週六(4/11)1.讓人喜歡你2.需要更多的假期嗎？

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讓人喜歡你

Secrets To Make People Like You  by Dr. NerdLove

1) Use Positive Non-Verbal Communication

I can’t stress enough how important non-verbal communication is when it comes to making a positive connection with somebody. The vast majority of our communication isn’t conveyed through our words, but through our bodies, our tone of voice, even the speed at which we talk. In fact, when our body language and our words are at odds with each other, it’s entirely possible to make people incredibly uncomfortable with you and want to get away from you. While your words may be positive, your closed off body language will be incongruent with what you’re saying and leave people feeling uneasy and confused. Many men, for example, have been creepy by accident because while they may have had the best of intentions, their body language made them seem intimidating or even threatening and left people feeling uncomfortable.

2) Get Them Talking About Themselves

Cold hard truth: we’re all narcissistic to some degree. Even when we may not feel like we’re the hottest thing since World War III, we do like to believe that our inner lives and thoughts are fascinating. Just take a look at our social networks as we fill our days with Facebook status updates, Instagraming everything and tweeting about every aspect of our lives. We’re playing to an audience, even if that audience is just the people from high-school that we’ve reconnected with because we wanted to see if they were still hot and/or single.

But believe it or not, there’s a reason for this beyond everyone being profoundly self-involved: as it turns out, talking about ourselves literally makes us feel good. Scientists have found that talking about ourselves activates the same pleasure centers of the brain that are associated with food and money. So in short: we are our favorite subjects because goddamn it feels good to talk about ourselves. And since this fits in with the reward theory of attraction, getting people to talk about themselves is a valuable part of getting people to like you.

3) Ask For Help

One of the most popular tools in the pick-up artist toolbox is the opinion opener, asking strangers to give their opinions and advice about subjects from jealous girlfriends to 80s songs to whether men or women lie more. Part of the reason why it’s so popular isn’t just because it’s a low-stakes way of starting a conversation but because it almost immediately hooks people’s interest. We love giving advice to people.

Q:

How to make people like you?

How to use positive words to make people like you?

Is body language important to make people like you?

What body language and our words are possible to make people incredibly uncomfortable with you?

This writer suggest “get them talking about themselves “how to get people talk about themselves?

Why we like talking about ourselves?

How to talk to a stranger?

How to ask for help?

Why people love giving advice to people?

我們需要更多的假期嗎？

Do we need more holidays?  bbc

I live in London and I』m looking forward to 4 May. It』s our next bank holiday. We have a total of eight of these in England and Wales. I』m planning to grab a beach towel, some suntan lotion and go to the coastal town of Brighton for the day. Some of my colleagues are happy just to go for a picnic in one of the city』s many parks.

But at sunset after a day of leisure, no matter where we are, we will all be thinking the very same thing: why don』t we have more holidays?

These collective days off work cost businesses a lot of money. A report by the Centre for Economics and Business Research in 2012 suggested that each bank holiday costs the UK economy £2.3bn and scrapping the lot of them would boost annual output by £19bn.

But they admit that this figure might be far from accurate. Actually, it』s difficult to calculate the loss of productivity because some of us compensate by working harder and later. And holidays impact differently in different sectors. A restaurant that caters for employees in the office complex next door will lose a day's trade, but supermarkets will have record sales of snacks on warm, sunny bank holidays. The zoo, cinemas, bars, hotels… they all stand to gain when people idle away the hours.

I think holidays are good for the soul. It』s important to get away from the daily grind and on some occasions a holiday can unite a nation. Ask a Brazilian about their carnival. It』s an occasion in which everyone in the country seems to let their hair down. In Britain, there is sometimes an extra holiday for a royal event, like Queen Elizabeth』s Jubilee. There are street parties and a real sense of community on these special days. Thankfully, another royal baby's on the way. Maybe we'll get an extra bank holiday for this!
Q:

Do we need more holidays?

Do holidays affect our happiness?

What are the ways to be happier during the holidays?

Are holidays good for you?

Do holidays really make us happier? Pros and cons of holidays?

What are the things to do on your day off?

What are your favorite "day off" activities?

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周五 (4/10)1.你快樂嗎?2.別生氣

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你快樂嗎?

How happy are you?  BILL HOWATT theglobeandmail

Happy individuals are better able to enjoy what is good in their life and accept that not everything needs to be perfect in order for them to be content. Happiness ultimately is influenced by an individual’s expectations and perceptions, including their environment and choices.

In 2013, Canada was ranked the third happiest place to live in the world. It was fifth in 2014. This happy ranking was determined by how citizens reported the degree of positive opportunities to experience peace, freedom, health care, quality education and a functioning political system

The research on Canada’s place in the world is a reminder that things could be worse and that living in Canada is much better than many other places around the globe. However, when a person is under stress it is common for them to be focused on their own reality and the big picture. The Globe and Mail’s Your Life at Work Study found that 60 per cent of participants reported high levels of stress in 2014.

Happiness is influenced by an individual’s life choices. Whether someone is born with the personality attributes to be happy or they learn to be happy through positive life experiences and role models, every person is capable of improving their overall happiness or level of contentment.

Happiness is a state of being content but you don’t need to be continually walking around with a smile on your face to be content. Each of us ultimately defines what we want and need to be content in our own lives.

Happiness can be simplistic. Watch any child on a playground. It doesn’t take much for them to appear happy and content where they are.

Happy people are likely to be physically healthy and project hopefulness, enthusiasm and optimism, have supportive networks, and be effective at self-management. They tend to engage in positive diets and exercise, and avoid negative behaviours such as engaging in excessive alcohol use or overeating to feel better.

Researchers have found that 70 per cent to 80 per cent of all heart attacks are due to lifestyle choices and have nothing to do with genetics. This same line of research suggests that happy people are better equipped to cope with stress and make healthier choices than those who are unhappy.

Questions:

How happy you are?

What are the ways to be happier?

How to be content in your life

How to live the good life?

What are the ways to shed negativity?

How to be more optimistic and positive?

How to live a healthy lifestyle?

How to reduce stress?

別生氣

How to Deal with Anger   By Mendy Kaminker

Anger is one of the traits most condemned in Jewish literature. “Someone who gets angry,” we are told, “is like one who worships idols.”  Anger can cause a sage to lose his wisdom, or a person who is destined for greatness to forfeit it.

It’s not hard to see why. When we get angry, we tend to act irrationally. Things said or done in anger are almost always destructive and cause for later regret.

Everyone gets angry occasionally, but some people are more prone to anger than others. They may have a “short fuse” and blow up over small things, or they may be chronically irritable. However it is manifested, anger that is not dealt with in a healthy way is dangerous for the angry person and for those close to him or her.

Dealing with anger is a lifelong challenge, but the results are unquestionably worth it. A person who learns to control, or at least reduce, his anger will be surprised by how greatly his life and relationships improve—at home and at work.

In the letters of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson, of righteous memory, there are several pieces of advice about dealing with anger. The Rebbe’s guidance ranges from simple, practical suggestions to more advanced meditations that address the root causes of our anger. Below is a loose adaptation of some of these, to study and hopefully put into practice.

    The first step is to wait. Don’t express your anger or pride verbally. In this way, those emotions will not gain momentum, as can be seen in practice .

If you feel yourself getting angry, stop, take a deep breath and wait a minute before you react. The anger may dissipate when the heat of the moment has passed.

Questions:

How to deal with anger?

Do you often lose your temper?

What to do if you lose your temper with your love one?

Did you regret after loose temper?

What makes you angry? What are the reasons we get angry?

Do you think these methods work or not?

“if you feel yourself getting angry, stop, take a deep breath and wait a minute before you react.”

How anger affects our health?

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週二(4/7)1.意外預防2.男女大不同

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意外預防


woman killed by building debris  The China Post

             

 TAIPEI, Taiwan -- One woman was killed and another injured when a large granite wall slab fell on them from an office building in downtown Taipei, yesterday.

The 40-kilogram slab fell from the fifth floor of the office building on Zhongxiao East Road Section 4. The building is owned by the United Daily News Group (聯合報). The police are investigating the cause of the tile's detachment from the building. The slab was located near an air-conditioning unit that may have been in operation due to the higher temperatures yesterday.

The victim was identified as a 40-year-old English instructor surnamed Wang who taught at a cram school located in the same building. She showed no life signs after being taken to the hospital. The injured victim (surnamed Huang, 42 years old), who was picking up her child from the cram school after office hours, was taken to Taipei Medical University Hospital for treatment.

According to an official of the Taipei City Construction Management Office (臺北市建築管理工程處), construction code violations that result in accidental death will result in a NT$300,000 fine as stipulated in Paragraph 77 of the Building Act (建築法). Improvements to the building facade to meet safety requirements must also be completed within 15 days.

In a statement made by United Daily News Group, the company expressed regret for the incident and promised support for the victims' families. It also indicated that it was continuing to investigate the cause of the accident, adding that repairs on the office walls are conducted annually.

Falling Debris Is Ticking Time Bomb

Area residents, including the borough chief, indicated that many buildings within the area are over 30 years old, adding that falling debris that damage parked cars are a common occurrence. Another incident of falling building debris was also reported in Keelung yesterday, with no reported injuries.

Strong winds in January caused multiple large tiles to fall in Kaohsiung, injuring several pedestrians. According to estimates, approximately 20 percent of Kaohsiung's 7,000 apartment complexes are reported to have issues with falling debris. According to statistics provided by the Taipei City Public Works Department (臺北市政府工務局), buildings over 30 years old make up 78.8 percent of the city's 88,000 household dwellings

Questions:

What do you think the accident that taipei woman killed by building debris? 

Who should blame for this incident?

How to prevent workplace accidents

Do you think this woman killed by fate?

Can you predict when you will die?

What are the tips to avoiding the unexpected car accident?

男女大不同

Matters of the Brain: Why Men and Women Are So Different

by Robin Nixon  livescience

Differences that vary

It has been overreported that boys tend to do better at math while girls often excel at reading and writing. In truth, the degree of difference is context-dependent.

In school, girls tend to do better in all subjects, albeit by only about a quarter grade on a four-point scale, Halpern said, citing U.S.-focused research. Boys, on the other hand, tend to excel at tests that focus on areas outside their school's curriculum, she said.

Whether these findings mean schools are biased against boys, standardized tests are biased against girls, or nothing of the sort are among the unanswered questions that rage through psychology, education systems and parenting circles today.

Losing talent

So, if neither sex is more intelligent, why are we so stratified by adulthood? Why, for example, are more than 90 percent of CEOs male and more than 90 percent of secretaries female?

As long as women are doing most of the caretaking jobsin society, Halpern told LiveScience, such as taking care of young and elderly loved ones, they are going to occupy wage-earning jobs that require less time. (In addition to being a research psychologist, Halpern was the founding director of the Berger Institute for Work, Family and Children.)

There is also an issue of interest, she said, in that many young women may not realize that being, say, an engineer can also be a "helping" job.

As a society, we are not only losing talented women from the workplace, she added, we are also losing talented men in the domestic front. Men can be excellent caregivers, and numerous studies have shown the importance of fathering for children.

"We can't have equality in work, if we don't have equality in the home," she said.

Questions:

Why men and women are so different

In your opinion , Men are smarter than women or women are smarter than men?

The main difference between men and women?

Are men more romantic than women?

Are men more rational beings than women?

Do men really earn more than women?

Why more than 90 percent of CEOs male and more than 90 percent of secretaries female?

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周六(4/4) 1.保持熱情2.致富秘訣

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保持熱情

Powerful Reasons to Up Your Enthusiasm  by Henrik Edberg

Find out what you really like to do.

This is the most important tip as it can generate enormous and sustained amounts of enthusiasm without you having “to do” much about it at all. Enthusiasm will flow naturally a lot of the time when you are doing whatever you really like to do.

Some examples of such activities may include meeting new people, helping others, go fishing, listening to and talking about music, workout etc.

If you can spend more time doing those activities that make you enthusiastic then you are likely to feel enthusiastic more of the time. Perhaps you can even make a living off one of your favourite activities.

See what’s positive in any situation.

Then build on that to get your enthusiasm going. Perhaps it’s just a thing or two. But that glimmer of positivity can be a starting point to change your perspective to a more positive one where you can find enthusiasm. And whatever the situation you are in will often be easier and more pleasurable to handle.

Get an enthusiastic vibe from other people.

Hang out with enthusiastic people and get them to talk about what they are enthusiastic about. Enthusiasm is contagious, so use that fact to help yourself (and others when you are feeling enthusiastic).

Keep your energy up.

These last two tips are helpful to more easily reach an enthusiastic state and to stay there.

It takes energy to be enthusiastic. So if you are having trouble feeling that emotion then it might be because one or more basic energy problems. So get enough sleep. Eat well and not more or less than enough. Work out. Drink plenty of water.

Questions:

How to keep up your enthusiasm?

How to find out what you really like to do?

What you really like to do? (favorite activities)

What to do when lose enthusiasm for your job?

How to make friends? And how to get along with people?

How to ask help from friends when feeling down?

How to see things positively in any situation?

致富秘訣

Secrets of Self-Made Multimillionaires (entrepreneur.com)

Get Rid of Poverty Thinking -- There's no shortage of money on planet Earth, only a shortage of people who think correctly about it. To become a millionaire from scratch, you must end the poverty thinking. I know because I had to. I was raised by a single mother who did everything possible to put three boys through school and make ends meets. Many of the lessons she taught me encouraged a sense of scarcity and fear: "Eat all your food; there are people starving," "Don't waste anything," "Money doesn't grow on trees." Real wealth and abundance aren't created from such thinking.

Surround Yourself with Multimillionaires -- I have been studying wealthy people since I was 10 years old. I read their stories and see what they went through. These are my mentors and teachers who inspire me. You can't learn how to make money from someone who doesn't have much. Who says, "Money won't make you happy"? People without money. Who says, "All rich people are greedy"? People who aren't rich. Wealthy people don't talk like that. You need to know what people are doing to create wealth and follow their example: What do they read? How do they invest? What drives them? How do they stay motivated and excited?

Work Like a Millionaire -- Rich people treat time differently. They buy it, while poor people sell it. The wealthy know time is more valuable than money itself, so they hire people for things they're not good at or aren't a productive use of their time, such as household chores. But don't kid yourself that those who hit it big don't work hard. Financially successful people are consumed by their hunt for success and work to the point that they feel they are winning and not just working.

Shift Focus from Spending to Investing -- The rich don't spend money; they invest. They know the U.S. tax laws favor investing over spending. You buy a house and can't write it off. The rich, in contrast, buy an apartment building that produces cash flow, appreciates and offers write-offs year after year. You buy cars for comfort and style. The rich buy cars for their company that are deductible because they are used to produce revenue.

Create Multiple Flows of Income -- The really rich never depend on one flow of income but instead create a number of revenue streams. My first business had been generating a seven-figure income for years when I started investing cash in multifamily real estate. Once my real estate and my consulting business were churning, I went into a third business developing software to help retailers improve the customer experience.

Lastly, you may be surprised to learn that wealthy people wish you were wealthy, too. It's a mystery to them why others don't get rich. They know they aren't special and that wealth is available to anyone who wants to focus and persist. Rich people want others to be rich for two reasons: first, so you can buy their products and services, and second, because they want to hang out with other rich people. Get rich -- it's American.

Questions:

How to become a billionaire from scratch?

Do you want to hang out with rich people? And get rich?

How to double (or triple) your current income

What are the easiest ways to get rich?

What do you think about wealthy people?

“Rich people treat time differently” how to arrange your time?

How to make good investment?

How do you stay motivated and excited?

    保持熱情的七種方法

即便是成功人士也有情緒低沉的時候。

但是，與我們不同的是，他們總能克服自身的惰性，堅持下去。

下面這7個方法便是一些專家介紹的他們克服自身惰性、

保持高度熱情的經驗和訣竅。

1.目標的力量是無窮的

    制定目標，是通往成功道路的第一步，你才知道你要去哪裡，要做什麼!?

 2.找個伴兒

    和別人一起，會比獨自一人時更努力。”如果1個朋友不夠，可以找2、3個。“參與的朋友越多，自覺性就會越高。”

  3.想像成功後的模樣

    當計劃變得令人頭痛時，想想成功後的樣子——對自己說，再有幾秒鐘就可以了，再努力一次，這是值得的。”

4.隨時應變，做些改變

    如果每天都吃一樣的東西，你很快就會感到厭倦。有時候可以改變計畫行程~ 但目標還是一樣~ 平常可做些不同的事情

5.保持快樂

    在執行中找到樂趣，例如跟夥伴一起比賽執行力，看誰執行計畫比較多~

6.成功和吃飯一樣，是習慣

    不少業人士會規劃每天的日程，思考什麼時間可以安排。如果能將執行計畫跟吃飯一樣，變為一種生活習慣，你會發現堅持其實不太難。

7.偶爾把強度降低

    比如運動時  “有時我會把運動強度降下來，與其認為反正無法完成5公裏長跑而什麼都不做，還不如出去散步1公裏，讓自己感覺良好。”加州健身生理學家道格拉斯‧布魯克斯的這種策略對于堅持運動非常有效。如果你經常鍛煉，那麼偶爾停下1～2天不會有太大影響。

——Alyssa Shaffer，33歲，高級健身編輯。

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週五(4/3)1.鞭刑—屁屁痛2.習慣的力量

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鞭刑—屁屁痛

Caning in Singapore      From Wikipedia

Caning is a widely used form of legal corporal punishment in Singapore. It can be divided into several contexts: judicial, prison, reformatory, military, school, and domestic or private. These practices of caning are largely a legacy of, and are influenced by, British colonial rule in Singapore.

Of these, judicial caning, for which Singapore is best known, is the most severe. It is reserved for male convicts under the age of 50, for a wide range of offences under the Criminal Procedure Code, and is also used as a disciplinary measure in prisons. Caning is also a legal form of punishment for delinquent servicemen in the Singapore Armed Forces (SAF) and is conducted in the SAF Detention Barracks. Caning is also used as an official punishment in reform schools.

In a milder form, caning is used to punish male students in primary and secondary schools for serious misbehaviour. The government encourages this but does not allow caning for female students, who instead receive alternative forms of punishment such as detention.

A much smaller cane or other implement is also used by some parents to punish their children for misbehaving. This is allowed in Singapore but not encouraged by the government.

Questions:

What do you thing caning punishment in Singapore?

Do you think that caning effective as crime deterrent?

In your opinion, what are the crimes should be punished caning?

Should Taiwan institute caning?

Does the death penalty deter crime?

Capital punishment should be banned or allowed?

How to reduce crime rate?

習慣的力量
Using High-Performance Habits to Achieve Significant Goals              mindtools.com

Good habits lie behind many of these positive changes. The repeated actions – attending a weekly sports practice, for example – help you to build the change into your daily life. In this article, we'll discuss how good habits can help you grow, personally and professionally.

Follow these steps to develop good habits in your daily life, and to kick-start positive change.

1. Identify What you Want to Achieve

First, note down your personal and professional goals. You'll need to develop new habits to achieve these goals , so it's important that you're clear about what they are.

Now choose one goal, and think about the habits that you'll need to incorporate into your schedule to reach it. What do you need to start doing every day to make this vision a reality?

Example:

Michelle has always wanted to live in France. Her goal is to learn to speak French, so that she can apply for a role in her company's Paris office. She decides to spend 30 minutes each day learning French.

2. Build Good Habits Into Your Routine

Find ways to build your new habit into your routine. Block out a regular time for it in your schedule, so that you can give your positive habit your full attention.

Tip:

It's much easier to establish good habits if they fall during your most productive time of day. Our article Is This a "Morning" Task? helps you discover when you're at your most productive.

Example:

Michelle knows that she's at her best earlier in the day. She also knows that she's usually too tired to focus on learning after work.

She decides that early morning will be the best time to learn French. She resolves to go to bed by 10:00 p.m. each night so she can wake up at 6:00 a.m. In the evening, she lays out her clothes for work, prepares the coffee machine, and makes her lunch for the next day. She also loads some French learning podcasts onto her laptop in the kitchen.

3. Develop Self-Discipline

A study showed that it can take an average of 66 days to form a new habit. That makes self-discipline   essential.

Questions:

How to use habits to achieve significant goals?

What are the tips for breaking bad habits and developing good habits?

What are the bad habits you need to quit right away?

What are the good habits you need to start?

Do you want to change your life for the better?

What you really want to achieve?

How to develop a good self-discipline?

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