周二聚會 2/19
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各位好朋友們新春愉快:
時間像沖天炮一般 新年假期很快結束了 想著新春第一炮 話題應該不要太嚴肅 Billy 去年年底聽到一些朋友 想轉換工作環境 又想著西洋情人節剛剛過了
想著事業與婚姻也許是新的一年 許多朋友重要的期許之一 歡迎大家來討論
Topic1.面試禮儀
<面試前>
打招呼
道明來意：告知接待員你是來應徵的，以便作出安排。
應對所有職員保持禮貌，將來他們可能成為你的同事呢！
入房前先敲門，和主試者打招呼，禮貌地詢問是否需要關門。
握手
毋須主動跟主試者握手，應先觀察對方的動作，才作反應。
握手的力度要適中，不宜太大力或太細力。
若你是手汗大的人，亦無須尷尬或害怕與人握手，可在進入面試室前盡量抹去 手汗，並告知對方。
<面試時>
眼神、點頭
談話時要與考官有適量的眼神接觸，並間中點頭作回應，給予考官誠懇、認真 的印象。
點頭不可太急，否則會予人不耐煩及想插咀的感覺。
切忌談話時東張西望，表現出對應徵職位或公司欠缺誠意。
身體語言
待主試者邀請時才禮貌地坐下，坐的時候要保持筆直。
留意自己的身體語言，要大方得體。
蹺腿、左搖右擺、雙臂交疊胸前、鈄靠椅背，單手或雙手托腮都不適宜。
切忌有小動作，因為會給人壞印象及顯示出自己不夠信心，例如：男士應避免時常把弄衣衫、領帶及將手插進褲袋內女士不宜經常撥弄頭髮，過份造作避免把弄手指或原子筆、頻托眼鏡及說話時用手掩口。
<面試結束前>
離去時，別忘了向主試者道謝及說聲「再見」！(1111職涯網)
Topic2.月下老人
典出《唐·李復言·續幽怪錄·定婚店》：韋固少年時，有一夜，在宋城的旅館中遇到一位老人，坐在月光下，翻看著一本書，韋固覺得怪，對老人發問。老人回答是「鴛鴦譜」：也就是天下人的婚姻登記書。老人又告訴韋固，遠處那個賣菜老嫗的女兒，現在才三歲，正是他十四年後的妻子。韋固嫌其不貌美，派人行刺那小女孩。十餘年後韋固結婚，發覺妻子眉上留有疤痕，正是當年的小女孩。宋城縣宰知道這件事後，把那間客棧定名為「定婚店」。而「月下老人」也成為日後華人世界中，對愛情期待的男女們信奉最誠的神祇了。
傳說
根據臺灣臺北市艋舺龍山寺簡介牌介紹：台灣民間信仰，每年七夕，七星娘娘會把人世間未婚的成年男女製成名冊，向天庭呈報。月下老人收到名冊後，按照個性、善惡、興趣與條件抄寫成一本配偶名冊，然後用紅線綁牢男女二人之足，使合適的男女配成一對佳偶。(維基百科)
Questions:
1. How important is the job interview?
2. How to best prepare for your job interview?
3. How to have a good job interview? And how to answer interview questions?
4. How good manners can help you land a great job?
Job interview dress etiquette (Radio-Electronics.Com)
When attending an interview, the way you dress is of particular importance. First impressions are all important, and the way you present yourself by dressing will be one of the major elements in creating the right or wrong impression.
It is necessary to judge the place to which you are going. However for most professional jobs a suit of some form is best. Often it is wise to dress conservatively, especially for engineering jobs as many engineers and engineering managers will be conservative by nature. For other types of jobs, especially marketing, etc., a more contemporary style may be acceptable. However before the interview, try to assess the place and the people and gain a good idea of what would be best. If in doubt a conservative approach is generally the safe option.
There are a few styles to avoid. In particular it is wise not to dress provocatively. For men tight shirts, etc that show muscular figures are not normally appropriate. Similarly for women, low cut or tight tops and short skirts are to be avoided. While they may turn eyes, it has been shown that managers tend to be cautious and tend to hire people who are not dressed provocatively.
It has been shown that people who dress in a conservative suit are generally more successful for professional jobs. For women it has been shown that Hilary Clinton has a dress style to emulate.
Be punctual
One large turn off is being late for a job interview. Whatever the reason, any interviewer is likely to loose patience with anyone who is late. Even if unexpected road conditions have caused the problem, the interviewer may tend not to look beyond the basic fact that you are late. He is likely to have a busy schedule, and any lateness could disrupt his schedule.
Accordingly it is best to plan arrive close to the location of the prospective employer with some time in hand. Even try to the route beforehand and find any local coffee shops in which you may be able to wait if necessary. However don't allow so much time that you start to worry.
It will then be possible to arrive at the reception point a just few minutes early and be in good time for the interview.
Any last minute rush will make you agitated and stressed and you may not be able to present yourself as well in the interview.
Good handshake
When meeting people, it is customary to shake hands. A handshake tells a lot about the person. A limp handshake by a clammy hand will not impress. A firm but not knuckle crushing handshake gives a far better impression.It is perfectly normal to be nervous before the interview, and this may result in a sweaty hand. It is worth taking an extra handkerchief to wipe one's hand before the interview and make sure that you do not have a clammy hand when you shake peoples hands.
Remember names
It is often difficult to remember people's names when being introduced. However it makes a very good impression if we can do that. One way to help is to repeat the names of the people in conversation immediately after meeting them.
For example one could say something like: "Thank you for giving me your time Mr. Xxxxx." Or something else that may be appropriate. This helps fix the name of the person in your mind.
Unfortunately it is always difficult to remember names when meeting people because you are usually focussed on the initial meeting rather than remembering names. As names are important, remembering the interviewers' names will be seen as a very positive note.
Non-verbal communications
Although we often think of verbal communications as conveying most of the information we give to other people, this is not actually the case. Non-verbal communications account for much of the impression we create with anyone at the interview. It is therefore very important that any non-verbal communications reinforce the job interview etiquette impressions that have already been created.
Eye contact, posture, hand position, all convey information, so it is necessary to be aware of this.
Eye contact shows that you are interested in what the other person (interviewer) is saying and doing and that you have confidence. Lack of eye contact will imply that you are not interested, and it is also a sign of lack of confidence.
Posture is also another indicator. Sitting back in a chair gives an impression of a casual attitude and it gives a "don't care" impression.
It is important to make sufficient eye contact with both or all interviewers, and to sit up straight in a chair.
It is not always possible to "fake" the body language, so it often best to try to make yourself feel positive and attentive before going in for the interview. Having the right attitude will mean that the body language will follow.
Sell yourself
The interviewer will expect you to sell yourself. It is effectively part of the job interview etiquette to be able to sell yourself in a professional and sensible manner. There are many ways of doing this.
in order to sound truthful about your achievements be prepared to use examples and specifics. Detail the reasoning for decisions you made and the keys that enable you to be successful in a particular area. By giving the underlying reasons for your achievements, the interviewers will be able to see that you are not lying and this will add credibility to your application.
Don't brag and over dominate the conversation
While it is necessary to be able to talk about yourself in a positive way, you will need to be careful to let the conversation be two-way. The interviewer will want to ask questions, so be aware of this so that they can get into the conversation rather than just listening to a continuous sales pitch about yourself.
It is also necessary to be careful not to be seen as bragging. While you need to let people know your achievements, don't let it go so far that it could be seen as bragging about what you have done.
Be truthful
One key element of job interview etiquette is to be truthful. If an interviewer discovers you are lying, then he will not want to employ you, and often inconsistencies may give you a way.
Honesty also impacts how much you can claim you have done yourself.. While you want to claim credit for what you have done, don't overdo it because this could also be seen as lying, and the interviewer will not like this.
Thank you
One final piece of job interview etiquette is to thank the interviewers for their time. Interviewers will generally be busy and will often have many interviews to conduct beyond undertaking their normal job. A short thank you at the end of the interview will help the interview to end on the right note.
It is also worth writing a short note as soon after the interview as possible - possibly that evening - to thank the interviewers. Few people will take the time to do this and it shows that you are someone who does not take things for granted. Not only is it good for the interviewers to know that their time was appreciated, but it may also help your job application.
Questions:
1. Do you believe that Love God chooses your soul mate for you?
2. How to Find Your Soul Mate?
3. How can you recognize who is your soul mate?
4. What do you do if your soul mate is married?
Old man under the moon
The old man under the moon, 月下老人, commonly known as Yue Lao,月老, is a Chinese deity in charged of marriage between man and woman.
Legend of Yue Lao, Old Man under the Moon
The earliest account of Yue Lao is a story set during the Tang Dynasty. It tells about a young man Wei Gu’s 韦固 unsuccessful attempts to find a wife. On another failed marriage prospect trip to a city called Song 宋城, he saw an old man reading under the moon. Curious, about his book, Wei Gu inquired from the old man who informed him it was the book of marriages and that his duty is to tie a red threat between a couple to make them husband and wife.
Desperate to find a wife, he asked if the old man could show him his future wife. Wei Gu’s was shown an old woman carrying a three year old child and they both seem to live in poverty. The three year old child was his future wife.
Incensed, he ordered his servant to murder the child. Fortunately, the servant only managed to injure the child.
Years later, a high official offered his daughter in marriage to Wei Gu who happily accepted and pleased that he finally found a wife. On the wedding night, he noticed a scar between her eye brows and enquired about it. His new wife told him about an incident where she was stabbed by a man in the City of Song.
Wei Gu realized his wife was that little girl whom he tried to kill.
Worship of Yue Lao
This story spread and soon people began praying to that old man for help in marriage concerns. As no one knew his name, he was referred to as the Old Man under the moon, Yue Lao or Yue Lao Deity. 月下老人, 月老, 月老神君
In the traditional Chinese marriage custom, the bride and bridegroom walks together holding a length of red cloth with a ribbon in the middle. This might be a symbolism of their match by Yue Lao.
Wedding scene in a Chinese opera
Notice the piece of red cloth held by the couple
There are many temples and shrines establish for the worship of Yue Lao. Yue Lao is seen as an elderly man holding the book of marriage 姻缘簿, in his left hand and a walking stick in his right hand. Sometimes, the red threads can be seen too along with clay dolls symbolizing the couple. His birthday is celebrated on the 15th day of the eight lunar month the same as the Mid Autumn Festival.
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In these temples, there could be couples praying for a happy marriage, singles in search of love or parents eager for their children to be married.
In Taiwan, there is an often notice board where lovers or singles leave their wishes for Yue Lao.
Yue Lao is believed to be in charged of heterosexual relationships leading to the emergence of the Gay Rabbit God in charged of homosexual relationships. In Taiwan, there is a Gay Rabbit temple dedicated to this Rabbit God.
For the days of arranged marriage to today’s individual search for their special one, Yue Lao’s special help remains relevant and sought after.
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