How to Be a Popular
(Edited by Rachel, Josh Hannah, James Quirk, Krystle C,)
Being popular is about more than just your clothes or how you do your hair or makeup. It's an entire lifestyle. It involves interacting with people in the right way, giving off an air of confidence, getting involved with everyone around you and getting people like you from the second they meet you.
1. A good impression
Make a good first impression on everybody you meet. Remember, you only get one chance to make a first impression, so make sure they remember you as a friend. So, remember not to be too shy. Don't be annoying or nosy about everything. Be nice to everyone and say hi to people you don't normally say hi to. Act confidently. Always be friendly!
2. Talking people’s interests
Talk about things that other people are in interested. People can be very passionate when talking about their interests. This will make you and especially the other(s) feel better about them. A boost of confidence never hurts!
3. Pay Attention to the Little Things
Listen more than you talk. People will want to be around someone who makes them feel better about themselves, not someone who is clearly just planning the next thing they're going to say. So don't be chatterbox; you can't listen with your mouth open. Ask them questions, but not enough to sound like a stalker. People love a person who takes the time to find more about them.
4. Compliment
Be all ears. Pay attention to what the other people are saying. Don't concentrate on yourself so much that you don't catch the person's name. Talk and compliment the person you are with or meeting. Don't try to compliment the popular people to get them to like you, and if you hate someone's hair, don't compliment it. If you see a quality that you like in someone, don't be afraid to speak up and compliment!
5.Be empathetic
Popular people know when someone needs a smiling friend, a compliment, or a hug. It's okay to be shy, but if you want to be popular, you have to smile, start conversations, and relate to people at their own level. That means talk about what the other person is interested in. Don't get stuck in the idea that you are shy or withdrawing. Realize that you are constantly changing, and that you are developing your social skills to the point where you could relate to all people. You have the right to change and grow.
Questions:
1. Do you know how to make new friends?
2. How to be popular among friends? How to get people to like you?
3. How to make friends with someone you've never spoken to before?
4. How to become friends with a girl or a boy?
5. Reasons why it's important to have good social skill?
6. How much do you care about your friends?
超感官知覺
Extra-sensory perception (wise GEEK)
(ESP) refers to any phenomena in which one gains information through means other than the recognized physical senses. It is therefore a broad category. Though ESP has never been scientifically proven and has numerous critics and skeptics, many laboratory test results have strongly favored its existence, and many people claim personal experience with it. ESP includes such phenomena as telepathy, out-of-body experiences, clairvoyance or remote viewing, precognition or seeing the future, aura reading, and other instances of intuition and knowledge acquired without the use of the physical senses.
The field of study that deals with ESP, known as parapsychology, was developed by J. B. and Louisa Rhine at Duke University in the 1930s. The Rhines popularized the term, along with psi, the hypothetical agent through which the mind experiences ESP. They also introduced the use of Zener cards, designed by psychologist Karl Zener, to test it in the laboratory. The Zener cards consist of a deck of 25 cards with five different symbols, and perception is tested by recording the accuracy of the test subject's guesses about the symbols on cards he or she cannot see.
Though many laboratory experiments suggest that ESP is a real phenomenon, none are definitively conclusive, and many more have been unsuccessful. Critics complain that the experiments favoring it were conducted with improper methodology. ESP is, by its nature, difficult to test, since there is little consensus over how it works or what exactly would prove its existence. Few people are truly disinterested when it comes to this subject.
Interestingly, some laboratory tests on ESP found that those who believe in psi are more likely to score above chance when guessing Zener card symbols, while those who do not believe in psi often score below chance. Another interesting result showed people in a relaxed state of mind, such as hypnosis, to make accurate guesses about Zener cards twice as often as chance would indicate, while those who are not hypnotized tend to score around chance.
Questions:
1. Do you believe the supernatural exists? Why or why not?
2. Do you believe in sixth sense? Do women have a sixth sense?
3. Do you believe that some people have super powers? What super-power do you want?
4. Do you believe that some people have the ability to read someone's mind?
5.How to read someone's mind?
6. Do you believe in supernatural beings? Ghost and bad spirits?
如何成為受歡迎的人
(文／廖斌得)
世界上任何人都希望成為受人歡迎，因為擁有群眾的魅力，就會到處受到人喜愛，進而得到更多的助力，邁向成功的人生。尤其在工作職場上，若只有才華洋溢，卻孤芳自賞，可能會使人際關係變得很差，就不能獲取更多朋友的協助，無法進而達到追求卓越。
若具有備成功的特質，就比較容易成為受歡迎的人。那什麼是成功呢？成功是瞬間機會的選擇、掌握與運用，中央研究院副院長楊國樞曾表示，若人們能夠自我分析、自我肯定、自我提升、自我實現，就比較容易成功，加上付出實際的行動，一定成為一個受歡迎的人。
那受歡迎的人需要那些吸引人的魅力與特質？歸納原因如下:
＊ 肯定自己、展現自信
＊ 尊重、欣賞他人優點、樂與人相處
＊ 把握時間、設定目標、提升自己
＊ 積極主動、對未來有願景和期盼
＊ 愛與關心周遭的人，常存感激的心
受人歡迎的條件
對人的態度經常可以建立良好的第一印象，如微笑待人，展現出充滿信心。同時也要樂於助人，給人溫暖，如在朋友需要幫助的時候，瞭解對方需求給予協助，但要注意必須維護對方的自尊心。
若人與人之間能相互尊重，以和為貴，才能進而合作。人曰:「禮多人不怪，怪人多不禮」就是這個道理，因此在職場或朋友對待時。要注意講話的技巧和禮儀的應對，才能與人和平相處。
在平時要看別人的長處，不要只看短處。對於別人有所成就時，要適時給予讚美，但要以誠懇的態度、及具體的事實，不要言過其實。看到別人的優點，多給予肯定，進而相 互合作，提升互補的益處。
在工作中瞭解他人的專長和能力，才能合作愉快，可透過傾聽，瞭解別人的特長、想法，先傾聽再溝通、協調，才能發揮真正工作的效率。
人與人之間的相處，主要是坦誠、負責。若彼此之間，不夠坦白或不負責任，說話不算數，沒有互信的基礎，彼此猜忌，怎麼能受到歡迎呢？很可能受到排斥或打擊。若需要規勸他人不當之處，也必須找適當的場所及時機，在不傷及對方自尊心之情況下進行規勸，才會達到預期的效果。
幽默經常是魅力的特效藥，魅力及人緣在幽默感中是不可缺少的。美國總統雷根的風趣幽默以及豐富的表情是他的成功之道。幽默可協助擴展良好的人際關係，因此要多學習幽默感的方法，幽默感使用得當一定會廣受歡迎。
要成為受歡迎的人，擅於溝通及表達就很重要的;不會表達，容易說錯;不會溝通，容易弄錯。所以溝通要從會傾聽對方開始，表達方式好，魅力就會加分，從對方的表情和反應中可得知自己受歡迎的程度。但要留意的是，即使自己有理，自己是對的，也要注意自己的態度，不可得理不饒人，要婉轉表達，才會讓人心悅誠服，否則只會生是非，傷人傷己。
勇氣能讓自己不畏失敗，發現自己有錯，要勇於認錯，俗語說「失敗為成功之母」，在錯誤中學習成長，進而自我提升、自我激勵、自我挑戰。凡事都能以正面態度解決問題，有這樣的資質和潛力，怎麼不會成為受歡迎的人呢？◇
超感官知覺 (摘編自正見網)
在科學界，人體的特異功能一直備受爭議。其中「心靈感應」功能(又稱他心通)也被很多保守的學者視為迷信......
「身無彩鳳雙飛翼，心有靈犀一點通」是一句傳誦千年的詩句。其中提到的「心靈相通」究竟是迷信還是真實存在？2002年8月4日，在英國的《星期日海羅德》週報上，記者伊恩‧布魯斯(Iain Bruce)發表了一則新聞，介紹蘇格蘭科學家保羅‧史蒂文森(Paul Stevens)將公布迄今為止首次獲得的科學證據，證明人類確實有能力用意念溝通。
史蒂文森博士說：「我們的研究還不完整，但是(通過試驗)我們可能已經發現了一個重要的模式，希望藉此來證實思維傳感功能和潛在對應的(人體)機制。」這項試驗是在著名愛丁堡大學心靈心理學所進行的，試驗主要觀察在關係親近的人之間的思維聯繫，比如戀人、朋友和親戚。每兩個具有這種親密關係的受試者被配成一對，一個人是「(信息)傳送者」，另一個是 「(信息)接收者」。研究人員為第一組的人播放一系列隨意挑選的錄像片斷，然後讓他們把內容用意念「發送」給他們的搭檔，而第二組的搭檔正坐在相距25米的隔音室裏。「接收者」在房間裏處於高度接收狀態。研究人員詢問他們在頭腦中接收到了甚麼信息，並且同時測試他們的身體有無反應。許多受試者都能夠說出他們在第一組中的好友所看到的內容。
在科學界，人體的特異功能一直備受爭議。其中「心靈感應」功能(又稱他心通)也被很多保守的學者視為迷信。史蒂文森博士的發現可能會令許多人轉變固有的看法，為這一領域帶來戲劇性的轉變。
其實，人體的多種特異功能在修煉界是公認的事實，因為它們是超常的科學，所以才不易被現在的儀器所探察。當科學家們耗費了大量的物力和人力去探索人類和星空時，卻經常被迫承認：在很多時候，科學研究是那樣的有限和無力，甚至連人體自身都存在著許多未解之迷。能否破迷的關鍵並不在於先進的設備或更新的理論，而在於樹立真正的科學精神。那就是：不要只相信肉眼所見，也不要盲目排斥，而應該以開放的思維和不同的角度來面對宇宙、審視生命。這種全新的科學態度必定會為我們帶來新知。
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