週四 (2/28)1.如何搭訕? 2.如何知道是單戀?

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如何搭訕?

Flattering Pick Up Lines For Guys & Girls

Romanceways.com

Flattery is an art and art can either be inborn or cultivated. If you happen to fall in the latter category, then it requires a great deal of practice, precision and timing to master the art. Flattery, when flavored with the perfect cheesy and sweet pick up lines, bakes out as the right compliment to be served to the right person at the right time for the right reaction. Pick up lines for flattery can be funny, outrageous or simply honest. All you have to do is to pass a genuine compliment to the person who is looking forward for such admiration. However, care should be taken while flaunting a flattering pickup line lest your flattery back fires on you. Flattering pickup lines are synonymous with girls and ladies. Compliments are often used for impressing girls and as an attempt to reach their hearts. Be it “You are so beautiful you should be on the cover of the Vogue” or “If looks could kill, you would be a weapon of mass destruction”, girls are bound to get hitched to you with such flattering comments. So, if you’ve always dreamt to snuggle your sweetheart in your arms and become the most romantic partner she could ever have, why not turn it into a reality? Listed here are some popular pickup lines that are cheesy, cheeky, intelligent yet tender and romantic.

Popular Cute and Cheesy Pick up Lines

        I never believed in heaven until I saw you.

        You are so sweet you could put Hershey’s out of business.

        I bet the wind blows just to feel how gorgeous your hair is.

        So, you must be the reason men fall in love.

        They must have been crazy to let an angel as beautiful as you out of heaven.

        I’ve had a really bad day today but it always makes me feel better when I see a pretty girl smile. Would you smile for me?

        You look cold. Want to use me as a blanket?

        Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?

        I was so enchanted by your beauty that I ran into that wall over there. So I am going to need your name and number for insurance purposes.

 

如何知道是單戀?

How to Know if a Man Carries a Torch for a Woman  living.thebump.com

You met a cool new guy and you seem to be a perfect match. Everything goes smoothly at first and you are more than happy. But very soon you start noticing things that indicate he might still have feelings for his ex. Many women trust their gut feeling, but you should carefully examine the facts before you jump to conclusions.

Implications for You

If you know that your partner has had a long relationship before getting together with you, you should also know that his ex-girlfriend or wife must still have some place in his heart. She is part of his history and one of the factors that made him a man whom you fell in love with, suggests Cindy Chupack in the article “The Ex Factor: When Is It Okay to Talk About Past Loves?” on the Oprah.com website. Occasional interactions with his ex are normal and you shouldn’t feel threatened by it. But if he hasn’t completely let go of her, you will need a lot of patience and self-confidence in the days to come.

He Rushed Into Your Relationship

If he wasted no time between ending an old relationship and starting a new one with you, there are strong chances he still hasn’t completely gotten over his ex-girlfriend, according to “Five Signs He's Not Over His Ex” on YourTango.com. No matter what he tells you, grieving is a natural sequence of events. Every relationship is built of hopes and dreams, which shatter when a relationship ends. He isn’t only getting over his ex, but also over his former hopes and dreams. And that takes time.

He’s Obsessing Over His Past

If you see him checking her Facebook profile every day or digging through the old albums of them together, it is a clear sign that he is still grieving. You need to be aware that if you decide to stay with this guy, you will also be a part of a long healing process.

He’s Always Talking About Her

If he keeps mentioning his ex every opportunity he gets, it is one of the indicators that he still might be carrying a torch for her. It doesn't matter if he mentions her in a negative or in an overly positive context. Both are extremes and imply that he hasn’t let go of her. One of the biggest warning signs is if he uses “we” when talking about her. That spells serious trouble for your relationship with him.

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週二(2/26)1.壓力與整型 2.戀物癖

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壓力與整型

From Peer Pressure to Plastic Surgery

By Tamara Nowicki

According to the American Society of Plastic Surgeons, the number of teenagers undergoing surgery has doubled in the last eight years. In 2008, 219,000 cosmetic procedures were reportedly performed in the U.S. on patients aged 13 to 19. While there are not statistics available in Canada, Dr. Mirko Gilardino, a Plastic Surgeon at The Montreal Children’s Hospital and an aesthetic surgeon in private practice says a lot of teenagers are looking to improve their body image by going under the knife.

We sat down with Dr. Gilardino to ask him about why teens are opting for plastic surgery and what risks are involved with these kinds of procedures.

Q: What are some of the reasons that patients come in wanting to have surgery done at a young age? Are they mostly girls or boys?

A: One of the most common types of aesthetic plastic surgery I perform in both teenage boys and girls is breast surgery. Most of the young women I see are very concerned about their breast size, but in some cases they want surgery to correct a deformity.  Some girls develop a significant breast asymmetry when one breast is much larger than the other. We also have girls with breast hypertrophy which can cause severe neck and back pain, in addition to other functional issues. Boys also seek breast surgery for gynecomastia, which is an abnormal growth of breast tissue in males during puberty.

I also treat a lot of young people, males and females, who are concerned about their nose.  Many come in with attractive faces but they aren’t quite happy with the size or shape of their nose. Sometimes they are seeking surgery to correct a broken nose, or one that causes breathing issues.

Basically, young men and women want to be accepted socially, particularly by their peers and body image plays a big role in their perception of themselves.

Q: When dealing with teenagers who want cosmetic surgery, how do you determine if surgery is right for them and if they are a good candidate?

A: One word: maturity. Maturity plays a large role in the overall procedure. In Quebec, a 14 year old is allowed to sign a consent form to have surgery. Now, in the case of cosmetic surgery and any other surgery for that matter, I believe that there is a large emotional component involved and the teenager should be accompanied by an adult they trust who will help them through the process. The teen may focus on a small thing and may not see the big picture. This is where a parent can step in to help them see things more clearly or make appropriate decisions.

  

戀物癖

Fetishistic Disorder | Psychology Today

The term "fetishism" originates from the Portuguese word feitico, which means "obsessive fascination." Most individuals find particular nongenital bodily features attractive, indicating that some level of fetishism is a normal feature of human sexuality. However, fetishistic arousal may become a problem when it interferes with normal sexual or social functioning, or when sexual arousal is impossible without the fetish object.

According to the DSM-5, fetishistic disorder is characterized as a condition in which there is a persistent and repetitive use of or dependence on nonliving objects (such as undergarments or high-heeled shoes) or a highly specific focus on a body part (most often nongenital, such as feet) to reach sexual arousal. Only through use of this object, or focus on this body part, can the individual obtain sexual gratification. In earlier versions of the DSM, fetishistic disorder revolving around nongenital body parts was known as partialism; in the latest version, partialism was folded into fetishistic disorder.

Since fetishes occur in many normally developing individuals, a diagnosis of fetishistic disorder is only given if there is accompanying personal distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning as a result of the fetish. People who identify as fetishists but do not report associated clinical impairment would be considered to have a fetish but not fetishistic disorder.

Common fetish objects include undergarments, footwear, gloves, rubber articles, and leather clothing. Body parts associated with fetishistic disorder include feet, toes, and hair. It is common for the fetish to include both inanimate objects and body parts (e.g., socks and feet). For some, merely a picture of the fetish object may cause arousal, though many with a fetish prefer (or require) the actual object in order to achieve arousal. The fetishist usually holds, rubs, tastes, or smells the fetish object for sexual gratification or asks their partner to wear the object during sexual encounters.

Inanimate object fetishes can be categorized into two types: form fetishes and media fetishes. In a form fetish, the shape of the object is important, such as high-heeled shoes. In a media fetish, the material of the object, such as silk or leather, is important. Inanimate object fetishists often collect the object of their favor.

Fetishistic disorder is a much more common occurrence in males than in females—in fact, the DSM-5 indicates that it appears almost exclusively in males.

Fetishism falls under the general category of paraphilic disorders, which refers to intense sexual attraction to any objects or people outside of genital stimulation with consenting adult partners.

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周六(2/23)1.登山健行好處2.競爭的好處下午4:30--6:30

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登山健行好處

Health Benefits of Hiking

By Health Fitness Revolution -

    Increases fitness: Just one hour of trekking can burn well over 500 calories, depending on the level of incline and the weight of the pack you’re carrying. Hiking trails are often softer on joints than asphalt or concrete, so it’s easier on your ankles and knees compared to running. If you head for the hills, weight loss results are even better. Not only are you burning serious calories, but altitude itself has also proven to be a weight loss ally.

   

    Helps prevent and control diabetes: Regular hiking helps you control, or even prevent, diabetes by lowering your blood sugar levels. Hiking gives your muscles a workout, which moves glucose from your bloodstream for energy.

    Lower blood pressure and cholesterol: Hiking through the trails on a regular basis decreases blood pressure and cholesterol, thus reducing the danger of heart disease, diabetes and stroke for those at high-risk. In fact, hiking downhill is two times more effective at removing blood sugars and improving glucose tolerance.

    Hiking heals: Some research suggests that the physical benefits of hiking extend far beyond cardiovascular health, and may even help cancer patients recover. A study published in the International Journal of Sports Medicine  found that long distance hiking trips may improve the antioxidative capacity, which helps fight off disease, in the blood of oncological patients. Another study showed that breast cancer survivors who exercised regularly — many in the form of hiking — believed that physical activity complemented their recovery from cancer treatment.

  

 Is a social activity: Hikers always recommend using the buddy system.  A regular weekend meet-up or a planned long-distance trek can help you forge bonds while you shape up. Plus, interaction with the larger hiking community encourages you to engage with your workout as a lifestyle, rather than a chore, which will make you more likely to stick with it for the long haul.

  

 Increase creativity: Research shows that spending time outdoors increases attention spans and creative problem-solving skills by as much as 50 percent. The authors of the study also point out that the results may have as much to do with unplugging from technology as they do spending time outside. Researchers from Stanford University’s Graduate School of Education also found that walking gets the creative juices flowing far more than sitting.

  

 Increase happiness levels and curb depression: Research shows that using hiking as an additional therapy can help people with severe depression feel less hopeless, depressed and suicidal. It may even inspire those suffering from it to lead a more active lifestyle.

    Commune with nature: Being out in nature, away from the chaos of our daily lives and technology, can allow people to connect with themselves and nature in a way that brings about peace and a sense of well-being.

 

競爭的好處

Benefits of Competition | Evolve Vacation

 Competition is a true test of your skills.

You’ve attended countless classes, drilled for hours at a time, perfected your techniques, built strength and flexibility—why not put all that to the test? A fight can gauge where you are in terms of technique and athletic ability. It can also test whether or not you have the mental strength to push through tough times.  It is a great way to learn where your weaknesses lie so that you can begin working to improve them.

There’s nothing like that competition rush!

There is no other feeling like stepping into the ring for the first time. It’s sensory overload; battling your nerves with a crowd watching along is definitely unforgettable. Whether you win or lose, there’s nothing quite like the experience of competing!

You’ll gain self-confidence.

Putting yourself out there isn’t the easiest thing in the world, and anyone who is willing to step up and compete deserves respect. By competing, you are showing the world that you believe in yourself and your skills. It also proves that you are okay with whatever the outcome may be. You know that win or lose, you have learned something from this experience.

 If it happens, you can learn from your losses.

So you’ve dedicated every single waking hour to preparing for your competition. You’ve dieted so that you can make weight, you’ve drilled your techniques for hours and hours, you’ve started lifting weights so you can get stronger, and you’ve been putting in extra sparring time. You’ve done all that you possibly can to win, but unfortunately, someone else’s hand is raised instead of yours. Instead of being angry, look at the bright side of the experience. Ask your coach about the mistakes you made and analyze them together. Work on these mistakes and make sure they never happen again. In the end, you will learn far more from your losses than you ever will from your victories.

Because it helps you get over the fear of competing and makes you want to compete more.

Once you’ve experienced the nerves and jitters of your first competition, the next one won’t be as bad. You’ll know how to prepare better, and fix your game plan based on the strengths and weaknesses you saw in your last competition. For athletes who compete all the time, they know that regular sparring sessions with teammates just can’t mimic the adrenalin and experience of competition.

Because it feels great to win!

After all the hard work, preparation, and pre-competition jitters—you’ve finally reached your ultimate goal. You’ve competed, given it your all, and emerged victorious! There is no greater feeling than having your arm raised in victory. You’ve put your blood, sweat, and tears into your sport, so why not take recognition and appreciation for it?

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週四 (2/21)1.享樂是重要的 2.櫻花季

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享樂是重要的

Reasons Why Entertainment Is Important    topictrends

We face a lot of hardships, frustrations, and disappointments every single day. With this blazingly fast pace, taking time out for yourself seems impossible or not as important compared to deadlines or projects. Add to that the fact that technology has made it easier for us to connect or keep in touch with other people within our own home, and you’ve got the perfect recipe for a shut-in.

After work, you simply plug in your headphones, and then head over home so that you can simply browse the net or watch TV. You won’t find the need to go out so you might skip out on physical contact or socializing totally. If you need to check-up on a friend, you can simply call them or send them a message. You can even have a video call if you’re up to it. This replaces a lot of social interactions for many people out there. However, man is still a social being whether he’s comfortable with it or not. To further motivate you, here are some of the reasons why you should go outside and socialize once in a while.

Mix Things Up

During workdays, your schedule will more or less be the same. Wake up, eat breakfast (optional), head off to work, come home, and then spend the rest of the day surfing the internet or watching TV. It sounds like a real bore – and it is. Frequent activities like these make your life mundane and can lead to a build-up of stress. It will spill over from your personal life to your work, eventually adversely affecting your career or relationships.

Unwind Your Stress

When you’ve had a stressful day and when you come home directly, it’s very easy to vent your anger on the nearest living thing you see. Even though you’re not really angry at that person, it’s easy to lose control since you were angry before even coming home and your fuse is relatively short. Sleeping on the couch might be a common thing for you by now.

However if you entertain yourself or keep yourself busy before coming home then you can come home more relaxed. Dinners will be pleasant, and your conversations with the people around you will be brighter. There won’t be any nitpicking or sudden flaring of tempers. This is all just because you chose to have fun for a few minutes or hours before coming home.

Develop Friendships

If you become a regular at a place (a bar or restaurant) of your choosing, you’ll eventually become close with the people working there and even the other patrons as well. You won’t have to go out of your way and go to bars or other unknown places just to meet people. You could do it at your watering hole. Since they also like that place, you can just meet up there after work or during weekends. Keeping yourself entertained with your friends will help keep your outlook positive and you’ll have healthy relationships as well.

 

櫻花季

Significance of Sakura: Cherry Blossom Traditions in Japan

| Erina Takeda

Spring has arrived! The cherry trees are starting to bloom again around the National Mall and Potomac Park in Washington, D.C. In Japan, cherry blossoms are called sakura, a special flower for the people and the country.

Cherry blossoms are a symbolic flower of the spring, a time of renewal, and the fleeting nature of life. Their life is very short. After their beauty peaks around two weeks, the blossoms start to fall.

During this season in Japan, people like to have cherry blossom parties with colleagues, friends, and family. A cherry blossom makes people merry. They enjoy eating, drinking, and barbecuing underneath the cherry blossoms. We call this custom hanami. Hanami literally means “watching blossoms,” and the tradition can be traced back at least a thousand years. We bring cooked meals, alcohol, snacks, and sweets, like a potluck party. Schools and offices hold welcome parties during hanami, a chance for people to bond and meet new friends.

Even at night, viewing spots are crowded with people enjoying the blossoms in a beautiful, romantic atmosphere. Couples go at night to enjoy the special mood created by cherry blossoms. Hanami at night is called yozakura.

Hanami at night is called yozakura, when the trees are illuminated. Photo by Yamaguchi Kazunori

The exquisite beauty of cherry blossoms only occurs for a few weeks from the end of March to the beginning of April. Photo by Maki Matsuda

A hanami picnic in Tokyo. Photo by Tomoko Ishigaki

While American schools begin in the fall, the Japanese fiscal and school year begins in April, the season of sakura. We feel like the fully bloomed cherry blossoms are celebrating and welcoming our brand-new start. Many schools and companies have cherry trees outside of them. This is why Japanese people have special feelings for the cherry blossoms.

I have lovely memories from when I was young, doing hanami with my parents, brother, and sister. My mom packed a special lunch box, hanami bento, full of our favorite foods. My father was in charge of securing a good place for us at the famous park by placing a blanket under the cherry trees in the early morning.

Now I like to go to hanami with a few of my close friends just to enjoy the cherry blossoms, but if I go with a lot of friends or a group of colleagues, it mostly means having a party with lots of eating and drinking.

Cherry trees have spread throughout the world to other Asian country, the United States, Canada, Brazil, Germany, Turkey, Spain British, Australia, and beyond. We’re lucky to have thousands of cherry trees around the Tidal Basin in Washington, D.C.

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