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週四 (1/12)1.感謝傷你心的人/感謝工作2.燒炭自殺/為何自殺?

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感謝傷你心的人

Things You Should Be Grateful For     lifehack

Your Heartbreaks

Each heartbreak made your heart stronger, wiser, more experienced. It gave you the wisdom to tell between loyal and faithful, a lie and a truth, and eventually between reality and expectations. Your heartbreaks taught you to bounce back and introduced you to your quieter side and your best friends. Be grateful for that knowledge.

Your Mistakes

A clouded judgment, a tinted perspective, an unfair remark, that stupid, stupid, phone call. Some mistakes that were forgiven and some that weren’t. Some mistakes that warranted an answer and some that didn’t. Every mistake helped you grow, to learn, to understand. Be grateful for the wisdom that your mistakes enabled.

Your Mentors

Be it your family, friends, professors, or bosses, be grateful for those individuals who took time out of their lives to help you. To make you feel more competent and give you the cheat sheet of life that they never had. Be grateful for their guidance.

Your jobs

For all the hard work you put in and for the job that pays your rent. It may not be the best yet, but it could help you get the best. It’s one door that will lead to another. It’s a door that you had to fight to get to. Be grateful the door opened.

Your Enemies

Your enemies taught you about the world the way that no book or reality show could. They taught you how to fight, how to be true to yourself and, most importantly, what not to be like. Be grateful to your enemies for showing you who you never want to be.

Your Pain

The funny thing about pain is that when you feel it, it hurts so bad, but when it’s gone, you can’t remember how it felt. You have an idea that you hurt but not how much. Be grateful that it’s over, that the pain you once felt is no more. And the pain you feel will slowly die out. Be grateful for the pain for it introduced you to a greater joy after it passed.

Drinking Water

Everyday on the streets of my hometown I see children begging for mercy, for food, but even more so, for water. Be grateful for the water you drink. For the ease of the availability of that water and the purity of the water. Be grateful, for millions are dying because they don’t have water. For water, too, is a privilege.

Your Name

It’s an identity you were born with. Your name gave you a place in the world. It doesn’t matter whether you changed it, or kept it or hate it, it’s your first, not only, identity, but an identity nonetheless. Be grateful for an identity.

Q:

What are the other things you should be grateful for? 

Do you really thanks your heartbreaks?

How to learn from your mistakes

Do you like your jobs?

Do you really thanks your enemies

Have you ever appreciated the drinking water you drink?

Do you like your name?

燒炭自殺/為何自殺?

Three are dead in mass suicide in Penghu    By George Liao, Taiwan News

Taipei (Taiwan News)--Three have died since five women from two families were found to have committed charcoal-burning suicide in a house in Magong City, Penghu County on Friday night.  

All of them were rushed to hospital on Friday night. An 18-year-old girl surnamed Chen died on the same night. On Saturday night, 54-year-old and 55-year-old women surnamed Tsai and Wang, respectively, also died after emergency treatment. A 23 year old surnamed Chen and a 25 year old surnamed Tsai are still under treatment.   

Common Reasons Why People Commit Suicide    listaka.com

Depression

It is one of the leading causes of suicides around the world. People who suffer from depression feel like their existence doesn’t matter anymore. You can often hear them saying things like, “my friends will be better off without me”, “I’m a burden on my parents”. They are unable to feel happy about anything, nothing really interests them. They are convinced that they are worthless and that they will never get past this stage.

Perfectionism

Some people have a tendency to set unrealistically high standards for themselves and are likely to be overly critically in their self evaluation.Perfectionism may increase the chances of suicide more than hopelessness. Suicide is an attempt to escape shortcomings of self rather than accepting them. The problems begin with one or more stressful life events in which the person’s expectations and standards are not met.

Regrets

Regrets are a part of life. Everyone has some regrets in their lives, all of us have made mistakes in our past that we regret. We can either make peace with our regrets or keep on sinking by thinking about them. While many of us choose to move on, rest of us may not that efficient at coming to terms with our mistakes. They keep lamenting about their mistakes and drown in guilt. They submerge so deeply in guilt that they can go as far as committing suicide to get rid of it.

Traumatic experience

People who have been through traumatic experiences like wars, sexual assault, losing a loved one or any terrifying ordeal may develop Post Traumatic Stress disorder. Some people experience trauma at such intensity that it affects them both mentally and physically and leaves them scarred for life.  

They no longer feel secure in this world and thus they are driven to the idea of suicide and sometimes end up taking their life.

Unemployment

Finding a decent job to make ends meet is not as easy as it sounds. Unemployment is a major reason for suicide among the youth. With the competition so high and the number of opportunities so less, it becomes a tedious task to bag a job. Around 45,000 people commit suicide each year because of unemployment.

 Q:

What do you think this news reported that charcoal-burning suicide?

How to overcome depression?

What are the causes why people commit suicide?

How to cope with emotional and psychological trauma?

Do you regret anything in life?

Why perfectionism is bad for you?

What to do when you lose your job?

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週二(1/10)1.為何真愛難尋?2.龍山寺光明燈

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為何真愛難尋?

Why is finding true love so difficult?   GotQuestions.org

Answer: We all have a desire to love and be loved. We experience different levels of love from parents, siblings, friends, and others. But most of us also want to find that special someone we can share a deeper level of love with. Finding true love can seem incredibly difficult, and it’s often hard to understand why. A big question to consider first is, “what is my definition of true love?” Understanding what we mean by “true love” can help us see what we’re really seeking and why or why not it’s working.

The world tosses around the word love very loosely. Love is often associated with intense feelings that, in truth, are self-centered and noncommittal. In so many movies and TV shows, we see characters who follow their hormones and have sex before marriage. When “love” is shallowly rooted in pleasant emotions or physical feelings, it turns off as easily as it was turned on. Now, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to experience good emotions toward the person we love; however, if that is the foundation of the relationship, the relationship is in trouble. If the kind of “love” we see demonstrated in today’s sex-saturated culture is what we’re looking for, no wonder it seems difficult to find; it’s not true love we’re after but an experience that, by nature, can’t last for long.

True love, according to the Bible, is rooted in sacrifice, commitment, and an impulse to benefit the loved one.  True romantic love is designed to lead to and grow within a marriage commitment and should be rooted in sacrifice.

Thinking there is only one “right” person for us. This is a lie that can keep us fearful that we’re settling for less than the best. Waiting for one’s perfect “soul mate” to show up can be a long wait. Whomever we choose to marry becomes the “right” one for us, because we’ve made a lifetime commitment to that person.

Thinking it’s too late to find true love. Finding true love and getting married is an important step and not to be taken lightly. A cautious step is better than a quick and reckless one. Three times, the Song of Solomon warns, “Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires”

Q:

Why is finding true love so difficult?

“What are your definition of true love?

What are your opinion about this writer said “today’s sex-saturated culture”?

How to find your perfect soul mate? Is it worth that waiting for the perfect soul mate?

What are the considerations we should concern before marriage?

Online dating: harder to find future spouse on internet?

龍山寺光明燈

Longshan Temple draws big crowd eager to sponsor lamps for good health or fortune (FTV)

Early this morning, Longshan Temple began processing people eager to sponsor temple lamps. Many began waiting as long as a month ago, as they believe sponsoring these lamps can bring them good fortune or health.

At six o’clock, Taipei’s Longshan Temple began accepting people to sponsor temple lamps. The first person to apply for a lamp was Mr. Yang who works in the financial industry.

Last night we came. About a month ago, I asked my family to come here first and begin waiting.

Today was the first day of lighting lamps and Longshan Temple was packed with visitors. Many wanted to light medicine lamps to pray for health, while others chose lamps for wealth. These lamps were in such demand that some came more than a month ago to begin waiting in line.

In addition to a huge line of people waiting patiently, reporters have witnessed hawkers selling their place in line. With more than 1000 people in line, tempers began to flare though there was little the temple could do to alleviate the situation.

For those that began waiting a month ago, we issued 1,000 numbers, and if these we all issued by today, I told people come back the next day. This is the only way I could control the situation.

Each day up to 1,000 people are allowed to choose lights in the temple, and based upon past practice, the first day of the lighting an additional 300 people are permitted, as processing this many people in one day may take an entire day with many waiting long into the night.

Questions:

 Do you believe theses sponsor lamps can bring you good fortune or health?

 Do you believe in superstition? And do you believe in luck?

 How to attract good luck and gaining good fortune ?

 What are some examples of superstitious beliefs?

What are the ways to bring good luck and get rid of bad luck?

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周六(1/7) 1. 團結冰箱/防止食物浪費2.好習慣帶領成功 下午 4:00pm--6:00pm

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團結冰箱/防止食物浪費
Solidarity fridge     Written by Anne-Laure Fayard

"The Solidarity Fridge is a project to fight against food waste. 40% of the food products in the world don’t even get sold, whether it is due to less than perfect looks, not being part of the latest food trends, or being too close to the sell by date, the fact is that they just end up in the garbage." (excerpt from the Solidarity Fridge website).

It all started in  Galdakao, Spain: "Galdakao, population 29,000, has been home to Spain’s first “solidarity fridge”, in which residents and restaurants can drop off leftover or unused food otherwise destined for the bin. Anything left in the fridge can be picked up by anyone who wants it. “I would guess we’ve saved between 200 and 300kg from the rubbish bin,” said organiser Álvaro Saiz. A typical day might see leftover lentils, a few sandwiches and unopened milk cartons left in the fridge.

The idea came about as Saiz and other members of the city’s volunteer association were reflecting on the sheer amount of food being thrown out by supermarkets. “We started to think that if even just one of their rubbish bins was replaced with a fridge, people could take advantage of these items.” After an online search revealed a network of shared fridges in Berlin, he said. “We realised we could do this – so we did.”

While inspired by the Berlin model, Saiz wanted to do a version more low-tech so that his elderly neighbors, who are not on the Internet, could access it. He pitched the idea to the Mayor who loved the idea and the city approved a small budget of 5,000 euros to pay for the fridge and an initial health safety study, as well as electricity and upkeep. Interestingly, from the start legal issues were taken into account: the fridge was granted a special independent legal status - so that the city can't be sued if someone gets sick.

There are a few rules:

"No raw meat, fish or eggs. Homemade food must be labeled with the date, and thrown out after four days. Members of Galdakao's volunteer association take turns cleaning out the fridge.

But otherwise, it operates largely on the honor system, and so far there's been no abuse. In fact, food rarely ends up staying a whole day - much less four." 

Local restaurants actively participate. "The fridge has also allowed local restaurants to alleviate guilt over their food wastage, said Álvaro Llonin of Topa restaurant. “Before we used to throw away a lot of food – and it was food that was fine to eat.”  

An interesting aspect, and "the beauty of the project, organizers say, is that no one knows how many people use it. Shame of poverty forces some people to visit the fridge at night, under the cover of darkness." 

Q:

What do you think the Solidarity fridge?

Why does almost half of the world food go to waste?

Do you think that food waste problem serious in Taiwan?

How to reduce wasted food at home?

How can we stop food waste? 

How can we help the poor?

好習慣帶領成功

Daily Habits That Will Make You Successful       therichest

Develop the Habit of Viewing/Defining success in Relation to Happiness

This habit tops the list of top habits that are bound to make you extremely successful. According to most highly successful individuals, happiness is the most important thing in life. When you develop a habit of seeing yourself successful and happy you will surely become highly successful.

Spend More on Things That Grow or Propel your Dream

Although spending on entertainment isn’t bad, over 80% of your money should be channeled on personal development such as your business in order to fuel growth. Avoid the habit of spending to boost your image or impress people at all costs.

Exercise Regularly and Eat Healthy

Highly successful people understand the importance of having a healthy body and mind. You can’t work if you are sick. You must therefore do everything possible to remain healthy. Exercise 3 to 4 days weekly and eat healthy diets to be able to keep you body and mind healthy.

Avoid the Unsuccessful

You should avoid ”suckers” and the unlucky at all costs because they will destroy your dreams and influence you in a negative way. If you happen to have friends who are ”suckers”, stop spending time with them. They are not worth your time if you really want to achieve success.

Use a Board

A white board is an important accessory to help you keep your goals close and visible. Most highly successful people have big boards in their places of work that remind them why they are working so hard.

 Develop the Habit of Working Harder and More Effective than your Competitors

If you purpose to work harder than everybody else, success won’t be able to evade you. Forget about the saying that you don’t need to work hard but work smart. You must combine both and make them a habit to become highly successful.

Wake up Early

This is another very important habit developed by highly successful people. Forget about those opportunities that promise you overnight success while you sleep. You have to wake up early. Good luck finding a highly successful person who wakes up late. You have to wake up early before everyone else for you to achieve what most people haven’t.

Keep Your to-do List Scaled Down

You should have at most two important tasks to finish everyday if you really want to become highly successful. The remainder of your tasks must be done only after you have completed the most important ones. This habit is important because it keeps you focused on the most important goals.

Read Before You Start Your Day

Many highly successful people admit that they had to develop a reading culture somewhere along the way in order to succeed. You must spare at least 30 minutes every day to read. Reading is important because it grows your knowledge base. Reading also keeps your creative juices flowing. All of which are crucial keys to success.

Q:

What are the Habits That Will Make You Successful?     

What is the most important thing in life?

How to spend money on your personal growth?

How Avoid the Unsuccessful people?

How to Exercise Regularly and Eat Healthy?

Do Read books Before You Start Your Day?

▲西班牙小鎮擺放「團結冰箱」，呼籲民眾重視食物的價值。

為了打擊食物浪費， 西班牙巴斯克自治區加爾達考（Galdakao）郊區街頭日前出現一台冰箱，讓民眾將自己未使用的食材擺放入內，供人取用，一來不僅減少食物浪費，二來甚至解決街友飢餓問題，因此當地民眾稱之為「團結冰箱（solidarity fridge）」。

根據《衛報》報導，想出這個點子的塞茲（Alvaro Saiz）先前任職於西班牙一處小鎮的食品銀行，主要幫助低收入居民解決食物議題，其後因接觸到德國一間機構有效解決民眾未使用之食材後，進而提出團結冰箱概念。這個點子隨後獲得加爾達考小鎮鎮長烏里韋（Ibon Uribe）支持，隨後編列5500歐元（約新台幣20萬元）的預算，作為冰箱採購、電費以及後續維修費用，並在今年5月應運而生。

為了確保食物新鮮，肉類食品、生魚以及生蛋禁止捐贈，其餘食物則不受限。此外，所有捐贈者須在食物品項上貼有捐贈日前之識別標籤，規定冰箱內的食材僅能擺放4天，甚至有志願者天天檢查冰箱內食材，就是避免民眾誤食過期品，造成健康威脅。這項政策隨之受到居民歡迎，第二個團結冰箱隨後在西班牙莫夕亞（Murcia）運作。

塞茲最後補充提到，「團結冰箱不是慈善機構，而是涉及食物的妥善利用，否則未用食材最終也只是在垃圾桶內。至於何人去取用都不要緊，即便是當紅的胡利奧•伊格萊西亞斯（Julio Iglesias）也能停下腳步選取他要的食物；目的是要大家重視食物的價值。」

事實上，為了對抗食物浪費的議題，西班牙的團結冰箱只是全球其中一項策略。早在今年年初，法國政府便通過立法，禁止賣場丟棄未售出的食品，取而代之要求賣場捐贈給慈善機構或是農場。而英國最大的連鎖超市特易購（TESCO）也是將未售出食品贈送給非營利組織。

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週四 (1/5)1.犯太歲/如何去霉運?2.“苦”2016年度代表字

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犯太歲/如何去霉運?

Tai Sui Grand Duke Jupiter

Learn who is Tai Sui (太歲) - Grand Duke Jupiter. Free Feng Shui Information to appease him.

Tai Sui, also known as Grand Duke Jupiter or Grand Commander of the Year is probably one of the most highly respected and feared deity in the Chinese beliefs. It is said that if your Zodiac animal clashes with the Tai Sui or you have inadvertently offended him, bad luck will befall you for the whole year. In order to have a good and peaceful year, you need to pay your respect to the Tai Sui.

There are two diverging explanation on the origin of Tai Sui. According to the scientific school of thought the Tai Sui phenomena is attributable to the movement of Jupiter (hence the name Grand Duke Jupiter), which impacts the magnetic field around us, depending on the year we were born.

tai-sui-2017-ofss.jpgWhereas in the Chinese mythology, the Grand Duke Jupiter or more commonly known as Tai Sui （太 歲) is actually a position in the celestial heavens which is in charge of the world's affairs for a particular year, i.e determining the annual fortunes of all of us mortal beings. Just as the Jade Emperor is the Ruler of Heaven, the year Tai Sui is the Ruler of Earth. The above is related to the Taoist calendar which is organized into a series of twelve Earthly Branches (the Chinese Zodiac animals) rotating in accordance to the five elements, resulting in a 60 year cycle. And in other words, there are 60 heavenly generals who would rotate to take up this almighty position. A person's happiness, health, luck and fortune are all under his watchful eye. 

To Get Rid of Bad Luck    wikiHow

Smashed a mirror? Walked under a ladder or had a black cat cross your path? Not to worry! If you're a superstitious person or if you just don't want to take the risk, this page is for you. Here are some ways to get rid of bad luck, as well as some guidance on how to avoid it in the first place.

    1

    Use salt. Salt is considered good luck by many cultures in the world. In order to get rid of many forms of bad luck you can take a pinch of salt and throw it over your LEFT shoulder (throwing salt over your right shoulder will bring you more bad luck).

        Alternatively, you can cleanse your body of bad luck by bathing in salt water. Simply add two tablespoons of salt to a bath of hot water.

Burn incense. Burning incense is an effective way to get rid of bad luck and negative energy.

    Choose pungent scents like sandalwood or jasmine, and if you are burning more than one stick, make sure to use an odd number rather than an even number.

    If you are experiencing bad luck in your personal life, burn the incense at home. Carry the incense from one room to the next, letting the scented smoke fill all four corners of your home.

    If you are experiencing bad luck at work, burn the incense in
 your office.

Q:

What are your opinion about FanTai Sui(犯太歲)? Grand Duke Jupiter

Do you believe in Zodiac animal signs and Tai Sui?

What are the other Taiwanese Superstitions?

Why people believe in superstitions?

How to get rid of bad luck?

How to bring you more good luck

 

“苦”2016年度代表字

Taiwan annual Chinese characters released 2016 of the Taiwan " bitter " ah! - Beijing time

"The Taiwan 2016 representative word election poll results released today. Finally, the "bitterness" in 51 characters come out on top, was elected this year year on behalf of the word. (picture source: Taiwan "United Daily News")

Chinese Taiwan news network December 9th earthquake, typhoon time; frozen cross-strait relations hit tourism; land prices, housing tax double rise; the Taiwan authorities: a case of a law "cut leave is more low wage labour in one disaster after another...... 2016 Taiwan "bitter" ah! According to Taiwan's "United Daily News" reported that the "Taiwan 2016 representative word election poll results released today. Finally, the "bitterness" in 51 characters come out on top, was elected this year year on behalf of the word.

The report pointed out that this year's first to 10 representatives of the word in order: bitter, and stuffy, bending, mad, hysteresis, fatigue, crack, leather, turn. One of the 4 characters "hard, boring, lag and labor has depressed tired dark mood, change 5 words" change, bending, crack, leather, "is looking forward to the reform, dapodali. 10 words, like "life metaphor depression, people want change".

Since 2008, the Taiwan representative election will accompany the word "Taiwan people through the end of the year, invited people vote for the most representative of the year Chinese characters. From 2008 to 2009 "chaos", "Hope", "light", in 2010 2011 the "praise", "worry", in 2012 2013 the "false", 2014 "black 2015" to "change", every word that depicts the intention and idea of civil society.

This year's "2016 Taiwan representative election by the word" Chinese trust foundation and the "United Daily News" cooperation, invited leaders from all walks of life recommended 51 characters, and then by the people through the network, mobile phone, voting is the most representative of the year Chinese characters.

It is reported that this year recommended "bitterness" is the artist Rainie Yang, recommended reason: "this year a lot of natural calamities and man-made misfortunes one after another, the typhoon, we rebuild their homes very bitter, rescue workers are very hard, hard year. I hope you can always remind, cherish the resources, caring for the earth, so that even if there is a natural disaster, it will not become more and more serious."

Q:

What do you think that Taiwan annual Chinese characters released 2016 of the Taiwan " bitter "?

Is it real that Taiwanese in “bitter " situations last year?

If you could select one Chinese character for the 2016 which Chinese character you would choose?

How bad is Taiwan's economy?

What are your New Year's wishes?

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