板橋區文化路一段421巷11弄1號 (陽光甜味咖啡館)
新埔捷運站1號出口 旁邊7-11巷子進入20公尺 看到夏朵美髮
左轉 聚會時間下午4:00pm--6:00pm
如何保持友誼
How to Maintain a Friendship wiki
Show appreciation. Sometimes when you have known people for a long time, you can start to take them for granted. This doesn't have to be the case.
Always thank your friend when he or she does something for you.
Return favors when your friend goes out of his or her way to help you.
Do nice things like getting their favorite candy at the grocery store, buying them lunch, or getting them a card and gift for their birthday.
Tell your friend how much you appreciate them. This doesn't have to be an awkward or long-winded speech that you have prepared. It can be as simple as, "Hey, thanks for always being there for me. I appreciate it."
Show interest in your friend's life. A good friendship should be two-sided — and hopefully, you have a friend who shows interest in you as well.
Be a good listener. When your friend talks to you about something that's going on in his or her life, really listen. Good relationships are built on communication, so don't ignore your friend.
Take the time to really hear what they're saying, and offer advice only if they ask for it.
Don't fidget or play with your cell phone while they're talking to you.
If your friend is involved in an activity that they care about, show your support and interest. Offer to go to their events. For example, if your friend plays a sport or is acting in a play, go to a game or performance to cheer them on.
Build trust. This seems simple, but you have to both constantly show each other that you can be trusted and depended on as friends.
Don't gossip about your friend. Gossip spreads quickly, and you do not want to hurt your friend's feelings and damage the relationship.
Keep your promises, even if it's something as small as showing up when you are supposed to meet.
Don't go behind your friend's back. This includes flirting with their significant other or inviting other friends out without including them.
Keep secrets safe. If your friend tells you something personal, don't share it with other people. They need to know that they can trust you with their secrets.
Have fun together. This might be obvious, but sometimes we can get into the trap of just using our friends for emotional support and not taking the time to enjoy their company. Do things that you both enjoy together.
Learn something new. Take a rock climbing or pottery class, go on a sailing trip, or try out Zumba together. The experience will bring you closer.
Make an open invitation. Call up your friend and ask them what they've been wanting to do. You can say, "I think we should hang out this weekend. What do you think would be fun?"
Throw a party together. Celebrate your friendship, a birthday, or nothing in particular.
Plan a fun evening. Invite your friend over for dinner and spend the night eating, drinking, playing board games, or watching your favorite movies.
Q:
How to maintain a friendship?
How to help friends in indeed?
How to find good friends?
How to show your appreciation to friends?
How to offer advices to friends?
How to have fun with friends?
世界最慷慨的國家
The worlds generous countries
It seems that lending a helping hand to a
stranger can be more than just a good deed.
By Lindsey Galloway BBC
In fact, according to research consulting
company Gallup, a culture’s willingness to help others is a strong indicator of
positive economic factors, including GDP and long-term unemployment, as well as
multiple other benefits like encouraging greater overall wellbeing.
To find out more, Gallup conducted surveys
over more than 145,000 people across more than 140 countries, asking residents
if they had recently donated money to a charity, volunteered for an
organisation or helped a stranger in need. The encouraging results, collected
in the 2016 Global Civic Engagement Report, were then projected to include the
whole world – currently at 7.4 billion people – and found that in a given
month, 1.4 billion people donate money to charity, almost 1 billion volunteer
and 2.2 billion help strangers.
Each country’s individual score varied
widely, however, with residents of certain countries significantly more likely
to engage in helping across all measures. We spoke to people living in the five
highest-ranking countries to find out what motivates them to donate their time
and money, and how it affects society there.
Burma
A majority of residents in this small
southeast Asian country answered “yes” to each of the questions about giving,
resulting in by far the highest country score in the survey.
A strong Buddhist tradition informs much of
the generosity here. Dr Hninzi Thet, originally from Yangon, grew up with a
Catholic Goanese father and a Buddhist Burmese mother, and explained how the
concept of karma in Theravada Buddhism, the school of Buddhism most prominent
in Southeast Asia, plays a role.
In Burma, donating food to monks is a
common practice under the Buddhist tradition (Credit: Credit: Stefano Politi
Markovina)
In Burma, donating food to monks is a
common practice under the Buddhist tradition (Credit: Stefano Politi Markovina)
“Any good deed [Buddhists] do will be
shored up for their next incarnation and they will have a better life,” she
said. “For instance, on a child's birthday they offer a meal to monks, who
depend on the public to feed them. [This action] will earn merit for them.”
Hninzi Thet did say that donations of food
and money have mostly only gone to monks and monasteries. “Only recently has
there been an effort to start donating to orphanages and such in an organised
effort,” she said, especially as the Burmese diaspora has brought more exposure
to Western ideas of giving.
As political stability and general
elections have come to the country in recent years, the number of foreigners
moving to Burma has increased. In addition to their number one giving ranking,
Burma also was recently named the world’s friendliest country in the
InterNations Expat Insider 2015 survey, with more than 96% of respondents
positively rating their affability toward foreigners.
The United States
Compared to Burma, Hninzi Thet, who now
lives in Baltimore, has noticed there’s less of a religious basis to giving in
the US, ranked second on the Gallup list.
“There is less of a ROI [Return On
Investment] attitude about it,” she said. “What I now admire about US giving is
the pay-it-forward model, which is more in line with a civic sense.”
Giving in US culture varies in type,
depending on if the area is rural, suburban or urban. Naomi Hattaway,
originally from Nebraska and founder of the I Am Triangle international
cultural group for people who have lived abroad, has experienced each of them.
“There are so many NGOs and non-profits in the [Washington] DC Metro, but as
you spread to farther suburbs of the area, I would often hear people say that
they had no idea how to volunteer, how to get involved or where to engage,” she
said.
Giving in the US often involves
non-profits, volunteering and charitable acts by the public (Credit: Credit:
Andrea Booher)
Giving in the US often involves
non-profits, volunteering and charitable acts by the public (Credit: Andrea
Booher)
But in the tiny town of Lucketts in
Virginia, she found that “the spirit of giving, philanthropy and charitable
acts was something that almost seemed mandatory for most residents. When
someone would share a need, the residents would jump to help. During
fundraising efforts, everyone pitched in without a thought.”
This is a trait that some feel has been
passed down for generations. “On both sides, my grandparents gave and gave and
gave. They never bragged about it but they did tell me the stories, like
hosting food and soup lines for many years through the Great Depression and
both WWI and WWII,” said Zoe Helene, who lives in Massachusetts. “I think they
wanted me to know that compassion for others was essential to character and
that people need to take care of each other, otherwise civilization falls
apart.”
While those originally from this relatively
wealthy country often feel they can and should be doing more, expat residents
are more effusive in their praise. “As an Aussie living in America, I find the
generosity of the US extraordinary,” said comedian Jim Dailakis, originally
from Perth. “Living in New York City during 9/11, I witnessed overwhelming
kindness and generosity. Personally, it didn’t surprise me. I find New Yorkers
to be some of the friendliest people in the world.”
Australia
Making sure everyone has an equal chance to
succeed – what locals call giving everyone “a fair go” – is a core part of
Australian culture.
“In other words, the chance to succeed on
the same terms, without disadvantage, as others,” said Erik Stuebe, general
manager of the InterContinental Melbourne The Rialto and originally from a
small town in New South Wales.
“As a young country, an island continent
and with a small population, we are very proud of our ability to punch above
our weight in most areas of national endeavour. There is great respect for
someone who succeeds while remaining humble and genuine, connected to their
roots and supportive of others in their efforts.”
The Movember Foundation, founded in 2003 in
Australia, promotes men’s health all over the globe (Credit: Credit: Eva
Rinaldi)
The Movember Foundation, founded in 2003 in
Australia, promotes men’s health all over the globe (Credit: Eva Rinaldi)
Melbourne in particular has a strong
community spirit, and often holds events that contribute millions to local and
worldwide causes. Some even go global, like the Movember Foundation, which
started in the city in 2003 and now encourages men from all over the world to
grow moustaches in November to encourage donations to men’s health.
Crisis also brings out extreme generosity
in Australians. “When the tsunami hit in Indonesia in 2004, Australians donated
$42 million,” Dailakis said. “Bear in mind the population of the country at the
time was probably no more than 20 million.”
Again in 2009, when bushfires caused the
loss of many lives and homes, locals stepped up. “Melbournians overwhelmed the
system with donations of time, money, clothes, offers of shelter and messages
of support,” Stuebe said. “I think Australians give whatever is needed,
generously and to the limit of their ability.”
Australians are particularly proud of the
social trust and safety net that is protected by law, with strict gun laws,
generous unemployment benefits and good healthcare leaving residents feeling
secure. That doesn’t mean they don’t enjoy a good ribbing of their fellow
citizens – Australians lean into self-deprecating and irreverent humour, and
often have to assure outsiders that teasing is a sign of affection.
New Zealand
As residents of a small island nation and
one that has historically been mostly rural, Kiwis have a long tradition of
taking care of their neighbours.
“There is a feeling sometimes that
everyone knows each other or has ‘two degrees of separation’, so there is a
duty to look out for each other,” said Katherine Shanahan, originally from
Wellington who works at travel site GoEuro.co.uk. “Perhaps the strong sense of
community is also a reason why the country appears to have this charitable
trait."
Participants of the Great Kids Can Santa
Run in New Zealand dress up as Santa Claus to benefit children affected by
poverty (Credit: Credit: Phil Walter/Getty)
Participants of the Great Kids Can Santa
Run in New Zealand dress up as Santa Claus to benefit children affected by
poverty (Credit: Phil Walter/Getty)
Wellington hosts initiatives like The Free
Store, where restaurants and bakeries donate food that wasn’t sold for the day,
and people can take food that they might not otherwise be able to afford. In
December, 18 locations across New Zealand will play host to the Great Kids Can
Santa Run, a 2 or 3km run where every participant dresses up in a Santa suit to
benefit local children affected by poverty.
The Christchurch earthquake in 2011, which
killed hundreds and injured thousands, also revitalised the nation’s giving
spirit.
“When I visited Christchurch five years
after the earthquake, it was evident that the city was still finding it hard to
get back on its feet. I was surprised to come across these ‘All Right?’
billboards,” said Shanahan. “I thought it was an interesting advertisement that
was simple and sincere. Not trying to sell you anything but to just remind
people to give each other a helping hand every now and then.”
Those who live in New Zealand can also take
plenty of time to enjoy the country’s natural beauty. As an island nation with
a relatively small population, it’s easy to find and get to empty beaches, as
no part of the country is more than 130km from the ocean.
Sri Lanka
Similar to Burma, giving in Sri Lanka is
strongly informed by religion. “Most Sri Lankans are Buddhist and Hindus, and
both religions endorse charity and sharing,” said Mahinthan So, who lives in
the capital Colombo.
The Sri Lankan city of Matara holds several
events to encourage charitability and benevolence (Credit: Credit: Peter
Schickert/Alamy)
The Sri Lankan city of Matara holds several
events to encourage charitability and benevolence (Credit: Peter
Schickert/Alamy)
A willingness to help is particularly
evident in the southernmost city of Matara. “There is a saying in Sri Lanka,
that says ‘No matter where you go in the island, in case of a need, you will
always find a fellow from Matara and they'll definitely be happy to help,’”
said Supun Budhajeewa, from Matara himself. “We have that feeling of belonging
deep inside us. I think that sums us up.”
0 意見:
張貼留言