週六(4/11)1.讓人喜歡你2.需要更多的假期嗎？

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讓人喜歡你

Secrets To Make People Like You  by Dr. NerdLove

1) Use Positive Non-Verbal Communication

I can’t stress enough how important non-verbal communication is when it comes to making a positive connection with somebody. The vast majority of our communication isn’t conveyed through our words, but through our bodies, our tone of voice, even the speed at which we talk. In fact, when our body language and our words are at odds with each other, it’s entirely possible to make people incredibly uncomfortable with you and want to get away from you. While your words may be positive, your closed off body language will be incongruent with what you’re saying and leave people feeling uneasy and confused. Many men, for example, have been creepy by accident because while they may have had the best of intentions, their body language made them seem intimidating or even threatening and left people feeling uncomfortable.

2) Get Them Talking About Themselves

Cold hard truth: we’re all narcissistic to some degree. Even when we may not feel like we’re the hottest thing since World War III, we do like to believe that our inner lives and thoughts are fascinating. Just take a look at our social networks as we fill our days with Facebook status updates, Instagraming everything and tweeting about every aspect of our lives. We’re playing to an audience, even if that audience is just the people from high-school that we’ve reconnected with because we wanted to see if they were still hot and/or single.

But believe it or not, there’s a reason for this beyond everyone being profoundly self-involved: as it turns out, talking about ourselves literally makes us feel good. Scientists have found that talking about ourselves activates the same pleasure centers of the brain that are associated with food and money. So in short: we are our favorite subjects because goddamn it feels good to talk about ourselves. And since this fits in with the reward theory of attraction, getting people to talk about themselves is a valuable part of getting people to like you.

3) Ask For Help

One of the most popular tools in the pick-up artist toolbox is the opinion opener, asking strangers to give their opinions and advice about subjects from jealous girlfriends to 80s songs to whether men or women lie more. Part of the reason why it’s so popular isn’t just because it’s a low-stakes way of starting a conversation but because it almost immediately hooks people’s interest. We love giving advice to people.

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How to make people like you?

How to use positive words to make people like you?

Is body language important to make people like you?

What body language and our words are possible to make people incredibly uncomfortable with you?

This writer suggest “get them talking about themselves “how to get people talk about themselves?

Why we like talking about ourselves?

How to talk to a stranger?

How to ask for help?

Why people love giving advice to people?

我們需要更多的假期嗎？

Do we need more holidays?  bbc

I live in London and I』m looking forward to 4 May. It』s our next bank holiday. We have a total of eight of these in England and Wales. I』m planning to grab a beach towel, some suntan lotion and go to the coastal town of Brighton for the day. Some of my colleagues are happy just to go for a picnic in one of the city』s many parks.

But at sunset after a day of leisure, no matter where we are, we will all be thinking the very same thing: why don』t we have more holidays?

These collective days off work cost businesses a lot of money. A report by the Centre for Economics and Business Research in 2012 suggested that each bank holiday costs the UK economy £2.3bn and scrapping the lot of them would boost annual output by £19bn.

But they admit that this figure might be far from accurate. Actually, it』s difficult to calculate the loss of productivity because some of us compensate by working harder and later. And holidays impact differently in different sectors. A restaurant that caters for employees in the office complex next door will lose a day's trade, but supermarkets will have record sales of snacks on warm, sunny bank holidays. The zoo, cinemas, bars, hotels… they all stand to gain when people idle away the hours.

I think holidays are good for the soul. It』s important to get away from the daily grind and on some occasions a holiday can unite a nation. Ask a Brazilian about their carnival. It』s an occasion in which everyone in the country seems to let their hair down. In Britain, there is sometimes an extra holiday for a royal event, like Queen Elizabeth』s Jubilee. There are street parties and a real sense of community on these special days. Thankfully, another royal baby's on the way. Maybe we'll get an extra bank holiday for this!
Q:

Do we need more holidays?

Do holidays affect our happiness?

What are the ways to be happier during the holidays?

Are holidays good for you?

Do holidays really make us happier? Pros and cons of holidays?

What are the things to do on your day off?

What are your favorite "day off" activities?