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Make small talk.
As the saying goes, there’s nothing small about small talk. You may feel
like you’re allergic to talking to people about the weather or the local sports
team, but this is the way you can begin to develop a more serious bond and to
get to know people on a deeper level. While you may want to jump right into a
discussion of whether or not there’s a God or about your complicated
relationship with your mother, you’ll need to be able to make more superficial
conversation with people before you can get to a deeper level. Don’t think that
you’re above small talk or that you have no time for it; instead, think of it
as a way of moving towards truly getting to know people.
Be
interested, not interesting.
You may think that the best way to be social is to make people think
that you’re an awesome person who they need to spend more time with. Well, this
certainly couldn’t hurt, but the fact of the matter is, people are much more
likely to want to socialize with people who are interested in them, instead of
people who are just interesting in general. While you can certainly reveal
information about yourself, one way to socialize more is to show a real
interest in people by asking them questions and showing that you care about
their lives.
Embrace new people.
People who have trouble being social are usually afraid, distrustful, or
just skeptical about new people. They may think that new people have nothing to
offer them and that they are better off sticking to the familiar. Well, you
should think that, to new people, you are certainly worth getting to know – and
that you’re a new person to somebody. Instead of being skeptical of new people
until they prove themselves to you, try to assume that most people have good
intentions and give them the benefit of the doubt. If you approach new people
as potential friends instead of potential enemies, you’ll be on your way to
being much more social.
Learn to read people.
Another way to be social when you talk to people is to learn to read
them, even when they are saying the opposite of how they feel. You should
become a master at decoding body language, and should be able to tell how a
person is feeling just from how that person is standing or by the look on his
face when he’s not talking. If someone is telling you that he’s doing fine, but
you can see that his eyes are puffy or that his clothes look a bit disheveled,
then you may find that he actually needs a helping hand.
Taiwanese Ghost Month | International
Neighbors
By Yu-Ting
During the Ghost Festival, people pay
tribute to ghosts. They prepare food and drink offerings to keep them safe from
ghost harassment. Marriages, moving houses, business transactions and other
important events are viewed as taboos during this month. It is believed that
the ghosts would create obstacles and then make things go wrong. In many parts
of Asia, Ghost Festival is a holiday full of taboos and restrictions instead of
happiness.
What to avoid during the ghost month?
For the Taiwanese, the Ghost Month is an
ominous time. Many activities are said to bring misfortune during this time,
especially after dark. Among the taboos are weddings (or it won’t be a happy
ending), swimming (or ghosts in the water may drown you), making big business
decision, such as investment (or it fails in the end), and moving in to a new
home (or ghosts will live with you), whistling (or it could attract ghosts to
you), etc.
Over all, we avoid the word “ghost” and say
“good brothers” instead to protect ourselves from evil demons. On the other
hand, feasts are held, not only in families but at temples all over Taiwan, to
feed and entertaining the wandering ghosts. People believe that if the ghosts
and ghouls aren’t kept pleasant, they will do some eerie things to the living.
Don’t provoke the Ghost! The Funny
experience from my poor friend, Jay
During the ghost month, we seldom go
outside after dark. However, my neighbor, Jay, who did not believe in ghosts,
always laughed at us, “How could you be so superstitious! We’re in the 21
century.” or “We’re educated people who have definitely never seen a ghost.”
Therefore, he didn’t mind any taboo in Ghost month.
However, he changed his faith about ghost
one evening during the ghost month. I still remember vividly. It was a rainy
night, and he had to pick up his sister, Jane, who took the overnight train.
Just on his way to train station, the rain was so heavy that he could barely see
what was going on outside. Suddenly, he saw some white stuff move, as if it was
floating in the air, and following him. At that moment, his car couldn’t move
forward and all he could do was back up. He was so terrified that he pulled
over the car then ran to home immediately. I have no idea how many miles he ran
before knocking on my door. I cannot forget how frightened he was as if he had
seen a ghost when he knocked the door to ask my brother for help. Well, I
snickered behind the door and texted to my brother,”
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