周六(5/26)1.一百元生存?2.超強人脈術 4:00-6:00

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一百元生存?

Wu Feng tries to survive on NT$100 for one day in Taipei

Taiwan News

Turkish-Taiwanese entertainer Wu Feng (吳鳳) tries to eat three meals with just NT$100 over the course of one day in Taipei

TAIPEI (Taiwan News) -- To help raise awareness of disadvantaged families in Taiwan, Turkish TV show host Ugur Rifat Karlova, better known as Wu Feng (吳鳳), posted a video on Tuesday (May 22) showing himself trying to purchase three meals over the course of a day in Taipei with only NT$100 (US$3.33).

In order to demonstrate the hardships many impoverished families in Taiwan endure, Wu Feng posted a video on Tuesday on Facebook and YouTube showing himself trying to survive an entire day with only NT$100. According to a report by Children.org.tw titled "2018 Vulnerable Family Diet and Housing Difficulties Survey" (2018年弱勢家庭飲食，住宅困境調查), nearly 60 percent of poor families in Taiwan are underfed each day.

First, for breakfast, Wu Feng bought a rice ball (飯糰) for NT$35, but was unable to purchase a drink because it would quickly break his budget. For lunch, Wu Feng found a shop selling scallion cakes (蔥油餅), which could run as high as NT$50 for extra ingredients, so he opted for the plain version at NT$25, again, no drink was an option for his budget.

By the afternoon, Wu Feng was becoming badly dehydrated in the 35 degree Celsius heat, so he took a plastic bottle and filled it up with water from a nearby school. For dinner, with only NT$40 left, Wu Feng chose to use the very last bit of spare change buy a bowl of hot dry noodles.

Wu Feng concluded that this was a very harsh way to survive as the food had low nutritional value and his budget did not leave him enough money to purchase fruits or vegetables. He also imagined that this would quickly start to have a negative effect on his body and mental outlook.

 

超強人脈術

How to Build a Social Network   wikihow

    1

    Throw a party. From a birthday party to a friendly get together, parties are a great way to gather your friends and expand your network. Ask all of your close friends to come and encourage them to bring guests. Speak with everyone at the party and get phone numbers and contact information from those you do not know and that you share common interests with.

    2

    Say yes to invitations. Attend weddings, funerals and parties that you are invited to. Showing that you care about the people in your network, even if you just pop in and say hi, will cause those that are in your 'network' to return the same courtesy. And, you could meet other people there too.

        If you have to say no to an invitation, send an event-appropriate gift or card.

    3

    Get active. Consider volunteering and joining a cause that you believe in. You might agitate for a change in election procedures, march against corruption, fundraise for the homeless in your neighborhood, or join an anti-deportation league.[4]

        You will meet people who share your interests and do some good at the same time.

        Being active also shows that you care about something greater than yourself, which may help you meet new people.

    4

    Find in-person activities online. Meet new people by joining groups of strangers that gather for socializing. Sites like Meetup.com offer local volunteer-led hiking groups, poker parties, and other fun things. Since everyone is participating in the initial difficulty of meeting with strangers, the awkwardness is diminished.

    5

    Attend summits, festivals, conferences, expositions, and fairs. Go to large meetups that involve the topics you are interested in. Whether they are about technology, skiing or scrapbooking, you will meet new people that share similar interests. Introduce yourself to people in line, ask questions at panels, and add other attendees on social media.

        Try going to the same gatherings every year. That way, you'll make friends with other regulars.

        Create business cards that you can hand out to new contacts to stay in touch.

    6

    Give back by hosting. If you want to participate in a community, you have to give back! That means hosting parties and connecting people, promoting the interests of others within your network, and otherwise being a mensch to those around you.

        Consider starting your own activist, social, or artistic group. This can be a bit of a daunting task, but if you start your own group, whether an internet bulletin board group or an actual meet and greet group, people will be coming to you instead of you looking for them. This is a great way to meet new contacts and friends.

    7

    Work your network. Once you have established yourself in a community, and are known to give back to it, ask for favors. Should you be seeking a job, don't hesitate to tell everyone in your network about it. Send out resumes to those you are closest to or those that share business interest.

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周四 (5/24) 1.你我都需要朋友2.老外性騷擾

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你我都需要朋友

Reasons We Need Friends

Why and how friends can shape your life

psychologytoday.com

Copyright Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D. 2013

    Friends can give you vital life skills. Friendfluence gives you vital life skills; “the very abilities one generally needs to be successful in life” (p. 6). There are many perks of friendship include sharpening your mind, making you generally happier, knowing yourself better, becoming inspired to reach your goals, advancing your career, helping you meet romantic partners, and living a longer and healthier life.

    Friends can help you define your priorities.  People tend to pick friends who are similar to them.  This fact falls under the general proximity rule of close relationships, in that like tends to attract like. Because we fall prey so easily into this similarity trap, it is important to try to stretch yourself to learn from some of those opposites. Flora points out the many ways in which “Birds, feather, flock.” Knowing this can help you grow by expanding your range of friends and trying out some new points of view.

    Having friends can help you get more friends. People tend to like others who have a reputation for being nice and helpful, and they like people who like them. If you want to be the type of person who attracts new friends, these qualities will help get you on your way toward building your social group.  Once you have more friends, you’ll be able to enjoy some of those perks of friendship.

    Close friends support you through thick and thin.  To take the most advantage of friendfluence, put effort into your closest friendships. Although being friendly can get you more friends, you don’t need hundreds to help you through life.  You may have to prune your friendship tree as you get older to be sure that you give enough attention to the ones who will really matter for your well-being.

    Friends can make you miserable too. There is a dark side to friendship. The people who know you the best are also the ones who have the most power to betray you, should the relationship sour.  Friends can also get you into trouble. If your friends are doing something bad or harmful, you tend to be more likely to do so as well, a fact to which many drinking buddies can certainly attest. Friends can also cause you stress when they get in the way of other important goals or relationships. Be ready to say no to friends who disappoint, betray, or stress you and you’ll be more likely to get the full friendfluence effect.

    You’re less lonely when you have friends. The worst kind of friendfluence, according to Flora, is a complete lack of friends. Loneliness is painful, especially when you are living with loneliness for a prolonged period of time. This is yet another reason to put time, energy, and attention into finding and cultivating a close circle of friends.

    Your online friends can steer your thoughts and behaviors. Although online friends are qualitatively different than your in-person friends, they shape you nevertheless. They can also be your source of life support. Flora shows us how Toni Bernhard, author of How to be Sick (link is external), and confined to her home, has maintained a lifeline to the outside world through her closest online friends.  Of course, your online friends can also make you miserable too, especially if you get caught in the “friendship paradox” (the fact that most people on Facebook have fewer friends than the average number).  If you can avoid having Facebook envy dominate your life, you’ll have more rewarding connections with your extended friendship community. 

 

老外性騷擾

American man charged with sexual harassment molests 3 women in Taipei courthouse

Taiwan News

TAIPEI (Taiwan News) -- An American man who was awaiting a hearing in a Taipei district court for acts of sexual harassment he allegedly committed on Jan. 4, he was reported to have again sexually harassed several women in the courthouse, resulting in his arrest.

Reportedly reeking of alcohol, a 36-year-old American man identified by his first name of "Joseph" appeared at the Shilin District Court at 8:40 a.m. yesterday (May 21) for a court hearing that was to take place at 9:10 a.m.   

When Joseph arrived, he smiled lasciviously at a female police officer who was sitting behind a glass window and continued to lustily stare at her and laugh maniacally until she called for other police to help, reported China Times. Next, Joseph ran to a post office counter where he pressed his body against a mother's arm and introduced himself by saying, "Hey good morning, nice to meet you, I'm Tom."

The woman considered him to be a pervert and alerted the police to deal with him. Joseph then ran to the security check where he saw a female bailiff conducting security inspections on people entering the building. He then grabbed the woman's buttocks from behind, before running to the second floor of the courthouse as she immediately notified the district police department.

Joseph then hid outside the courthouse and when he saw a young college woman who was acting as an interpreter, he also grabbed her buttocks from behind. But as he tried to run away again, he was finally apprehended police who took him into custody.

It is understood that he has a long track record of sexual harassment committed after drinking for which he was being prosecuted by the Shilin Prosecutor's Office. On Jan. 4, Joseph was arrested for violating the Sexual Harassment Prevention Act after he reportedly groped the breasts and buttocks of a number of Taiwanese women walking down an alley next to a Zhongshan MRT Station exit in Taipei. His latest acts will be added to the existing list of charges for sexual harassment.

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週二(5/22)1.人際關係2.發票中獎

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人際關係

How to make instant connections

Posted by: Team Tony   tonyrobbins.com

Rapport is created by a feeling of commonality. When we have something in common with someone, we feel more comfortable. The more comfortable we feel, the more we enjoy ourselves. And the more we’re enjoying ourselves, the more we enjoy the company of others. Sounds like a great way to make new friends, right? That’s because it is!

Now, most of the time, we use our words to build rapport. We do this by asking questions, like “Where are you from?” and “What do you do?” But words are only 7% of how we communicate. If words were graded on how well they communicate mood and feelings, their parents would never see the report card.

Ninety-three percent of who we are, and what we respond to, is nonverbal. And because we gravitate towards those like us, or those who are what we aspire to be, a great way to create rapport is to match and mirror the people we meet.

If their energy is high, increase yours to match. If their energy is low, level yours off to show you’re of kindred mind and spirit. Talk with your hands if they do. Raise or lower your voice with theirs.

You can mirror people’s methods of touch. Match the strength or delicacy of their handshake. Reciprocate an encouraging shoulder pat and you’ll communicate more than words can.

Use your sensory acuity to determine someone’s proximity boundaries. Remember that people who invade your space may need that to create rapport for themselves. If more space is needed, accommodate that.

Breath mirroring is easy to do, and it stabilizes comfort while creating a more intimate connection in any situation.

Posture, facial expressions, tempo and tone – the list goes on and on. Nod your head in conversation if you notice your partner does so. Cross your legs with theirs. Even speak slower if they take more time with their words, or faster if they like to hold conversations in the speed lane. (Watch the full video from Tony.)

They won’t be able to tell why they like you, but they will!

People in politics employ these techniques often. Hillary Clinton’s anonymous Chipotle run revealed her preference for the burrito bowl, but it also represented an exercise in mirroring. By strolling into a chain restaurant sans security or entourage, she hoped to create rapport through mirroring the casual lunch routine of many Americans.

Many politicians use this strategy to convey closeness with voters. We make snap judgments on people based on their style first. And initially, the style of your body language and demeanor will be more influential than the substance of what you say.

Do these long enough, and eventually your counterpart will begin mirroring you. This is called pacing and leading.

We naturally mirror those we feel a connection to, but the reverse has proven just as powerful. And we can organically stimulate that meaningful connection in others by initiating the process ourselves. This turns everyday interactions into an experience that leaves people with a lasting, positive impression of you. And just as importantly, you with a lasting, positive impression of them.

  

發票中獎

Seven NT$10 million special prize receipts yet to be claimed for Taiwan receipt lottery

Taiwan News

TAIPEI (Taiwan News) -- A total of 15 receipts carry the winning numbers for the NT$10 million (US$334,000) special prize from the January to February period, but there are still up to seven winning receipts yet to be claimed as of Saturday, May 19, according to the Ministry of Finance (MOF).

Also for the January-February draw, there are two winning receipts for the NT$2 million grand prize that have yet to be redeemed. The ministry reminds prize winners to come forward to claim their winnings prior to its expiration date, July 5, 2018, or the money will be forfeited.

According to MOF, the winning special prize receipts included a NT$19 purchase of Wang Wang Senbei Cracker (旺旺仙貝) at a 7-Eleven in New Taipei City's Banqiao District, a NT$350 food purchase at a PXMart store in Taichung's Dadu District, a NT$40 purchase of Coca-Cola Zero at a McDonald's restaurant in Nantou's Puli Township, and a NT$58 purchase of food at a 7-Eleven in Changhua's Yuanlin Township.

The other three winning special prize receipts were a NT$35 purchase of a male urine pot at a MedFirst store inside the National Cheng Kung University Hospital, a NT$1,626 food and grocery purchase at a Carrefour store in Kaohsiung's Nanzih District, and a NT$25 purchase of tuna onigiri at a 7-Eleven of THSR Zuoying Station in Kaohsiung.

As for the two unclaimed grand prize winning receipts, one was a purchase of NT$300 ticket for the 2018 Taipei Auto Show, and the other was a NT$75 parking ticket at Inan168 Parking in Taipei City's Zhongshan District.

Announced on March 25, the Taiwan receipt lottery winning number for the NT$10 million speical prize for January-February, also known as the uniform invoice lottery, is 21735266.

The winning number for the NT$2 million grand prize is 91874254.

The winning numbers for the First Prize are 56065209, 05739340, and 69001612. If all the digits on your receipt match any of the three numbers just mentioned in the right order, you have won NT$200,000.

If you have the last seven digits in the right order, you can receive NT$40,000 (US$1,300); if you have the final six digits, you will receive NT$10,000, and if the last five digits are the same, then the prize is NT$4,000

With the four final digits in the right order, the holder of the uniform invoice can receive NT$1,000 and with the three last numbers right, NT$200.

As for additional prizes, there are two numbers this time: 591 and 342. The last three digits of receipts with one of these two numbers will garner a NT$200 prize.

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周六(5/19)1.為他人做些好事2.情感關係與成功 4:00-6:00

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為他人做些好事

How to Do Do a Little Good for Others?

    1

    Find ways to help life flourish and grow. Helping people to arise and maintain good qualities within themselves and their lives is very rewarding of itself. Sometimes a person is just lacking a quality that is really needed in their life right now such as courage or self worth and by helping them to arise It and teaching them how to maintain it you see them succeed and better their own lives. It is a worthwhile thing to do.

    2

    Create things for people. The great thing about creating things for people is that it is not about the money and when you have compassionate motivation, you begin to see your skills develop and prosper as a consequence to the point that sometimes you are able to create things from nothing. Sometimes there can be some financial gain in doing so but for the most part it is just very enjoyable for everyone involved. Try creating a variety of things depending on the situation and what is required.

    3

    Offer to do chores for people. Sometimes people have small jobs that they need doing but just never get round to, perhaps your mother needs her light bulbs changed, or perhaps you can cut the neighbour’s lawn for him or her. Doing this sort of thing encourages good relations between people.

    4

    Set up a regular good deed. This is something that everybody needs to do when they can. If you are in some sort of routine with work or otherwise it is a great time to put this in place. The idea is to do something good in a recurring way. Something that would be included in this is perhaps bringing food for everyone at work or bringing something to your mother every week. Another thing you can do is make sure the graves of loved ones are kept tidy and respectful, or make sure your work’s lunchroom is clean and tidy. Getting into these sorts of habits is a great way to lend a hand.

    5

    Learn how to repair things. By learning how to repair things you open yourself to a variety of ways to help. Material things break all the time and sometimes all it takes is a skillful pair of hands to avoid having to get a new one. People are always grateful when you finish and it is a great feeling to see something you have repaired working or whole again

    6

    Share what you know. By sharing what you know you enlighten people to new things and help them with things they are struggling with. Teaching others skills only makes you more skillful and sharing your knowledge makes you more knowledgeable. People often appreciate you sharing what you know with them because they benefit from it. And so it becomes a good thing for everyone involved.

 

情感關係與成功

 Secrets to a Successful Relationship

Theresa E DiDonato Ph.D.

Recommit, everyday. When people think of love, the emotional components of passion and intimacy are often the first to come to mind, but commitment is actually the Number One predictor of relationship satisfaction, especially in long-term relationships (Acker & Davis, 1992). Commitment is a cognitive choice, a decision that individuals make to be in a relationship. Couples who renew their commitments everyday, in words and deed, are situating themselves nicely for a long-lasting partnership.

Be playful. Sure, adult life tends to emphasize productivity and seriousness, but sometimes it's about playing. Playful people take time to prioritize enjoyment, pleasure, amusement, and having fun, and such an orientation in romantic relationships is predictive of satisfaction (Proyer, 2014). This suggests the possibility that play could be an important dimension of a successful relationship.

Put work into the relationship. Back in the 1980s, relationship scholars identified relationship maintenance behaviors as critically important to the sustained health of a romantic partnership. Recent research supports the idea that individuals who actively work on their relationships help make those relationships happy and lasting (Ogolsky & Bowers, 2013). The specific kinds of behaviors that reliably predict relationship success include expressing positive emotions, being open, giving relational reassurances, using your social circle to support your relationship, and readily sharing the work and responsibilities that come with a long-term relationship.

If it's not important, let it go. In a recent study, researchers asked a sample of divorcees why their marriages failed. Participants cited frequent arguing as a major contributor, second only to infidelity (Scott, Rhoades, Stanley, Allen, & Markman, 2013). They described how an argument might start around something minor and then escalate into a major fight. Importantly, these arguments were not productive, supportive, or calm; rather, people recalled significant negative emotions. Finding ways to reduce the frequency of conflict, by letting go of the little things, could add more happiness to a relationship. If conflict does occur, how a couple manages it may be predictive of their relationship success.

When there is conflict, talk it out. Recent research suggests that couples benefit from being flexible in how they respond to conflicts (Overall & McNulty, 2017). When couples are navigating serious conflicts, are secure in their relationship, and have the ability to adapt their behaviors, being direct and oppositional can actually help more than other approaches; however, a more cooperative, affectionate approach may be the best strategy when someone tends to get defensive or when the conflict is minor. In other words, there's no "one size fits all" strategy: Successful couples adapt their approach to a specific conflict as a function of its broader context.

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週二(5/15)1.飢餓與生氣/新單字2.七秒決定印象

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飢餓與生氣/新單字

Feeling Hangry Is a Real Thing

Julia Naftulin September  health.com

We asked an expert to explain why you get so cranky before a late lunch.

Ever notice how when your tummy is rumbling, you're more likely to lash out at unsuspecting loved ones or even innocent bystanders? This sudden, irrational rage is often referred to as "hanger" (a combo of hunger and anger) and experts say it is a very real thing.

"When we do not eat, blood sugar goes low," explains Deena Adimoolam, MD, an assistant professor in the Division of Endocrinology, Diabetes, and Bone Disease at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai. When your blood sugar falls, the hormones cortisol and epinephrine are released in an attempt to raise it back to normal. But those hormones also happen to lead to irritability, which explains why you're so crabby when you skip breakfast.

Another hormone, called Neuropeptide Y, plays a role in hanger too, adds Dr. Adimoolam. Neuropeptide Y helps create a hungry feeling when your body needs more food—and it's also linked to aggression.

Researchers have documented the hangry phenomenon in relationships: A study from Ohio State University on married couples found that the lower the participants' blood sugar level, the angrier and more aggressive they felt toward their partners.

RELATED: 17 High-Protein Snacks You Can Eat on the Go

So when, exactly, does hanger kick in between meals? "It varies by every individual," says Dr. Adimoolam. "But the lower your blood sugar goes, the hangrier you are. It's our body's defense mechanism to get food ASAP." The tricky part is, hangry people tend crave cookies, pastries, chocolate, or candy, she says. These sugary snacks will raise your blood sugar quickly. But that spike inevitably leads to another crash—and you'll be acting like a crankpot all over again.

So what's a girl to do when hanger strikes? "Carry healthy snacks with you—like vegetables, fruit, and yogurt—so that when you are hungry [they] will hold you over until the next meal," says Dr. Adimoolam. Eating three full meals a day will also help curb intense hunger, and the freakouts that come with it. (Sign up for our 21-Day Healthy Lunch Challenge to get recipes for balanced, protein-packed midday meals that will keep you full well into the P.M.!)

And if hanger sneaks up on you still, try to avoid any mentally or emotionally taxing tasks until you've had a chance to refuel, says Dr. Adimoolam. "Get in a meal and your mind will be in a much better place."

七秒決定印象

Seven Seconds to Make a First Impression

Carol Kinsey Goman  forbes.com

You meet a business acquaintance for the first time - it could be your new boss, a recent addition to your team, or a potential client you want to sign up.

The moment that stranger sees you, his or her brain makes a thousand computations: Are you someone to approach or to avoid? Are you friend or foe? Do you have status and authority? Are you trustworthy, competent, likeable, confident?

And these computations are made at lightning speed -- making major decisions about one another in the first seven seconds of meeting.

In business interactions, first impressions are crucial. While you can’t stop people from making snap decisions – the human brain is hardwired in this way as a prehistoric survival mechanism – you can understand how to make those decisions work in your favor.

First impressions are more heavily influenced by nonverbal cues than verbal cues. In fact, studies have found that nonverbal cues have over four times the impact on the impression you make than anything you say.

Here are seven nonverbal ways to make a positive first impression:

1. Adjust your attitude. People pick up your attitude instantly. Before you turn to greet someone, or enter the boardroom, or step onstage to make a presentation, think about the situation and make a conscious choice about the attitude you want to embody.

2. Straighten your posture. Status and power are nonverbally conveyed by height and space. Standing tall, pulling your shoulders back, and holding your head straight are all signals of confidence and competence.

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