週五(4/1)1.如何避免衝突2.旅行的益處

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如何避免衝突

How to Avoid Conflict (By Theresa Smith, eHow )

Conflict is part of everyday life and can range from a small disagreement at the office to yelling at a not so conscientious driver. Although we tend to get over many small conflicts pretty well, when conflict arises in our personal lives and relationships it is can be much harder to deal with.

1 Bite your tongue rather than say something harsh in the heat of the moment that you don't mean. Remember the old adage, if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all. Sometimes, during an argument is not the right time to try to make your point.

 2 Be willing to listen because sometimes that is the easiest way to resolve a conflict. Let your loved one express her feelings to you. You cannot fight feelings and feelings are not wrong. You cannot change the way that a person feels but you can acknowledge her feelings and try to understand them.

3 Set boundaries because everyone needs those no matter how close the relationship may be. Respect each other's privacy and space. Not everything involving your significant other is your business. Sure, you share a lot but it is not a necessity to know everything that he does at every moment. it is not fair and will surely lead to conflict when those boundaries are not respected.

 4 Be grateful and don't take your significant other for granted. Thank her for all that she does. Let him know that you appreciate him keeping things fixed around the house. Thank her for cooking dinner, doing the laundry and doing a great job with the kids. All of those nice things that you enjoy should not be handled as the significant other doing her duty. Just say thanks every once in a while for his being the person that he is.

 5 Don't overreact to an overreact to an already volatile situation, particularly when the other person may be seeking a confrontation. Don't fall into negative behaviors. Keep a cool head and think things out before reacting. Ask yourself if it is worth the fight. Don't react in a way that you will have to apologize for later.

Questions:

1 . What causes conflict? And how to avoid conflict?

2. How to resolve a conflict at work?

3. How to resolve conflicts in your relationships effective

4. Can you control your anger?

5. Is silence as a good or bad tool to resolve conflicts?

6. Ways to managing disagreements?

旅行的益處

The Benefits of Traveling ( ineedmotivation.com)

Traveling gives us the opportunity to disconnect from our regular life. You get to forget your problems/issues for a few weeks, it can also help you figure things out that you would not have understood without the distance traveling can give you. We all have crazy schedules, work and a family to take care of, going away alone or with some friends can give you distance and perhaps even make you realize how important these people are for you. Like the saying says: we never know what we have until we lose it.

Another great benefit is the relaxation you get to do. It’s nice to live life to its fullest and enjoy a stress free time with yourself. Going on vacation lets us recharge our “batteries” by disconnecting us from our regular life. When we come back we feel invigorated and we are happy to be back in our day to day routine. It’s a very good stress remover that has a lot more to give than most people are willing to accept.

Traveling increases our knowledge and widens our perspective. To view new customs, different ways of living is fantastic for the mind. It gives us a new perspective about life and especially our life, it can help us change some of our habits or even create new ones. When I travel I usually make it a point to try new food, some cultures don’t have fries in their diet and they are all skinny, others use spices to give taste and not oils or fats. Discovering different values and ways to get by in life is really interesting. You also need to visit exotic new places and discover what this wonderful world has to offer.

New experiencesincrease our resourcefulness by living situations you would never encounter at home, this is great experience for you when you come back to your routine. I have noticed that people who traveled a lot in life were ready to embrace change and have a natural ability of overcoming problems that others would frown upon.

When traveling with friends or family it creates memories for a lifetime. These memories will create a bond that nothing can erase no matter what happens with the friendship/relationship. It can also give a new perspective on the relationship and cement the bond forever. It also gives nice stories to tell people afterwards, you can create photo albums about your trips and when you feel nostalgic you can take an hour of your life and experience the trips again by looking at your pictures.


Questions:

1. What are the benefits of traveling?

2. How often do you travel or go on vacation?

3. Can travelling make you healthier? Why?

4. Ways to relax yourself?

5. Do you dare to break out of your comfort zone and to do sth new?

6. What kind of adventure do you want to have?

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週四(3/31)1.愛情電影對你不好2.陰陽眼

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愛情電影對你不好

Are Romantic Movies Bad For You?    By Eben Harrell / London TIME         

In the celluloid world of romantic comedies, shy but decent men get the girl, arguments set up sweet reconciliations, and couples separated by tragedy are always reunited through improbable coincidence. But now researchers are beginning to ask whether the make-believe world projected in "rom-coms" might actually be preventing true love in real life.

Last week, researchers at Heriot Watt University's Family and Personal Relationships Laboratory in Edinburgh, which studies best practices in relationship counseling, completed a study of 40 Hollywood romantic comedies released between 1995-2005. They found that problems typically reported by couples in relationship counseling at their counseling center reflect misconceptions about love and romance depicted in Hollywood films. (See TIME's Top 10 movies of the year.)

"Relationship counselors often face common misconceptions in their clients — that if your partner truly loves you they'd know what you need without you communicating it, that your soul mate is predestined. We did a rigorous content analysis of romantic comedies and found that the same issues were being portrayed in these films," the university's Dr Bjarne Holmes says.

The fact that Hollywood sells us an enhanced version of romance should come as no surprise, of course. But does that portrayal reflect a pre-existing expectation that film buffs hold or does it instill it? As part of their research, Dr Holmes' team had around 130 student volunteers watch the 2001 romantic comedy Serendipity, while another group of the same size watched a David Lynch drama. Viewers of the romantic comedy were found to be more likely to believe in fate and destiny. It was a small study confined to one region, but, Dr Holmes argues, "it does give us some indication of [the effects of romantic comedies]."

Mary-Lou Galician, Head of Media Analysis and Criticism at the Walter Cronkite School of Journalism & Mass Communication at Arizona State University, whose research in the 1990s found similar results to Holmes' study, says uncovering conscious and subconscious romantic motivation is a difficult process, and the role of movies is uncertain. She points to the vexing debate over the effects of violent movies, which some researchers argue encourage aggression, while "others argue just as persuasively that [simulated violence] provides a safe release for human aggression." (See pictures of couples in love.)

Still, Galician — who blames mass media portrayals of romance for the failure of her own early relationships — advises people to be cautious about watching too many romantic comedies, and remain aware that such movies might cause problems in their own relationships. "If there were suggestions something was dangerous for you, even if the results were in small numbers, it might not be a bad idea to be cautious," she says.

Q:

Do you think that Romantic Movies Are Bad or good for us?  

Do you agree that watching too many romantic comedies might cause problems in relationships?

This writer said “Viewers of the romantic comedy were found to be more likely to believe in fate and destiny”

So do you believe in fate and destiny?

Do you think that your soul mate is predestined?

What do you think about Hollywood movies?

How to find “true love “in real life?

What are the effects of violent movies?

陰陽眼

How Can You See Spirits? A Short Guide to Spiritual Clairvoyance 

By Amanda Linette Meder, Psychic Medium     amandalinettemeder

If you are reading this article right now, chances are, you already do have the ability to see spirits around you. Maybe you are aware of this, but aren’t sure, maybe you aren't, or maybe you are looking for clarification of the different ways spirits appears. That's fine! Continue reading and we'll explain how it works.

While most people sense (clairsentience) spirits before they ever see them, often the sensing is accompanied by other clues that you are being visited by those in the spirit world. These clues come in a variety of ways – they can use signs and symbols, noises, movement, and visuals.  Spirits can visit you both while you are awake and while you are dreaming – and in this article, we're focusing specifically on 'waking visits' - those in which you are fully aware of your surroundings!

How to Open Your Third Eye and Become a Clairvoyant   OMTimesBy Naomi Hale

Yes, you can boost your own psychic abilities just developing your own natural power to be a clairvoyant. What does clairvoyance means? It means “clear seeing”; in other words, it means that you can see the present, past and future for your own or others.

We all have the same power inside, no one was born different than others; all you need to do is to learn how to increase your clairvoyant power and then you will see how this becomes a reliable tool for your daily life.

For you to learn how to open your third eye and to be a clairvoyant, you need to practice every day following some simple steps, the same way you do when learning any other topic in your life. Here, you will find some easy to follow steps that will help you to enhance your ability to see your future.  All you need to do is to follow them, doing it consistently, every day in order to enhance this ability in you.

How to Open Your Third Eye Step #1 – UNBLOCK

The first step is to allow yourself to open your third eye! Some of us maybe have experienced some psychic visions, but our minds and our fears block what we saw or do not accept this could be real. In order to give yourself a permission to be a clairvoyant, you need to release those feelings and this could be done just sitting in a relaxing place, focusing your attention in your breathing and then repeating any affirmation like for example: “I allow myself to open my third eye, I release any fear that is blocking me RIGHT NOW!

Q:

Can we see spirits? Do you believe that we have the ability to see spirits around us?

Do you have the power of clairvoyance? Or some of your friends who have the power?

Do you believe the idea of opening your third eye? 

Do ghosts really exist?

Do you believe the idea that we can see the past and future for your own or others?

What would you do if we could see the future or the past?

Do you have a sixth sense?

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週二(3/29)1.找不到伴的原因?2.自私對你卡好?

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找不到伴的原因

Reasons This Generation Is Having So Much Trouble Finding True Love    elitedaily

Some people find it easy to fall in love, others not so much. We tend to fall in love with people who meet a certain criteria in our mind.

Loving a person can be extremely difficult — here’s why:

Fear of failed relationships

It’s become so common to see the people around us getting screwed over. It’s practically impossible to trust someone these days.

We’ve all heard stories from our friends, family and colleagues being related to some sort of cheating scandal. As a result, some have major trust issues, while others might feel burdened with insecurity from their partner.

Having high standards

As we grow older, we add more things to our list of what we look for. We understand what we want in personality qualities, physical attraction, values, interests, etc. This makes finding a partner tricky because each person has a certain score for his or herself to determine his or her own worth.

When we meet someone, we tend to point out the negative aspects we see and focus on those. It’s definitely good to maintain high standards because you want to be with someone who matches your worth, but sometimes, standards can become unattainable. This will only result in constant disappointment.

Unknown definition of love

For some, love is a feeling of being in the moment much more than just being loved. For others, love requires a lot of personal growth.

Our culture has dismantled the definition of love through the exposure of Disney and Hollywood ideals. When someone doesn’t meet the true love standards depicted in the movies, one can be weary of what it means to fall in love.

Very few couples lock eyes and just know that they’ve found “the one.”  Keep in mind that love might not come as natural or as intensely as it does in the movies.

Not wanting to hurt others

On the other end of the spectrum, some find it hard to fall in love because they have never felt a deep connection with anyone. Dating someone who has gotten really attached to you could make a breakup messy, which makes you want to stay clear of relationships all together.

It’s hard not to hurt people, and it’s even more difficult dealing with the guilt that comes with causing pain to others.

Q:

What are the reasons that this generation is having so much trouble finding true love?  

Do you make certain criteria in your mind when fining a future partner?

How to find “true love”?

Do you agree the saying that “it’s practically impossible to trust someone these days”?

“Personality qualities, physical attraction, values, interests” which one you prefer when fining a future partner?

What are reasons why lovers break up?

How should one end a relationship without hurting the other?

自私對你卡好?

4 Reasons Why Being Selfish Is Good for You

Selfish people are healthier. Selfish people are more self-focused and pay more attention to their own bodies and health. They take care of themselves: do exercises, eat healthy food and also try to please themselves with what they love. Did you know that selfish people travel a lot?

Selfish people have better relationship. Self-focused people have healthier relations just because they don't let others manipulate or take advantage of them. You always can say “No” to something that disturbs you or something you don't like. Sacrificing yourself and your needs for the sake of relations won't make you happy.

Selfish people are better leaders. Numerous studies have shown that selfish people may have an advantage in leadership role. Selfish people are more confident in themselves and are not likely to give up on their goals. They just go for something they want apologetically and they are not afraid to ask for the raise or promotion.

Selfish people are happier. Will you be happy, if someone tells you to live a miserable life to please others? We bet you won't, so make yourself happy. Travel, enjoy, do what you like. Your happiness will make your relations with other people healthier, you will become more altruistic and helpful to others. Happiness will make you more creative and resilient. You will become a better friend, colleague and citizen.

However, remember, that selfishness is two-edged. Keep balance in order not to harm yourself. And whenever you think that you might please yourself with it, don't hesitate, because a little selfishness is good for you.

Q:

Do you agree the idea that” Being selfish is good for you”?

How to deal with people who take advantage of you?

Why do some people always or often want to be the center of attention?

How to handle annoying behaviors of self-centered people?

How to ask for the raise or promotion?

How to be a better friend, colleague?

What are the reasons make people are happier? 

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周六(3/26) 1.女人不喜歡男人的幾種型? 2.如何自己帶來好運?

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女人不喜歡男人的幾種型?

Things Women Dislike About Men   havingtime

Jealous or Not Caring Much

“Erik is stone cold. He seems to be on a different planet somewhere out there without any intention to care. I can go out with my friends and come back home at 4 in the morning. He will never ask how it went. He simply doesn’t seem to care that much. Some of my friends say that it’s a good thing, that I don’t have a jealous Othello near me. True that. But I’d rather have a “jealous” type calling and checking up on me, than the one, that wouldn’t even notice whether or not I’m home.” – Carrie suggested.

 Mister Scrooge McDuck

“Ok, there was this guy I dated back in college. He was unbelievably stingy. At first it seemed admirable to me that this man knows how to save. That this man loves saving money. But when that obsession turned into a real nightmare I realised that I didn’t want to be a part of that picture. It’s fine when a guy counts every penny in his pocket, but I don’t appreciate when he takes the liberty to do the same with my savings too! A bouquet of roses as a surprise? Nonsense! Two tickets for a West End musical? Outrageous request! Generosity, on the other hand, is what highlights a real man” – shared Carrie.

He Never Listens

“Do you have any idea how frustrating it is when you tell the same story 3 times in a row only because 2 previous times his mind wandered away leaving him here with a blank stare?  Or when he sits in the restaurant across the table checking up his phone showing no respect? Sometimes I have this urge to slap him across the face so he can have an attention span longer than 10 seconds for once. But slapping him will never solve a thing. I really dislike men when they don’t listen.” – shared Camilla.

Bad Boy

“I have this colleague. I never saw a person more arrogant than him. When he speaks he looks around the room  seeking approval. He makes stupid jokes and waits till everyone would laugh. He goes over heads with a cut throat attitude. He is a shark and considers himself a Bad Boy. And my god, it sends me wondering, Why Do Women Ever go for Bad Boys?” – shared Helena.

Cheating

“He flirts all the time. He has thousands (!) of followers on Facebook and Twitter. He chats with women all the time just for the sake of indulging his ego. Why, you might ask? You see, Jack was fat when we first met. His self-esteem was low, as I presume, but generally, he was sweet and attentive. A nice guy. And then when he had a dramatic change in his life – he turned into a completely different person I hardly knew. He lost weight. He was a gym rat ever since. He cheats and puts marks on his list. You know, how many woman did he hunt in a week 

Q:

In your opinion, what are the things women dislike about men?

What do you think a boyfriend who sits in the restaurant across the table checking up his phone showing no respect?

What are the signs your boyfriend /girlfriend has stopped caring about you?

How do you handle a jealous boyfriend /girlfriend?

How to deal with an over-possessive boyfriend?

How to handle a stingy boyfriend/ a girlfriend?

Do you look through your boyfriend or girlfriend's cell phone?

Why do girls like bad boys?

How to deal with a cheating boyfriend?

 如何自己帶來好運?

4 ways to attract good luck into your life   By Andrea Mann 

We may believe that good fortune has nothing to do with us and everything to do with fate, but the reality is that your thoughts and attitude create the luck in your life.

Why do some people lead happy, successful lives while others face repeated failure – at home, work and in their love lives? 

Professor Richard Wiseman worked with hundreds of exceptionally lucky and unlucky people to scientifically find out the reasons for their good fortune – or lack of it – and to discover if unlucky people could do anything to improve their luck. The good news, he discovered, is that they can.

1.    Maximise your opportunities

“Lucky people create, notice and act upon the chance opportunities in their life,” says Wiseman in his book. Or to put it another way: lucky people may talk about experiencing a ‘chance’ encounter or event – but actually, their psychological make-up means they created or noticed the opportunity when it arose, and acted upon it. 

2.    Listen to your lucky hunches

When asked what was behind their successful and unsuccessful decisions, lucky people told Wiseman that they “simply knew a decision was right” – while unlucky people just put it down to “more evidence that they were destined to fail”. Listening to your gut, your intuition, your inner voice – whatever you want to call it – has long thought to be a component of living a happy, successful life, and Wiseman’s research backs that up.

3.    Expect good fortune

In other words: be optimistic. “Lucky people’s expectations about the future help them fulfil their dreams,” explains Wiseman.

So while we all have dreams and aspirations, lucky people are more likely to achieve them not because fate is dealing them a kinder hand, but because they think differently about themselves and their lives. They have high expectations of experiences and relationships with other people – and they also buy into good luck superstitions.

4.    Turn your bad luck into good

Wiseman found that lucky, optimistic people still encounter bad luck or negative events – that’s life, after all – but the key difference lies in the way they deal with them.

Lucky people are more resilient when bad things happen: they see the positive side of a negative situation, believe that things will turn out for the best and don’t dwell on their misfortune.

Q:

Can we create our good luck?

Do you believer in luck? Why or why not?

Are you and a pessimist or an optimist? How to be optimistic?

How to maximize your opportunities?

Do you listen to your gut, your intuition when making a decision?

Do you believer in good luck superstitions or good luck superstitions?

What to do when bad things happen?

How to inspire yourself?

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週五(3/25)1.如何有正面思想?2.周子瑜/韓流風

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如何有正面思想?

How to Think Positively

Minimize external influences that stimulate your negativity. You may find that certain kinds of music or violent video games or movies influence your overall attitude. Try minimizing your exposure to stressful or violent stimuli and spend more time listening to calming music or reading. Music benefits your mind really well and books on positive thinking can provide good tips for being a happier person.

Be physically positive. If you change your physical or bodily habits, your mind will follow suit. In order to feel happier in general, approach your physicality in a positive way. Practice good posture, standing up straight and keeping your shoulders down and back. A slump will make you feel more negative. Smile more often. Not only will others smile back at you, but the act of smiling may convince your body that it is happier.

Explore your creative side. If you haven't had a chance to explore your creative side, now's the time. Taking the time to be artistic and to work with your hands or explore your most original thoughts can do wonders for your power to think outside the box and to therefore think positively. Even if you don't think you're naturally inclined toward creativity, there are a number of ways you can express yourself to become more positive. •Take a class to learn about something you've never done before: consider pottery, painting, mixed-media collage, poetry, or wood working.

Surround yourself with positive people. We are often influenced by the people around us. If you find that people around you tend to be negative, look to surround yourself with more positive people. This will feed your own positivity. If you have a close family member or a significant other who is constantly negative, encourage her to go on a journey towards positivity with you. •Avoid people who sap your energy and motivation. If you can't avoid them, or don't want to, learn how not to let them get you down and keep your connection with them brief.

Don't forget to have fun. People who allow themselves regular fun in their lives tend to be happier and more positive because it isn't all drudgery and never-ending monotony. Fun breaks up the hard work and challenges. Remember that fun does not look the same for everyone, so you may need to spend time finding an activity that is fun for you. •Always make time for laughter. Hang out with friends who make you laugh, go to a comedy club, or watch a funny movie. It'll be hard to think negatively when your funny bone is being tickled.

Q:

How to think positively?

What are tips to overcome negative thoughts?

How optimistic are you?

How to learn something you've never done before?

How to avoid negative people?

How to surround yourself with positive people?

How to have fun?

What are the impacts of music and movies influence us?

周子瑜/韓流風

 K-pop star arrives home    Taipeitimes/wikipedia

Taiwanese K-pop star Chou Tzu-yu (周子瑜) arrived at Kaohsiung International Airport from South Korea yesterday. Local media reported that she is to take a junior-high school scholastic aptitude test today. Born in Tainan, the 16-year-old is a member of South Korean girl group Twice, which debuted in October last year. She moved to South Korea in her second year of junior-high school to train with South Korean firm JYP Entertainment. Chou only has an elementary-school-level education, local media said, adding that by passing the test she would have the required academic credentials to continue her schooling in South Korea. In January, she became ensnared in controversy after China-based Taiwanese singer Huang An (黃安) accused her of supporting Taiwanese independence. Huang’s comments spurred Chinese netizens to attack Chou, resulting in her issuing an apology, saying “there is only one China... I have always felt proud of being Chinese.” The incident infuriated many Taiwanese, who accused JYP of forcing Chou to issue the apology.

Chou Tzu-yu was born in Tainan, Taiwan, on June 14, 1999. In 2012, she was seen by entertainment scouts at the MUSE Performing Arts Workshop in Tainan, and went to South Korea in November that year to train as a K-pop star. After more than two years of training, she appeared on the South Korean reality show Sixteen in 2015, during which she was chosen as one of the nine members of the new girl band Twice. The group made its debut in October 2015.

In November 2015, Tzuyu and her band mates appeared on the Korean variety show My Little Television. She introduced herself from Taiwan and held the flag of the Republic of China alongside that of South Korea. The flag of Japan was also shown, representing the nationality of some of the band's other members.

The Taiwanese-born China-based singer Huang An took to his Sina Weibo account and accused her of being a Taiwanese independence activist.[3] Just days before calling attention to Tzuyu, Huang had accused Hong Kong actor Wong He of making insulting comments about mainland China on Facebook with Wong's face subsequently being blurred out on China's state run China Central Television and Wong had issued an apology.[4] Mainland Chinese netizens reacted angrily towards Tzuyu's actions, "accusing her of profiting from her mainland Chinese audience while holding a pro-independence stance".[5] Soon after, Twice was barred from Chinese television and Tzuyu was pulled off from her endorsement with Chinese communications equipment vendor Huawei. JYP Entertainment suspended all her activities in China.

Q:

What do you think about the Taiwanese k-pop star Chou tzu-yu (周子瑜)?

What do you think about china-based Taiwanese singer Huang an (黃安)

What k-pop girl dancing groups so popular?

What do entertainment scouts do?

What do you think of Korean dreams?

How to become famous?

“Mainland Chinese denizens reacted angrily towards tzuyu's actions” what are your opinion about Chinese netizens?

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週四(3/31)愛情電影對你不好

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愛情電影對你不好

Are Romantic Movies Bad For You?    By Eben Harrell / London TIME         

In the celluloid world of romantic comedies, shy but decent men get the girl, arguments set up sweet reconciliations, and couples separated by tragedy are always reunited through improbable coincidence. But now researchers are beginning to ask whether the make-believe world projected in "rom-coms" might actually be preventing true love in real life.

Last week, researchers at Heriot Watt University's Family and Personal Relationships Laboratory in Edinburgh, which studies best practices in relationship counseling, completed a study of 40 Hollywood romantic comedies released between 1995-2005. They found that problems typically reported by couples in relationship counseling at their counseling center reflect misconceptions about love and romance depicted in Hollywood films. (See TIME's Top 10 movies of the year.)

"Relationship counselors often face common misconceptions in their clients — that if your partner truly loves you they'd know what you need without you communicating it, that your soul mate is predestined. We did a rigorous content analysis of romantic comedies and found that the same issues were being portrayed in these films," the university's Dr Bjarne Holmes says.

The fact that Hollywood sells us an enhanced version of romance should come as no surprise, of course. But does that portrayal reflect a pre-existing expectation that film buffs hold or does it instill it? As part of their research, Dr Holmes' team had around 130 student volunteers watch the 2001 romantic comedy Serendipity, while another group of the same size watched a David Lynch drama. Viewers of the romantic comedy were found to be more likely to believe in fate and destiny. It was a small study confined to one region, but, Dr Holmes argues, "it does give us some indication of [the effects of romantic comedies]."

Mary-Lou Galician, Head of Media Analysis and Criticism at the Walter Cronkite School of Journalism & Mass Communication at Arizona State University, whose research in the 1990s found similar results to Holmes' study, says uncovering conscious and subconscious romantic motivation is a difficult process, and the role of movies is uncertain. She points to the vexing debate over the effects of violent movies, which some researchers argue encourage aggression, while "others argue just as persuasively that [simulated violence] provides a safe release for human aggression." (See pictures of couples in love.)

Still, Galician — who blames mass media portrayals of romance for the failure of her own early relationships — advises people to be cautious about watching too many romantic comedies, and remain aware that such movies might cause problems in their own relationships. "If there were suggestions something was dangerous for you, even if the results were in small numbers, it might not be a bad idea to be cautious," she says.

Q:

Do you think that Romantic Movies Are Bad or good for us?  

Do you agree that watching too many romantic comedies might cause problems in relationships?

This writer said “Viewers of the romantic comedy were found to be more likely to believe in fate and destiny”

So do you believe in fate and destiny?

Do you think that your soul mate is predestined?

What do you think about Hollywood movies?

How to find “true love “in real life?

What are the effects of violent movies?

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