周五 (2/5) 1.渣男/愛的老鼠 2.女人愛花? /櫻花季

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渣男/愛的老鼠
How to catch a love rat
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Of course, betrayals of the heart don’t just happen in celebland. Research suggests a shocking 30% of men cheat on their partners at some point.
 
But how can you tell if your man is straying? Arm yourself with this ­valuable information about the signs to watch out for...
 
The gift of intuition
 
If you’re suspicious but you can’t put your finger on specifics, your intuition is at work. Think of it ­as your sixth sense picking up a general vibe that something is different.
 
Author Allan Pease says: “When a person gets a new love interest on the side, the ­increased hormonal activity in the brain causes ­behavioral changes. These may ­include subtle changes to habits or ­creating new habits.”
 
Unless you have a history of jealousy you should trust this ­instinct. ­However, it could be something other than infidelity ­troubling him, so use ­intuition as a guide while ­considering other signs.
 
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Listen
 
We are naturally tuned in to our ­partner’s way of ­speaking. So a good starting point is to listen very carefully to what he says.
 
He may mention going to new places for lunch, or drop an unfamiliar woman’s name into conversations.
 
Cheats will mention their secret lover as a reverse-psychology ploy to make their behavior sound ­innocent.
 
As he’s speaking, listen for the overload of detail. You’ll know from his normal speech patterns if suddenly he gives all sorts of information he wouldn’t normally when ­describing his day. Retain as much detail as possible ­as cheaters are often caught because they contradict their stories – they can’t remember the details they’ve given.
 
The voice speaks the truth
 
You’ll be used to the normal way he sounds ­compared to under ­pressure. Listen for vocal changes, including ­attempts to keep his voice stable. Some men develop a monotone when lying. Vocal chords ­constrict ­under ­pressure, so be aware of a rising pitch.
 
Have a big conversation
 
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You’re probably dying to have a go at him but that will fail to get the right response. ­Instead, plan your big “chat” and challenge him when he least expects it.
 
Timing is ­everything and body language expert Judi James says: “Liars tend to perform at their worst when ­accused out of the blue.
 
“Never make ­accusations over the phone and ­always ensure he’s facing you.”
 
If they ask you ­questions about why you are ­challenging them, it ­may signal that they’re trying to deflect attention away from themselves.
 
Body language
 
Judi notes: “A practiced liar may not squirm in their chair but watch for other signs of anxiety such as tell-tale foot or finger tapping or hand wringing as they answer your questions. Lying places the brain under pressure.
 
“The liar will have to suppress an honest response before acting out their ‘lie response’.
 
“Under pressure we tend to ­overact, and often gesticulate too much – the body language version of verbal ­diarrhoea.
 
“Knowing your partner well you should spot ­differences in behavior, which suggests lying.”
 
Research finds a liar might make eye contact for longer than is natural so beware of the “puppy dog eyes” look from him.
 
Notice whether he ­covers his mouth when he is speaking or crosses his arms over his chest when he answers – these are both ­defensive gestures.
 
New interests
 
There are many other key signs of cheating, such as an unexplained interest in updating his wardrobe, styling his hair and getting fitter. When first in love/lust you want to look your best. It’s no different for a man having an affair.
 
Or he might ­suddenly take an ­interest in learning a new hobby when ­previously he wasn’t interested.
 
Subtle changes
 
Their behavior may change despite them wanting things to appear the same. Pease says: “Look for ­changes in behavior that have been part of your life as a couple, like if a man starts ­doing his own washing, or locks drawers.
 
“Don’t ignore changes in sexual ­behavior, such as subtle changes in regularity or style of doing the ­horizontal hula – they want to try things they’ve never done with you before.”
 
They may try justifying ­coming home late with excuses of new ­working hours. And technology has also changed our relationships and can provide clues.
 
Pease adds: “Your partner starts preferring to email you rather than ring. And when they ring conversations are kept short, end abruptly, or they use a barely audible voice – all signs that someone else may be present.
 
“Or they start constantly going online, checking emails, and if you approach suddenly close the computer window. Also his phone is never left lying around anymore and their computer or phone has new passwords.”
 
What next?
 
When you do challenge him, Judi warns: “It’s possible to take a false reading, known as the Othello Error.
 
“This is where a partner can look, sound and act in a way that suggests guilt when they’re merely showing the symptoms of ­someone that’s ­innocent but having problems being accused.”
 
Make sure you weigh the evidence up before deciding if he’s a cheat or behaving differently due to a reason like stress at work.
 

女人愛花? /櫻花季
Why Do Women Like Flowers? - Fig & Bloom
Sounds like a loaded question, doesn’t it?
 
Well, that’s because it is. Honestly, women like flowers for a number of reasons. Whether they simply like the colours of each individual flower or they like the various types of nature that flowers attract from the world. There are a number of reasons why women like flowers but we thought we would start with a few reasons why we believe women like flowers in hopes of giving you a bit more insight.
“Pointlessness” Is Romantic
 
“What’s the point of paying all this money for something that’s just going to die in a few days?” Don’t worry, if you’re someone who thinks flowers are pointless, you’re not alone. The irony here is that’s the part that women actually love about flowers. Though the idea of love is infinite, the gesture of giving a woman flowers is ephemeral and exciting. Even though it may seem to you that the money you just spent on those flowers will eventually go to waste, the feeling that you give that woman when you give her flowers will last much longer and the smile you put on her face when you surprise her with them will be of much more value.
 
Femininity
 
There’s something about flowers that can also be quite representative of a woman’s beauty. While they can appear to be particularly delicate, they are also fully capable of showing you their edgy side, as well. And, while it can be hard to tell each apart from a distance, the closer you get the abler you are to see their distinct beauty, individuality and everything else that completely separates them from the rest of the crowd. Each has their own particular description, representation, and necessities for care, but a little tender, love, and genuine care will always go a long way.
Romantic Nature
 
Flowers are romantic. Period. Flowers are an inherently romantic gift and they’ve been that way since the beginning of time. Their fragrance and association with beauty and love make them the ideal gift if you are ever in the need for a way to show your affection for someone. Here’s the other thing; whether you are giving a woman an entire bouquet of her favourite flowers or you’re simply surprising her with a single rose on your first date, the sentiment is a no-fail romantic option and since flowers can sometimes be “too feminine” for a masculine purchase, when you show a woman that you’re not afraid to walk around with her favourite flower in-hand will also separate you from almost anyone she’s ever met prior to meeting you.
They’re Special, Just Like Them
 
Women are special. Which means they deserve special things. When a woman gets a beautiful bouquet of flowers delivered to her workplace, it’s almost like she has the spotlight on her for the day and, quite frankly, that’s how they should feel everyday. Or, if you decide to surprise her with a bundle of flowers waiting at her doorstep for her arrival at home, each person that passes her door will instantly know that she has someone that cares deeply and passionately for her. So, whether you want to brighten up her day at work, give her something new to decorate her home with, or you just simply want to remind her how much you care for her, there’s only one thing to do…
Significance of Sakura: Cherry Blossom Traditions in Japan
 
Spring has arrived! The cherry trees are starting to bloom again around the National Mall and Potomac Park in Washington, D.C. In Japan, cherry blossoms are called sakura, a special flower for the people and the country.
 
Cherry blossoms are a symbolic flower of the spring, a time of renewal, and the fleeting nature of life. Their life is very short. After their beauty peaks around two weeks, the blossoms start to fall.
 
During this season in Japan, people like to have cherry blossom parties with colleagues, friends, and family. A cherry blossom makes people merry. They enjoy eating, drinking, and barbecuing underneath the cherry blossoms. We call this custom hanami. Hanami literally means “watching blossoms,” and the tradition can be traced back at least a thousand years. We bring cooked meals, alcohol, snacks, and sweets, like a potluck party. Schools and offices hold welcome parties during hanami, a chance for people to bond and meet new friends.
 
Even at night, viewing spots are crowded with people enjoying the blossoms in a beautiful, romantic atmosphere. Couples go at night to enjoy the special mood created by cherry blossoms. Hanami at night is called yozakur