周六(11/30)1.付出 自己 2.金字塔直銷陷阱

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付出 自己

Ways To Contribute To Society

Farida Rizwan   topyaps

10. Improve Yourself:

By picking up your own life and being a productive member of the society, you will be contributing to your community in a positive way. People with criminal tendency, addictions or other vices, often feed on the goodness around them, without giving back anything to the society. Therefore the first step would be to improve yourself so that you don’t start leeching from your surroundings.

9. Improve Your Social Skills:

Be humble, polite and have a smile on your lips. Even though you may not think of this as a great act, it goes a long way in making a difference to the society. Negative emotions and bad attitude tend to create bad vibes that spreads around, which is picked up by other people. By improving your social skills, being friendly and approachable person, you do a lot of good to your community.

8. Plant a tree:

With depleting forests and increasing pollution, planting a tree will do a huge difference to our environment. A single tree will absorb nearly a ton of carbon dioxide during its life time, so by planting a seed today, you will keep contributing to the society even when you no longer live in it.

7. Strictly follow the 3 R’s:

You will do the society a huge favor if you strictly follow the 3 R’s – reduce, re-use and recycle. Remind yourself that you are contributing to the increasing pollution and destroying the environment by choosing disposable products, especially the carry bags. Use reusable products and save the environment. Recycle the products you can.

6. Donate Blood:

Shortage of blood has taken many a lives. You can donate the life saving fluid and save lives. By donating blood, you are not only saving the life of the needy person, but also have the benefits of your own blood being screened for infections like HIV and Hepatitis C before being transfused to a patient. If any life threatening infection is seen, the donor will be informed by the doctors.

5. Family Planning:

Population explosion is the major concern of our world at present, as there has been significant increase in population in the past 50 years. Our planet may not be able to sustain present or larger numbers of human population for long. You can help not only by keeping your own family small, but also by spreading awareness about the downfalls of having bigger families to people around you.

4. Drive with Caution:

Don’t drink and drive. Be cautious and careful on the roads. It is not only your own that is at stake, but the life of others as well. Reduce the number of deaths and injuries on the roadways by being aware about the safety rules; in addition you can spread awareness among the drivers, pedestrians and cyclists regarding road safety.

3. Save Fuel:

Walk and cycle whenever possible; it not only saves fuel and prevents harmful emissions, but is a wonderful exercise for you. Keep your vehicles well serviced and keep the tires properly inflated so that the lifespan and mileage of vehicle increases. Use carpooling and mass transit transport system to commuting to school, college or work.

2. Be a Volunteer:

Keep some time aside for volunteering to help an old age home, disability center or a hospital which is falling short of staff. It benefits you in a great way, because, the satisfaction and pride that comes from helping others can be life changing.

1. Be a Good Samaritan:

Don’t turn a deaf ear and blind eye to the elderly person struggling with a door, a person who met with an accident or a child separated from parent. Lend your helping hand to those in need. Make that call to the concerned official when you see something amiss your neighborhood.

金字塔直銷陷阱

What Is a Pyramid Scheme?

By Andrew Bloomenthal

A pyramid scheme is a sketchy and unsustainable business model, where a few top-level members recruit newer members, who pay upfront costs up the chain, to those who enrolled them. As newer members in turn recruit underlings of their own, a portion of the subsequent fees they receive is also kicked up the chain. Often called “pyramid scams,” these operations are illegal in some countries.

Key Takeaways

    The vast majority of pyramid schemes rely on profiting from recruitment fees and seldom involve the sale of actual goods or services with intrinsic value.

    Multi-Level Marketing operations (MLMs) are similar in nature to pyramid schemes but differ in that they involve the sale of tangible goods.

    In 2008, Canada was overtaken by a sweeping pyramid scheme, resulting in a class-action lawsuit against the operation, which was forced to shut down and return funds back to aggrieved members.

How Pyramid Schemes Work

Pyramid schemes are so named because they resemble a pyramid structure, starting with a single point on top, that becomes progressively wider toward the bottom (see diagram below).

Let’s assume the following: Founder Mike sits alone at the top of the heap, represented by the number “one.” Assume Mike recruits 10 second-tier people to the level directly below him, where each newbie must issue him a cash payment for the privilege of joining. Not only do those buy-in fees funnel directly into Mike’s pocket, but each of the 10 new members must then recruit 10 tier-three members of their own (totaling 100), who must pay fees to the tier-two recruiters, who must send a percentage of their takes back up to Mike.

According to the hard-sell pitches made at recruitment events, those bold enough to take the pyramid plunge will theoretically receive substantial cash from the recruits below them. But in practice, the prospective member pools tend to dry up over time. And by the time a pyramid scheme invariably shuts down, the top-level operatives walk away with loads of cash, while the majority of lower-level members leave empty-handed.

It should be noted that because pyramid schemes heavily rely on fees from new recruits, the vast majority do not involve the sale of actual products or services with any intrinsic value.

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週五(11/29)1.最佳公司福利! 2.生前告別式

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最佳公司福利!

 Awesome Employee Perks Your Team Will Love       snacknation-pets

Vacation / Paid Time Off

It’s been said that time is our most valuable commodity.

As Rick Warren writes in his book, The Purpose Driven Life, “Time is your most precious gift because you only have a set amount of it. You can make more money, but you can’t make more time…. Your time is your life.”

Similarly, studies have shown that once our basic needs are met, experiences contribute to our long term happiness much more than material things.

For these reasons, a preponderance of respondents to Glassdoor’s survey indicated that they valued vacation or paid time off over a salary raise.

Many companies have escalated this idea to its logical extreme, and instituted open vacation policies and summer Friday’s off.

While it may seem counterintuitive, companies like Netflix and Austin-based Umbel have found that an unlimited vacation policy can have a wide range of benefits, including more productive employees.

Don’t be mistaken – an unlimited or “open” vacation policy doesn’t mean that employees can take off half the year and still collect a paycheck. Rather, companies that adopt these policies allow employees as much PTO as they need to recharge as long as they meet deadlines and produce results.

Aligning your vacation policy with results rather than basing it on accrual can have a profound effect on your organization’s overall culture.

  

Performance Bonus

As we’ve demonstrated so far, the effectiveness of monetary incentives (particularly salaries) has its limits. However, that’s not to say that monetary incentives as a whole don’t work.

The key is to connect monetary rewards to the emotions that keep employees engaged in their work.

Performance bonuses are a fantastic way to do just that. By tying the reward to results, performance bonuses give employees a sense of ownership and control.

It helps motivate them in their work, and gives them a tangible ownership stake in their role. I.e., if they perform and hit their goals, they will receive a reward – one that they both earned and deserve.

Paid Sick Days

Similar to Vacation or PTO, paid sick days give employees back their most valuable commodity – their time – while also letting them know that they are cared for and appreciated.

An added benefit? It sets the right tone to keep your office healthy during cold and flu season.

And that’s a public health threat! The National Partnership for Women and Families says,

    “People without paid sick days are 1.5 times more likely than those with paid sick days to report going to work with a contagious illness like the flu or a viral infection.” 

This issue creates more problems when workers without paid sick leave work in restaurants, stores, and other places where they talk to lots of people in addition to people in the office.

  Retirement Plan and/or Pension

perks that employees want

Again, for many employees, peace of mind is invaluable.

Particularly, those who worked during the financial uncertainty of the Great Recession of the late 2000’s, financial security is a premium benefit.

And as it turns out, most employees have strong feelings about their retirement benefits. Fora Financial surveyed over 1,000 workers to gauge their retirement benefit perceptions. Here are some survey highlights:

    Workers without employee-sponsored retirement benefits don’t believe they’ll be able to retire comfortably. (Only 32% of this subset feel good about their retirement prospects.)

    Retirement plans double the likelihood that employees will be satisfied with their benefits package.

Flexible Schedule (work from home)

Flexibility is increasingly becoming a desired perk for the modern employee, who is trying to balance a myriad of personal and professional responsibilities, including education and familial duties.

It’s especially true for employees with children at home. According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, both parents work in 60% of the households with children in the U.S.

A flexible schedule – including the ability to work from home – is a necessity for these families, who need to be able to juggle multiple responsibilities.

Emotionally, affording employees flexibility in their schedule demonstrates that they are trusted partners (not just 9-5ers chained to a desk), and leads to higher engagement.

 

生前告別式

A party before dying: Japanese are embracing the logic of the 'pre-funeral'

TOKYO -- With all the flowers and teary eyes, the send-off for Satoru Anzaki looked just like any other funeral, with one conspicuous difference: Anzaki was alive.

Having been diagnosed with terminal cancer, the former president of construction machinery maker Komatsu decided to host one last party.

The 80-year-old had taken out an ad in The Nikkei to let people know he did not intend to undergo treatment and would be holding an event in December to thank his friends and colleagues for everything they had done for him over the years. About 1,000 people, ranging from business associates to old school friends, gathered to wish Anzaki well at a Tokyo hotel, where over 100 pictures of him enjoying his passions of golf and traveling were on display.

Despite being confined to a wheelchair, the octogenarian made the rounds of each table to express his and shake everyone's hand.

In the Nov. 20 ad, Anzaki revealed that he had been diagnosed with terminal gallbladder cancer and chosen not to go through a painful course of treatment as he wanted to "prioritize quality of life." He also stated a desire to thank people while he was still well enough to do so.

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"It was just like Anzaki to host an event like this," said a former colleague who worked under Anzaki in the company's overseas business department. "He values human relationships more than anything else."

While hosting such "pre-funerals" is unusual, some think it is an idea whose time has come. Mari Matsui, director of design company Ray Creation in Osaka, began working with funeral clients about four years ago when the company created a sophisticated casket out of Yoshino cedar. The company then began making videos for funeral services using footage from the family of the deceased, with some customers suggesting the films could be used as a sort of widescreen "altar." After listening to her customers' responses to the videos, she realized that the "pre-funeral" could become a real business.

"Some customers started to think the videos should be seen by family and friends while they are alive," she said. "The host can appreciate and communicate with their old friends and significant others."

Matsui will in February use crowdfunding to begin raising money for her creative pre-funeral business.

"In Japan, experts predict we will be living to the age of 100. That's great, but it also means fewer people will be around to mourn for a person when they die, which is a pity," Matsui said. "A pre-funeral is a good opportunity for older men and women to communicate with relatives and friends."

Anzaki's pre-funeral seemed to strike a positive note with the public and showed there is a potential market for them, said Takeshi Horishita, operating officer of Kamakura Shinsho, a funeral industry research company.

"The reaction to Anzaki's pre-funeral showed that ordinary people welcomed and accepted the idea more than we expected," he said. "We think more people will be interested in having such farewell parties before they die."

In a news conference just after the event, a smiling Anzaki told reporters: "I am happy to be able to convey my gratitude in my own words. I want to make the most of the rest of my time and be put in a coffin having thought, 'My life was really fun.'"

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周六(11/23)1.你來 讓世界更美好! 2.線上戀情 好嗎?

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Little Ways to Make the World a Better Place 

The Oprah Magazine

These simple actions will leave a positive impact on your community.

Helping repair the world is your mission, should you choose to accept it. And we know you will.

1. Compliment Friends and Strangers

Try praising a new person each day for a month.

2. Spend Wisely

Whether you're in the market for an oil change or a bottle of Merlot, think about where you're directing your dollars. Can you find a woman- or minority-owned retailer? Or can you opt for a small business over a chain? Challenge yourself to do all your shopping this way for a week—or a month.

3. Talk Politics Productively

The initiative Make America Dinner Again, founded by Bay Area friends Justine Lee and Tria Chang in the wake of the 2016 elections, encourages citizens with different viewpoints to sit down and respectfully listen to one another’s opinions over a nice lasagna. For details on hosting an evening of your own, download the instruction guide at makeamericadinneragain.com.

4. Keep Your Kids' Vaccinations Up-to-Date

Friends don't give friends whooping cough.

5. Browse for Worthy Causes

Download a charitable web browser extension like Tab for a Cause, which uses ad revenue to donate to a partner nonprofit of your choice every time you open a new tab.

6. Switch to Tubeless Toilet Paper

Unless you're super crafty, you won't miss those cardboard cylinders—and neither will the planet.

7. Support Your Local Women's Shelter

Donate new bras, which are always in short supply. Menstrual products are another high-demand item (for every box of its tampons you buy, ConsciousPeriod.com will donate a box of pads to a homeless shelter), as are hair products suitable for different textures. And don't forget books and board games for the kids.

8. Know Your Neighbors

Only about 20 percent of Americans do—down from nearly 30 percent since the 1970s—and research has linked social connection with decreased depression and even a longer life.

9. Be Prepared

Someone has to have a bandage, a pain reliever, a safety pin, floss—why not you? The Pinch Provisions Minimergency Kit contains all of these, plus double-sided tape, nail polish remover, and more must-haves. ($18, pinchprovisions.com)

10. Eat Your Leftovers

It's estimated Americans throw away 15 percent of the food they buy each year—enough to feed millions of people. Plus, all that trash produces loads of greenhouse gases. Not sure when it's time to toss? StillTasty.com tells you how long to safely keep thousands of products.

11. Plant an Herb, Vegetable, or Flower Garden

Everyone wins: The plants produce environmentally beneficial oxygen, you reap the meditative rewards of gardening, and you can savor the fruits of your labor—or gift them to friends and family.

12. Give Away Your Unwanted Stuff

Put your goods on ad-posting sites and apps for free, so someone who actually needs them can have them at no charge.

13. Become an Organ Donor

About 95 percent of U.S. adults are in favor of organ donation, but only 48 percent are registered. You can sign up right now without leaving your couch, at organdonor.gov and potentially save eight lives—the number of vital organs you likely have to offer.

  

線上戀情 好嗎?

Reasons Why Looking for a Relationship Online Is a Bad Idea    pairedlife

Long Distance Dating Doesn't Always Work

I have a girlfriend that met a guy online and then proceeded to try and have a long-distance relationship with him. It never worked out. I also tried the same thing, many years ago and that didn't work out any better. The truth of the matter is, it doesn't work out for too many other people either.

There is a difference between meeting someone, dating for at least 6 months and then due to uncontrollable circumstances ie., deployment to Afghanistan, job relocation, etc., the couple is forced to do the long distance thing vs trying to get to know someone online that lives on the other side of the country.

The best way to get to know someone is not by listening to everything they have to say about themselves and then reciprocating your life's story. As Jesus said so succinctly in John 5:31, "If I bear witness of Myself, My witness is not true." Darn right! The best way to judge some one's character (or their fruits, if you want to stay on the Biblical theme) is by seeing them interact with other people and in different circumstances. This is hard to do online and especially if that online relationship is long distance. It's not like you're able to have dinner or go for coffee anytime soon.

You have no idea if anything that person has said about themselves or in their profile is accurate, ie., "loves children" and you also don't know if that person isn't having a long distance relationship with someone else or several other people for that matter.

 I Say Hello, You Say Good-Bye

I don't think there is anything more devastating to a person's fragile ego than working up the courage to meet someone they like only to have that person take one look at them and say, "Oh crap! I forgot, I'm supposed to be somewhere right now! Gotta run!" (Someone actually said this me, I kid you not).

Even if you post real pictures of yourself in your profile, people can look different in person. The trouble with online dating is that when you do finally decide to meet, there can be so much emphasis on the whole looks thing. People seem to think that if there's no chemistry in the first few seconds of seeing someone in the flesh, that there can be no hope of any romance in the future. How sad.

I think the reason the meet-up tends to fall apart is because we as humans tend to have certain expectations and when those expectations are not met, we feel very disappointed. It's so easy to build up someone in your mind, especially if all you have to go on is their online profile and what they've told you about themselves. You bring your own expectations to the table, hoping this potential Mr. or Ms. Right will meet your criteria, but in reality, meeting all of your expectations is impossible to do.

Online Dating Teaches Us That Being Yourself Isn't Good Enough

This has to be one of the best reasons why online dating can actually be hazardous to your health.

I realize that when we go out on a date we don't show up in sweat pants with our hair unwashed. We usually try to make a good impression. But there is a difference between looking your best and trying to be something your not. The online dating world sends the message to people that you're not good enough the way you are.

The so-called online dating experts instruct us on what to say and what not to say about ourselves in our profiles. "Don't say ________ or you'll come across as desperate!" They entice us with columns like, "Be exactly the woman every guy wants." Sure, if you're into polygamy. Why not be the woman that will attract they guy you want? Over and over again we get the message that you need to improve yourself or else Mr. or Ms. Right will never come your way.

Looks Shall Always Triumph Over Personality

Online dating tends to favour people who are attractive even if they have very little to offer in the way of personality or character. Having a sense of humor pales in comparison to six-pack abs and a great tan.

Online dating seems to be more about meeting someone to go out and have fun with vs finding someone to have a serious relationship with. It's very discouraging for men and women with amazing characteristics such as a love for kids, patience, and honesty to compete with men who's hobbies include working out, going to the club and surfing on the weekends or women who resemble Scarlett Johanson and like puppies, shopping and going to the tanning salon.

They place a tremendous amount of importance on how someone looks instead of who a person is. It's difficult to truly get to know a person's characteristics other than sense of humour over the internet. Being honest or being respectful towards women is demonstrated better in person than online.

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週五(11/22)1.窺探戀人手機好嗎? 2.如何值得信賴?

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窺探戀人手機好嗎?

Is It OK To Look Through Your Partner’s Phone?

elitedaily.com

It can be really tempting to want to take a peek into your partner's phone. Since our phones have basically become our digital diaries, you can probably learn everything you could possibly want to know about your partner — what they are thinking, where they are going, who they are talking to, and what they are saying — just by spending some quality time snooping through the various apps. But just because you can, that doesn't mean you should. So, the question becomes, is it OK to look through your partner’s phone? Or do they have have the right to phone privacy?

Growing up, I was taught that it is really important to respect other people's privacy, so I tend to default to not taking a peek in my SO's phone. At the same time, I was also told never to write anything down that you wouldn't want someone else to read, so if you're being messy and you get caught, it's really your own fault. Hey, there were a lot of mixed messages in my household, OK? That said, I've honestly never been totally sure what the actual protocol is around looking in someone else's phone, so I reached out to the experts for their take on whether or not to snoop — and the answer is, surprisingly, that it depends.

First things first: Psychoanalyst Claudia Luiz makes it clear that going through someone's phone without their permission is a violation of their privacy. "Of course it is!" she tells Elite Daily. But it can get a little blurry when you are really intimate with someone, she says. "What’s 'private' when you’re so intimate with someone? Let’s face it, looking through your partner's phone is as common as telling them little white lies to avoid conflict; it’s what people do. Should they stop? Of course."

Laurel House, dating and empowerment expert and host of the Man Whisperer podcast, agrees that going through your partner's phone, in most cases, is not OK. She also says the desire to do so is a sign of deeper issues involving confidence you may be having in the relationship. "Looking at your partner's phone shows distrust and insecurity, and it builds on itself, possibly even becoming an obsession," she tells Elite Daily. “If you’re looking for something inappropriate, you’ll find it. You can twist and mistake words and purposes. You can make assumptions and make up stories,” she warns.

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Or maybe the curiosity is actually projection. “Often times, the person who suspects something inappropriate is happening is the one who is actually doing the inappropriate acts. It’s top of their mind because it’s their own actions,” says House. “[If] every time you see them on the phone, you wonder who they are communicating with or what they are looking at,” House says this may be your gut warning you something is wrong, and it’s time to talk to your partner about what you are seeing.

If it isn’t simply a case of projection, and your partner’s behavior isn't sending up red flags, then House says it's time to stop peeking at your partner’s phone. “You have to make the decision to trust. Yes, make the decision. Mutual trust and dedication to the relationship is essential,” she advises.

While both experts agree that going through your partner’s phone is not appropriate, there is one scenario in which it is OK to have a look, and that’s when it’s part of being totally transparent after they have cheated. “The only time it makes sense to look at each other's phones is to get over cheating when complete transparency is the purpose," explains House. "But this has to be communicated, mutually agreed upon, and without resentment or anger. If you are going to get your relationship back on track, you both have to be equally committed, in agreement, honest, and communicative." Basically, no sneakiness.

The ultimate takeaway here is that looking through your SO’s phone without their permission is not OK, and if you are feeling compelled to do so, it's time to take a closer look at the relationship, as it could be a sign that something is seriously off. If it simply turns out to be the case that you’re just a curious person, well then, let your partner know how you’re feeling and it's possible they may even be fine with you having a look. Win-win.

 

如何值得信賴?

How to Become a Trustworthy Person

Being trustworthy is admirable and desirable. It's a trait other people look for in a person and it's confirmation that you're reliable, supportive and honest. If you'd like to become more trustworthy and have others come to rely on you, there are some great ways to go about doing this.

Being a positive force

    Be of good character. Have more than good intentions in life. While it's nice to mean well, it's far better to show people that you're a person who is reliable, tries their best at all times and thinks clearly. Meaning well can end in all sorts of problems, including excusing oneself for failure to follow through. On the other hand, good character lets other people know that you have traits they can always rely upon.

        Actions prove far more than words. Good character is forged in good, caring and thoughtful actions.

    Be reliable and keep your word. When you say that you will do something for someone, then do it. People rely on a promise and seeing it through is the hallmark of a trustworthy person. Hand things in on time. Be where you say you'll be punctually. Arrive when you say you will. Depart when you said you would.

        Don't break your promise. If you have problems keeping it, talk to the person about the circumstances but with a view to fulfilling what you can of the promise. Don't simply fail to do it or slink away if it's not doable.

    Be honest. Be honest in everything you do. Honesty is the keystone to people knowing where they stand with you. Honesty includes having good manners though; when being frank, at least be polite. Sometimes it is necessary to sugarcoat the truth so that its bitter pill is swallowed with greater ease.

        Some honesty can be hard but is still essential. For example: Your least favorite coworker has spinach stuck in his teeth after a work function. Do you tell him? Of course you do. He deserves to know that. Your arch enemy has her skirt tucked into her knickers after visiting the bathroom. Do you tell her? Of course you do. She deserves to know that. You may have qualms because you initially think it's funny, payback or just desserts but realize that by being honest here, you gain respect from people who would otherwise be thorns in your side. They owe you one and know you are someone solid. Even in hard situations always tell the truth.

    Be compassionate, kind and considerate. These traits feed into trustworthiness because they let people know that you give people the time of day and that you're willing to give second chances. Compassion must be felt from within and learned through experience by standing in other people's shoes, seeing things from their perspective. Practice looking at things from the other person's perspective until it feels second nature. When you are able to think of the other person first, because you're already internally strong and well self-nurtured, then you'll be viewed as trustworthy.

    Keep confidences and secrets. People tell you things in confidence because they trust you. That is a bond to never be broken. You must guard these confidences closely unless and until the person who bestowed you with that confidence says that you can do otherwise.

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