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受辱!怎麼辦?
Do you feel bad when someone insults you? (webanswers.com)
Do you feel bad when someone says something mean to you?
I think most people feel bad when they have been insulted because, deep down inside, they wonder if there isn't some validity to what was said. If someone tells you that you look like you got dressed in a dark closet, you wonder if you really do look that bad. If someone tells you, you are dumb as a doorknob, you begin to wonder if you really are stupid.
I try not to let insults affect me too much. I sure get angry, though, when I see other people being insulted, especially children. It particularly bothers when the insults are directed at something the person can't change or their physical attributes.
When I was a kid, my sister hurled some insults at me that were terribly hurtful. I don't remember what was said but to this day I remember how I felt.
I escaped outside and hid behind the walnut tree and just sobbed. I also remember promising myself I would never saying anything to her, or anyone else, that would hurt their feelings the way mine had just been hurt. As a direct result, I have always been very cautious about what I say to people, especially in anger.
I do think most people who drip sarcasm and sling insults are trying to disguise their own insecurities and/or inadequacies. That's how bullies are made. Bullies don't just vanish after childhood, either. Some never change and carry those traits right on into adulthood. I know many adults I would classify as bullies.
Questions:
1. How to cope with insults?
2. How to respond when someone insults you?
3. Can you ignore insults? Can you tolerate insults?
4. What to do when someone swears at you?
5. Can you tolerate when a friend curses at you?
6. How to hold anger when one insults you?
鬼月禁忌
Hungry Ghost Festival Taboo (anythingbeautiful.blogspot.tw)
The 7th lunar month or more commonly known as the month of the Hungry Ghost Festival is normally regarded as not an auspicious time of the year. In the Taoist Chinese community, weddings and engagements do not take place during this month. House-moving is also out of the question. Buying property or a vehicle or even buying a bed is avoided.
These don'ts are more specific to the Hungry Ghost month..
3. The word "ghost" is never uttered so as not to offend them as it sounds crude. They are normally referred to as "buddies" or "brothers" whose local equivalent is "ho heng tai" in Cantonese or "ho hia ti" in Hokkien.
4. Do not occupy any of the front-row seats at the Ko Tai performance. They are meant for the unseen guests.
5. Do not wear red during the Hungry Ghost Festival month as spirits/ghosts are attracted to red, so avoid anything red, including underwear.
6. Stay away from drugs and alcohol. It is easier for spirits to take over those who are intoxicated. Staying alert at all times makes it difficult for a spell to be cast on you. This one is commonsense.
7. Avoid cutting your hair, shaving, going out or hanging clothes outside at night or leave clothes outside. Not quite practical for shaving, I guess.
8. If you are outside, no singing and whistling as these actions are said to attract spirits.
9. Don't answer to your name when you are out walking on your own at night. Likewise, don't call anyone by name at night in the open.
10. From young, boys (and girls alike) are often reminded not to pee anywhere they like. If one needs to go badly, one needs to cup one's hands together as in prayer and mutter an apology at the same time requesting spirits (buddies) in the vicinity to move aside.
11. Keep away from walls as it is believed that spirits like sticking to walls. You don't want to go under a tree at night either.
12. Good to leave the forehead exposed as it is believed that the light from the forehead can ward off evil spirits.
1. What do you think about ghost festival?
2. What do you think about ghost month taboos?
3. Do you know any other Taiwanese taboos?
4. Can you tell us ghost stories, superstitions about ghosts?
5. Are you superstitious? Why or why not?
6. Above all, what ghost month taboos you believe most? Why?
7. What are the things you considered as inauspicious?
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