周六(5/12)1.反轉第一印象 2.身體姿勢與成功 4:00-6:00

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反轉第一印象

Ways to Reverse a Bad First Impression   realsimple.com

My research has shown that women and men tend to orient their bodies differently when talking to each other. Women typically face one another and look steadily at each other's faces; they feel like this shows that they're friendly. But when faced directly, men tend to feel that they're being closed in on. Men generally sit at angles or even parallel to each other, only occasionally glancing at each other's faces, which may seem rude to women. If you sense that you've made a bad impression with someone of the opposite gender, engage him differently the next time: Change the way you're positioned and notice whether you're maintaining your gaze or looking at him only now and then—it may alter how he thinks of you.

Let Your Guard Down

Most of the people I advise lead very busy work lives, so they are often preoccupied. I've had clients brush off an important person or use a brusque tone with someone they've just met just because they were in a hurry. I encourage clients to proactively follow up and say to the person they rubbed the wrong way, "I was distracted because of a looming deadline. I'm sorry about our last run-in, and I would love to grab a coffee. I want you to know how happy I am to meet you." People appreciate the authenticity of an apology and the personalized attention that comes with it.

Q:

How to give a good first impression?

How to reverse a bad first impression?

Why are first impressions so important?

How to change about your popularity?

How to impress a girl/a guy?

How to be friendly? 

 

身體姿勢與成功

Good Posture: Its Importance, Benefits, and How-To

Brett and Kate McKay  artofmanliness.com

Improves bodily alignment. When you stand and sit with your body properly aligned, all your organs can function as intended. This includes your stomach, which is why good posture may improve digestion.

Eliminates back and neck pain. When you have proper posture, your bones and spine can easily and efficiently balance and support your body’s weight. When you have improper posture, muscles, tendons, and ligaments have to constantly work to support that same weight. This extra, inefficient effort can lead to back and neck pain as well as tension headaches. Focusing on improving your posture can go a long way to remedying these problems.

Improves breathing. To work efficiently, your lungs need room to expand in your chest. When you’re slumped over, your rib cage collapses a bit, leaving less room for your lungs to open, which in turn causes inefficient breathing.

Improves memory and learning. Recent research has shown there may be a connection between good posture and memory retention when learning new things. Why? It’s theorized that since good posture enhances your breathing, it allows you to take in more oxygen, and when you take in more oxygen, your cognition improves. (Fast fact: your brain uses about 25% of all the oxygen in your body.)

Makes you look taller and slimmer. Some poor posture positions cause your belly to protrude, giving you a “beer belly” profile. And slumping over makes you appear shorter than you are. Standing up straight will correct these issues and improve your appearance.

Makes you look confident and powerful. When we stand in an upright position, people perceive us as having high status. There are a few reasons why:

First, as we discussed in our series on the nature of status, height and physique are two embodied status markers humans use to size each other up. Research shows that taller, fitter-looking men are not only judged to be more attractive by the opposite sex, they also earn more over their lifetime than shorter and overweight men. While you can’t do much about the height that God has given you, you can make the most of what you’ve got by standing up straight with proper posture.

Second, an open, upright stance is simply perceived as more authoritative and dominant. You see this even with animals. When chimps or dogs are submissive, they’ll bow their heads and make themselves look small. Dominant animals, on the other hand, stand up straight and take up more room. An upright posture is a “power pose” that conveys confidence and status to other humans.

Finally, good posture makes your seem more trustworthy. There’s a reason being “upright” and “standing tall” are used to describe someone who’s virtuous and committed to their principles. Those who slump seem to be burdened by some weight — perhaps that of their faults and deceptions. Men who stand straight are thus perceived as open and honest.

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周四 (5/10) 1.如何跟生氣的人溝通?2.母親節 贈品?

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如何跟生氣的人溝通?

How to Calm an Angry Person

    Avoid a fight. When someone else is at a boiling point, getting equally angry is only going to make matters worse. Focus on keeping yourself calm, or else the situation might quickly spiral into an argument. This is not to say you should act completely unemotional, but try not to let your own feelings get too heated.

        A way to remain neutral is to let go of your own ego and not take things personally. It can be natural to respond to an angry person by defending yourself or your reputation, but it’s important to remember that someone who is very angry cannot be reasoned with until they have calmed down.

    Try not to get defensive. When someone’s so mad they can barely speak in a level tone, it’s easy to absorb that negativity and feel defensive. When you’re communicating with someone who is angry, realize that the anger is likely not about you. Separate the person’s emotions from your own so you can be there for the person without feeling the anger is directed toward you.

    Stay calm and quiet. If someone is yelling or venting, you can decide to let them vent to blow off steam, but the best thing for you to do is to remain quiet or to say nothing. If you do speak, keep a quiet level voice. If you remain quiet, try to keep a neutral facial expression and open body language. You remain in more control if you do not react to the “bait” of the person yelling.

      

 There is a difference between letting someone vent and being the victim of verbal abuse. If the person is berating you, calling you names, or directing unrelated anger towards you, you may want to make a statement such as, “I understand that you are frustrated and I would like to be here for you. But please do not take your anger out on me.”

    Apologize if you were in the wrong. If you did something to anger the person, maybe what they need is a heartfelt apology. Apologizing is not a sign of weakness. It shows that you care about the feelings of the other person.Reflect on the situation to see if you did something wrong, and if you did, say you’re sorry. Sometimes that’s all a person needs to hear to feel better about what happened.

     Show empathy.  Empathy can take the form of understanding another’s perspective, feeling distress at the plight of another person, and being able to relate to the emotions of another.[10] Showing empathy towards someone who is angry may take the form of showing that you have been listening to him and know what he is saying.

        To empathize with someone who is angry, try paraphrasing the source of their anger back to them. You might say, “So, you are saying that you feel angry because you think you have to take on all of the household responsibilities alone.”

        You may be inclined to say, “I understand how you feel,” but know that this can sometimes make someone more angry. They may believe that no one really knows how they feel.

  

母親節 贈品?

Taiwanese KMT councilor apologizes over using pet animals as Mother's Day giveaways

taiwannews

TAIPEI (Taiwan News) - How bizarre would the election campaign giveaways would be? A KMT Taoyuan County Councilor Jan Jiang-tsun (詹江村) was recently using live animals of hamster and guppy as "giveaways" in celebration of Mother's Day.

On early Wednesday, a netizen exposed the news on the country's largest online forum with the image of a "gift voucher" for hamster and guppy, with an exchange deadline set for May 31 this year, along with a campaign photo of Jan himself and the greeting line "Happy Mom Day." The news of the bizarre gift voucher was quickly spread on social media and by media coverage, resulting in overwhelming criticism against the councilor.

"What the hell was he thinking to use live animals as gifts in an election campaign," "this is so sick," "that's so wrong to use live animals as giveaways in the name of celebrating Mother's Day, whose nature is honoring the mother of the family and the maternal bonds, but now he is taking these animals away from their family..."

As the criticism spiraled out of control and even spilled over to his political party KMT, Jan on Wednesday apologized for the act and said that he will not make the same mistake again. In a Facebook live video, Jan admitted that giving these pet animals away as a gift was wrong, while saying he has been an advocate of pet adoption and has long sponsored adoption activities in Taoyuan. 

Jan did not explain how giving these live animals away has anything to do with his long-time pet adoption initiative.

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週二(5/8)1.笑與快樂2.限電節能/增加生育

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笑與快樂

Smiling can trick your brain into happiness — and boost your health

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Ever had someone tell you to cheer up and smile? It’s probably not the most welcomed advice, especially when you’re feeling sick, tired or just plain down in the dumps. But there’s actually good reason to turn that frown upside down, corny as it sounds. Science has shown that the mere act of smiling can lift your mood, lower stress, boost your immune system and possibly even prolong your life.

It’s a pretty backwards idea, isn’t it? Happiness is what makes us smile; how can the reverse also be true? The fact is, as Dr. Isha Gupta a neurologist from IGEA Brain and Spine explains, a smile spurs a chemical reaction in the brain, releasing certain hormones including dopamine and serotonin. “Dopamine increases our feelings of happiness. Serotonin release is associated with reduced stress. Low levels of serotonin are associated with depression and aggression,” says Dr. Gupta. “Low levels of dopamine are also associated with depression.”

Fake It Till You Make It

In other words, smiling can trick your brain into believing you’re happy which can then spur actual feelings of happiness. But it doesn’t end there. Dr. Murray Grossan, an ENT-otolaryngologist in Los Angeles points to the science of psychoneuroimmunology (the study of how the brain is connected to the immune system), asserting that it has been shown “over and over again” that depression weakens your immune system, while happiness on the other hand has been shown to boost our body’s resistance.

“What’s crazy is that just the physical act of smiling can make a difference in building your immunity,” says Dr. Grossan. “When you smile, the brain sees the muscle [activity] and assumes that humor is happening.”

In a sense, the brain is a sucker for a grin. It doesn’t bother to sort out whether you’re smiling because you’re genuinely joyous, or because you’re just pretending.

“Even forcing a fake smile can legitimately reduce stress and lower your heart rate,” adds Dr. Sivan Finkel, a cosmetic dentist at NYC’s The Dental Parlour. “A study performed by a group at the University of Cardiff in Wales found that people who could not frown due to botox injections were happier on average than those who could frown.”

And there are plenty more studies out there to make you smile (or at least, serve as reference for why you should). Researchers at the University of Kansas published findings that smiling helps reduce the body’s response to stress and lower heart rate in tense situations; another study linked smiling to lower blood pressure, while yet another suggests that smiling leads to longevity.

Q:

Why smiling can trick your brain into happiness?

What are the ways to cheer up a friend?

What are the ways to find happiness in your life?

How to reduce stress?

What do you think this saying “smiling leads to longevity”?

How to have a sense of humor?

  

限電節能/增加生育

Lin Ching-yi calls for restricting power in Taiwan after 10 p.m. to save energy, raise birthrate

taiwannews.com.tw

DPP legislator Lin Ching-yi suggests restricting electricity after 10 p.m. will save energy and raise the birthrate

TAIPEI (Taiwan News) -- The Democratic Progressive Party (DPP) Legislator Lin Ching-yi (林靜儀), yesterday evening (May 2) suggested that power be restricted after 10 p.m. to help conserve energy and resolve the country's low birthrate.

The Facebook page called Citizens Miaokou (公民廟口-立委在做天在看) posted a video at 6:56 p.m. last night of a question and answer session in Taiwanese dialect and Mandarin with Lin and Environmental Protection Administration (EPA) chief Lee Ying-yuan (李應元). During the session, Lin suggested that power be limited after 10 p.m., people should go home from work, not to turn on the TV and lights and everyone should go to sleep early.

Lin reasoned that taking these steps would solve the energy problem and would also "solve the problem of fewer children." Laughing, probably at the latter comment about increasing the birthrate, Lee concurred with her suggestions.

Lin said that this would would lead to a more healthy lifestyle, with better sleep and the ability to wake up at 5 a.m. In response, Lee said, "I completely agree, lifestyle changes will conserve energy."

She went on to say that she asked that cable TV stations not play movies late at night, "otherwise everyone won't sleep at night as they watch reruns of movies, it's actually a waste of resources. Those old movies have been replayed hundreds of times."

Netizens reacted to her simplistic suggestions with sarcastic remarks:

"This is great, Lin Ching-yi is very wise brilliant and the workers are overwhelmed with gratitude. From this day forward, laborers will never have to be overworked again!"

"This is great, only she could thing of such a ingenious idea, everyone was drunk and you woke them up. Global warming has been solved. This is deserving of many Nobel Prizes."

Q:

What do you think the idea that restricting power in Taiwan after 10 p.m.?

How to save energy?

Do you think that birthrate raising relate to power cut?
What are the ways for raising birthrate?

Do married couples have to have children?

Why some couples that they don’t want to have children after marry?

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周六(5/5)1.成功的秘密 2.鬼病院! 4:00-6:00

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成功的秘密

Secrets to Success   BY VICTOR STACHURA

What is it that makes people successful and I mean really successful compared to you or me? Are they smarter or do they work harder? Are they risk takers or have powerful and influential friends?

Decide upon Your True Dreams and Goals: Write down your specific goals and develop a plan to reach them.

Write down my dreams and goals? Develop a plan to reach them? You mean like a project plan? Yes, that’s exactly what this means. You may have heard the old adage: A New Years resolution that isn’t written down is just a dream, and dreams are not goals.

Goals are those concrete, measurable stepping stones of achievement that track your progress towards your dreams. My goal is to start a second career as a freelance writer – what are your goals?

Take Action. Goals are nothing without action.

Be like Nike and “Just do it”. I took action by reaching out and started writing. Every day I try to take some action towards my goals. It may be small, but it’s still an action. Have you taken action towards your goals?

Never Stop Learning: Go back to school or read books. Get training & acquire skills.

Becoming a life long learner would benefit us all and is something we should instill in our kids. It’s funny that once you’re out of school you realize how enjoyable learning can be. What have you learned today?

Be Persistent and Work Hard: Success is a marathon, not a sprint. Never give up.

I think every story of success I read entails long hard hours of work. There is no getting around this and there is no free lunch. But, if you’re working towards something that you’re passionate about, something you love – then is it really work?

Learn to Analyze Details: Get all the facts, all the input. Learn from your mistakes.

I think you have to strike a balance between getting all the facts and making a decision with incomplete data – both are traits of successful people. Spend time gathering details, but don’t catch ‘analysis paralysis’.

Focus Your Time And Money: Don’t let other people or things distract you.

Remain laser focused on your goals and surround yourself with positive people that believe in you. Don’t be distracted by the naysayer’s or tasks that are not helping you achieve your goals.

Deal And Communicate With People Effectively: No person is an island. Learn to understand and motivate others.

Successful people develop and nurture a network and they only do that by treating people openly, fairly and many times firmly. There is nothing wrong about being firm – just don’t cross the a-hole line. How do you deal with people?

 

鬼病院!

 ‘Gonjiam: Haunted Asylum’: A Legitimately Scary Story

star2.com

Directed by Jung Bum-shik – a masterful horror director who made Epitaph – the movie Gonjiam: Haunted Asylum follows seven people who meet up via a YouTube project to explore what is supposed to be the most haunted place in Korea.

Ha-jun, who runs a YouTube channel that deals with the supernatural, leads the team of youngsters to the Gonjiam asylum and the mysterious room 402, which is supposed to have never been opened since the hospital closed decades before.

Despite the rumours that the place is cursed, Ha-jun and his team strap on cameras and plunge into the darkness surrounding the battered building.

The movie has a clear goal – to suck the audience into the “reality” of the film, to make them feel like they are really there.

None of the cast is an established actor, with most of them making their first appearance on the silver screen. They even use their real names, except Moon Ye-won, who uses her English name Charlotte.

This was a deliberate choice to make it seem more like the audience is actually watching footage shot and streamed online by the seven adventurers – and most of it actually was shot by the actors playing them. The lack of sound effects and music add to the naturalistic effect.

The blur between fiction and reality works well, but the problem is that it has been done before, and done well, several times since The Blair Witch Project popularised it in 1999.

As the pioneer in the genre, Blair Witch had the potential to trick the audience to thinking it might be real. But this is 2018, and the found-footage, fake documentary approach is no longer fresh, nor is it as effective as it was.

Despite this, the movie does a good job of getting into your head. From the awkward interactions between those who just met, the vanity of internet fame, and greed and obsession the characters accurately depict.

Sometimes the actors go over the top, but the characters are appearing in a live-streamed internet show, and wannabe stars do tend to get a little weird in front of a camera.

Overall, the film still does a good job of making you believe that you are actually there in the dark asylum. The third act is drawn out, to the extent that it feels like it’s too much, but it’s still effective.

A lot of the horror is in the unknown, which is a double-edged sword: The viewers are encouraged to imagine their own demons, but this can mean that the film’s actual horrors are less scary once they are shown.

Gonjiam

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周四 (5/3) 1.香蕉讓你睡好覺?2.說聲對不起

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香蕉讓你睡好覺?

Do Bananas Help You Get to Sleep?   spaexperience

How can bananas help me sleep?

Experts often tell us that if we want a good night’s sleep, we should consume foods containing magnesium, potassium, tryptophan and Vitamin B6. Guess what? Bananas contain all of these in one neat little package!

Let’s have a look at some of the ways that these substances can help ease us off to sleep:

Magnesium helps promote sleep by working as a natural muscle relaxant. It induces the same state of relaxation that you feel right before you fall asleep by assisting the function of GABA, a inhibitory neurotransmitter that causes the brain to shut down at night so we can sleep. 

  Potassium works in synergy with magnesium and has been shown to be useful for people who have trouble staying asleep at night. Potassium can also be used to help lessen the symptoms of Restless Leg Syndrome.

Tryptophan is a powerful essential amino acid, and studies have found that its natural sedative effects can help you fall asleep easier and stay asleep for longer.

Vitamin B6 is needed to make melatonin, which is a sleep-inducing hormone that helps control your sleep and wake cycles. Bananas are rich in this helpful vitamin.

Bananas also contain carbohydrates, which are known to promote sleep, and yet they are a guilt-free snack—a medium-sized banana only contains about 100 calories!

How can eating bananas improve wellbeing?

Few of us pay much attention to how much quality sleep we get, yet getting enough of the right kind of sleep is as essential as eating, drinking and breathing. We need sleep so that our bodies can repair themselves and our brains can make decisions and process information.

Not getting enough sleep can have wide-ranging implications, including a decline in motor coordination, reduced memory function and concentration, lowered sex drive and an increased risk of depression and weight gain. It also increases our risk of serious illnesses such as diabetes and cancer.

So, anything we can do to help naturally improve sleep quality is important and worth considering. As bananas are so readily available and contain so many good sleep-enhancing properties, they are an excellent choice for a bedtime snack.

A lovely way to have your evening banana is to put it in a smoothie, along with other sleep-inducing goodies like milk, turmeric and honey. We love this recipe from the BBC Good Food website. Not only is it wholesome and calming, it’s also delicious!

Q:

Do bananas help you get to sleep?

What to do when you can't sleep?

How to sleep better?

Is staying up late bad for you?

Does it affect health if you sleep very late and wake up very late?

What kind of food good for health?

 

說聲對不起

Why Saying “Sorry” Is So Important

Kelsey Frizzell   tinybuddha

Little Girl Apologzing

“Sincere apologies are for those that make them, not for those to whom they are made.” ~Greg LeMond

When I was growing up, every time I took my sister’s toy or called my brother names, my mother would grab me by the wrist and demanded that I offer an apology. What’s more, if the apology didn’t sound meaningful enough to her, I had to repeat it until my tone was genuine. An apology was the basic reaction to any mistake.

Now that I’m older, I see apologizing as more than just a household rule. My younger self didn’t understand the complexities of human pride and self-righteousness, but my older self does.

Now, I see family members refusing to talk to each other for years after an argument just because neither side wants to be the first to let go of their pride and “break down and apologize.” But who decided apologizing was a sign of weakness?

I think we’ve reached a day and age where showing emotional vulnerability can be viewed as a positive rather than a negative quality.

People are becoming more aware of ideas like empathy and sensitivity, and everywhere we are being encouraged to talk about our feelings, to seek help, and to connect with others. Gone are the days of keeping everything bottled up inside to suffer alone.

As we move forward in this time of self-knowledge and self-discovery, it’s vital to acquire the ability to recognize our own mistakes. Nobody is perfect, and we all will do something to hurt another person at some point in our lives. The difference, however, lies acknowledging that we have done something wrong.

This was hard for me to grasp, because I was taught that an apology should be an automatic response.

It took me a long time to realize what it meant to say “I’m sorry” from the heart. Apologizing just for the sake of apologizing is meaningless. We cannot genuinely apologize if we can’t admit to ourselves that we made a mistake.

This is where humility comes in. Can we look at ourselves in the mirror and say that it was at least partly our fault? Can we take that responsibility?

Placing the blame on someone else is easy. Making excuses and skirting the subject is easy. Assuming the full weight of blame on our own shoulders, however, is very hard.

I learned this the hard way with a childhood friend of mine. As we grew older, we started becoming more competitive in the things we did together, and eventually the playful competition went a little too far.

It became a game of silently trying to prove who was better, and we ended up hurting each other over our pride.

We refused to apologize or even address what was going on because neither wanted to be the one to “give in.”

The tension kept growing, breaking apart our friendship. I wish I could go back now, because if I had taken responsibility for the mistakes I made, we probably could have resolved it easily and saved our friendship.

Q:

Why saying “sorry” is so important?

How to make peace through apology?

Is shame stopping you from apologizing?

What to do when you hurt the one you love?

What are the ways to mend relationship /friendship?

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