週四 (12/6)1.做個有愛心的人 2.旅行的好處

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做個有愛心的人

How to Be Kind                wikihow

Care for others genuinely. At its most basic, kindness is about caring genuinely for others around you, wanting the best for them, and recognizing in them the same wants, needs, aspirations, and even fears that you have too. Kindness is warm, resilient, patient, trusting, loyal, and grateful.

Do one kind thing for someone every day. Make a conscious decision at the beginning of the day what that kind act will be and make time to do it during the day.

Be kind, friendly, and compassionate when you interact with someone, and even more so where that person normally makes you angry, stressed, or bothered. Use kindness as your strength.

Be kind to everyone, not just people "in need". Expand your circle of kindness. It can be very easy to be kind when we're unconsciously doing what Stephanie Dowrick terms "patronizing kindness". This refers to kindness given to those people we feel are truly in need (the sick, the poor, the vulnerable, and those who align with our own ideals). Being kind to people close to us, emotionally (like family or friends) or in other ways (from the same country, of the same color, gender etc.), is also easier than being kind to those the philosopher Hegel called "the other". It can be more difficult to be kind to people we may consider our equals, but it will be worth it.

Minimize judgment. If you really want to be kind, then you have to kick your judgment to the curb. Instead of spending your time being critical of other people, work on being positive and compassionate. If you tend to think poorly of others, wish other people could step up their game, or feel like the people around you are needy or clueless, then you'll never learn true kindness. Stop judging people and realize that you'll never fully understand where they're coming from unless you walk a day in their shoes. Focus on wanting to help others instead of judging them for not being better than they are.

Be present. The greatest gift of kindness to another person is to be in the moment in their presence, to be listening with care, and to be genuinely attentive to them. Schedule your day differently, and stop being known as the person who always rushes off. Being present means being available.

Be optimistic. Happiness, joy, and gratitude rest at the heart of kindness, allowing you to see the good in others and the world, enabling you to press through the challenges, despair, and cruelty you witness and experience, continuously restoring your sense of faith in humanity.

Be polite. Although being polite is not an indication of kindness in itself, genuine politeness demonstrates your respect for those you're interacting with. Being polite is the kind way of getting people's attention and putting your point across.

Be grateful. People who are truly kind are easily able to express gratitude. They don't take anything for granted and always thank people for helping them out. They know how to say "thank you" and really mean it, they write thank-you cards, and they are comfortable with acknowledging when they have been helped. People who are grateful also thank people just because, for things like making their days brighter, instead of only thanking them for completing specific tasks. If you make a habit of being more grateful to the people around you, you'll see that your capacity for kinds will increase.

Share. People who are kind are happy to share with others. You can share your favorite sweater, half of your delicious enchilada, or even words of career advice to someone younger than you. The important thing is that you're sharing something that you actually care about, instead of giving away something you don't really need. Sharing with people will make you more generous and thus, more inclined towards kindness.

Smile more. Smiling is a simple act of kindness that can go a long way. Make a habit of smiling at strangers, or at your friends or acquaintances. Though you don't have to walk around with a smile plastered on your face, smiling at people will make them smile back, and will bring even a modicum of joy to their days. What's more, smiling can actually trick your mind into feeling happier than it previously was. Everybody wins when you smile, and your capacity for kindness will grow in the process.

Ask for nothing in return. The greatest kindness expects nothing, comes with no strings attached, and places no conditions on anything done or said.

Q;

How to be kind?            

How to do one kind thing for someone every day?

How to minimize judgment?

How to be optimistic?

How to be grateful?

旅行的好處

Wonderful Benefits of Traveling     dumblittleman

1. Improves Social and Communication Skills

One of the main benefits of travelling, especially to areas where your native language is not widely used, is that you learn how to communicate better with other people. Brushing up your knowledge on the most commonly used phrases or questions tourists ask can help you reach out to and relate better with the locals.

2. Ensures Peace of Mind

We all have stress and tension in our lives. Traveling forces us to temporarily disconnect from our normal routine, helping us appreciate the people and things we have around. As per a famous saying “we never know what we have until we lose it.”

3. Helps You Get Original and Creative Thoughts

It is believed that if someone gets out of their comfort zone, the mind gets more creative. To develop new neural connections that trigger original and creative thoughts, you must explore new places and break out of your daily routine.

4. Broadens Your Horizons

Travelling helps you connect with different people from different cultures. This gives you the opportunity to see issues and daily life challenges from a different angle.

See Also: Strange International Laws Every Tourist Should Know

5. Enhances Your Tolerance for Uncertainty

While travelling, you will find yourself stuck in situations where things don’t always go as planned. Such situations will help you learn to cope with the uncertainties in life.

6. Boosts Up your Confidence

Being in a place where you do not know anyone will assist you to gain confidence and presence of mind. You will develop the ability to cope with obstacles, which will make you a confident person.

7. Gets You Real-life Education

Meeting different people from vast cultures and societies provides an education that is impossible to get in a traditional school, college or a university. There is no substitute for the real thing.

8. Creates Memories for Lifetime

making-memories

If you travel with friends and family members, traveling helps you build stronger bonds and make memories. You can also save memories of a lifetime by creating photo albums or sharing photos in social media.

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週二(12/4)1.租屋者 比有屋者快樂2.有錢人 超節省

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租屋者 比有屋者快樂

Reasons Why Some Renters Are Happier than Homeowners

money.allwomens

There are many reasons why renters are happier then homeowners. Of course, this does not apply to all renters. Homeownership is the American dream, and many people hope to achieve this goal. Renters stuck living in another person's property may feel that homeowners enjoy the ultimate freedom. However, here are seven reasons why renters are happier than homeowners.

1. They Didn't Empty Their Savings to Buy a House

The fact that they didn't wipe out their savings to acquire a home is one of the reasons why renters are happier than homeowners. Buying a house is expensive. You have to pay at least 3.5% down, plus 2% to 5% for closing costs. For renters, there's only the expense of a security deposit and the rental application. Therefore, they can find a suitable house for their family and maintain their cash reserves.

2. They Don’t Have a Mortgage Hanging over Their Head

Homeownership offers a sense of stability. But at the same time, if you need to move for work or other reasons, it's not easy to pick up and leave. You have to deal with selling the house, which can take months depending on your market. The entire process is exhausting, and potential buyers may request extras, such as new windows, new carpet and other updates.

3. They Don't Have to Worry about Foreclosures

Renters experience financial hardships just like homeowners. But unlike homeowners, renters can usually get from under a costly house payment easier. Renters can move as soon as their lease expires, or they can work with the landlord to get out of the lease early. For homeowners, the only solution to payment problems is selling the home before defaulting on the mortgage — and selling can take months.

4. They Don’t Have to Worry about Home Repairs

Talk to any homeowner and they’ll say that home repairs are costly burdens. The water heater can break, another appliance may need replacing, plus homeowners have to constantly maintain other areas of the property. This isn't the case for renters. If there’s a problem, they simply make a call to the landlord.

 

有錢人 超節省

Warren Buffett has a bizarre, penny-pinching breakfast ritual

Catey Hill  news.com.au

WARREN Buffett is worth more than $90 billion ($US70 billion), but he often doesn’t act like it — and neither do many other affluent Americans.

The documentary Becoming Warren Buffett that aired recently on HBO shows Buffett, the chief executive of Berkshire Hathaway, eating breakfast each day at McDonald’s. Each morning, he asks his wife to set out $US2.61, $US2.95 or $US3.17, which determines which breakfast he gets.

“When I’m not feeling quite so prosperous, I might go with the $2.61, which is two sausage patties, and then I put them together and pour myself a Coke,” he says in the film. He also still lives in the five-bedroom home he bought for just over $US30,000 in 1958 in Omaha (roughly $US246,000 in today’s terms, or around $320,000 in Australian currency).

He’s not the only rich person behaving like this.

“Rich people don’t get rich by spending it all,” says Pam Danziger, a researcher focused on the affluent market and founder of Unity Marketing, which helps brands better connect with affluent consumers. “They know better than anyone that by being careful shoppers, they can achieve a lifestyle several rungs up the income ladder.”

There are myriad reasons that many affluent people are, well, cheap. Some of them are self-made and have spent many years before they were rich being thrifty. “Thriftiness is habit-forming,” says Scott Tucker, president and founder of financial firm Scott Tucker Solutions in Chicago.

Others fear that their wealth isn’t permanent, so they don’t spend a lot of their money. This is particularly true of the top 10 per cent of the income spectrum, according to the 2015 Survey of Affluence and Wealth by research and polling firm YouGov.

“The resourcefulness, financial independence and spending constraints that arose from the fear of the recession are now enduring attitudes of family financial management,” the study authors write.

During the recession, like many Americans, “fear drove them to step up their savings, cut spending, and retool their household budgets, and to become more resourceful and independent when evaluating and making significant purchases. Over time, panic has given way to confidently applying these practices to their purchasing habits.”

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周六(12/1)1.個人風格與成功2. 影響人生的一句話

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個人風格與成功

Why Charismatic People Are More Successful            Elite Daily

Charisma is one of the most essential traits of a successful person. If you look at the leaders, innovators, legends and the generally successful, the one quality all of them possess is charisma. In order to aspire to such heights, it's important to understand why charisma is so necessary for success.

1. They Inspire Others

As the good old saying goes: it's not what you do, it's why you do it. Charismatic people inspire action within others. They make others believe in what they are doing to inspire them to help them achieve their goals. They make them believe in their dreams, goals and a greater purpose. On top of all that, they make everyone around them feel special and a greater part of the cause rather than just a pedestrian employee.

2. They Only Bring Positive Energy

You can sense a charismatic person as soon as they walk into the room. They just have something about them and possess a certain type of energy that many lack. They bring light in and have the whole room interested in what they have to say — because of their charisma they can entertain anyone and get along with whomever they choose to.

3. They Have A Vision

Charismatic leaders always have a target, they know where they are heading and they know where they want to be. Clarity within the vision is what gets people to believe in and work hard for it. And it's not just any vision, it is one that is incredibly compelling and is in line with your values, interests and desires.

Your passion for this vision should be so intense that other people will fall in love with it. A powerful and current vision – one that really connects with your deepest passions and triggers your highest potential – it should help you to know why you're doing what you're doing, regardless of what's going on outside of yourself or the challenges presented to you at any given time.

4. They Understand How Important Others Are

Rome was not built in a day, nor was it done by just one person. We live in a world where we need others to help us get to where we want. Not only can you learn from other people, but you can use them in your favor as well. Charismatic people understand that it is not the quantity of people that you have in your life, but rather the quality of them and they value those relationships pretty highly. It's not what you know, but who you know nowadays.

Q:

What are the personal traits of successful people?

Reasons why charismatic people are more successful?          

How to bring positive energy to others?

How to trigger your highest potential?

How to get along with people?

How to inspire others? How to be passionate?

 

影響人生的一句話

Positive quotes that will powerfully influence your life and work

A positive mind creates a positive attitude. The key resides in you. Why not take the challenge?

By Peter Economy

"Winners make a habit of manufacturing their own positive expectations in advance of the event." Brian Tracy

"Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow." Helen Keller

"A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes. It is a catalyst, and it sparks extraordinary results." Wade Boggs

"Positive anything is better than negative nothing." Elbert Hubbard

"In every day, there are 1,440 minutes. That means we have 1,440 daily opportunities to make a positive impact." Les Brown

"In order to carry a positive action, we must develop here a positive vision." Dalai Lama

"Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact." William James

"I like to encourage people to realize that any action is a good action if it’s proactive and there is positive intent behind it." Michael J. Fox

"The most important thing is to try and inspire people so that they can be great in whatever they want to do." Kobe Bryant

"Perpetual optimism is a force multiplier." Colin Powell

"I hope the millions of people I’ve touched have the optimism and desire to share their goals and hard work and persevere with a positive attitude." Michael Jordan

"When you show deep empathy toward others, their defensive energy goes down, and positive energy replaces it. That’s when you can get more creative in solving problems." Stephen Covey

Q:

What are the quotes that influenced your life and work?

What are the habits influenced your life and work?

How to have a positive attitude?

Do positive and negative attitudes drive performance?

How to prove life is worth living

How to encourage people?

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週四 (11/29)1. 不快樂 上癮症 2.性格特質 讓你活更久!

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不快樂 上癮症

Are You Addicted to Unhappiness?    psychologytoday

There are a number of possible explanations for this “addiction” to unhappiness:

    Deep-rooted insecurity or lack of self-esteem may cause some people to feel undeserving of happiness.

    People who grew up with a parenting style characterized by excessive discipline and unrealistic expectations may have learned to equate unhappiness with love and success.

    Lifelong struggles with trauma or other negative experiences may fuel an unconscious desire to continually return to the status quo of unhappiness.

    Some people who seem comfortable in their misery actually may be suffering from an underlying mental health disorder.

    Some people pride themselves on realism, believing that being practical or realistic also means focusing on the negative.

    Because of decisions or experiences in their past, some people are consumed by guilt or regret that they cannot overcome. Instead, they choose to punish themselves and/or others.

    Some people are afraid to feel joy since positive feelings might be a “setup” for disappointment.

    The prospect of happiness strikes fear of the unknown for those who have never felt anything but unhappiness.

    Dissatisfaction becomes a motivator to work harder, change jobs, eat healthier, spend more time with friends and family, or prevent unwanted behaviors or situations.

    Some people make it a personal mission to take on the world’s problems as their own. While noble in some respects, these individuals cannot allow themselves to feel happiness when, for example, people are starving or global warming is damaging the planet.

Characteristics of the Chronically Unhappy

How do you know if you’re one of these people who live in a perpetual state of unhappiness? People who are addicted to unhappiness tend to:

    Find reasons to be miserable when life gets “too good.”

    Prefer to play the victim role and blame others rather than take personal responsibility for their choices.

    Compete with friends and colleagues to see who has it the hardest.

    Have difficulty setting and achieving goals, or conversely achieve goals only to find that they can’t enjoy their success.

    Struggle to bounce back when things don’t go their way.

    Distract, escape or cope by using drugs, alcohol, sex, food, or other addictive or compulsive behaviors.

    Stop taking care of their basic needs, such as a healthy diet, regular exercise, and adequate sleep.

    Feel enslaved to their emotions and powerless to change.

    Feel dissatisfied even when life is going well.

    Have dramatic, unfulfilling relationships.

  

 性格特質 讓你活更久!

These Personality Traits May Help You Live Longer

By Robert Preidt

Stubbornness and optimism may be keys to a long life, a new study suggests.

Researchers hunting for clues to longevity focused on nine remote villages in the Cilento region of southern Italy. There, hundreds of residents are older than 90.

The study zeroed in on 29 of them, who ranged in age from 90 to 101.

While these elders had poorer physical health than younger family members, they had better mental well-being, according to the study.

"There have been a number of studies on very old adults, but they have mostly focused on genetics, rather than their mental health or personalities," said senior author Dr. Dilip Jeste.

Jeste is a professor of psychiatry and neurosciences at the University of California, San Diego School of Medicine.

"The main themes that emerged from our study, and appear to be the unique features associated with better mental health of this rural population, were positivity, work ethic, stubbornness and a strong bond with family, religion and land," Jeste said in a university news release.

Love of the land was particularly apparent.

"The group's love of their land is a common theme and gives them

a purpose in life. Most of them are still working in their homes and on the land. They think, 'This is my life and I'm not going to give it up,' " said study first author Anna Scelzo. She's a mental health worker in Chiavarese, Italy.

The researchers also found that the very old adults had significant self-confidence and decision-making skills compared to folks in their 50s, 60s and 70s.

"This paradox of aging supports the notion that well-being and wisdom increase with aging, even though physical health is failing," Jeste said.

The researchers plan to continue following the participants.

"Studying the strategies of exceptionally long-lived and lived-well individuals, who not just survive but also thrive and flourish, enhances our understanding of health and functional capacities in all age groups," Jeste said.

The study was published Dec. 12 in the journal International Psychogeriatrics.

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週二(11/27)1.公投否定同性婚姻 2.魯蛇的習慣

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公投否定同性婚姻

Taiwan voters reject same-sex marriage  bbc

A same-sex marriage supporter in Taiwan cries after Saturday's referendums in Taiwan. Photo: 24 November 2018 Image copyright Reuters

Image caption Same-sex marriages supporters reacted as it became clear that they lost the vote

Taiwan has rejected same-sex marriages, in a blow to the island's reputation as a rights trailblazer in Asia.

The results in referendums come despite a high court ruling in March 2017 in favour of such unions.

The court also gave parliament two years to amend laws or pass new ones. It is unclear how Saturday's voting will affect legislation.

What were voters asked about same-sex marriage?

The marriage issue was actually the subject of three separate referendums on Saturday, which were put forward by rival camps.

Conservative groups asked whether the legislation - defining marriage as a union between a man and a woman in Taiwan's Civil Code - should remain unchanged, while LGBT activists asked for the marriage law to be amended to include same-sex couples.

Results show voters backed the conservative "pro-family" groups.

The government earlier said Saturday's referendums would not affect it bringing in the changes required by the court ruling. The authorities are now expected to pass a special law, without amending the Civil Code.

But campaigners fear the eventual legislation will be weaker.

One possible outcome could be that gay couples are given legal protection - but not allowed to get married, correspondents say.

 

魯蛇的習慣

Habits of Losers   megainsights

Pay attention and be ready to make amends if any of the things listed below resemble your way of life.

1.    Losers are lazy

Losers could think big like winners, but they are so lazy that they cannot pursue their dreams. Losers give up easily and they’re not ready for any hard work. That’s why they continue to lose out.

 2.    Losers complain too much

Nothing is good in the sight of losers. Instead of identifying ways to make their life better, they keep complaining every day; harboring bitterness and sadness. That’s another habit of losers.

 3.    Losers are reckless

Losers are reckless with money. Their personal financial management is zero. That’s why they complain too much. Let them have a little change in their pockets; they will blow it away on frivolous things within minutes. That’s why they continue to lose…they’re senseless gamblers!

 4.    Losers are “too much” people

Losing connotes scarcity or lack of abundance. But losers are actually people of “too much.” They have too much of everything regressive – they drink too much, they eat too much, they sleep too much, they talk too much, they even work too much!

Yes, don’t be surprised about that bit on working too much. The issue here is that losers work too much to the detriment of their health, family, and their future. Their life is in total disarray on account of work or business.

 5.    Losers watch too much TV

If this describes you, don’t get upset. Just bear in mind that every minute you spend in front of that box could be utilized for other positive things. By watching those so called favorite TV programs, every other person involved in their production wins; but you lose!

By watching, you enrich the TV house, the producers, the actors, the advertisers etc. And what do you get? Nothing, except backache and a protruding stomach!

 6.    Losers are rude

Losers are rude. They lack manners. That’s because they vent their bottled frustrations on others at the least provocation. They blame others for their backwardness and believe that their progress is hindered by their fellow men. How wrong they are!

 7.    Losers flock with losers

Like attracts like, they say. Losers are in the habit of surrounding themselves with other losers. They hang around negative people of the same mind. That’s why their position is ever the same. Or, how can anyone expect a sheep to give birth to a puppy? Losers are always in the family of other losers.

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