周六(11/16)1.理解他人觀點 助你成功 2.正向言論

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理解他人觀點 助你成功

Understanding the Other Person's Perspective Will Radically Increase Your Success

Sherrie Campbell  entrepreneur

To be a true success we must possess masterful people skills. The key to successful relationships lies solely in our ability to take the perspective of another. Perspective taking is that all important skill of being able to look at things from a point of view other than our own. Perspective taking brings in the mindfulness of compassion and empathy to our relationships. When these two qualities are present in our interactions mutual respect, success and movement forward is guaranteed.

1. Think of others.

Whenever we are in the presence of another it is natural to think about what they may be thinking (if we are not self-centered). We observe them instinctively and notice subtleties such as what they are doing, where they are looking, and what their body language is indicating. This helps us determine if we feel comfortable around them which helps us decide if we want to interact with them and how.

If we feel comfortable around another person we begin to think more logistically, like if now is a good time to talk with them, or if they seem unavailable or busy so we can decide the most effective way to proceed. All of this subtle information acts to prompt us to speak up in the conversation or to decide to hold back for a more convenient time.

Related: Developing People Skills Is a Brilliant Career Move

2. Emotional regulation and empathy.

Perspective taking relies not only upon our ability to share emotions with others, but also upon our capacity to regulate our own emotions. To be effective with others we must be aware of what might trigger us so we can quickly refocus ourselves on what is happening with the other. When it comes to empathy, the point is not to ask ourselves what we would do in any given situation; it’s to try and understand what another would do.

If our empathic accuracy and emotional regulation skills are strong we are more successful in our interactions. We possess the depth and awareness to predict the attitudes, expectations, and intentions of others that may be very different from our own. This creates an interpersonal connectedness which is built to thrive and succeed because people feel heard, validated and understood on the other side of us.

3. Correctly reading other people.

The emotions are our perspective taking guides. They help us to read people. We naturally track the behaviors of others to try and determine what they are thinking, feeling doing or planning. Our brains assist us by providing us a social radar system which helps us determine people’s motives and intentions, even when our attention is not specifically on them.

In this way our sensitivities are our strengths. These sensitivities to other people alert our gut instincts to the intentions of others and to sense any possible emotional changes in them or the peripheral work environment. It is important to trust what we intuit about the intentions others because it helps us to gauge how we can most successfully show up in the interaction.

Related: The Importance of Emotional Intelligence at Work

4. Respecting differences.

Perspective taking requires the maturity to gain the knowledge and be respectful of another person’s personal beliefs. When we are disrespectful to another person and their belief system it is the quickest path to creating separation and division between people. It is the surest way to upset a coworker, vendor or boss.

Related: Are You Tired of Hiring People Who Lack Baseline Communications Skills?

It is important to remain highly attuned to the fact that not all people share our personal views and beliefs of the world. We must remain open-minded and respectful to what others believe when relating to them. This means knowing what not to say as much as means knowing what to say. This makes communication complicated, but it keeps you open and growing in the process of being able to put yourself aside and be respectful of the other.

 

正向言論

Positive Self-Talk: Benefits and Techniques   healthline.com

Self-talk is your internal dialogue. It’s influenced by your subconscious mind, and it reveals your thoughts, beliefs, questions, and ideas.

Self-talk can be both negative and positive. It can be encouraging, and it can be distressing. Much of your self-talk depends on your personality. If you’re an optimist, your self-talk may be more hopeful and positive. The opposite is generally true if you tend to be a pessimist.

Positive thinking and optimism can be effective stress management tools. Indeed, having a more positive outlook on life can provide you with some health benefits. For example, one 2010 study shows optimists have a better quality of life.

If you believe your self-talk is too negative, or if you want to emphasize positive self-talk, you can learn to shift that inner dialogue. It can help you be a more positive person, and it may improve your health.

Self-talk can enhance your performance and general well-being. For example, research shows self-talk can help athletes with performance. It may help them with endurance or to power through a set of heavy weights.

Furthermore, positive self-talk and a more optimistic outlook can have other health benefits, including:

    increased vitality

    greater life satisfaction

    improved immune function

    reduced pain

    better cardiovascular health

    better physical well-being

    reduced risk for death

    less stress and distress

It’s not clear why optimists and individuals with more positive self-talk experience these benefits. However, research suggests people with positive self-talk may have mental skills that allow them to solve problems, think differently, and be more efficient at coping with hardships or challenges. This can reduce the harmful effects of stress and anxiety.

Before you can learn to practice more self-talk, you must first identify negative thinking. This type of thinking and self-talk generally falls into four categories:

    Personalizing. You blame yourself for everything.

    Magnifying. You focus on the negative aspects of a situation, ignoring any and all of the positive.

    Catastrophizing. You expect the worst, and you rarely let logic or reason persuade you otherwise.

    Polarizing. You see the world in black and white, or good and bad. There’s nothing in between and no middle ground for processing and categorizing life events.

When you begin to recognize your types of negative thinking, you can work to turn them into positive thinking. This task requires practice and time and doesn’t develop overnight. The good news is that is can be done. A 2012 study shows even small children can learn to correct negative self-talk.

These scenarios are examples of when and how you can turn negative self-talk into positive self-talk. Again, it takes practice. Recognizing some of your own negative self-talk in these scenarios may help you develop skills to flip the thought when it occurs.

Negative: I’ll disappoint everyone if I change my mind.

Positive: I have the power to change my mind. Others will understand.

Negative: I failed and embarrassed myself.

Positive: I’m proud of myself for even trying. That took courage.

Negative: I’m overweight and out of shape. I might as well not bother.

Positive: I am capable and strong, and I want to get healthier for me.

Negative: I let everyone on my team down when I didn’t score.

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週五(11/15)1.賺一百萬美金 2.好相處的方法

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賺一百萬美金

Realistic Ways to Make One Million Dollars

listenmoneymatters

1. Pick the Right Major

At least at the beginning of your journey to making one million dollars, the salary you earn from your job is going to make up the bulk of your wealth. Because you are going to spend at least a few decades working, you want to work in a field that will earn you good money.

A college education isn’t the only path to wealth but getting one can certainly make the way smoother. Those with a four-year degree earn at least 66% more than those with only a high school diploma.

Your chances of being unemployed are significantly reduced by having a four-year degree as well. The unemployment rate for those with a high school diploma is 5.4%, 2.8% for those with a four-year degree and just 1.7% for those with a doctorate.

A college degree is a good investment and picking the right major can make a big difference in how fast you accumulate that first one million dollars.

2. Start Investing Early

This is the biggest thing on this list. If you want to be a millionaire, this is how you do it.

There is no substitute for time when it comes to investing. The earlier you start, the faster you will make one million dollars.

    “On average, millionaires invest 20% of their household income each year. Their wealth isn’t measured by the amount they make each year, but by how they’ve saved and invested over time,” writes Ramit Sethi in his New York Times bestseller, “I Will Teach You To Be Rich.”

In other words, a project manager could earn $50,000 per year and be richer than a doctor earning $250,000 per year — if the project manager has a higher net worth by saving and investing more over time.

You don’t need a lot of money or a lot of knowledge about investing to get started with Betterment. There is no minimum, the fees are low, and the process is simple. If you’re not investing, stop reading this and open a Betterment account.

3. Get That Free Money

An employer-sponsored 401k is the first foray into investing for many of us, and it’s an excellent place to do it.

A 401k is an employer-sponsored retirement savings vehicle that allows you to invest part of your paycheck, pre-tax, into an investment account where it grows tax-free until you are ready to start withdrawing from it after age 59 1/2.

The money is taken directly from your check before it hits your checking account so it’s invested before you get a chance to spend it which makes it a great way to invest for people whose money burns a hole in their pocket.

A 401k also lowers your taxable income. If you earn $5,000 a month and invest $1,000 into your account, you are only taxed on the remaining $4,000. Some employers offer to match.

If you invest 6% of your income, for example, the company will match 3%. Even if you have high-interest consumer debt, like credit card debt, you should invest enough to get the match because it is free money!

For 2018, you can invest up to $18,500 a year in your 401k. Your employer will offer you a few choices of different investments; most plans are made up of mutual funds that include stocks, bonds, and money market investments.

This is where most people run into trouble. They just don’t know how to pick or what makes a good pick. This is where Blooom can help.

one-million-dollars-401kone-million-dollars-401k

If you’re not sure if your 401k is doing as well as it should or could be, Blooom can tell you.

Blooom will do a free analysis of your account. It takes just three to four minutes, and the most complicated question you’ll be asked is when you want to retire.

In a play on the company’s name, you’ll see how healthy your account is in the form of a flower. The healthier your flower, the healthier your account.

When you join Blooom, you’ll pay a flat fee of $10 a month. They will show you how your money should be invested, what your allocation should be and if changes need to be made, Blooom will make them for you.

4. Invest in Real Estate

We have written a lot about real estate as a great source of passive income, and it is. But you don’t have to buy a house and rent it out to make money on real estate.

Fundrise lets you invest in real estate for as little as $500. It can be a great way to get your foot on the property ladder before you have the money to buy a rental property.

When you are ready to buy a rental property, you don’t have to be a hands-on landlord. You can buy a turnkey property with Roofstock. They do all the heavy lifting; you just watch the passive income roll in.

好相處的方法
Tips On How To Get Along With People In Any Situation

CJ Goulding

1. Listen with the intent to understand.

If you make understanding another person a priority in any social circle, you will find that it is extremely easy to along with people. It is in the choice to invest time and emotional effort that the barriers to harmonious living are torn down. Planning or preparing yourself to understand others is a massive first step. You can do this by listening to what the person says (no planning your response while they are still talking!), making appropriate comments as they talk, and including references to their statements in your response.

2. Walk in their shoes.

Like coins, every social interaction has two sides. Sometimes, those lines between people can get blurred and cause misunderstandings. Taking the time to view the situation from someone else’s point of view will help you to get along better with them, even if you still do not agree with their views. As the quote says, you can’t understand (or get along with) someone until you have ‘walked a mile in their shoes.’ Get to walking!

3. Be polite.

Quite simple. Rude people do not get along with others. They may get along with other rude people, but those results have never been proven. Be careful of others’ feelings. Wit and humor at another person’s expense may do more damage than you will ever know. A polite demeanor will also leave a deeper positive impact than you will immediately realize.

4. Always take the opportunity to say a kind and encouraging word to or about somebody.

Praise good work, regardless of who did it. If criticism is needed, offer it gently, never harshly. If you recognize someone in need of encouraging, then that makes you the perfect person to do so! There are countless stories of people who have been inspired or motivated by a single needed word of encouragement at a critical time in their lives. When you encourage and compliment people, you create a culture of kindness and the kindness will be reciprocated.

5. Show interest in others.

Show interest in their pursuits, their work, their homes and families. Celebrate their achievements, grit your teeth with them through the rough times. Dance with people who are rejoicing and take time to weep with those who mourn. Let everyone you meet, however humble, feel that you regard him or her as a person of importance. If people around you sense that you support their best interest and also care about the ins and outs of their lives, you will get along with them just fine.

6. Keep an open mind.

Discuss, but don’t argue. It is the mark of a superior mind to be able to disagree without being disagreeable. Accept that others may have a point of view different from the one you hold, or believe something that you do not believe yourself. One sign of an open mind is someone who will listen to someone else speak, without interrupting, even if they disagree with the view being expressed. Differences make us human, idiosyncrasies make us unique and special!

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周六(11/9) 1.坐姿 顯出個性2.如何與人好相處?

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坐姿 顯出個性

Sitting Positions Can Reveal Your Personality

By Ruby Mey

1. Sitting Erect

Sitting up straight on a consistent basis is not only good for your posture, but it is an indicator that you are naturally confident.

According to Science Daily, researchers at Ohio State University found that people who sat up straight during job interviews believed that they were qualified for the job due to having confidence and believing in themselves.

Additionally, it has been found that people who sit up straight in general think about themselves in a positive light and have fewer insecurities.

2. Crossed Legs

Do you have a habit of sitting with your legs crossed? This is a strong sign that you are quite insecure and may even be defensive at times as well.

According to PsychMechanics, crossed-legged sitting reveals that the subconscious mind is protecting vulnerable areas of the body such as the genitals. Even though people know that this is not a rational way to think, what goes on in anyone’s subconscious mind is rarely rational. That means deep down the person who consistently sits with his or her legs crossed is doing so to protect themselves in a hidden way.

3. Leg Clamp

People who cross their legs while sitting and use one or both of their hands as a clamp indicate that they have a competitive and argumentative personality, according to Westside Toastmasters. This is a sign that the individual who sits in this fashion is very stubborn, closed-minded, and rejects other people’s opinions if they do not sit well with them.

This is even more important if you are in a business meeting and you are discussing your ideas with a coworker who is sitting in this way—be careful. He or she may not agree with anything you say and will judge you for it afterward or they might even take your ideas and credit themselves for it.

4. Sitting at the End of the Table

Consistently sitting at the end of the table, sofa, or the bench reveals a personality that is not only confident but has leadership qualities.

According to Psychology Today, people who sit at the end of any particular spot around other people subconsciously want to keep sending the message that they are the ones in control. They expect others around them to follow their orders and to jump at their commands. In fact, sitting in this fashion is a hidden intimidation tactic so that the others around them will obey their orders.

5. Sitting With Your Arms Crossed

Crossing your arms while sitting is an indication that you are not only angry, but you are creating a barrier between yourself and others around you.

According to Psych Mechanics, psychologists state that those who consistently sit with their arms folded are struggling with anger management issues. Also, those who sit this way constantly feel threatened, as this posture occurs due to their subconscious mind feeling as though there are threats around and they must protect themselves. This is why they sit with their arms folded across their chest.

 

如何與人好相處?

Tips On How To Get Along With People In Any Situation

CJ Goulding

1. Listen with the intent to understand.

If you make understanding another person a priority in any social circle, you will find that it is extremely easy to along with people. It is in the choice to invest time and emotional effort that the barriers to harmonious living are torn down. Planning or preparing yourself to understand others is a massive first step. You can do this by listening to what the person says (no planning your response while they are still talking!), making appropriate comments as they talk, and including references to their statements in your response.

2. Walk in their shoes.

Like coins, every social interaction has two sides. Sometimes, those lines between people can get blurred and cause misunderstandings. Taking the time to view the situation from someone else’s point of view will help you to get along better with them, even if you still do not agree with their views. As the quote says, you can’t understand (or get along with) someone until you have ‘walked a mile in their shoes.’ Get to walking!

3. Be polite.

Quite simple. Rude people do not get along with others. They may get along with other rude people, but those results have never been proven. Be careful of others’ feelings. Wit and humor at another person’s expense may do more damage than you will ever know. A polite demeanor will also leave a deeper positive impact than you will immediately realize.

4. Always take the opportunity to say a kind and encouraging word to or about somebody.

Praise good work, regardless of who did it. If criticism is needed, offer it gently, never harshly. If you recognize someone in need of encouraging, then that makes you the perfect person to do so! There are countless stories of people who have been inspired or motivated by a single needed word of encouragement at a critical time in their lives. When you encourage and compliment people, you create a culture of kindness and the kindness will be reciprocated.

5. Show interest in others.

Show interest in their pursuits, their work, their homes and families. Celebrate their achievements, grit your teeth with them through the rough times. Dance with people who are rejoicing and take time to weep with those who mourn. Let everyone you meet, however humble, feel that you regard him or her as a person of importance. If people around you sense that you support their best interest and also care about the ins and outs of their lives, you will get along with them just fine.

6. Keep an open mind.

Discuss, but don’t argue. It is the mark of a superior mind to be able to disagree without being disagreeable. Accept that others may have a point of view different from the one you hold, or believe something that you do not believe yourself. One sign of an open mind is someone who will listen to someone else speak, without interrupting, even if they disagree with the view being expressed. Differences make us human, idiosyncrasies make us unique and special!

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週五(11/15)1.賺一百萬美金 2.好相處的方法

板區橋文化路一段421巷11弄1號 (陽光甜味咖啡館)

新埔捷運站1號出口 旁邊7-11巷子進入20公尺 看到夏朵美髮左轉    PM 7:00--9:30

賺一百萬美金

Realistic Ways to Make One Million Dollars

listenmoneymatters

1. Pick the Right Major

At least at the beginning of your journey to making one million dollars, the salary you earn from your job is going to make up the bulk of your wealth. Because you are going to spend at least a few decades working, you want to work in a field that will earn you good money.

A college education isn’t the only path to wealth but getting one can certainly make the way smoother. Those with a four-year degree earn at least 66% more than those with only a high school diploma.

Your chances of being unemployed are significantly reduced by having a four-year degree as well. The unemployment rate for those with a high school diploma is 5.4%, 2.8% for those with a four-year degree and just 1.7% for those with a doctorate.

A college degree is a good investment and picking the right major can make a big difference in how fast you accumulate that first one million dollars.

2. Start Investing Early

This is the biggest thing on this list. If you want to be a millionaire, this is how you do it.

There is no substitute for time when it comes to investing. The earlier you start, the faster you will make one million dollars.

    “On average, millionaires invest 20% of their household income each year. Their wealth isn’t measured by the amount they make each year, but by how they’ve saved and invested over time,” writes Ramit Sethi in his New York Times bestseller, “I Will Teach You To Be Rich.”

In other words, a project manager could earn $50,000 per year and be richer than a doctor earning $250,000 per year — if the project manager has a higher net worth by saving and investing more over time.

You don’t need a lot of money or a lot of knowledge about investing to get started with Betterment. There is no minimum, the fees are low, and the process is simple. If you’re not investing, stop reading this and open a Betterment account.

3. Get That Free Money

An employer-sponsored 401k is the first foray into investing for many of us, and it’s an excellent place to do it.

A 401k is an employer-sponsored retirement savings vehicle that allows you to invest part of your paycheck, pre-tax, into an investment account where it grows tax-free until you are ready to start withdrawing from it after age 59 1/2.

The money is taken directly from your check before it hits your checking account so it’s invested before you get a chance to spend it which makes it a great way to invest for people whose money burns a hole in their pocket.

A 401k also lowers your taxable income. If you earn $5,000 a month and invest $1,000 into your account, you are only taxed on the remaining $4,000. Some employers offer to match.

If you invest 6% of your income, for example, the company will match 3%. Even if you have high-interest consumer debt, like credit card debt, you should invest enough to get the match because it is free money!

For 2018, you can invest up to $18,500 a year in your 401k. Your employer will offer you a few choices of different investments; most plans are made up of mutual funds that include stocks, bonds, and money market investments.

This is where most people run into trouble. They just don’t know how to pick or what makes a good pick. This is where Blooom can help.

one-million-dollars-401kone-million-dollars-401k

If you’re not sure if your 401k is doing as well as it should or could be, Blooom can tell you.

Blooom will do a free analysis of your account. It takes just three to four minutes, and the most complicated question you’ll be asked is when you want to retire.

In a play on the company’s name, you’ll see how healthy your account is in the form of a flower. The healthier your flower, the healthier your account.

When you join Blooom, you’ll pay a flat fee of $10 a month. They will show you how your money should be invested, what your allocation should be and if changes need to be made, Blooom will make them for you.

4. Invest in Real Estate

We have written a lot about real estate as a great source of passive income, and it is. But you don’t have to buy a house and rent it out to make money on real estate.

Fundrise lets you invest in real estate for as little as $500. It can be a great way to get your foot on the property ladder before you have the money to buy a rental property.

When you are ready to buy a rental property, you don’t have to be a hands-on landlord. You can buy a turnkey property with Roofstock. They do all the heavy lifting; you just watch the passive income roll in.

好相處的方法
Tips On How To Get Along With People In Any Situation

CJ Goulding

1. Listen with the intent to understand.

If you make understanding another person a priority in any social circle, you will find that it is extremely easy to along with people. It is in the choice to invest time and emotional effort that the barriers to harmonious living are torn down. Planning or preparing yourself to understand others is a massive first step. You can do this by listening to what the person says (no planning your response while they are still talking!), making appropriate comments as they talk, and including references to their statements in your response.

2. Walk in their shoes.

Like coins, every social interaction has two sides. Sometimes, those lines between people can get blurred and cause misunderstandings. Taking the time to view the situation from someone else’s point of view will help you to get along better with them, even if you still do not agree with their views. As the quote says, you can’t understand (or get along with) someone until you have ‘walked a mile in their shoes.’ Get to walking!

3. Be polite.

Quite simple. Rude people do not get along with others. They may get along with other rude people, but those results have never been proven. Be careful of others’ feelings. Wit and humor at another person’s expense may do more damage than you will ever know. A polite demeanor will also leave a deeper positive impact than you will immediately realize.

4. Always take the opportunity to say a kind and encouraging word to or about somebody.

Praise good work, regardless of who did it. If criticism is needed, offer it gently, never harshly. If you recognize someone in need of encouraging, then that makes you the perfect person to do so! There are countless stories of people who have been inspired or motivated by a single needed word of encouragement at a critical time in their lives. When you encourage and compliment people, you create a culture of kindness and the kindness will be reciprocated.

5. Show interest in others.

Show interest in their pursuits, their work, their homes and families. Celebrate their achievements, grit your teeth with them through the rough times. Dance with people who are rejoicing and take time to weep with those who mourn. Let everyone you meet, however humble, feel that you regard him or her as a person of importance. If people around you sense that you support their best interest and also care about the ins and outs of their lives, you will get along with them just fine.

6. Keep an open mind.

Discuss, but don’t argue. It is the mark of a superior mind to be able to disagree without being disagreeable. Accept that others may have a point of view different from the one you hold, or believe something that you do not believe yourself. One sign of an open mind is someone who will listen to someone else speak, without interrupting, even if they disagree with the view being expressed. Differences make us human, idiosyncrasies make us unique and special!

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