週四 (3/23)1.被討厭的---2.明星嫁豪門/嫁給錢錯了嗎?

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被討厭的---

5 Ways To Deal With People Who Don't Like You                Lux Ganzon    theprayingwoman

But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you- Matthew 5:44

Dealing with critics can be a big challenge.  It is hard, especially when they say things that hit below the belt—too personal and too sensitive a matter. How do you go on with life without letting critics get you down?

Here are 5 Ways To Deal With People Who Do Not Like You:

Understand them

Sometimes it’s because they have issues with themselves that they either refuse to resolve or maybe even refuse to acknowledge .  What they hate about you 1.) could be the one thing they hate about themselves, or 2.) what they hate about you is really what they secretly admire about you.  So when they have a problem with you, understand that it is nothing personal with you.  It is their own personal issues.  Try to walk a mile in their shoes and see things from their perspective.  Instead of hating them you should feel sorry for them.

Be kind to them 

Probably the hardest, yet the most character-defining thing you can do is to be kind to people who are unkind to you.  Showing kindness is not dependent on what you receive from people.  Showing kindness depends on your character.  What you do or say to others does not define them…it defines you.  Remember that how they see and treat you is a reflection and extension of how they see and treat themselves.  Most unkind people are harsh with themselves.  So they extend it to others around them.

Pray for them 

Jesus Himself has had His share of critics and haters.  He did not only ignore them and continued with His mission, He also prayed for them.  He orders us to do the same; pray for those who persecute you.  The curses you say towards others can come back to you, but so can the blessings.  He also said that when you offer peace and the other person does not accept it, peace would come back to you.  There is no losing on your part.

Ignore them

Some people will always have something to say no matter what.  There’s no pleasing them.  The best, first and simplest way to deal with them is not to mind what they have to say.  Go on with your life.  They will eventually stop when they see that you are indestructible.

Don’t Hate Them

Don’t hate them.  Most of all, don’t let their hate turn you into a hater yourself. Forgive them, Pray for them, Be kind to them, and Love them!

Q:

What are the ways to deal with people who don't like you?

What to do when coworkers don't like you

Why some people are difficult get along with?

What are the signs that someone doesn't like you?

How to make people like you?           

Is it bad to want to please everyone?

How to dealing with critics?

明星嫁豪門/嫁給錢錯了嗎?

Actress Ady An annouces wedding surprise!   dramafever.com

Ady An is reportedly to have rejected businessmen as possible suitors because she is independently wealthy and has her own successful career.

Her fans are therefore stunned when Ady suddenly announced, on March 15, that she has married Chinese tycoon, Chen Ronglian, the 40-year-old CEO of Macau-based Tak Chun Group. They registered their marriage in Taipei and will hold weddings in Taiwan and Hawaii, according to news reports.

Apparently the self-made entrepreneur's persistence finally melted the 36-year-old beauty's resolve. After his relentless pursuit for a year, the couple started dating in 2014. Chen also helped Ady get through the tragic loss, in 2015, of her beloved friend and fellow-actor Shone An (Go, Single Lady). The two-year courtship stayed low-keyed and has resulted in the joyful news.

Nothing wrong with marrying for money           By Helen travel.cnn.com

In today’s love and marriage market, rich, single men are great catches. Therefore, targeting rich second-generation men is a cost-effective option for celebrities.

Going for the rich second generation just makes sense

The rich, single young men in possession of a good fortune and good sense are ideal husbands for female pop stars.

In contrast to rags-to-riches billionaires who started from scratch and built up their fortunes themselves, rich second-generation young men are born to be wealthy and privileged.

Most are well educated, even if they failed to pass entrance examinations to Chinese universities, with more than enough money to afford studying abroad.

Being young, energetic and fashionable, the rich second generation are socialites, personable public figures who lead affluent lives similar to those of of the celebrity women who catch them.

The rich second generation are also, on the whole, open-minded; specifically they won’t ask their female partners to give up their entertainment careers once married, as second-generation rich themselves are fond of the media limelight.

For female pop stars, love and marriage with the rich second generation will not be any obstacle to their careers, it will generally help get more media attention. And what star could argue with that? 

Throw a rock, hit a rich second generation

In terms of the nature of their work, female pop stars are more likely to associate and have relationships with the rich second-generation men.

Rising Chinese actor Sung Honglei in an interview once described an embarrassing blind date that never even got off the ground when his date, a doctor, stood him up because she was "scared by Sun’s social status."

Similarly, female pop stars are seen as unattainable for ordinary men.

The chance that a female pop star will encounter an ordinary white-collar worker of marriageable age is slim, while the chance of meeting a rich second-generation single man is good.

Q:

What are your opinion about Ady (安以軒)announced that she has married Chinese tycoon?

Why do actresses like marry rich men?

What is wrong with marrying for money?    

How much money does an actress make?

Do you agree this saying “Smart Girls Marry Money”?

What are your opinion about the rich second-generation?  

When is the good marriageable age? Why?

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週二(3/21)1.不禮貌社會? 2.花&快樂感覺

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不禮貌社會?

Why We Have Become a Blatantly Rude Society      truthnotes.net

Hi.  My name is Common Courtesy.  Allow me to introduce myself to you.  I have excellent manners and social conduct.  I am polite, respectful, considerate, civil, thoughtful, cordial, tactful, and gracious.  And I am sadly lacking in your society.  In fact, some of you I’ve never even met.

Let’s admit it, there’s a lot of truth to those words above.  Take a look around you and it’s not hard to find examples of rude, crass, disrespectful behavior.  We bemoan the fact that kids today seem to be bolder than ever in their disrespect.  But how did it get that way?  Well, it may hurt to admit it, but the problem starts with adults.  Kids are only mimicking what they see around them, and adults are worse than ever in their treatment of each other.  Admitting that is the first step to fixing it.  But again, how did it come to this?  I’ll give you the answer in one word: anonymity.

We have largely become an anonymous society.  We’re so connected to technology, iPhones, computers, TVs, video games, etc, that we tend to distance ourselves from real human interactions and relationships.  Think about it.  We sit in our living rooms and watch newscasts or interviews.  We yell at the people on the TV knowing they can’t hear us.  During a political debate, we yell at the candidates, “Oh, come on, you moron!  Anyone who believes that is as big an idiot as you are!  What a pack of lies!”  Or we get on Facebook or Twitter and post snide comments about a remark one candidate made, again knowing they’re not going to read them and/or care if they do.  After all, they don’t know us personally.  Meanwhile, our kids are observing us the whole time.

Or consider driving.  Even as we drive our kids to school or practice, we provide a running commentary on other drivers, often in very colorful language.  We get cut off and we swear at the other driver.  We pass a slow driver and mutter, “Idiot.  Learn how to drive, won’t you?”  A car blows past us and we exclaim, “What a moron!  I hope he gets into an accident, driving like that.  That’ll teach him!”  All the while, our children sit silently in the backseat, taking it all in.

And don’t even get me started on the anonymity of the internet.  Check out any blog post that’s even somewhat controversial and you’ll find some of the rudest comments you can imagine.  You see, we can do that because we hide under the cloak of anonymity.  We can comment from Florida on a post written by someone in California, use a fake name, and no one will ever know who we really are.  What power!  We can say whatever we want!  No one will figure out who we really are, so our words can’t come back to bite us!  That is, unless our kids happen to read over our shoulder or overhear us as we’re muttering about “the imbecile who wrote this ridiculous post.”

Depressing?  Yes, it is.  But take heart.  We can change this.  How?  Well, it takes a bit of old-fashioned self control and a bit of a change in our way of thinking.  Instead of insulting someone directly, focus instead on his or her actions or words.  Just because that guy cut you off one time in traffic doesn’t mean he’s a complete jerk all the time.  Get upset at the behavior or the words instead of at the person.

Q:

Why we have become a blatantly rude society?

What are good manners?

How to be a polite, respectful, considerate, and civil person?

Did you find examples of rude, crass, disrespectful behavior in our society? 

Do you think the technology, iPhone, and computers, attribute impolite society?

Did you yelled at the people on the TV knowing they couldn’t hear you?

Did you swore at the other driver when got cut off? /cursing at a slow driver?

What was your response if someone swear at you?

Did you spoke in very colorful language from time to time?

花&快樂感覺

Flowers make you Happy, but why?   cityflowers.co.in

Have you ever received a bunch of flowers and felt truly elated, excited and happy? Do you feel delighted and incredibly grateful too? Well most people feel that way when they receive a beautiful bunch. But did you know there are actual reasons behind why we feel this way when we get flowers? There have been some studies done, and they have proved that flowers without a doubt make you happy! So get those flowers into your home quick!

According to behavioural research conducted at Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey, over a 10 month period, nature gives us a simple way to improve emotional health and that comes in the form of flowers. They trigger happy emotions in far more ways than what is normally believed.

flowers makes you happy

These studies were done to prove how flowers can affect our emotional and behavioural state. Each of these studies showed how beneficial flowers are to emotions and feelings. Flowers are actually linked to instant happiness when a person receives them, but not only that, they improve a person’s mood over the long run too, which ultimately means we’re more satisfied in our lives. Sounds like it’s time to order those flowers online. Believe it or not, but flowers alleviate stress and make those spirits of ours soar too. They also help to get rid of feelings of depression and anxiety. But why do flowers make us happy?

Essentially, when you receive flowers it gives you a connection to nature and takes you out of your fast-paced environment for a while, giving you a sense of peace can calm. But it’s not just the actual flowers; the colours make you happy too. This is done through a process called chromo therapy which is all about harnessing the power of colours to fire up your emotions. So, there’s no doubt that flowers are a great gift for any occasion.

But there’s more happiness to come. If you receive flowers it actually brings you closer to people around you, as you’re getting rid of agitation, anxiety and depression. You’ll feel on top of the world and because of this you’re more likely to engage with friends and family around you.

Flowers are an amazing gift and as we’ve said they make you happier in so many ways even in easing troubles, helping people to trust others, improving confidence and self-esteem, alleviating hopelessness and despair, and they even help with feeling such as envy, fear, guilt, and jealousy, among many others. There are of course a number of flowers that are connected with nurturing, romance, and tranquility.

One part of the study that was interesting was where a floral arrangement was placed in the home. Happiness was more heightened when they were in an area where everyone could see them.

Etcoff was also surprised at the long-lasting effects flowers had on people’s moods. “What I find interesting is that, by starting the day in a more positive mood, you are likely to transfer those happier feelings to others – it’s what is called mood contagion,” Etcoff explains.

Q:

Do you think that flowers make you happy? 

Why do flowers make us happy?

Have you ever received a bunch of flowers and what were you felt?

What are the factors that trigger happy emotions?

How to be more romantic?

How to improve a person’s mood?

How to starting the day with a positive mood?

How to helping people to trust others?

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周一(3/20) 1.英語會話/諺語/歌曲 2.困窘的工作3.真實的友情

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英文會話/諺語/歌曲講義 現場發放   
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困窘的工作

I’m Embarrassed To Talk With My Family About My Job
(thegrindstone by Ruth Graham)

Just about anyone getting started in a career faces a moment in which you’re a bit embarrassed to tell your family what you really do all day: “I fold sweaters.” “I fetch coffee.” “I audition over and over.” “I make copies.” If you feel a little bashful about your current career status, take comfort in these extreme stories from people who really hate talking with their families about their jobs. Read on for stories from a pet psychic whose family thinks she’s a con artist, a Butterball Turkey employee with vegan parents, and the daughter of an investment banker who paid for her own posh lifestyle by working as an escort.

I am a medium, intuitive, horse whisperer and pet psychic. I am NOT ALLOWED to talk about my work at family functions. I have a brother who is very open to what I do and he is very spiritual so we sneak off and talk about it. My sister is jealous so I don’t talk about how well I am doing in front of her.

My mom and stepdad don’t believe in anything that I do. My stepdad thinks I am a con artist. He thinks when you die, that’s it. Your consciousness doesn’t continue. I feel so positive about my work because I have helped thousands of people and their pets and even saved lives for over 22 years. I have hundreds of repeat clients. I teach them to become empowered, not co-dependent on me and the guidance that comes through for them.

At last Thanksgiving, my brother’s dog was so anxious – he has OCD anyway. I told my brother in front of everyone that he is having trouble keeping track of his toys – he wants them all together. One toy was a hexagonal ball which was hollow. I put all his other toys in the ball and gave it back to him. He put his paw on it and promptly went to sleep. Everyone laughed but I could see my parents were very uncomfortable with what I just did.

I don’t have an ego because it is the kiss of death when doing intuitive work so I really don’t care or mind that most of my family doesn’t like it or understand it. I know that everyone is on their own path and they get it when they get it. I never feel it is my responsibility to convince anyone of the validity of my work.

Questions:

Are you embarrassed to tell your job to your family and friends?

Do you have an uncommon job?

What is the most embarrassing job that you can think of?

What is the most embarrassing thing you have done in a job?

Do you like your job?

What are the ways to enjoy your job?

What to do when you hate your job?

What are the reasons you hate your job?

How to start a business in Taiwan?

How to get a better job?

Are you burned out on your job? Why?

真實的友情

Things Real Friends Do Differently

    They face problems together. – A person who truly knows and loves you – a real friend – is someone who sees the pain in your eyes while everyone else still believes the smile on your face.  Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems; look for someone who will face them with you.

    They give what they can because they truly care. – One of the biggest challenges in relationships comes from the fact that many of us enter a relationship in order to get something.  We try to find someone who’s going to make us feel good.  In reality, the only way a relationship will last, and give us joy in the long-term, is if we see our relationship as a place we go to give, and not just a place we go to take.  Yes, of course it is okay to take something from a relationship too.  But both sides should be giving.  It can only be a ‘give and take’ if BOTH SIDES are GIVING.  That’s the key.

    They are genuine, and expect genuineness. – As Leo F. Buscaglia once said, “Never idealize others.  They will never live up to your expectations.  Don’t over-analyze your relationships.  Stop playing games.  A growing relationship can only be nurtured by genuineness.”  Don’t play games with people’s heads and hearts.  Remember, love and friendship don’t hurt.  Lying, cheating and screwing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts.  Always be open, honest, and genuine.  (Read The Mastery of Love.)

    They believe in each other. – Simply believing in another person, and showing it in your words and deeds, can make a huge difference in their life.  Studies of people who grew up in dysfunctional homes but who grew up to be happy and successful show that the one thing they had in common was someone who believed in them.  Do this for those you care about.  Support their dreams and passions and hobbies.  Participate with them.  Cheer for them.  Be nothing but encouraging.  Whether they actually accomplish these dreams or not, your belief is of infinite importance to them.

    They listen, and they hear every word. – Giving a person a voice, and showing them that their words matter, will have a long-lasting impact on them.  Less advice is often the best advice.  People don’t need lots of advice, they need a listening ear and some positive reinforcement.  What they want to know is often already somewhere inside of them.  They just need time to think, be and breathe, and continue to explore the undirected journeys that will eventually help them find their direction.

    They keep their promises. – Your word means everything.  If you say you’re going to do something, DO IT!  If you say you’re going to be somewhere, BE THERE!  If you say you feel something, MEAN IT!  If you can’t, won’t, and don’t, then DON’T LIE.  Real friends keep promises and tell the truth upfront.  (marcandangel.com)

Questions:

1. How to choose good friends?

2. How to determine who your true friends are?

3. Are you willing to face problems together with friends?

4. Do you trust to your best friends?

5. Are you willing to listen to your friend’s troubles?

6. Should you lend friend money?

Reasons why you should lend money to friends?

Reasons why you should not lend money to friends?

7. Reasons why you should keep a promise to your friend?

How to keep a promise?

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週日(3/19)1. 超能力存在嗎?2.利己vs利他 下午4:30--6:30

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超能力存在嗎?

Does superpowers really exist?

Hi, I'm really wondering if superpowers really exist? Like electricity, fire, water, earth, ice and else... I'm dreaming of one, and I need an answer! I'm paranoid.

Comment 1

People <> have super powers. People cannot somehow obtain super powers. Life is not a Harry Potter movie.

Comment 2

The powers of nature can, to a certain degree, be controlled, moderated, influenced and directed by people for our benefit. Those are not super powers.

You can buy or build generators that you, yourself, crank in order to create your own electricity. My super power comes from my knowledge that if I say "ON!" the lights will turn on (provided, of course, that I flip the switch at the same time).

Comment 3

    Look, up in the sky! It's a bird.... It's a plane..... It's superman! ! ! I'm sorry but superpowers don't and cannot exist. It's not physically possible to have those abilities and survive the consequences to even have those powers. Like the ability to fly, how is that possible? It's not! But it's good to keep your brain thinking and being creative so you can think whatever you desire. Just know deep down its not possible. But remember, we have thousands upon thousands of Batman's out there! Just not wearing costumes, and traveling in bat cars. There called, detectives! These detectives have the same intelligence of Batman, hence that's why batman was even created in the 40s or 50s due to the unbelievable work by police detectives. For example, Marvel's Captain America was created due to the heroism by American and allied troops on D-day. How they just ran onto the beach and took heavy fire and still had the will to fight, is amazing. So they created Captain America which in the comics he stormed the beaches of Normandy with the Allies as a secret weapon by the Americans. (answers.yahoo.com)

Questions:

Do you admire heroes with superpowers?

Do Superpowers really exist?

Do you want be a hero with superpower? Why or why not?

If you could have any superpower, what would you choose?

What really is a hero, anyway?

If You Had A Super Power Would You Use It For Good Or Evil? How to use it?

利己vs利他
Are you an altruist or an egoist? (Wikipedia)

 Giving alms to the poor is often considered an altruistic action.
Altruism or selflessness is the principle or practice of concern for the welfare of others. It is a traditional virtue in many cultures and a core aspect of various religious traditions and secular worldviews, though the concept of "others" toward whom concern should be directed can vary among cultures and religions. Altruism or selflessness is the opposite of selfishness.

Altruism can be distinguished from feelings of loyalty. Pure altruism consists of sacrificing something for someone other than the self (e.g. sacrificing time, energy or possessions)

an altruist or an egoist test

1      Firstly, a question you'll find everywhere: You and your enemy are surrounded by terrorists. What do you do?

        Fight to save yourself, and your enemy if he gives you 1 million dollars/euros/something else.

        Fight to save your enemy.

        Fight to save you both.

        Fight to save yourself.

        Kill yourself.

        Kill you both.

2      If you were offered 1 million dollars/euros/something else for killing your friend and you are told that you will be killed if you don't, what do you do?

        Kill your friend. Firstly, you get lots of money and secondly you don't die.

        Kill yourself. (Why??)

        Say no and get killed.

        Do it but feel bad about doing it.

        Kill your friend, then kill yourself because you feel so bad about it.

        Claim that you will kill your friend, then leave town.

3      If you see a child being bullied, what do you do?

        Tell the bullies to stop.

        Tell the bullies to stop, but back off if they start threatening you

        Fight the bullies.

        Watch it with disapproval, but do nothing.

        Watch it feeling nothing, and if the bullies offer you money, then help the bullies.


Questions:

 Are you an altruist or an egoist?

What do you think about egoism and altruism?

You and your enemy are surrounded by terrorists. What do you do?

 Would you kill a stranger for a billion dollars?

Would you risk your own life to help people in danger?

 Are you willing help friends in difficulty?

Are you willing help friends in financial problem?

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周六(3/18) 1.富裕之後--2. 蕾絲邊婚禮 有兩場聚會 午4:00-6:00 晚7:30--9:30

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有兩場聚會

聚會時間  下午4:00-6:00

聚會時間   晚間7:30--9:30

威爾斯在其所著《富裕之後》一書所指出的美國狀況為例:

物質方面成長了,然而卻帶來各方面的衝擊,富裕之後的社會, 汙染了社會環境的生態;在精神方面,更是空虛迷惘, ..

今天 Billy 跟各位好友們 就來談談 富裕的社會 帶來的問題

富裕之後

The Problem of Wealth        Preface   counterpunch.org

As our country and the world face the unprecedented scourge of global climate change, the constant toxification of our air and water, and ever-increasing social and economic inequities, the few means to combat these problems exist in the form of government regulations and interventions, funded by taxes. Though the richest among us may be touted as beneficent “job creators” by ideologues and the obsequious mass media who revere them, the rich, in fact, are actually the major source of the harms and evils facing our society. Their vast industrial and corporate enterprises directly and indirectly contribute to the majority of all fossil fuel emissions, toxic pollution, worker exploitation, and income inequality. Contrary to popular opinion, the rich do not gain their wealth because they work harder or possess more skills and intellect than the rest of us; they amass profligate fortunes because they are more selfish, narcissistic, and sociopathic than others. They are rich for a specific reason. Where you or I would freely give of ourselves to help others and eschew extravagant excess, the goal of the rich is money-making, so everything they do is toward that end. Psychological studies have demonstrated that wealthy people are less altruistic than poorer people, which is precisely why they are wealthy. In this era where the United States faces the greatest income disparity in the nation’s history, on top of unprecedented environmental and ecological catastrophes, it is imperative that those responsible for causing these calamities pay for them rather than benefit from them.

The rich are indeed different than the rest. They are more liable to lie, cheat, steal, and act unethically. It is precisely this behavior that enables their accumulation of wealth. According to Professor Martha Stout, author of The Sociopath Next Door, “the higher you go up the ladder… the great number of sociopaths you will find there.” Thus, it is not surprising that many of the richest, most powerful people in our society perpetrate tremendous damage and injustice. They more often lack empathy and pro-social behavior, while they take more and give less than their poorer counterparts. These negative attributes of the upper classes commonly manifest themselves in the form of lack of concern for the environment, for other species, and for other humans. Given that the ten richest Americans are all corporate/industrial magnates of one form or another, 4 it is inevitable that tremendous damage has resulted from their industrial pursuits, both due to the nature of the wealthy individuals themselves and due to the nature of corporations. In addition, since corporations are considered people as per a Supreme Court decision, it is imperative that not only rich individuals, but corporations as well bear the burden of reimbursing society for the destruction they spread.

In addition, products that most Americans have come to rely on in our modern industrial/technological society are composed of heavy metals as well as over 85,000 synthetic chemicals, the majority of which have not been adequately tested or regulated for safety,but many of which have demonstrated the potential for carcinogenic, teratogenic, or endocrine disrupting effects. The wealth of the richest individuals and corporations in America rests on the use of these chemicals which have already contributed to the worldwide explosion of cancer, reproductive abnormalities, and species extinctions, among other devastating health impacts. Synthetic chemicals, fossil fuels, and other toxic substances have permeated our very life-support systems – our air and our water – from the rampant industrialization of the past two centuries. Indeed, it is nearly impossible to find a place in America or the world untouched by the blight of toxic pollutants. 

Q:

What are the problem of wealth?

What do you think the saying that “the rich, in fact, are actually the major source of the harms and evils facing our society?”

What are your opinion about the issues of toxic pollution, worker exploitation, and income inequality?

Do you think the rich people are more selfish, narcissistic, and sociopathic than others?

What are your opinion the upper classes?

What are your opinion about global climate change?

蕾絲邊婚禮

HSBC Taiwan CEO walks lesbian employee down the aisle

Taipei (Taiwan News)—When HSBC Taiwan employee Jennifer Chang's (張怡貞) parents refused to attend her wedding with lesbian partner of 11-years, the CEO of the company John Li (李鐘培) volunteered to walk her down the wedding aisle instead.

I am so grateful Li agreed to help," said Chang.  "I didn't even think I would ever have a wedding.”

The 32-year-old Chang and her partner Sam Chiu (邱于珊) met in 2005, but kept their relationship secret till last year.

The couple coincidentally are born on the same date and year, and even share the same blood type.

"Before we came out we were always afraid, we were hesitant to talk about it because we were worried people might make fun of us,” Chang explained in a YouTube video released by HSBC.

Encouraged by a client, Chang and Chiu decided to come out of the closet last year, in which her colleagues were very accepting of her sexual orientation, but her family remained unsupportive.

"I remember whenever my dad saw Sam, he would kick her out of the house,” said Chang.

Chang's family strongly opposed the relationship to the point that they flatly refused to attend their wedding last November.

Being a good daughter, Chang tried to appease to her parents in the past by dating men, and even tried to arrange a fake marriage for the sake of her father.

The good news is her parents have softened their attitude towards Chiu recently, and are gradually becoming more accepting of their relationship, Chang told Apple Daily reporters.

“We hope our story can encourage others in a similar situation,” said Chang.

It is very moving to see managers at work support gay marriages, but older generations still need to be educated on gender equality, said Peng Chih-liu (彭治鏐), the secretary-general of Taiwan Tonzhi Hotline Association, a non-profit LGBT rights advocate group.

Taiwan has still not officially legalized same-sex marriage, so the couple's wedding status cannot be registered on their IDs.

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Why do some people make fun of gays?

Do you support the idea of same sex relationship? Why or why not?

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11年女同志遭爸媽反對…CEO代父牽她走完紅毯

「從沒想過這輩子能有這一天…」台灣匯豐銀行女員工張怡貞，和同志伴侶邱于珊愛情長跑11年，但這段戀情走得坎坷，遭到父母極力反對甚至斷絕往來，但兩人去年勇敢公開戀情舉行婚禮，由CEO代替父親，牽著張怡貞的手走完紅毯，交到另一半手中，回想一路上的辛酸點滴得來不易，讓在場嘉賓都紅了眼眶。

張怡貞(Jennifer)和邱于珊(Sam)在2005年相識，中間一度因為距離而分開，但緣分又將她們牽起，相扶相持11年，兩人同年同月同日生，但遲遲不敢公開戀情，沒想到工作上的客戶大大支持，而讓她們深感痛苦的，是家人的不諒解。

張怡貞說，父母對於這段感情是「極度的反對」，只要看到邱于珊出現，父親就會二話不說把她轟出去，過程中甚至因想讓父親驕傲，曾嘗試和男生交往，還一度想「假結婚」給父親看，但仍然得不到父母諒解，拒絕參加婚禮也斷絕往來。

而張怡貞和女友在2016年11月完成婚禮，由台灣匯豐銀行CEO李鐘培(John Li)代替父親，牽著張怡貞的手步上紅毯，張怡貞說，「從來沒想過我們兩個會走到這段路，真的很感動」，回首過去的點點滴滴，兩人都在婚禮上哭成淚人兒。

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