。

十大癌症之首 大腸癌〉好發於五十歲以上 一期治癒率達八成

又如大腸癌，已連續七年蟬聯癌症發生率的第一名。李國修、楊烈、楊秋興、柯一正等名人，都是大腸癌患者。由於國人飲食愈來愈偏向高油脂、多肉類、少蔬果纖維，使得大腸癌患者每年新增超過一萬四千多人。

身為腸胃科醫師的聯安診所院長鄭乃源說，大腸癌在三十年前不是主要癌症，現在增加快速，背後原因值得重視。他分析，台灣人口組成相對單純，不是很複雜的移民社會，種族沒有太大變化，基因算穩定，但大腸癌人數卻節節上升，只能歸諸於環境改變，尤其是飲食不健康、過胖、運動量不夠等，更是主因。

大腸癌好發於五十歲以上族群，年齡高峰為六十六歲，男性患者多於女性，可能與男性愛抽菸、喝酒、過胖有關。雖然初期症狀不明顯，但零期和一期的治癒率可達八成。

因此近年來不少健檢族均會選擇大腸鏡檢查，是偵測大腸瘜肉和大腸癌的最佳工具。

人體的腸道分工，小腸負責消化、吸收營養，之後殘渣進入大腸，大腸吸收水分，存放廢物，然後排出。

但由於大腸是ㄇ字型，檢查是否徹底與實在，必須仰賴健檢的好技術。

做到全大腸檢查才算完整

大腸鏡檢查是用一根長度約一百六十公分的軟式內視鏡，由肛門進入腸腔，觀察直腸、乙狀結腸、降結腸、橫結腸、升結腸至盲腸、迴盲瓣部位，中間要經過兩次大轉彎。整個腸腔，全長約一百二十公分，拉直後，相當於一名小學生的身高。

由於大腸鏡檢查時，是由肛門口開始，等於是倒著回去做，並且要經過兩個大彎道；又因為檢查前需要徹底清腸，令人害怕怯步，很多健檢民眾不想做全大腸檢查，但其實大腸鏡要做到迴盲瓣部位，才是完整的檢查。

腸鏡檢查若只做到直腸或乙狀結腸部位，等於只伸進腸道約六十公分，並未涵蓋整個大腸。

鄭乃源指出，美國對於大腸鏡檢查的要求是，至少要有九成的檢查達到迴盲瓣部位，而且瘜肉發現率每五人要有一人，達到兩成才算檢查完整。聯安的大腸鏡完成率高達九十九％，腺瘤發現率平均有二三‧九五％，已超過國際標準。

而從過去幾年台灣健檢診所進行的大腸鏡健檢數據，也可看到國人疾病的發生趨勢。

聯安診所分析二○一二～二○一四年、近兩萬七千筆客戶的大腸鏡檢查數據發現，腸瘜肉罹患率明顯提高，平均每五人就有一人患有高度癌化風險的腺瘤型瘜肉。

「而且大腸瘜肉生長的位置有往右邊大腸遷移的趨勢，」鄭乃源說，過去瘜肉發現率有七成發生在左側大腸，現在左右大腸的發現率已各占一半。

鄭乃源表示，一九九九年日本國家癌症中心的研究就發現，日本右側大腸的癌症發生率已達四八％，「不完整的檢查，得到的是假心安，如果身體已有警訊，反而因做了檢查以為沒事而忽略，這樣的檢查是沒有意義的。」

身為腸胃科醫師的台大健康管理中心主任吳明賢，也不建議民眾只做乙腸鏡檢查，因為等於只做了一半，預防性不足。而且若是選擇無痛腸胃鏡，既然已經麻醉，多做一段也不會有感覺。

內視鏡檢查需要靠醫師的肉眼來診斷，可達七成診斷率。近年光學影像技術已有突破，經由特殊染劑的顯影，再配合可放大一百倍的擴大內視鏡，仔細觀察瘜肉表面，診斷率可提高至九成。

值得注意的是，由於聯安健檢的客戶平均年齡為四十五歲，比國健署和美國建議的大腸鏡檢查自五十歲開始提早了五年。聯安的數據顯示，中壯年的瘜肉發現率仍超過兩成，讓人擔心大腸癌是否有年輕化的憂慮？

「年輕化並沒有科學數據，但可以這樣推論，各國以五十歲為檢查起點，是站在醫療資源分配的立足點來思考，而不是以疾病篩檢的立場來看，」鄭乃源認為，大腸鏡檢查年齡可以提早自四十五歲開始，因為聯安都是健康的受檢者，很多沒有家族史、沒有不良生活習慣的中壯年族群，瘜肉發現率也在平均數以上，都不是大腸癌所認知的傳統危險族群，可見後天環境的因素很複雜。

「兩段式清腸」效果最佳

影響大腸鏡檢查的精確度，還包括受檢查者的清腸準備工作。檢查前三天必須開始吃低渣食物（如去皮的肉、過濾果汁等），以減少食物經消化後在腸胃道留下殘渣。

前一天晚上還要喝清腸液，凌晨後禁食，早上再喝一次清腸液或使用塞肛門的瀉藥，幫助排空糞便。

對於清腸的準備工作，一直是健檢民眾最大的抱怨項目，但清腸不乾淨就會影響檢查效果，腸胃科醫師也深感困擾。

兩年前聯安開始加強腸道清理的準備工作，說服大腸鏡檢查的客戶在前一晚九點前要喝足一千c.c.的清腸劑，當天清晨四點再喝一次。

「就像家裡沖馬桶的原理一樣，用水的重力作用，才會有效，」鄭乃源說，以前無痛腸胃鏡不普及時，因為檢查過程很痛苦，沒有人會抱怨清腸液難喝，現在最大的抱怨就是喝清腸液喝到快吐了。但兩段式清腸已是多數腸胃科醫師的共識，效果也很明顯。

大腸鏡檢查是腸道檢查最可靠的方式，但還是有千分之一腸破裂或出血的風險。有服用抗凝血劑的心臟病患者要在檢查前一週停藥，以免切除瘜肉時大量出血。

癌症篩檢困難在於，有許多癌症很難檢查到。例如胰臟癌就是健康檢查的最痛，這次檢查若沒發現，半年後就可能長到八公分大，既找不到特別的致病原因，也沒有很好的治療方法。已故蘋果電腦創辦人賈伯斯罹患的就是很少見的胰臟神經內分泌瘤，竟奇蹟式活了七年。

理想的癌症篩檢計畫，幾乎不存在。陳皇光提醒，每一種癌症的生長速度不同，例如肺癌有四種細胞型態，每一種的惡性程度都不一樣，加上工具也不可能百分之百精確。癌症篩檢並不是窮盡所有檢查工具，有「苦勞就有功勞的」。


對於癌症檢查，民眾應知，沒有萬無一失的檢查；若真的檢查出可以治癒的早期癌症，還真得要感謝自己的運氣好。

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週五(5/29)1.日本便利商店2.擴展社交圈

重要事項公告:

人生無常 瞧她依然笑容依舊 但人已杳然  親切有人緣 這是我常稱讚她的 她是我的貴人良友
 哀 哀 哀 別了Sherry

我們的會長Sherry  我親愛的創會夥伴Sherry  日前因急病去世  痛哉 哀哉

這些年 sherry 負責維護說吧網頁   義務相助 功不可沒  頓時 晴天闢歷

痛失良友 心情真的難過複雜 

本會中好朋友 如有認識Sherry 不克參加其告別式 為盡朋友之誼 
請週五/周六聚會時請來盡點最後情誼 
本會集資奠儀 多少對Sherry盡點最後心意   (告別式時間6/1日 8:30am 公祭 板橋殯儀館 安詳廳)
感謝好朋友Peter,Summer,Wesley,Michael,Jack捐款情義相挺
再感謝週四 Mark, Tony, Lucy, Helen 專程送奠儀來會 感觸良多 畢竟我們是ㄧ個有情的讀書會 

板橋區文化路段421巷11弄1號 (陽光甜味咖啡館)

新埔捷運站1號出口 旁邊7-11巷子進入20公尺 看到夏朵美髮
左轉     聚會時間晚上7:00--9:30

日本便利商店

Convenience stores are everywhere in Japan

Convenience stores are everywhere in Japan. While they are often used for quick shopping or to buy things late at night, Japan’s convenience stores actually have many other handy uses! Make your travel in Japan comfortable by checking out this complete guide to convenience stores.

It’s easy to book and receive tickets at Japanese convenience stores!

Copy machines can be found at many of Japan’s convenience stores. However, these are not mere photocopiers. As well as copying, scanning and fax functions, these extremely handy machines can also be used to print out photos from digital cameras and documents, and can even be used to purchase various kinds of tickets.

For example, the “Multi Copy Machines” found at Seven-Eleven (which has the most convenience stores in Japan) provide a service called “Seven Ticket”, which sells tickets for concerts, sports, movies and various types of events, and the machines can also be used to buy tickets provided by “Ticket Pia”, which is a major ticket sales service. Tickets for theme parks and highway buses are also easy to purchase. The control screen can even be displayed in other languages (English and Chinese), making it simple to arrange your travel plans at the convenience store.

Tickets can be paid for in-store right away, as the machines print out payment slips. Alternatively, you can visit any Seven-Eleven or other convenience store to pick up “Ticket Pia” tickets that you have bought in advance online. If you are unsure about how to use the machines, just ask the store staff for help and they will kindly show you what to do.

24-hour ATMs, Wi-Fi and more!

Japanese people use convenience stores instead of banks. There is 24-hour ATM inside many of Japan’s convenience stores. For example, Seven-Eleven provides a service called “Seven Bank”, which lets you withdraw money if you have an international cash card with “International” written on it. This is particularly convenient when Post Office ATMs are closed, such as late at night.

*Remember that if you want to withdraw money in Japan, you should look for a Seven-Eleven, Post Office or Citibank ATM rather than the normal ATMs you will see around town.

Q:

What do you think about Convenience stores in Taiwan?

Pros and cons of convenience stores?

What do you think about Japanese products and inventions?

What do you think about buying tickets /train cards from convenience stores?

What do you think about 24-hour ATMs, Wi-Fi at convenience stores?

Are Convenience stores competitive business?

擴展社交圈

Expand your social circle    lifehack.org

Whether you’re interested in advancing your career, or having a new group of friends to go out with, you need to learn—and perhaps master—the skill of making friends. In this article, I would like to share with you 6 tips that will help you expand your social circles.

1 – Connect With Connectors

A great way to expand your social circle is to connect to someone through whom you’ll meet many other people. Those “connectors” are the types of people who keep friends on Facebook by the thousands, host parties whenever they can, and always seem to be with a large group of people.

Oftentimes, these are very open people and are easier to connect with than you think. They might not have the time to invest in a deep friendship with you, but they love to get to know more interesting people to add to their circle.

2 – Meet New People Constantly

A great habit to have is to always be meeting people that you can add to your circles. In reality, not all the people you meet will become your friends and not all your current friends will be around forever. This is why I always say that if you’re not making new friends, you’re actually making fewer.

I recommend that you go to places where you it’s easy and appropriate to walk up to anyone and introduce yourself. Ideally, you need to go to places where others are open to meeting new people as well. Examples might be trade shows, opening nights, galas, cultural or charitable events, seminars, and talks.

3 – Establish Yourself As a Giver of Value

When meeting lots of people, you have to “hook”. Nothing hooks better than having a giver attitude. First, listen really to what they say and imagine if you were them; see the world through their eyes. Second, be willing to share stories, contacts, or quick advice on what people are talking about.

When you meet new people, there are some psychological principles that determine whether or not they’ll want to meet you again. This works on an unconscious level. One of the most important principles is the giver/taker attitude. If they sense that you only care about yourself, connection isn’t going to happen.

You can portray a giver attitude in two ways. The first is about really listening to what they say, imagining the world through their eyes, and giving them your opinion on their stories and situations. The second way is to prove that you’re ready to share similar stories about what they’re talking about, or introduce them to someone who could help them.

4 – Commit to a Local Community

One of the fastest ways to boost your social life is to get involved in a community that has the type of people that you want as friends. This community should be in your local area and should hold social get-togethers once a month, or more.

What you do is find one that you like, maybe on meetup.com, and offer your help to the people who run it. They’ll most likely accept, even if they don’t need that much help; they’ll just be glad you’re interested. This works great because it makes you meet everyone, and because it establishes you as a giver of value.

Q:

How to have a new group of friends?

How to expand your social circles.

Pros and cons of making friends on Facebook?

Where to Meet New People?

How to start conversation with new friends?

What is the giver/taker attitude?

Can you tell who are toxic friends?

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周四(5/28)1.強制休假2.甜食使人變暴力

重要事項公告:

人生無常 您瞧她依然笑容依舊 但人已杳然  親切有人緣 這是我常稱讚她的 她是我的貴人良友 哀 哀 哀 別了Sherry

我們的會長Sherry  我親愛的創會夥伴Sherry  日前因急病去世  痛哉 哀哉

這些年 sherry 負責維護說吧網頁   義務相助 功不可沒  頓時 晴天闢歷

痛失良友 心情真的難過複雜 

本會中好朋友 如有認識Sherry 不克參加其告別式 為盡朋友之誼 
請週五/周六聚會時請來盡點最後情誼 
本會集資奠儀 多少對Sherry盡點最後心意   感謝週二朋友Peter/summer/wesley/michael/jack捐款情義相挺(告別式時間6/1日 8:30am 公祭 板橋殯儀館 安詳廳)

板橋區文化路段421巷11弄1號 (陽光甜味咖啡館)
新埔捷運站1號出口 旁邊7-11巷子進入20公尺 看到夏朵美髮
左轉   聚會時間 晚上7:00--9:30

強制休假

Japan considers compulsory paid holidays to combat overworking  ABC/AFP

Japanese commuters on the train Photo: 'Karoshi' is a Japanese term for death by overwork, a relatively common phenomenon in the industrious country.

Japan's parliament is considering enforcing five compulsory paid holidays for workers per year, in a bid to lessen the toll on mental and physical health in a country famed for overworking.

Workers typically used less than half of their leave allowance in a year, according to a survey by the labour ministry which found that in 2013 employees took only nine of their 18.5 days average entitlement.

A separate poll showed that one in every six workers took no paid holidays at all in 2013, Jiji Press said.

The government wants to boost the amount of paid leave used to 70 per cent by 2020, and plans to submit legislation mandating holidays in the current parliament session, Jiji said.

In early discussions, employer groups proposed limiting the number of compulsory paid holidays to three days, while unions called for eight.

Japan's culture of long working hours and unpaid overtime is regularly criticised as a leading cause of mental and physical illness among employees.

The term 'karoshi', which means 'death by overwork', has long been a fixture of Japanese working culture, but has seen a recent surge in the number of people dying due to stress-related problems, or suicide.

According to a poll by the Japanese unit of Washington-based travel website Expedia, workers in France enjoyed 37 paid holiday days in 2010 and used 93 per cent of them.

Spain has 32 paid holiday days and Denmark 29, with the average employee using up more than 90 per cent.

As well as the health benefits, days off encourage workers to spend money on leisure activities, thereby boosting the economy.

Japan has a relatively high 15 statutory holidays annually. In recent years there has been a move to shift the days so that they fall adjacent to the weekend, making domestic holidays more of a possibility.

Q:

What do you think about “compulsory paid holidays in japan”?

Should commuters get more holidays?

What do you think about overworking and 'Karoshi'?

How to keep a good mental and physical health?

What are the leisure activities good for workers?

甜食使人變暴力

Daily sweets 'linked to violence'  BBC

         

Could childhood sweet eating make you violent?

Children who eat sweets and chocolate every day are more likely to be violent as adults, according to UK researchers.

The Cardiff University study involving 17,500 people is the first into effects of childhood diet on adult violence.

It found 10-year-olds who ate sweets daily were significantly more likely to have a violence conviction by age 34.

Researchers suggested they had not learnt to delay gratification, but other experts said already "difficult" children might be given more sweets.

The researchers looked at data on around 17,500 people and found that 69% of the participants who were violent at the age of 34 had eaten sweets and chocolate nearly every day during childhood, compared to 42% who were non-violent.

Delinquents

This link between confectionery consumption and later aggression remained even after controlling for other factors such as parenting behaviour, the area where the child lived, not having educational qualifications after the age of 16 and whether they had access to a car when they were 34.

Targeting resources at improving children's diet may improve health and reduce aggression

Dr Simon Moore, Cardiff University

The researchers put forward several explanations for the link including the idea that the confectionery makes the adult addicted to certain additives and that these may contribute towards adult aggression.

The study was reported in the British Journal of Psychiatry.

Q:

What do you think of “daily sweets 'linked to violence’?”

Do you like sweeten food? Do you like chocolates? Do you like sugary beverage?

Do you think people are prone to violence because of inborn qualities or because of learned behavior?

Have you ever had a bubble tea drink?! Love it or hate it?

What do you think the food and drink sale in convenience stores?

Why sugary soda is bad for our health?

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