周二(5/21)1.求助的藝術 2.時間銀行

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求助的藝術

How to Ask for a Favor  wikihow

One of the reasons we make friends and acquaintances is so that we'll have a network of people who can help us when we run into difficulty. Unfortunately, even if you've got plenty of potential helpers at your disposal, asking for a favor can be a difficult thing to do. For many of us, it's hard to admit that we need help with something, even if the consequences for proceeding without that help are major.

Asking a Favor Courteously

    Approach your helper at an appropriate time. If you ask someone for a favor at an inconvenient time, you can embarrass or even anger him or her. You also might decrease the chances he or she will say yes. If you're going to ask your teacher for help with your math homework, don't ask in the middle of his lecture. Definitely don't ask right after he's learned his house has burned down! In general, try not to interrupt someone's work nor their moments of joy or sadness.

      

    Tell them you're looking for a favor. The sooner you mention your intentions, the better. It's polite to be up-front about you want, but it's also a smart use of your time. If you ask for a favor at the end of a long conversation and your helper says s/he can't help you, you've wasted time you could have spent looking for another helper. It's simple - all you need to say is something like, "Hey, I was wondering if I could ask you a favor" within your first few sentences. Then, simply launch into your request! Your potential helper will probably appreciate that you weren't sneaky about what you wanted!

    Word your request for a favor carefully. You want to be polite and gracious while also being crystal clear about what you want. Explain the facts of the situation. Leave nothing to guessing. Then, without dallying, explain what you need this person's help with. Ask them plainly if they'll help you in the form of a simply-worded question. Don't allow any chance of misunderstanding. If this issue is important enough to require a favor, you should address it head-on. Say "Do you think you can help me with my math homework for an hour tomorrow?", not "Hey, if you want to show me some math stuff, that's cool!"

    Get to the point. Don't procrastinate - the longer you wait before bringing up your need for a favor, the bigger chance you have of losing your nerve and leaving the conversation without even having asked. If you let this happen, you'll be back to square one! Make your greeting, exchange one or two short pleasantries, move to a quiet area if you need to, then immediately tell this person that you're looking for a favor. Don't let him or her get away before you gather the courage to ask!

    Flatter your helper. Let this person know that they're the only person who's good enough for the job - even if they're not. Compliment this person's abilities - in our example, we might say something like, "Could you please help me with my math homework? You're crazy good at trigonometry - didn't you get an A on the last test?" Your praise can range from subtle to gushing, depending on how desperate you are for help!

 

時間銀行

Time banking - what is it and why should you bother? - Crowdsourcing Week

Epi Ludvik Nekaj

What’s your time worth? Some people might struggle to answer that question. But for time bank members it’s a no-brainer: one hour of time equals one Time Credit.

Time banking is an old concept that dovetails neatly with the sharing economy. Members offer their skills and services in exchange for Time Credits, which can be spent on everything from language lessons to childcare, all provided by other members. Everyone’s hour is worth exactly the same, regardless of whether they’re teaching someone how to play the tuba or painting a fence.

Although the world’s first official time bank was started in Japan in 1973 by Teruko Mizushima, the concept can be traced back to The National Equitable Labour Exchange, founded by Robert Owen, a Welsh socialist and labour reformer, in London in 1832. It issued ‘Labour Notes’ similar to banknotes, denominated in units of 1 – 80 hours. Time bank style labour movements also sprang up in the US during the Great Depression. But it was Edgar Cahn, CEO of Timebanks USA, who really helped to popularize the idea when he created ‘Time Dollars’ and promoted them as a means of strengthening community bonds.

Today time banks are founded on five core values:

    Everyone is an asset

    Some work is beyond a monetary price

    Reciprocity in helping

    Social networks (and I would say productivity platforms) are necessary

    A respect for all human beings

Thousands of them are scattered around the world. In the UK, for example, over 290 time banks are part of Timebanking UK, covering over 32,000 members (you can find your nearest one with Timebanking UK’s search facility). Digital technologies have also helped spread their reach, drawing in everyone from underemployed millennials to stay-at-home parents. Anyone can join in a few clicks, and mobile applications and online platforms make it easy to track and assign tasks.

The stagnant state of the global economy has worked in time banks’ favour. People are increasingly keen to find alternative ways of leveraging their skills and resources through the crowd economy. For instance, if you can’t find someone who’ll pay you cash to teach them a language or mentor their child, why not see if you can find someone who’ll pay you in time?

time bank

I believe there are countless people who stand to gain from time banking, especially those, such as care-givers, whose skills are undervalued by the market economy. It taps into the wealth of goodwill within the community, allowing anyone to exchange things they’re good at doing for the help they need. Those who are more used to being the recipients of services also gain confidence, social contact and skills through helping others. And it’s an ideal outlet for people who want to volunteer but who can’t, for whatever reason, take on a role with a charity.

In future, time banks could be a valuable means for people to ‘pay in’ time in their youth and spend it in their old age. Time banks could also help to plug gaps in public service provision, ensuring people are still cared for when the state isn’t up to the task.

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生命需要放下!

Learning to Let Go of Past Hurts

By John M. Grohol, Psy.D.

Ways to Let Go of Past Hurts

The only way you can accept new joy and happiness into your life is to make space for it. If your heart is filled full-up with pain and hurt, how can you be open to anything new?

1. Make the decision to let it go.

Things don’t disappear on their own. You need to make the commitment to “let it go.” If you don’t make this conscious choice up-front, you could end up self-sabotaging any effort to move on from this past hurt.

Making the conscious decision to let it go also means accepting you have a choice to let it go. To stop reliving the past pain, to stop going over the details of the story in your head every time you think of the other person (after you finish step 2 below). This is empowering to most people, knowing that it is their choice to either hold on to the pain, or to live a future life without it.

2. Express your pain — and your responsibility.

Express the pain the hurt made you feel, whether it’s directly to the other person, or through just getting it out of your system (like venting to a friend, or writing in a journal, or writing a letter you never send to the other person). Get it all out of your system at once. Doing so will also help you understand what — specifically — your hurt is about.

We don’t live in a world of black and whites, even when sometimes it feels like we do. While you may not have had the same amount of responsibility for the hurt you experienced, there may have been a small part of the hurt that you are also partially responsible for. What could you have done differently next time? Are you an active participant in your own life, or simply a hopeless victim? Will you let your pain become your identity? Or are you someone deeper and more complex than that??

3. Stop being the victim and blaming others.

Being the victim feels good — it’s like being on the winning team of you against the world. But guess what? The world largely doesn’t care, so you need to get over yourself. Yes, you’re special. Yes, your feelings matter. But don’t confuse with “your feelings matter” to “your feelings should override all else, and nothing else matters.” Your feelings are just one part of this large thing we call life, which is all interwoven and complex. And messy.

In every moment, you have that choice — to continue to feel bad about another person’s actions, or to start feeling good. You need to take responsibility for your own happiness, and not put such power into the hands of another person. Why would you let the person who hurt you — in the past — have such power, right here, right now?

No amount of rumination of analyses have ever fixed a relationship problem. Never. Not in the entirety of the world’s history. So why choose to engage in so much thought and devote so much energy to a person who you feel has wronged you?

4. Focus on the present — the here and now — and joy.

Now it’s time to let go. Let go of the past, and stop reliving it. Stop telling yourself that story where the protagonist — you — is forever the victim of this other person’s horrible actions. You can’t undo the past, all you can do is to make today the best day of your life.

When you focus on the here and now, you have less time to think about the past. When the past memories creep into your consciousness (as they are bound to do from time to time), acknowledge them for a moment. And then bring yourself gently back into the present moment. Some people find it easier to do this with a conscious cue, such as saying to yourself, “It’s alright. That was the past, and now I’m focused on my own happiness and doing _______________.”

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周六(5/18)1.早鳥 易成功快樂? 2.無人商店 行不行? PM 7:00-9:00

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 Reasons Why Early Birds Are Exceptionally Successful

By Peter EconomyThe Leadership Guy

1. You may be a natural born early bird

According to researchers, about 10 percent of us are born early birds. If that's the case for you, then going along with your natural biological wiring will make you more effective--and more successful.

2. You're in good company

Many of today's most successful businesspeople are early birds, including PepsiCo CEO Indra Nooyi (4:00 AM), Apple CEO Tim Cook (4:30 AM), Richard Branson (5:45 AM), and Starbucks CEO Howard Schultz (4:30 AM).

3. There's a better chance you'll eat a good breakfast

According to a study conducted by the Harvard School of Public Health, people who don't eat breakfast have an increased risk of heart disease. If you're an early bird, you have more time in the morning to eat a good breakfast before you head off to work.

4. You're healthier

An article in a publication of the American Psychological Association revealed that early bird sleep patterns lead to better health outcomes.

5. Your mornings are extremely productive

Although they tend to burn out by the afternoon, the mornings of early birds are usually very productive.

6. You just might be more proactive

According to research conducted at Harvard University, early birds are more proactive--and therefore more productive and more successful.

7. You tend not to be overweight

Researchers at Drexel University found that early birds have a lower body mass index (BMI) than night owls.

8. You squeeze more time out of each day

If you wake up just one hour earlier each day, that amounts to 15 extra days of time each year--that's extra time to exercise, meditate, eat breakfast, catch up on the news, or to do whatever you like.

9. Early birds are happier

According to researchers at the University of Toronto, early birds are happier than the rest of us. And who doesn't want to be happier?

  

無人商店 行不行?

Unmanned stores in China still working on a seamless shopper experience

Zen Soo

Unmanned store operators in China are using advanced technologies to enable human-free check out, while collecting valuable data in the process

A BingoBox unmanned convenience store in Shanghai. There are 200 stores in China, with plans to go international next year. Photo: Thomas YauA BingoBox unmanned convenience store in Shanghai. There are 200 stores in China, with plans to go international next year. Photo: Thomas Yau

A BingoBox unmanned convenience store in Shanghai. There are 200 stores in China, with plans to go international next year.

At first glance, there is nothing unusual about BingoBox’s convenience store – shelves stacked with snacks line the walls, tempting passers-by through the glass windows. But upon closer inspection, BingoBox is no ordinary store. The door unlocks only after customers scan a QR code to enter, and there is no cashier to tally up purchases – just a lone checkout counter in a corner.

The Shanghai-based company is one of many unmanned store operators opening outlets all over China, hoping to improve slim profit margins in the retail business by reducing staff costs.

“If capital costs rise quickly, that puts greater pressure on low-margin businesses like convenience stores and supermarkets,” said Andrew Song, an analyst at Guotai Junan Securities.

“In China, wages and manpower costs have been rising relatively quickly.”

However, the futuristic vision of shopping without a check out person is still a work in progress.

A Post reporter who visited a BingoBox store in Shanghai was briefly locked in when trying to exit without making a purchase. Although a sign near the exit stated that empty-handed customers can leave by scanning a QR code, no QR code was to be found. Repeated calls to the customer service hotline went unanswered.

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週四 (5/16)1.光環效應與印象 2.成功的性格

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The Halo Effect    – TuhinzDiary

Ever wondered why attractive faces are seen more on receptions of renowned hotels and hospitals, ads and TV commercials or why the air hostesses of reputed airlines look so appealing? People who consider physical attractiveness a secondary or less important trait while choosing a candidate suitable for a specific job, may need to think again, thanks to the theory of Halo effect.

The Halo effect

From the tiny benches of kindergarten to the sophisticated corporate buildings, Halo effect touches each one of us in some way or the other. Much of the impression we make about a person’s ability and character is influenced by our likeliness for that person. Some desirable qualities in a person make us believe firmly in his/her ability to perform a specific task as compared to a person who seems less appealing to us.

Halo effect- first impression

When Halo effect misleads us…

As I mentioned earlier that  more a person impresses us, the more respect he earns from us. For ex- A shabbily dressed guy may seem dull to us as compared to an attractive youth in Armani suit. Though many-a-times we do understand that the potential of a person should not be judged by the way he looks or presents himself but still we fall prey to this psychological tendency to judge people based on our fondness for them which often results in selecting wrong candidates for the wrong jobs. Sad isn’t it?

Halo effect in marketing

We like what we like. Marketers were quick to realize the potential of this psychology and act accordingly. Having celebrities as brand ambassadors, using the voice of influential personalities to endorse an event or linking a popular music with a product are some of the best examples of Halo effect where the users actually believe what they hear from these celebrities and as a result their opinion about the brand improves. Now that is what I call a clever way of marketing.

One more example is using the popularity of a product ‘A’ which has gained huge response in recent times while marketing for a new product ‘B’ in its genre. In this case too, while buying the new product, people actually trust the service and satisfaction they got from ‘A’.

Prepare yourself

Since it is a human weakness to fall for attractive attitude, the best thing to do is to prepare yourself to grasp the maximum attention possible. Now before you start underestimating yourself let me tell you that you need not be a Brad Pitt look alike or have a voice like Britney Spears to impress people. Be what you are. On any given day an original is worth more than a duplicate piece. Each one of us has some unique characteristics which separate us from others. All it takes is to recognize those hidden traits and use them wisely.

You do not need extraordinary talents to impress people

  

成功的性格

The Essential Characteristics of Successful People  amanet

Optimism. An optimist expects positive outcomes. He doesn’t take failure personally but keeps on trying until he succeeds. Andy Litinsky was a contestant on season two of “The Apprentice” who seemed to be made of Teflon when it came to negative criticisms. When the show aired, Andy was 22 years old and about to graduate from Harvard. A national debate champion, he couldn’t wait to get into the boardroom and showcase his skills. Each time his team lost, he was singled out as being too young, too inexperienced, too uncertain. But Andy rose to the verbal sparring and had fun defending himself. He stayed in the game longer than expected because of his conviction that he deserved to be there.

Creativity. The challenging tasks on “The Apprentice” all require “out of the box” thinking. On season three, Tana Goertz was the last person remaining from the “street smarts” team in the final boardroom. Although she wasn’t “hired,” Donald Trump praised her for her track record and creative thinking. Among other innovations, Tana developed a CD-like pamphlet as part of the advertising assignment for Pontiac; the company liked the idea so much it decided to use it in its actual sales campaign. Not one to rest on her laurels, Tana created a children’s book during the time the show was airing with the aim of sharing it on her press rounds after the finale.

Resilience. Though he was on “The Apprentice” for only three episodes, Sam Solovey stands out from the debut season for his ability to keep popping back up after he’d been knocked down. During the first and second boardrooms, every member of the men’s team placed Sam’s head on the chopping block. But they couldn’t conceal their fondness for him, and Sam wouldn’t suppress his passion. His quirky tenacity inspired producer Mark Burnett to call him a “lion.” In Sam’s last episode, he was the project manager; when the team lost, Trump told him it was finally time to go. Sam let out a roar before leaving the boardroom. Fired but far from defeated, he soon reappeared in the spotlight, on shows from Howard Stern to Oprah, and even on spots with the Donald himself.

Emotional Awareness. One of the best examples of perceptive and empathetic leadership “The Apprentice” has to offer is Troy McClain, from the very first season. Hailing from Boise, Idaho, with an easy-going charm and firm principles, Troy made it to the final four, a feat all the more remarkable because he had only a high school education. He couldn’t take time off for college because he was working to help his single-parent mother take care of his hearing-impaired sister. Trump was impressed with Troy’s ability to read a situation and remain poised under stressful conditions. Troy’s intuitive understanding for the feelings of others also impressed clients, from rap mogul Russell Simmons to designer Isaac Mizrahi, and made him a top negotiator on his team.

Sociability. Part of the profile of a candidate for “The Apprentice” is being extroverted and friendly. Kwame Jackson is a great example of a personable leader. His people skills played a huge role in his landing in the final two on season one, especially considering his track record. Kwame had the dubious distinction of being on the losing team 10 out of 12 times! In addition to being smart, and backed by an MBA from Harvard, he had an affable, outgoing nature and easily bonded with all of the other candidates. He found a way to swim in the shark-filled waters of a fierce 13-week job interview without damaging his relationships with his teammates and competitors. Kwame created an environment of trust, which is vital in today’s corporate environment.

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一個好總統--

Leadership Qualities That Make Good Leaders

Sarmad Hasan

 Honesty and Integrity

The 34th President of United States, Dwight.D.Eisenhower once said, “The supreme quality of leadership is unquestionably integrity. Without it, no real success is possible, no matter whether it is on a section gang, a football field, in an army, or in an office.” Honesty and integrity are two important ingredients which make a good leader. How can you expect your followers to be honest when you lack these qualities yourself? Leaders succeed when they stick to their values and core beliefs and without ethics, this will not be possible.

 Inspire Others

Probably the most difficult job for a leader is to persuade others to follow. It can only be possible if you inspire your followers by setting a good example. When the going gets tough, they look up to you and see how you react to the situation. If you handle it well, they will follow you. As a leader, should think positive and this positive approach should be visible through your actions. Stay calm under pressure and keep the motivation level up. As John Quincy Adams puts it, “If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” If you are successful in inspiring your subordinates, you can easily overcome any current and future challenge easily.

Commitment and Passion

Your teams look up to you and if you want them to give them their all, you will have to be passionate about it too. When your teammates see you getting your hands dirty, they will also give their best shot. It will also help you to gain the respect of your subordinates and infuse new energy in your team members, which helps them to perform better. If they feel that you are not fully committed or lacks passion, then it would be an uphill task for the leader to motivate your followers to achieve the goal.

Good Communicator

Good Communicator - TaskQue BlogUntil you clearly communicate your vision to your team and tell them the strategy to achieve the goal, it will be very difficult for you to get the results you want. Simply put, if you are unable to communicate your message effectively to your team, you can never be a good leader. A good communicator can be a good leader. Words have the power to motivate people and make them do the unthinkable. If you use them effectively, you can also achieve better results.

Decision-Making Capabilities

Apart from having a futuristic vision, a leader should have the ability to take the right decision at the right time. Decisions taken by leaders have a profound impact on masses. A leader should think long and hard before taking a decision but once the decision is taken, stand by it. Although, most leaders take decisions on their own, but it is highly recommended that you consult key stakeholders before taking a decision. After all, they are the ones who will benefit or suffer from your decisions.

Creativity and Innovation

What separates a leader from a follower? Steve Jobs, the greatest visionary of our time answers this question this way, “Innovation distinguishes between a leader and a follower.” In order to get ahead in today’s fast-paced world, a leader must be creative and innovative at the same time. Creative thinking and constant innovation is what makes you and your team stand out from the crowd. Think out of the box to come up with unique ideas and turn those ideas and goals into reality.

leader stand out.

 

罪犯畫像師

What Will My Career Summary Be as a Sketch Artist?

Source: *U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics

As a sketch artist, you'll create likenesses of people, usually drawing by hand and using a variety of art supplies. Your skills and services may be used by law enforcement agencies pursuing suspects or missing persons, people seeking recreational portraits or media outlets depicting courtroom scenes. Law enforcement and media employers will want you to construct accurate, realistic representations of your subjects. However, private patrons may want you to elaborate and exaggerate certain features for their personal amusement.

What Is My Job Outlook?

According to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics, the number of positions for all craft and fine artists, is expected to increase only 2% over the 2014-2024 decade, while the more specific category of fine artists, including painters, sculptors, and illustrators, is expected to increase by 3% (www.bls.gov). You can expect stiff competition for available jobs, and you'll likely be self-employed. Persistent networking with news companies, law enforcement offices or private patrons may help you grow your freelance opportunities. If you're considering becoming a criminal sketch artist, then learning facial reconstruction, composite drawing or age progression techniques may provide you with a wider range of job opportunities.

What Training Requirements Will I Need to Meet?

You won't have one set route for becoming a sketch artist, but formal education and training may help you gain the experience necessary to meet potential employers' standards. Many universities have accredited art programs that offer classes on realistic depictions and life drawings, such as a Bachelor of Fine Arts in Art degree program. You can also develop your skills by attending workshops taught by experienced sketch artists. These workshops may cover topics like front and profile views, shading techniques, facial structures, facial reconstruction and sketching speed.

If you feel drawn to a courtroom sketch artist career, you can make frequent courtroom visits and practice your craft. You might benefit from learning how to sketch quickly and accurately from memory, since you'll sometimes get only brief glimpses of courtroom participants during proceedings. You may seek voluntary certification as a forensic artist through the International Association for Identification.

As a criminal sketch artist, you'll work without the benefit of a live subject. You will interview witnesses and have them choose from a variety of facial features as you create a composite sketch. Gaining experience in communication and interviewing techniques can help you gather useful information, especially when dealing with difficult or distraught witnesses.

What Are Some Related Alternative Careers?

Other careers related to sketch artists that fall under the category of fine artists include cartoonists, painters, medical and scientific artists, illustrators and tattoo artists. Outside of the the fine arts, multimedia artists and animators use computer art programs to create images for printed media, movies and TV. When it comes to capturing images in real time, as some sketch artists do, there are a few overlapping skills shared between sketch artists and photographers.

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