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What makes a person stubborn
Stubbornness is a personality trait in which a person refuses to change his opinion about a situation or refuses to change his mind about the action that he has decided to take.
A stubborn person has a resolute adherence to his own ideas and opinions. A stubborn person also sometimes has a strong resistance to change, especially if the change is inflicted on him by someone else. A stubborn person has the attitude of “No I won’t, and you can’t make me”.
Why are some people stubborn?
Stubborn people are not stubborn all the time. There may be some specific events or interactions that trigger their stubbornness. In order to understand why some people are stubborn, we have to first remind ourselves of the fact that most human behaviors are reward-seeking or pain-avoiding.
Five stubborn people may be stubborn for five completely different reasons so without generalizing, I’ll try to give you an idea as to how you may figure out the reason behind someone’s stubbornness.
Stubbornness and rewards
Sometimes a person may be stubborn only because he knows that stubbornness helps him to get what he wants. In this case, a person may use his stubbornness to prevent the resistance that others may offer him that would stop him from fulfilling his desire.
For example, a child may be motivated to display stubbornness when she learns that stubbornness makes her parents comply with her desires. She uses stubbornness as a tool to get what she wants.
This kind of stubbornness is observed in relationships too.
For instance, if someone told a person that his wife is too demanding and controlling, then he might suddenly become stubborn even if he used to behave normally before, leaving his wife clueless as to what caused this sudden change in his behavior.
Stubbornness and identity
Stubborn people are rigidly attached to their beliefs, opinions, ideas, and tastes. They can’t stand anyone disagreeing with them because disagreeing with them means disagreeing with who they are. They become stubborn to the point that they don’t even consider the opinion of others because they feel threatened by people who disagree with them.
So, in a way, this is also a type of pain-avoidance. This kind of stubbornness can hamper the growth of a person and badly affect his relationships with people. Some go a step further by totally avoiding the people who don't agree with them just so they can live in the world of their own ideas and opinions.
Hidden feelings of hostility
Some people act stubbornly just to piss you off. You may have caused them some kind of a pain in the past and now they're getting back at you passive-aggressively. Stubbornness allows them to release their hidden feelings of hatred and hostility towards you.
沖繩食物 活到100歲
The Okinawa diet – could it help you live to 100?
Michael Booth
Can you eat your way to a century? I am not referring to test cricketers, I'm talking about the Japanese diet. Or the Sardinian diet. Or the Ikarian diet. Or any one of half a dozen regional, usually traditional, ways of eating that have been credited with keeping an improbable proportion of their populations alive beyond the age of 100.
Last week, the oldest man ever on record, Jiroemon Kimura, from Kyotango near Kyoto, passed away at the age of 116. His death, and the fact that the new record holder, 115-year-old Misao Okawa, is from Osaka, reminded us that the Japanese know a trick or two when it comes to living beyond 100. According to the UN they have the greatest proportion of centenarians in the world – and a great deal of that knowhow concerns diet.
I have long taken an interest in how I might eat myself to old age. I visited the southern Japanese Okinawa islands whose population is said to include the largest proportion of centenarians in the country and met with some of them in what is supposedly the village with the oldest demographic in the world, Ogimi, little more than a dirt street lined with small houses, home to more than a dozen centenarians. Old folk tended vegetable patches or sat on porches watching a funeral procession go by. My family and I dined on rice and tofu, bamboo shoots, seaweed, pickles, small cubes of braised pork belly and a little cake at the local "longevity cafe" beneath flowering dragon fruit plants. Butterflies the size of dinner plates fluttered by and my youngest son asked if there was a KFC.
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The next day I interviewed American gerontologist, Dr Craig Willcox, who has spent many years investigating Okinawan longevity and co-wrote a book, The Okinawa Program, outlining his findings (recommending that we "Eat as low down the food chain as possible" long before Michael Pollan's similarly veg-centric entreaty).
Willcox summarised the benefits of the local diet: "The Okinawans have a low risk of arteriosclerosis and stomach cancer, a very low risk of hormone-dependent cancers, such as breast and prostate cancer. They eat three servings of fish a week, on average ... plenty of whole grains, vegetables and soy products too, more tofu and more konbu seaweed than anyone else in the world, as well as squid and octopus, which are rich in taurine – that could lower cholesterol and blood pressure."
Okinawa's indigenous vegetables were particularly interesting: their purple sweet potatoes are rich in flavonoids, carotenoids, vitamin E and lycopene, and the local bitter cucumbers, or "goya", have been shown to lower blood sugar in diabetics. Like most of us, I am familiar with mainstream dietary advice – eat less sugar, salt and saturated fat, cut down on the cronuts and so on – but I much prefer the idea of discovering little-known shortcuts to longevity; I'm more of a "silver bullet" kind of guy. With this in mind, over a lunch of traditional goya chanpuru – bitter cucumber, stir-fried with tofu, egg and pork – in a restaurant that was little more than a tumbledown hut close to his campus, I asked Willcox which elements of the Okinawan diet he had introduced to his life. Turmeric and jasmine tea, he said; both potentially ward off cancer. Needless to say, both now feature in my morning ritual.
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