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週四 (10/25)1.練習一萬小時法則 2.樂觀的人與成功
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練習一萬小時法則
Can 10,000 hours of practice make you an expert?
By Ben Carter BBC News
A much-touted theory suggests that practising any skill for 10,000 hours is sufficient to make you an expert. No innate talent? Not a problem. You just practice. But is it true?
One man who decided to test it is Dan McLaughlin, 34, a former commercial photographer from Portland, Oregon.
"The idea came in 2009. I was visiting my brother and we decided to play a par three, nine-hole course," he says. "I had never really been on a golf course and went out and shot a 57, which is horrible. It's 30 over par on an easy nine-hole course."
Far from being discouraged by his apparent lack of any natural talent for golf, Dan and his brother started talking about what it would take to become a professional golfer. Dan soon decided he wanted to try.
"When I announced I was going to quit my job, my co-workers started bringing books in and I read Malcolm Gladwell's Outliers, Geoff Colvin's Talent is Overrated and The Talent Code by Daniel Coyle," he says. "These books all had this idea of 10,000 hours in them."
The 10,000-hours concept can be traced back to a 1993 paper written by Anders Ericsson, a Professor at the University of Colorado, called The Role of Deliberate Practice in the Acquisition of Expert Performance.
It highlighted the work of a group of psychologists in Berlin, who had studied the practice habits of violin students in childhood, adolescence and adulthood.
All had begun playing at roughly five years of age with similar practice times. However, at age eight, practice times began to diverge. By age 20, the elite performers had averaged more than 10,000 hours of practice each, while the less able performers had only done 4,000 hours of practice.
The psychologists didn't see any naturally gifted performers emerge and this surprised them. If natural talent had played a role it wouldn't have been unreasonable to expect gifted performers to emerge after, say, 5,000 hours.
Anders Ericsson concluded that "many characteristics once believed to reflect innate talent are actually the result of intense practice extended for a minimum of 10 years".
Ericsson then pointed out that 10,000 was an average, and that many of the best musicians in his study had accumulated "substantially fewer" hours of practice. He underlined, also, that the quality of the practice was important.
樂觀的人與成功
Does having an optimistic attitude lead to success?
Top business executives and psychologists sure think so.
At a recent Adweek panel, executives from consumer food company General Mills, media companies Good and Upworthy and a professor of psychology agreed that people who are optimistic are more likely to work hard to achieve their goals.
Liz Mascolo, the business unit director at General Mills, defines optimism as being able to focus on a positive outcome.
"It doesn't mean that you're necessarily shiny and happy at all moments of the day," she says. "But it does mean that you have an ability to look at a situation and while it might be tough, you're able to see around that corner and see the possibility...versus the difficulty."
Being optimistic goes far deeper than just positive-thinking, says Gabriele Oettingen, a professor of psychology at New York University.
"Optimism is defined as expectancy judgments that you can do certain things in the future," she says. These expectancy judgments are based on past experience, which means that being optimistic takes effort, she explains.
On the other hand, Oettingen describes positive thinking as simply daydreaming about the future and fantasizing.
The psychology expert says that optimistic people are more likely to invest, act and put effort into achieving whatever it is that they want to get done. "High optimism will predict high effort and success," she says.
Ben Goldhirsh, CEO of Good Worldwide, reiterates the importance of optimism in accomplishing goals. When discussing optimism, your "expectations kind of dictate outcomes," he says. "People are hungry to see their expectations elevated."
However, Goldhirsh also points out that "pragmatic idealism" is important. Dreaming big is great, he says, but you must also take practical steps to turn it into a reality.
So how does one use optimism to achieve an end goal in a realistic way? Mascolo says that it takes a concerted effort and requires you to continually look forward to your goals.
週二(10/23)1.誰花錢?2.列車出軌翻覆!
上午10:46
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誰花錢?
How can I stop my partner sponging off me all the time?
By Bel Mooney for the Daily Mail
My relationship with my partner of 12 years is being soured because of money. I don’t think he realises what an issue it has become.
We both work full-time and we should be able to live comfortably.
The problem is that he is a lot more comfortable than I am.
'My partner has a sizeable amount of money saved, but had only a very small amount when we met. So I can't help feeling he's piled up this nest egg with my money'
'My partner has a sizeable amount of money saved, but had only a very small amount when we met. So I can't help feeling he's piled up this nest egg with my money'
I pay all the household bills, do a large shop monthly and pay for incidentals — a new iron, towels, household items that can need replacing.
I think he sees this as my job. When I have mentioned it before, he has said that he pays half for the big things, so he can’t see a problem.
He pays ‘rent’, as he calls it, of £80 per week and really thinks this is a fair amount to cover all utilities, rent, lunches, everything down to shower gel and toothpaste. And that’s it for him — whereas most of my pay is gone in keeping us.
I have even taken to working shifts (to increase my income and allow me to save), which I hate and find tiring.
My partner has a sizeable amount of money saved, but had only a very small amount when we met. So I can’t help feeling he’s piled up this nest egg with my money.
I have tried to talk to him about money but it ALWAYS ends in bad feeling or a row. He gets annoyed and defensive.
I’ve pretty much given up, but have an undercurrent of resentment running through me, affecting how I behave.
I’m quiet, often moody and unresponsive, and just find him getting on my nerves. I no longer buy little surprise gifts, since in the past all he has said is ‘What’s that for?’
He has never bought me anything he didn’t feel obliged to — at birthdays or Christmas.
My last birthday he gave me money and I bought a new microwave (ours was on its last legs) and he didn’t bat an eyelid!
It’s not the money as such, but vastly differing attitudes. I don’t understand how, if you profess to love someone, you wouldn’t want to help them stop struggling.
Maybe that’s what I am really unhappy about. But what to do? End it? I’m annoyed with and feel sorry for myself.
Honestly, I find it impossible to believe (despite the proofs that come every week in my postbag) that a couple can share a life for 12 whole years yet share so little of what they feel and need.

列車出軌翻覆!
Taiwan train derailment in Yilan County kills at least 18
At least 18 people have been killed and 170 injured in a passenger train derailment in north-east Taiwan.
Railway authorities say they are investigating the accident, which happened in Yilan County at about 16:50 local time (08:50 GMT) on Sunday.
A total of 366 people were on the train travelling between Taipei and the eastern county of Taitung when all eight of its carriages derailed.
The authorities now say they have freed everyone from the wreckage.
The Puyuma Express 6432 service reportedly came off the tracks close to Xinma station, near the town of Su'ao about 70km (43 miles) from Taipei.
The deputy chief of the Taiwan Railways Administration, Lu Chieh-shen, told a news conference on Sunday that the train was only six years old and had been in "pretty good condition" before the accident.
It is not immediately clear what caused the train to derail, but witnesses told local media they heard a loud noise then sparks and smoke.
Emergency medical responders and firefighters are helping the injured and the defence ministry says it has sent 120 soldiers to help with rescue efforts.
An AFP news agency reporter at the scene said more bodies were being removed from the damaged carriages at about 20:00 local time (12:00 GMT) on Sunday night.
Reports say an American citizen was lightly injured in the accident.
Taiwan's leader, Tsai Ing-wen, described the accident as a "major tragedy" on Twitter.
"My thoughts are with all the victims and their families," she added.
Taiwan has an extensive train network and more than half a million passengers travel on the system every day.
周六(10/20) 1. 月暈效應 2. 今天廢話了嗎?
晚上11:48
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新埔捷運站1號出口 旁邊7-11巷子進入20公尺 看到夏朵美髮左轉 星期六 聚會時間為下午4:00-6:00

月暈效應
What is halo effect? - Definition from WhatIs.com
The halo effect is a form of cognitive bias which causes one part to make the whole seem more attractive or desirable. This concept can be applied to people, products, brands and companies.
This phenomenon can be triggered by various positive traits and is strongly linked with first impressions. Physical attractiveness is a common factor in the halo effect, as someone who is perceived to be more attractive will be assumed to have other positive personality traits and abilities.
Confirmation bias can strengthen the halo effect. Once a positive opinion of a person or product has been formed, positive interactions with that person or product are seen to reinforce that favorable opinion, but negative interactions are often disregarded.
An example of the halo effect is in a job interview. The candidate is much more likely to be hired if he or she appears attractive and friendly to the employer because the employer will associate those external, positive qualities with intelligence, capability and talent, regardless of whether the candidate actually has those characteristics.
Advertisers and marketers often take advantage of the halo effect in their promotions. One common way of doing this is celebrity endorsements. When consumers see a celebrity in an advertisement, the product seems more desirable because of the celebrity's popularity. Another common use of the halo effect is when e-commerce websites offer free shipping when customers spend a certain amount of money -- the promise of free shipping puts the products in a more positive light.
Businesses also use the halo effect by releasing one popular product, which then boosts the appeal of the rest of its products because of that initial product's popularity. For example, Apple's success with the release of the iPod made other Apple products sell better because of the brand association. Car vendors take advantage of this effect as well and often release a model with many special features to make the rest of the line seem more appealing.
今天廢話了嗎?
Why does most of the people talk nonsense
by Quora
I know exactly how you feel at times. Most people lives are generally hectic and the few enjoyments they have like TV sitcoms, actors/actresses, are just a way to find common ground. After all, many people watch the same programs. Talking about actors is a way to avoid opening up about themselves, but this is generally in large groups where a lot of people don't know each other or are uncomfortable about getting too personal.
Humour is also used by many as a way to avoid being nervous or again trying to find a mutual topic, making fun of others. Politics and religion are hot button topics that can cause a lot of disagreements, arguments and so on. Best to avoid.
Some of my friends don't follow politics, global issues, educational programs and so on, but after some catching up, a few of my famous naughty jokes, they enjoy getting updated on news and topics ranging from DNA to endangered species or black holes. It has lead to some really creative and lively conversations and discussions.
I know its tedious sometimes, but just walk around and if you hear a conversation that you might want to add to, join in. You can always segway it to another topic. I love really interesting conversations as well, whether astronomy, physics, animal species or anything educational, but a lot of people don't follow them. Finding those who do, or wishing to hear or learn is tricky but a lot of people are interested. Just don't talk down to people, that's a big turn off.
People talk about what they're interested in. Except "bitching", I don't find any of the things you mentioned "nonsense". They are not nonsensical and you are not a retard. Neither they nor you need to change. You just need to find the right circle of people who'll share your interests.
You probably are an introvert but introverts meet other introverts and talk about the coolest things in the galaxy. But it will help you socially if you don't judge others (like you did now). Also if they ask you to join, just smile and admit that you're no good with these topics. It's fine if you don't find their topics interesting. You'll find many people who'll be interested in politics, history etc. In fact there may already be 1 or 2 people in your social circle who're interested in at least one of the topics you like. Just be a little kinder to the people around you.
週四 (10/18)1.一輩子 賺多少? 花多少? 2.賽車競速 三人喪命
凌晨12:45
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一輩子 賺多少? 花多少?
This is Exactly How Much You Will Earn and Spend In Your Lifetime
Bridget Casey moneyaftergraduation
The amount of money you will earn and spend in your lifetime is fixed, you just don’t know what the number is yet.
This might sound like a painfully deterministic perspective, but it’s worth keeping in mind when you assess your spending. Human beings are notoriously short-sighted when it comes to making predictions about the future, but these normal blind spots seem exacerbated when it comes to finances. I’ve read a number a personal finance articles about how bad people are at saving for retirement because we’re terrible at making a guess at what our future selves will want, but I have yet to read one that talks about your money in the context of a lifetime bank account with a fixed balance that you are simply withdrawing from every day.
People often say money is infinite but time is not. They are wrong.
“You can always earn more money but you can never get more time”.
That perspective encourages living in the moment and not worrying about petty things like 7-year car loans. But the truth is your money is probably more fixed than you’d like to admit. You probably won’t get much more than what can be predicted for your current age and level of education.
I know none of us want to think of ourselves as statistics, but it doesn’t hurt to use data as a baseline to make judgments about how you’re doing.
If you have a Bachelors degree, you will earn approximately $1.8 million in your lifetime.
That’s it. That’s all you have.
About $360,000 of it will go to income taxes, so don’t think you’re rich now or anything. The number is even more depressing if you split for gender. Men earn on average almost $1 million more over their working lifetime than women. I assume this is the result of The Motherhood Tax. But for the sake of simplicity, we’ll assume everyone gets $1.8 million, which comes to just shy of $1.5 million after taxes.
You’re going to burn through this money much faster than you think. So fast you won’t even realize it is happening. Assuming you start burning money at age 20 and die at 80, you’ll have 60 years of spending and consumption. Trust me, you don’t want more. You can’t afford it. Below is a breakdown of what an average person’s lifetime earnings and spending might look like:
How much you will earn and spend in your income
Your numbers might be more or less, depending on a myriad of variables.
Maybe your first home was more or less expensive, or your education was free or hundreds of thousands of dollars. Maybe you have a spouse that’s splitting many of those major expenses with you. Maybe you’ll never own a car, or maybe you’ll have four children. And maybe you’ll live to 90 years old, I don’t know. Life is long and varied. The above is not meant to be a prediction OR a guide. It’s merely a template for you to start making some guesses and assumptions about your own financial situation.

賽車競速 三人喪命
Illegal racer shows no remorse after kil...
Taiwan News
TAIPEI (Taiwan News) -- An unlicensed driver who smashed his car into a Taipei sidewalk killing three people last night, showed no remorse for his actions and bragged about being in a gang.
The driver, 21-year-old Hsieh Ya-hsuan (謝亞軒), while racing his rented black Toyota against his friend in a white car surnamed Huang (黃), suddenly lost control of the vehicle, smashing into a sidewalk on Nanjing East Road section 4, killing three pedestrians, at around 5 p.m. yesterday. The three killed included a 66-year-old driver of a truck and his 64-year-old wife, who were loading recycling together, and a 64-year-old security guard standing nearby them.
When Hsieh was taken in by police for questioning, rather than showing remorse for the death of three people, he demonstrated a sullen attitude and told police "I am a bad boy" and "I am a member of the Zhongshan Alliance [中山聯盟]," reported Liberty Times. However, despite his lengthy criminal record, police this morning denied that Hsieh was a known member of the gang, reported Apple Daily.
According to local media reports, Hsieh formally worked as a night club promoter, but is currently unemployed. He already has a long criminal record including drug offenses, assault, DUI, public endangerment, among other crimes.
Hsieh had already committed a number of crimes in his teenage years, but his criminal record from that period was closed when he turned 18 and police did not retain his files. At the scene of the accident, Hsieh passed an alcohol test, but he also had a record of traffic violations.
週二(10/16)1.要成功 凌晨起床! 2.驚輸?
上午8:07
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要成功 凌晨起床!
Should you start your day at 2:30 in the morning? BBC Bryan Lufkin
Hollywood star and two-time Academy Award nominee Mark Wahlberg revealed this week that he wakes at 2:30am daily, launching into a regimen that includes a 90-minute workout, golf, prayer and recovering in a “cryo-chamber”. By 7:30 that night, he’s in bed.
He’s not the only high-profile early-riser. Apple CEO Tim Cook reportedly gets up at 3:45am, and Disney boss Bob Iger has a 4:25am scheduled workout that has apparently inspired NBA players to hit the gym earlier.
On LinkedIn and in profiles of corporate leaders, there’s often a common thread – if you want to be successful, get up early.
So should we all become super-early birds? Would it help us be more productive? It might – but there’s a cost. And possibly a hidden desire to impress people with just how “productive” we are with pre-dawn wake-up calls.
Schedule-shaming
While a 2:30am start would suggest an extremely long day and almost no sleep, Wahlberg’s early bedtime suggests he’s running on a respectable seven hours each night.
This is important for productivity – a lack of sleep takes huge tolls on your health and cognitive ability.
Two American researchers, Christopher Barnes and Gretchen Spreitzer, from the University of Washington and University of Michigan respectively, have looked at this topic extensively. They examine such things as whether companies should make sure their employees are getting enough sleep.
Spreitzer thinks that, in Wahlberg’s case, he’s simply shifting his waking hours to a different (albeit extreme) start time, and he actually probably is being more productive.
“There are some advantages: you create discipline where you have a lot more time for yourself – to get your own goals done before the family gets up, before colleagues want to meet with you,” she says.
But going to bed so early can lead to “sacrificing his social network and ability to develop strong social relationships,” which are necessary for good mental health.
“I’m guessing if you’re going to bed at 7:30, you’re missing out on a lot of nice dinner conversations with family where you’re not falling asleep, or social activities with friends,” she says.
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KIASU: Singaporean by Origin, Global in Meaning - Made in Singapore
One of the very first words of the local vernacular that a foreigner is likely to pick up in Singapore is "kiasu". Originating from the Hokkien dialect, it may literally be translated as "afraid of losing out", "afraid of not getting the best", "always wanting the upper hand or something for free". Kiasu implies a great deal of negative qualities and rude behaviour, such as greed, egoism, acquisitiveness, rudeness, being on a constant lookout for freebies and stuffing oneself at buffet lunches. Kiasu behaviour in Singapore is manifested in everyday situations.
Kings of the Road, Lords of the Parking
Driving in Singapore has a local tinge. Before changing lanes, you naturally signal right or left, naively believing that this is a universally understood sign. Well, not in Singapore. To the driver behind you in the adjacent lane (the one you'd like to get onto), the amber twinkle of your blinker is what the red cape is to the bull: the enraged kiasuer driver charges forward, preventing you from entering his lane, his nostrils flaring and eyes glaring as he swishes by. Unable to verbally express his indignation with what to you and millions of other motorists the world over consider courteous driving as prescribed by driving manuals, the kiasu driver resorts to furious honking, too. When I shared my take on such driving habits with Singaporean friends of mine, they recommended: "Don't signal – just change lanes, otherwise kiasu drivers will never let you in."
When parking his car, the kiasu driver looks for a lot nearest to the lift or escalator. In case the first level of a multi-storey parking is packed, he will stop in between rows of parked cars, his flashlight on, his engine idling. He means to be the first to snatch the sought-after lot as soon as it is vacated. He knows that there are plenty of vacant lots on other floors – it was indicated so on an electronic board at the entrance of the carpark, but since he was here first, he must have the benefit of parking his car on the lowest floor, no matter how long the wait might be.
Last year, there was a brief promotion in Singapore: "a dollar a litre of petrol", when fuel was sold at a reduced price. It caused long lines of vehicles, contributing to traffic jams all over the island. The power of kiasuism forced many motorists to jump at the opportunity, which proved highly dubious. Since the cars had their engines on while queuing at the filling stations, the amount of fuel they wasted surpassed the profit gained. It was obvious to anyone sensible, but those who succumb to fits of kiasuism are normally not.
Kiasuism also permeates my fitness club, where there is a highly popular and thus totally overcrowded kickboxing class for women. When late for class, a foreign gal takes a spot at the back of the room, seamlessly joining others. In a similar situation, a tardy Singaporean ploughs tank-like through the group of jumping and kicking ladies, being driven by the powerful spirit of kiasuism. It dictates that she choose the best for her dear self – always, everywhere. So, she aims for the front row, which allows for an unobstructed view of both the instructor on stage and herself on the mirrored wall. The inconsiderate kiasuer claims the spot, forcing the ladies around her to move back.
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