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Your Happiness Isn't Related to Your Work Hours, According to a New Report

By Wanda ThibodeauxCopywriter inc

Let me guess. You want to be happy. Me, too. But that long-standing idea that working fewer hours is some magic pill for joy--or conversely, that too much work is the quick route to the blahs--might just dissolve into nothing. That's based on data from the Organisation for Economic Co-Operation and Development (OECD) and the 2018 World Happiness Report (WHR).

As a starting point, as summarized in a blog and infographic from BambooHR, OECD data shows that the average number of hours worked per week in the United States is 34. This is despite the increasingly common assertion that people in America area working more than ever before--almost half of small business owners say they clock more than 50 hours weekly. America ranks #18 on the WHR.

So let's do some comparing, shall we?

Like those in America, people in Switzerland and Germany work an average of 34 hours a week. But the WHR ranks for the latter two countries are #5 and #15, respectively.

If you want to look at the data in a slightly different way, the country with the highest happiness rank (Finland) has workers clocking 36 hours on average. But workers are clocking that same number of hours in Italy, too, where the WHR is only #47. Or consider that Turkey and Columbia rank #74 and #37 on the WHR, even though they both have a work hour average of 48. And the country with the lowest average number of hours per week, the Netherlands (29 hours), sits at #6 on the WHR.

No matter how you slice it, the data reveals that there's really very little correlation between how much you work and your overall level of happiness. That's because, while your work of course does influence your life, there's a lot more to happiness than going to or staying away from the office. The WHR points out some of the factors they take into consideration in rankings, for example. The happiest countries support all six elements that support wellbeing (income, healthy life expectancy, social support, freedom, trust and generosity).

"a ranking of countries according to the happiness of their immigrant populations is almost exactly the same as for the rest of the population. [...] The closeness of the two rankings shows that the happiness of immigrants depends predominantly on the quality of life where they now live, illustrating a general pattern of convergence. Happiness can change, and does change, according to the quality of the society in which people live. Immigrant happiness, like that of the locally born, depends on a range of features of the social fabric, extending far beyond the higher incomes traditionally thought to inspire and reward migration. The countries with the happiest immigrants are not the richest countries, but instead the countries with a more balanced set of social and institutional supports for better lives."

So here's the bottom line for you as an entrepreneur or leader: It's not really how much you're working, but why and how. It's context. You can be miserable working 20 hours a week if you're in crappy conditions, or you can be ecstatic working 80 hours because you've got great circumstances. And as your company expands and changes, you should be highly aware that reducing or increasing hours isn't a universal way to boost morale.

 

婚姻改變性格

How Marriage Changes Your Personality

Source: ProWeddingStudio/Shutterstock

It’s often said that married couples grow more alike over the years. But can marriage really change your personality? New research by University of Georgia psychologist Justin Lavner and his colleagues shows that people’s personalities do change, in predictable ways, within the first year and a half after tying the knot.

1. Openness. How open you are to new experiences. If you’re high in openness, you like trying new things. If you’re low in openness, you’re more comfortable with what’s familiar.

2. Conscientiousness. How dependable and orderly you are. If you’re high in conscientiousness, you like to be punctual and keep your living and working spaces tidy. If you’re low in conscientiousness, you don’t get uptight about deadlines, and you’re comfortable in your cluttered environment.

3. Extraversion. How outgoing you are. If you’re high in extraversion, you like socializing with lots of other people. If you’re low in extraversion (that is, introverted), you like having time to yourself.

4. Agreeableness. How well you get along with others. If you’re high in agreeableness, you’re easygoing and happy doing what everyone else is doing. If you’re low in agreeableness, you’ve got to have things your way, no matter what the rest of us want.

5. Neuroticism. How emotionally stable you are. If you’re high in neuroticism, you experience big mood swings and can be quite temperamental. If you’re low in neuroticism, your mood is relatively stable, and you live your life on an even keel.

When the researchers analyzed the data after 18 months of marriage, they found the following trends in personality change among the husbands and wives:

    Openness. Wives showed decreases in openness. Perhaps this change reflects their acceptance of the routines of marriage.

    Conscientiousness. Husbands increased significantly in conscientiousness, whereas wives stayed the same. The researchers noted that women tend to be higher in conscientiousness than men, and this was the case with the husbands and wives in this study. The increase in conscientiousness for men probably reflects their learning the importance of being dependable and responsible in marriage.

    Extraversion. Husbands became more introverted (lower in extraversion) over the first year and a half of marriage. Other research has shown that married couples tend to restrict their social networks compared to when they were single. This drop in extraversion probably reflects that trend.

    Agreeableness. Both husbands and wives became less agreeable over the course of the study, but this downward trend is especially noticeable for the wives. In general, women tend to be more agreeable than men. This data suggests that these wives were learning to assert themselves more during the early years of marriage.

    Neuroticism. Husbands showed a slight (but not statistically significant) increase in emotional stability. The wives showed a much greater one. In general, women tend to report higher levels of neuroticism (or emotional instability) than men. It’s easy to speculate that the commitment of marriage had a positive effect on the wives’ emotional stability.

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單身經濟

As more singles live alone, businesses cater to their needs

 | FOCUS TAIWAN 

Taipei, March 27 (CNA) Single-person households have become more popular in Taiwan in the past decade and now there are an increasing number of services catering to those living alone.

Taiwan had 2.747 million single-person households by the end of 2016, accounting for 32.09 percent of all households in the country, up from 2.023 million in 2007, according to the Ministry of the Interior statistics.

Singles are most prevalent in urban area. The single-person households accounted for 34.92 percent, 34.51 percent and 34.25 percent of all households in Taipei, New Taipei and Kaohsiung, respectively, in 2016.

In the past, single thirty-somethings or older tend to stand out in social or family gatherings, but about 40 percent of people between the ages of 30 to 39 were unmarried in 2015, according to a statistics by the Ministry of the Interior.

Anyone unmarried is single, but he or she does not necessarily live alone. Some married people live alone, while many unmarried people live with their partners or children. As there are more single people in society, however, people who live alone tend to be more numerous too.

Businesses are starting to take notice of this consumer group.

A new variant of papaya produced by Yang Chien-te (楊乾德), a farmer in Gaoshu Township in Pingtung County, is about half the weight of the current ones on the market, and is sold for about NT$80 (US$2.65), suitable for a person to eat during breakfast. It has been welcomed by local consumers.

Recipe books for people living alone have meanwhile become popular mainly among women aged 30 and up, and especially for women in the 40-44 age group, according to Books.com.tw (博客來), Taiwan's largest online bookstore.

Travel books for solo travel are also selling well and some 80 percent of its buyers are women, it said. As a case in point, Chinese translations of picture books by Japanese woman author Naoko Takagi, who has published some 30 books on living alone since 2003, have been popular in the past decade.

Single people, however, admit there are inconveniences and awkward moments.

A 30-year-old public servant, surnamed Wang, who rents an apartment with her elder sister in Taipei, said she and her sister both dine out since they have different work shifts.

Wang said finding someone to have dinner with is not easy, because married coworkers have to go home and unmarried ones might have a date or other arrangements. So "single friendly restaurants are a salvation" for us unmarried people, she said.

Chang Hua-chen (張華宸), a barbecue restaurant owner, said his motivation to open his single friendly eatery was due to his own experience of being discriminated against in a lamb and goat barbecue restaurant.

He never thought his restaurant would become popular among singles, but now nearly 40 percent of all customers are singletons, Chang said.

Business owners have meanwhile noticed single people have different consumption habits.

Shen Yu-wei (沈佑威), a spicy hotpot restaurant owner, said single customers normally spend 50 minutes in a meal, while two customers might spend an hour and a half.

Shen said despite not taking as much time eating, single customers interestingly spend on average more than customers in a group.

"About 30 percent of our monthly revenue, which is nearly NT$1 million, comes from single customers," he said.

 

智慧手機讓人受傷

10 smartphone injuries that can easily be avoided

Sarah Jacobsson Purewal

Phone meets face

You’re not the only person who’s gotten a black eye because you dropped your phone on your face while texting in bed. According to a study commissioned by the UK-based National Accident Helpline, a whopping 60 percent of 16-24 year olds are in the same boat.

Distracted walking

Walking is, apparently, really hard. So hard, in fact, that human beings cannot walk and perform other mentally-challenging tasks, such as texting, simultaneously. According to the this report from the Governors Highway Safety Association, pedestrian fatalities are on the rise because we are just that terrible at walking.

Tech neck

As you get older, your body starts to hurt. You might have back pain, knee pain, or even neck pain—regular wear and tear can’t be avoided. But by “older,” we’re talking 55, not 25. If you’re a millennial with neck pain, it’s probably because you spend too much time hunched over your phone on the toilet.

Phone madness

Technology makes people insane. Saving money on technology makes people even more insane. In 2013, at least 20 people were injured when a frenzied South Korean mob tried to grab vouchers for a free LG phone.

Repetitive strain injuries

Think you can’t get carpal tunnel from your phone? Think again. Repetitive strain injuries don’t just affect your wrists. Check out this case study of a 29-year-old who ruptured a tendon from playing too much Candy Crush.

Selfie deaths

People are not the only victims of stupid selfie stunts. Innocent animals, such as this baby dolphin that has almost certainly never owned a smartphone, are also at risk. Repeat after me: SELFIES KILL.

Selfie stick deaths

Selfies alone are killing people, so what could possibly go wrong if we introduce a four-foot-long metal rod into the picture? Nothing, right? Selfie sticks are also pretty dangerous. In 2015, a person was struck by lightning and killed while holding a selfie stick (the stick attracted the lightning, naturally), while another person ended up crashing his car because he was trying to get the perfect selfie (on a stick). Selfie sticks are even a danger to international landmarks: Two American tourists were arrested in 2015 for carving their initials into the Colosseum with a selfie stick.

Tripping over a charging cable

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Make Sure Every Day Is Your Lucky Day: How To Create Your Own Luck In Life

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Oprah Winfrey once insightfully commented, “Luck is preparation meeting opportunity.”

Yesterday was St. Patrick’s Day – a holiday that many celebrate by wearing the color green, pinching, and keeping their eyes peeled for that lucky Irish leprechaun.  There’s nothing particularly lucky about a calendar day, but who doesn’t like a good reason to celebrate?

Everyone, on some level, has a desire to be lucky. Although it is typically thought of in association with things such as gambling or finding your soul mate, luck can mean something different to different individuals. Whether you believe in luck or not, I think it’s safe to say that you wouldn’t mind a stroke of good fortune.

If you had the power to create your own luck, would you do it? Well, you sort of can! I know, I know – isn’t creating your own luck pretty much taking the real “luck” out of things altogether? We are all well aware that we can’t reasonably expect to control everything within our lives, but we can certainly point ourselves in the right direction. If we make a conscious effort to steer ourselves toward our goals and what we want, you will begin to notice that a big part of those “lucky moments” is simply due to setting yourself up for good things to happen.

How To Create Your Own Luck

1. Seek out the silver lining of situations

Much of this can be boiled down to having a positive attitude opposed to a negative one that views everything that happens in a pessimistic light. It has been shown that those individual who purposefully look for the good and positive aspects of things tend to feel that they are luckier. Perhaps that luck of the irish is more along the lines of luck of the optimistic.

2. Put yourself out there and take those chances

Chances are you won’t feel very lucky if you are just sitting at home on your couch waiting for luck to happen. Taking risks not only expands your personal world, but it also opens you up to countless opportunities for lucky occurrences to take place. Step outside of your box every now and then – you may find that luck is simply waiting for you right outside of your comfort zone.

3. Start to look at yourself as a lucky person

Believe it or not, self fulfilling prophecies are totally a real thing. That’s right – studies have shown that those who consider themselves to be lucky individuals actually are luckier! One particular study, for example, surveyed individuals regarding their views of themselves. Then the researchers placed a bit of money along the street that those people were walking down. Of those surveyed, those who reported being “lucky” much more frequently noticed the money and picked it up. Those who considered themselves “unlucky,” on the other hand, almost never noticed the money.

 

喜歡”吐槽”你

Learning how to handle someone who "busts my balls" and makes fun of me a lot

This may seem like a strange thing to need help in, but I have an acquaintance (don't really like this person, but I'm kind of obligated to hang out with him, as he is friends with a couple of good friends of mine) who insists on making fun of me relentlessly when I'm around him.

He doesn't take me seriously at all, treats me as the butt of jokes constantly, and is incredibly condescending to me. His jokes are incredibly immature as well and focus on my sexuality (he basically orchestrates all his jokes to imply that I'm gay, which is so incredibly childish and homophobic as well).

Most people in my life have been incredibly respectful to me, so I am often very uncomfortable in situations like this, and don't really know how to handle it very well. I also don't feel very good at reciprocating that kind of behavior, as I've never really needed to do so. It also doesn't help that I don't really like this person very much either, which makes it very hard to tolerate his comments.

----

I bust peoples balls all the time. It's really an expression of me caring. I wouldn't poke fun at someone I didn't feel I had a good relationship with.

But it doesn't sound like your "friend" is just busting your balls. It sounds like he's using you, like you said, as the butt of his jokes. This isn't caring. It's mean spirited. I've dealt with people like that before. One of my best friends used to do that all the time, but over time we found ways to work through it.

I genuinely don't believe that his intent is to hurt you. It's out of insecurity. HE feels insecure about whatever, so he does his best to bring the attention to you and try to point out your (perceived) flaws. Try to forgive him for this. He's probably just as uncomfortable when he does this as you are.

Next time he does it just look him straight in the eyes and say, without being too stern or taking yourself too seriously, "I know you're just joking around, but I feel that's crossing the line," and then move the conversation elsewhere. Don't expect an apology. Don't expect a big confrontation or scene. Just set boundaries and move on.

He will fight you on this. I would put money on him trying to justify his actions. He will say "how is that crossing the line?? It's true/it's not mean/whatever". Acknowledge what he says by saying something like "don't worry about it," "it's fine dude," or anything that's dismissive (not in a condescending way) while not engaging in his battle.

If it gets worse or he doesn't respect your boundaries after doing this a couple of times you have two options. Remove this person from your life entirely, or have a conversation between the two of you. Remember that you don't have to justify your feelings to him. If his jokes make you uncomfortable, then as a friend he should respect that. If he doesn't the bold letters don't apply.

You'll keep your dignity and confidence intact by handling it like a man. A man doesn't seek needless fights or cower because of his fear. This is how you establish healthy relationships. It is always difficult, but they are the most rewarding.

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Your Happiness Isn't Related to Your Work Hours, According to a New Report

By Wanda ThibodeauxCopywriter inc

Let me guess. You want to be happy. Me, too. But that long-standing idea that working fewer hours is some magic pill for joy--or conversely, that too much work is the quick route to the blahs--might just dissolve into nothing. That's based on data from the Organisation for Economic Co-Operation and Development (OECD) and the 2018 World Happiness Report (WHR).

As a starting point, as summarized in a blog and infographic from BambooHR, OECD data shows that the average number of hours worked per week in the United States is 34. This is despite the increasingly common assertion that people in America area working more than ever before--almost half of small business owners say they clock more than 50 hours weekly. America ranks #18 on the WHR.

So let's do some comparing, shall we?

Like those in America, people in Switzerland and Germany work an average of 34 hours a week. But the WHR ranks for the latter two countries are #5 and #15, respectively.

If you want to look at the data in a slightly different way, the country with the highest happiness rank (Finland) has workers clocking 36 hours on average. But workers are clocking that same number of hours in Italy, too, where the WHR is only #47. Or consider that Turkey and Columbia rank #74 and #37 on the WHR, even though they both have a work hour average of 48. And the country with the lowest average number of hours per week, the Netherlands (29 hours), sits at #6 on the WHR.

No matter how you slice it, the data reveals that there's really very little correlation between how much you work and your overall level of happiness. That's because, while your work of course does influence your life, there's a lot more to happiness than going to or staying away from the office. The WHR points out some of the factors they take into consideration in rankings, for example. The happiest countries support all six elements that support wellbeing (income, healthy life expectancy, social support, freedom, trust and generosity).

"a ranking of countries according to the happiness of their immigrant populations is almost exactly the same as for the rest of the population. [...] The closeness of the two rankings shows that the happiness of immigrants depends predominantly on the quality of life where they now live, illustrating a general pattern of convergence. Happiness can change, and does change, according to the quality of the society in which people live. Immigrant happiness, like that of the locally born, depends on a range of features of the social fabric, extending far beyond the higher incomes traditionally thought to inspire and reward migration. The countries with the happiest immigrants are not the richest countries, but instead the countries with a more balanced set of social and institutional supports for better lives."

So here's the bottom line for you as an entrepreneur or leader: It's not really how much you're working, but why and how. It's context. You can be miserable working 20 hours a week if you're in crappy conditions, or you can be ecstatic working 80 hours because you've got great circumstances. And as your company expands and changes, you should be highly aware that reducing or increasing hours isn't a universal way to boost morale.

 

婚姻改變性格

How Marriage Changes Your Personality

Source: ProWeddingStudio/Shutterstock

It’s often said that married couples grow more alike over the years. But can marriage really change your personality? New research by University of Georgia psychologist Justin Lavner and his colleagues shows that people’s personalities do change, in predictable ways, within the first year and a half after tying the knot.

1. Openness. How open you are to new experiences. If you’re high in openness, you like trying new things. If you’re low in openness, you’re more comfortable with what’s familiar.

2. Conscientiousness. How dependable and orderly you are. If you’re high in conscientiousness, you like to be punctual and keep your living and working spaces tidy. If you’re low in conscientiousness, you don’t get uptight about deadlines, and you’re comfortable in your cluttered environment.

3. Extraversion. How outgoing you are. If you’re high in extraversion, you like socializing with lots of other people. If you’re low in extraversion (that is, introverted), you like having time to yourself.

4. Agreeableness. How well you get along with others. If you’re high in agreeableness, you’re easygoing and happy doing what everyone else is doing. If you’re low in agreeableness, you’ve got to have things your way, no matter what the rest of us want.

5. Neuroticism. How emotionally stable you are. If you’re high in neuroticism, you experience big mood swings and can be quite temperamental. If you’re low in neuroticism, your mood is relatively stable, and you live your life on an even keel.

When the researchers analyzed the data after 18 months of marriage, they found the following trends in personality change among the husbands and wives:

    Openness. Wives showed decreases in openness. Perhaps this change reflects their acceptance of the routines of marriage.

    Conscientiousness. Husbands increased significantly in conscientiousness, whereas wives stayed the same. The researchers noted that women tend to be higher in conscientiousness than men, and this was the case with the husbands and wives in this study. The increase in conscientiousness for men probably reflects their learning the importance of being dependable and responsible in marriage.

    Extraversion. Husbands became more introverted (lower in extraversion) over the first year and a half of marriage. Other research has shown that married couples tend to restrict their social networks compared to when they were single. This drop in extraversion probably reflects that trend.

    Agreeableness. Both husbands and wives became less agreeable over the course of the study, but this downward trend is especially noticeable for the wives. In general, women tend to be more agreeable than men. This data suggests that these wives were learning to assert themselves more during the early years of marriage.

    Neuroticism. Husbands showed a slight (but not statistically significant) increase in emotional stability. The wives showed a much greater one. In general, women tend to report higher levels of neuroticism (or emotional instability) than men. It’s easy to speculate that the commitment of marriage had a positive effect on the wives’ emotional stability.

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