週二(4/2)1.韓劇與現代愛情 2.來自2045的人 的預言!

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韓劇與現代愛情

A Look at Korean Dramas and the Modern Relationship

Esther Suh mochimag

Korean dramas have become accessible on an international scale, through multiple outlets such as YouTube, DVDs, videotapes, endless websites dedicated solely to posting videos of Asian dramas—you name it and they’re there. The one thing that hasn’t changed, however, is the storyline. There is always a love triangle, usually involving two men and one woman. One of the men is perfect, a close family friend or someone she has always had a great relationship with, while the other man is a wild card; he’s someone she has petty fights with until the fateful day she realizes he’s “the one.”

The roles of the characters are also very similar across all Korean dramas. Women are always typically beautiful, with their double eyelids and 24-inch waists, while conveniently incapable of carrying out their lives without being “saved” by her man at least once through the drama. She is a hard worker and less professionally accomplished than her male counterpart. She is a damsel in distress. Even though she tries to give a tough girl impression, at the end of the day when all is said and done, her rightful place is being on the arm of her man. The men are dominating, protective of their women and stubborn. Unlike the female leads, male roles are often given more of a character range, coming from different social classes and professional backgrounds.

Regardless of the intention of dramas as a mere outlet of fantasy, the enormous popularity of these dramas and their addictive plotlines has made their storylines and expectations a staple of modern Korean culture. As much as dramas have influenced popular culture, they are also a reflection of traditional Korean culture and its view on relationships: men should hold a dominating, leadership role, while the woman’s duty is to follow and obey their husbands.

Korean dramas often corner women into a limiting stereotype by stating that the ultimate happy ending means being with your man. When there’s a love triangle, the two men fighting for a woman are enemies and the friendships between women are portrayed to be flaky and something that can be destructed at the drop of a hat over a man’s affection. In addition, there is always a power struggle in the way relationships are portrayed. Women play hard-to-get and seemingly have the upper hand, only to take on the role of a submissive girlfriend or wife after the relationship has been determined. These dramas do an amazing job of encouraging the archaic gender roles that were assigned to men and women in past generations, prompting women to look, dress and act a certain way. In doing so, they give the impression that these outdated roles are applicable in today’s modern world.

Don’t get me wrong, there were some dramas that I would watch religiously and there were times where I would think, “Wow. I wish I could be her.” When I got in fights with a guy, I couldn’t help but think “Wait… this happened in the drama I watched last week. Does this mean that we’ll go out because we’re getting into a lovers’ quarrel?” The way I interpreted my interactions with guys became completely skewed and my expectations for men became completely unrealistic: He had to be tall, handsome, successful and have a “bad” side.

Though it’s easy to become spellbound with the romantic stories that Korean dramas fashion, it’s still important to not take it too personally and realistically—relationships aren’t black and white, and to follow the ideals that Korean dramas offer would be backward thinking. Though dramas may satisfy our boredom and stir up some elaborate fantasies, it’s good to remind ourselves that at the end of the day, dramas are exactly that—a drama.

 

來自2045的人 的預言!

YouTube time traveler takes lie detector test to 'prove' he's from 2045

Emily Bloch— March 30

A man who goes by the name of Adam Archon first appeared on the ApexTV channel on YouTube when he claimed that Martin Luther King’s granddaughter would be the last U.S. president. Now, he’s taking a lie detector test so that the supposed time traveler from 2045 can try to prove what he claims.

Like most of the ApexTV guests who say they’ve journeyed from another time and place, Archon had his face pixelated and his voice modified (he actually sounds like Noah, the channel’s most frequent guest who has shown off a time machine and presented a U.S. map from the year 2030).

“I need to prove to you this is true, so you can take the information I’ve given you and make the world a better place,” Archon said before the lie detector test began.

The Daily Dot did not independently verify whether his answers were legitimate, but according to ApexTV, he answered truthfully when saying he’s from 2045, that he has a chip implanted in his hand to facilitate time travel, that aliens land on Earth in 2028, and that humans begin to converge with robots in 2045. Of course, ApexTV is not a trusted news source—it’s a widely popular YouTube channel that’s rolled up millions of views with its entertaining tall tales about time travel. They exist as straightforward reports, and aren’t satirical in nature, and do routinely attract believers.

Archon said he would not elaborate on the subject of where future aliens come from because he was worried about a “paradox” but he did confirm dinosaurs were being cloned in the future (another ApexTV guest recently explained why that might not be such a great idea).

Some said the test wasn’t legitimate because not all the queries posed were yes-or-no questions. Some wondered why the results on a laptop or from a heartbeat monitor weren’t displayed for the audience. Another person wrote, “If the guy is insane and believes his lies then the lie detector won’t detect that he’s lying.”

The last time we encountered Archon, he was claiming that Yolanda Renee King, the granddaughter of MLK, would be elected president in the year 2030. Since all the countries of the world would begin to converge with each other a few years later—and 10 global leaders would then follow the commands of an artificial intelligence being to rule the world after that point—there apparently would be no need for a U.S. president.

A time traveler who might or might not be Archon previously showed supposed video from 2045 to ApexTV.

This also isn’t the first time ApexTV has given a supposed time traveler a lie detector test. Last year, a man named William Taylor who said he visited the year 8973 also submitted to one. Naturally, he passed his test, as well.

As for Archon, he said if you didn’t believe him, all you had to do was wait and see if his predictions come true. So, wait we shall.

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周六(3/30)1.抓住每一次機會! 2.泰國鬼娃娃! 晚7:00-9:00

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Ways to Spot and Seize Every Opportunity - Entrepreneurship Life

Joe Vennare

1. Say YES More Often

It’s easy to say no. You don’t have time to take another meeting, make another phone call, or attend another conference. But, sometimes, saying yes leads us to new ideas, better opportunities, and helpful people.

You don’t have to say yes to everyone all of the time, but you should try saying yes more often. To this point, take a piece of advice from Gary Vaynerchuk a social media savant, entrepreneur, and angel investor. Vaynerchuk says there is value in taking random meetings because “life is predicated on serendipity” and all about “who you meet.”

Saying yes just might connect you to the people and opportunities that could change everything.

2. Think Promotion, Not Prevention

Starting a new venture is a risk. There are more than a few things that can go wrong. But, the potential rewards – if things go according to plan – outweigh the bad. Don’t waste your energy fixating on what you might lose or what might go wrong. Focus on the upside – what you can gain – instead.

The risk involved may lead to conflicts, which are often unavoidable. However, there are ways that you can learn to deflect that negativity. Creighton University offers a program that allows graduate students to study conflict resolution in Spain. Learn about collective memory and how it relates to conflict resolution all while taking in the unique culture of Madrid. The class itself is an immense help to anyone who wants to learn more about furthering their business, and the opportunity to study abroad has the potential to enhance your perspective regarding your business venture, as well as life in general.

A recent article in the Harvard Business Review highlighted a study of entrepreneurs. The positive, promotion-focused individuals were more adept at identifying and executing on ideas. Conversely, the prevention-focused individuals in the bunch, consumed by what might go wrong, were less creative, closed-minded and lacked confidence.

3. Ask Lots of Questions

Sometimes the opportunity we are searching for is right in front of us. We’ve yet to land on the idea because we’re not asking the right, or enough questions. Consult with employees, team members, customers, and industry thought-leaders on a regular basis. Ask questions about what you’re working on now, but dig deep and search for insights into what’s coming next so that you can create it, as opposed to reacting to it.

 

泰國鬼娃娃!

The privileged world of Thailand's supernatural dolls

Gordon Corera Security correspondent  BBC

A craze for eerily lifelike supernatural dolls has swept Thailand in recent months.

Their name, "luk thep", literally translates as "child angels" and people believe they bring good fortune and they are pampered by their owners as if they were children.

But the privileges lavished upon them have also drawn a backlash and warnings from Thai authorities.

After purchasing a doll, the owner brings it to a monk who conducts a prayer and an anointing ceremony known as "plook sek".

Such prayers are normally used to bless lucky amulets, which are also popular in Thailand, where ancient beliefs in magic are still prevalent.

In the case of "luk thep", it is often seen as a way of animating the doll, where a wandering spirit is invited to inhabit it and give it a soul.

They can get airline seats - sort of

Thai Smile Airways made news this week when it said passengers could purchase tickets for the dolls who would get their own seats, snacks and drinks. But officials have since stepped in:

"Based on international aviation rules, passengers are people. So airlines aren't allowed to sell tickets for dolls," a spokesman for the Civil Aviation Authority of Thailand was quoted as saying in The Bangkok Post.

Passengers can buy a second seat under their names and place their "luk theps" there, he added.

They get to eat in fancy restaurants

At least one eatery in Bangkok has cashed in on the trend. Neta Grill said earlier this week it is offering meals for "luk theps" at child rates, adding that the restaurant is "open to all worshippers".

Screencap of Neta Grill's Facebook post about its luk thep promotion 27 January 2016 Image copyright Facebook

They get love and affection - and sometimes bling

Several owners told BBC Thai that the doll was more than just a talisman, they treat them like their own children.

"My daughter wants a sister and friend. In her school, her friends also have luk thep... so my daughter wants to have one like other people," one buyer said.

Doting owners have been known to splash out on expensive accessories and jewellery for their dolls.

Anthropologist Asama Mungkornchai from Pattani's Prince of Songkla University said the dolls appear to be particularly popular with middle-class women, and could "fulfill the need for motherhood" among such owners.

But the fact that many say they need it for good luck and wealth also highlights "a current sense of insecurity among the Thai middle class, especially when it comes to the economy", she added.

A "child angel" doll is pictured at a shop inside a department store in Bangkok.

  

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週四 (3/28)1.死腦筋 2.沖繩食物 活到100歲

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死腦筋

What makes a person stubborn

Stubbornness is a personality trait in which a person refuses to change his opinion about a situation or refuses to change his mind about the action that he has decided to take.

A stubborn person has a resolute adherence to his own ideas and opinions. A stubborn person also sometimes has a strong resistance to change, especially if the change is inflicted on him by someone else. A stubborn person has the attitude of “No I won’t, and you can’t make me”.

Why are some people stubborn?

Stubborn people are not stubborn all the time. There may be some specific events or interactions that trigger their stubbornness. In order to understand why some people are stubborn, we have to first remind ourselves of the fact that most human behaviors are reward-seeking or pain-avoiding.

Five stubborn people may be stubborn for five completely different reasons so without generalizing, I’ll try to give you an idea as to how you may figure out the reason behind someone’s stubbornness.

Stubbornness and rewards

Sometimes a person may be stubborn only because he knows that stubbornness helps him to get what he wants. In this case, a person may use his stubbornness to prevent the resistance that others may offer him that would stop him from fulfilling his desire.

For example, a child may be motivated to display stubbornness when she learns that stubbornness makes her parents comply with her desires. She uses stubbornness as a tool to get what she wants.

This kind of stubbornness is observed in relationships too.

For instance, if someone told a person that his wife is too demanding and controlling, then he might suddenly become stubborn even if he used to behave normally before, leaving his wife clueless as to what caused this sudden change in his behavior.

Stubbornness and identity

Stubborn people are rigidly attached to their beliefs, opinions, ideas, and tastes. They can’t stand anyone disagreeing with them because disagreeing with them means disagreeing with who they are. They become stubborn to the point that they don’t even consider the opinion of others because they feel threatened by people who disagree with them.

So, in a way, this is also a type of pain-avoidance. This kind of stubbornness can hamper the growth of a person and badly affect his relationships with people. Some go a step further by totally avoiding the people who don't agree with them just so they can live in the world of their own ideas and opinions.

Hidden feelings of hostility

Some people act stubbornly just to piss you off. You may have caused them some kind of a pain in the past and now they're getting back at you passive-aggressively. Stubbornness allows them to release their hidden feelings of hatred and hostility towards you.

 

沖繩食物 活到100歲

The Okinawa diet – could it help you live to 100?

Michael Booth

Can you eat your way to a century? I am not referring to test cricketers, I'm talking about the Japanese diet. Or the Sardinian diet. Or the Ikarian diet. Or any one of half a dozen regional, usually traditional, ways of eating that have been credited with keeping an improbable proportion of their populations alive beyond the age of 100.

Last week, the oldest man ever on record, Jiroemon Kimura, from Kyotango near Kyoto, passed away at the age of 116. His death, and the fact that the new record holder, 115-year-old Misao Okawa, is from Osaka, reminded us that the Japanese know a trick or two when it comes to living beyond 100. According to the UN they have the greatest proportion of centenarians in the world – and a great deal of that knowhow concerns diet.

I have long taken an interest in how I might eat myself to old age. I visited the southern Japanese Okinawa islands whose population is said to include the largest proportion of centenarians in the country and met with some of them in what is supposedly the village with the oldest demographic in the world, Ogimi, little more than a dirt street lined with small houses, home to more than a dozen centenarians. Old folk tended vegetable patches or sat on porches watching a funeral procession go by. My family and I dined on rice and tofu, bamboo shoots, seaweed, pickles, small cubes of braised pork belly and a little cake at the local "longevity cafe" beneath flowering dragon fruit plants. Butterflies the size of dinner plates fluttered by and my youngest son asked if there was a KFC.

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The next day I interviewed American gerontologist, Dr Craig Willcox, who has spent many years investigating Okinawan longevity and co-wrote a book, The Okinawa Program, outlining his findings (recommending that we "Eat as low down the food chain as possible" long before Michael Pollan's similarly veg-centric entreaty).

Willcox summarised the benefits of the local diet: "The Okinawans have a low risk of arteriosclerosis and stomach cancer, a very low risk of hormone-dependent cancers, such as breast and prostate cancer. They eat three servings of fish a week, on average ... plenty of whole grains, vegetables and soy products too, more tofu and more konbu seaweed than anyone else in the world, as well as squid and octopus, which are rich in taurine – that could lower cholesterol and blood pressure."

Okinawa's indigenous vegetables were particularly interesting: their purple sweet potatoes are rich in flavonoids, carotenoids, vitamin E and lycopene, and the local bitter cucumbers, or "goya", have been shown to lower blood sugar in diabetics. Like most of us, I am familiar with mainstream dietary advice – eat less sugar, salt and saturated fat, cut down on the cronuts and so on – but I much prefer the idea of discovering little-known shortcuts to longevity; I'm more of a "silver bullet" kind of guy. With this in mind, over a lunch of traditional goya chanpuru – bitter cucumber, stir-fried with tofu, egg and pork – in a restaurant that was little more than a tumbledown hut close to his campus, I asked Willcox which elements of the Okinawan diet he had introduced to his life. Turmeric and jasmine tea, he said; both potentially ward off cancer. Needless to say, both now feature in my morning ritual.

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週二(3/26)1.不丹 不再快樂 2.小改變 讓你更好!

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Modern technology is slowly killing the mood in the 'happiest country in the world'

Mark Abadi businessinsider

    Bhutan measures success not by gross domestic product, but by "Gross National Happiness."

    Although Bhutan is sometimes thought of as the happiest nation in the world, modern problems are hurting its reputation.

    Technology and outside influences are slowly changing the traditional way of life in Bhutan.

For years, the small Asian nation of Bhutan has defined success not through its economy, but through happiness.

The Buddhist nation pioneered the idea of "Gross National Happiness" to measure the country's well-being, and supposedly, its prime minister once touted Bhutan as the "happiest nation in the world."

But Bhutanese people are discovering that perception doesn't always equal reality. Despite the government's efforts, Bhutan ranked just 97th out of 156 countries in the most recent edition of the United Nations' World Happiness Report list.

Part of the reason may have to do with technology. Although Bhutan resisted it for decades, modern advances like cell phones, TV, and computers are slowly starting to take hold there, bringing with them unfamiliar problems and causing old ways of life to disappear.

In recent years, TV has been blamed for everything from Bhutan's rising crime rate to its shifting demographics as rural residents head for bigger towns in search of work.

"Advertisements create desires, which cannot be satisfied by people's current economic position," Phuntsho Rapten of the Centre for Bhutan Studies wrote. "Crimes and corruption are often born out of economic desires."

Climate change, another modern issue, is taking its toll on Bhutan as well. Melting glaciers are threatening the industrial plants that provide the nation's energy, hampering progress in a country the United Nations considers among the world's "least developed."

"We have an increasing income gap, we have increasing youth unemployment, environmental degradation," Needrup Zangpo, executive director of the Journalists' Association of Bhutan, told NPR.

"We have a lot of things to worry about."

Statistics from Bhutan's own happiness survey illustrate the transformation: According to the most recent Gross National Happiness report from 2015, the number of people reporting negative emotions such as anger, fear, and selfishness increased from the previous survey, while positive emotions like compassion and forgiveness had decreased.

And although 90% of respondents reported being happy overall, it's worth noting that almost half of them, 48%, described themselves as "narrowly happy," as opposed to the more positive choices, "deeply happy" and "extremely happy."

 

小改變 讓你更好!

Tiny Habit Changes That Will Make You A Different Person In A Year From Now

Kim Quindlen

2. Write down your goals at the start of each week and each month.

3. And measure and track those goals throughout the year – actually look each goal in the face and be honest with yourself about what you did do and what you could have done better.

4. Dedicate just one day a week to eating no meat.

5. Turn your phone on silent before you share a meal with someone you care about.

6. Talk to someone you trust when you’re in pain, even if it’s what you consider a ‘small pain.’

7. Walk whenever you can and wherever you can.

8. Do everything in your power to be considerate of and aware of other people.

9. Say ‘yes’ to something that scares you, if you know that it will truly be good for you.

10. Write every day in a notebook, with the understanding that there are no rules, no one will ever see it, and that it’s simply a tool for you to get your thoughts out of your head and onto a piece of paper.

11. Become cognizant of your emotions in a way you never have before – by simply trying to address them and name them, instead of treating them like a silent companion that you ignore because you practically don’t even notice them.

12. Listen more than you talk. And then forgive yourself when you fail at this. And then try again.

13. Look at anything other than a screen in the minutes before you fall asleep. A book, the window, your partner, a pet, the ceiling. Anything that is not going to instantaneously bring you back into a world you are trying to take a break from for eight hours.

14. Treat sleep as an absolute necessity and an incredibly important priority, instead of being proud of how little of it you are getting.

15. Pay attention to the factors you need in which to do good work. Do you need music? Do you need silence? Do you need a window? Do you need white noise? Do you need to turn your phone face-down? Do you need scheduled breaks every 45 minutes to read a few pages in a book? Do you need to take a walk first or right in the middle of it all? Pay attention to the moments in which you’ve done your best work, notice the factors that were present in that experience, and then do everything in your power to replicate it every single time.

16. Talk to strangers sometimes. Talk to your Uber driver when they seem to be in a chatty mood. Talk to your server about anything other than today’s happy hour specials. Talk to the person ringing up your dry cleaning and see how their day is going. Sometimes the interaction will be nice but forgettable. But sometimes you will still remember it several years from now. People have the most interesting things to say, when you’re listening.

17. Pay attention to how many pointless things you do, and how many minutes you waste, in the moments or hours before you go to bed. When you find yourself doing these things, like clicking through ridiculous slideshows or doing a deep dive into someone’s Facebook, stop. Brush your teeth. And go to sleep. The more you try to catch yourself doing these things, the less you will do them.

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