週四 (4/27)1.人生要做”痛”的事 2."年金"打破你的頭!

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人生要做”痛”的事

How Your Hardships Can Make You Better, Not Bitter   consciousmagazine.co

By Sarah Beauchemin

Suffering is part of the human condition. No one escapes this life untouched by pain and heartache. Hardships, when they happen, often arise out of the blue and can plague us for what seems like forever. It’s easy to get dragged into the undertow of resentment.

But a world that’s connected by bitter people is not a world that’s connected at all. When we stew in our own sense of injustice, we can’t see outside ourselves. We can’t feel empathy for others. We can’t truly care about others. And we definitely can’t induce change.

Which is why it’s so important to understand that your hardships can and will make you a better person. You will emerge stronger and happier than you ever imagined, by believing in a few important points.

01 | HARDSHIPS HAPPEN FOR A REASON

Though clichéd, it’s true: everything happens for a reason. Those reasons lead us to better things. But in the midst of a downward spiral, we lack perspective, something that’s very dangerous because it’s a bitterness trap. One way to regain perspective is to take inventory of the hardships in your life thus far and list the positive outcomes of each. Try to remember how long those results took to emerge; this will help remind you that hardships -- like anything else -- are a process, but they do have an end.

02 | HARDSHIPS BRING YOU CLOSER TO WHERE YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BE

Many of us were raised by parents of a very different generation. They believed that success was reached by choosing a path and committing to it – forever. Hardships remind us that this is far from true, by showing up when we’ve gone too far down the wrong path. They urge us to turn left instead of right at the next fork in the road.

What’s more, they strengthen us by forcing us to let go of the stuff that weakens us. It’s simple: we can’t grow until we cut the rope. There comes a time when our tribulations' bitterness and resentment will no longer serve a purpose. Identify the parts of your life most affected by your hardship. Which areas were you most unhappy with? How has your struggle freed you from having to live those out any longer?

03 | HARDSHIPS CHANGE THE WORLD FOR THE BETTER

Remember that world-changing memoir written by the guy who never revealed any of his personal struggles? Me neither. Inspiration is rooted in hardship, and from it flourishes happiness. Some of the most powerful influencers of good have gone through the roughest, lowest ordeals. Tales of overcoming adversity create powerful human networks. When we come to see one another for the amazing, resilient beings we are, we start to truly believe change is possible.

Hardships are agonizing. But it’s how we choose to deal with them that will transform our pain into growth. By recognizing the positive impacts of our struggles, we become stronger, more capable agents of change. We become the path towards better, leaving the bitter behind.

Q:

How to deal with your hardships?

Does enduring hardship can make you better and stronger?

Is life a constant struggle?

What are the tips to help you overcome struggles?

Do you agree the saying that “everything happens for a reason”?

How to inspire yourself?

Is change always a good thing?

How to live a more meaningful life?

"年金"打破你的頭!

Pension protesters vs. Tsai administration       chinapost.com.tw

President Tsai Ing-wen said violence "would not slow the pace of reform," after protesters outside the Legislative Yuan physically attacked lawmakers prior to a review of two pension reform bills.

Protesters, many of whom camped out on the streets Tuesday night, criticized the government's use of barbed wire to barricade the Legislative Yuan.

Several demonstrators attacked lawmakers entering the Legislature for the committee review of the two pension reform bills. The protesters also clashed with members of the media, with a news vehicle's windshield was smashed in the melee.

Government officials attending other legislative committee meetings were also physically confronted by the demonstrators, despite a heavy police presence.

Tsai said the violence would "most definitely" be subject to police investigation.

She urged those out on the streets to remain rational and calm, imploring the demonstrators to "give the country a chance ... (and) give the next generation a chance."

Tsai said "irrational action" would not earn the demonstrators public support, adding that the intentional fanning of conflicts would not obstruct the government's determination to carry out reform.

          The president said the issue at hand had already been fully discussed in public forums, citing the work of the pension reform committee, as well as regional and national conferences and public hearings.

"In my capacity as president, I offer a word of thanks to the civil servants," Tsai said, adding that their understanding had given the pension reform effort some space to be carried out.

She added that the reform would also give the next generation of civil servants hope for the future.

Q:

What do you think about the pension reform issue?

Do you think the retired civil servants get too much money as pension?

What are your opinion about pension protesters attacked lawmakers physically?

What do you think street demonstrations in Taiwan?

How to "give this country a chance? How to give the next generation a chance?

Do you think that the next generation in Taiwan has bright future?

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週二(5/2)1.快樂的人賺較多錢?2.組合型職業?

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快樂的人賺較多錢?

Why Happy People Earn More Money   huffingtonpost.com

Do you want to boost your happiness in order to perform better at work and increase your personal wealth? If so, you need to get a better idea of why happy people are able to earn more money — here are six reasons:

Happy People Take an Optimistic Approach

Employees who are happy tend to earn more money because their optimistic approach makes them more open to opportunity and new experiences, said Lynda Spiegel, a human resources professional and founder of career coaching and resume writing service Rising Star Resumes.

“They are willing to accept challenges and take risks, both of which are predictors of greater earning opportunity,” she said. And, they view bad decisions as a learning opportunity rather than a personal failure, she added.

Happy People Have Fewer Sick Days

Happiness might play a role in overall well-being. Happy employees tend to spend more time working and less time out of the office on sick leave. According to research published in Illinois Wesleyan University’s “The Park Place Economist,” happy employees stay home 15 fewer days a year, on average, than unhappy workers — and live up to 10 years longer.

Happy People Are More Productive

Researchers at the University of Warwick in Coventry, England, found a link between happiness and productivity. In their paper “Happiness and Productivity,” economics professors Andrew Oswald, Eugenio Proto and Daniel Sgroi write that randomly selected individuals who were made to feel happier had up to 12 percent greater productivity than those who were not.

Being productive at work has obvious benefits. If your boss notices your productivity, it puts you in better position for a promotion and salary increase.

Happy People Get Better Performance Reviews

“Happiness is contagious,” said Idowu Koyenikan, author of “Wealth for All Africans” and principal consultant at Grandeur Touch, a business strategy and human resources consulting firm. “It rubs off on your coworkers and, most importantly, your customers.” For this reason, happy people tend to get better performance reviews, which typically lead to higher pay, he said.

Happy People Invest in Themselves

Happy people earn more because they are always improving themselves by learning more, exercising and investing in their future, said Elle Kaplan, CEO and founder of investment firm LexION Capital.

And investing in yourself can boost happiness as well. “I’ve noticed that my clients are generally happier overall when they invest,” said Kaplan. “This is because investing in yourself is one of the best things you can do for yourself,” she said.

Q:

Do you want to boost your happiness in order to perform better at work and increase your personal wealth? Why happy people earn more money?

How to boost your happiness levels?

How to open yourself to opportunities and new experiences?

Why happy people living longer?

How to invest in yourself?

How to get higher pay?

組合型職業?

Portfolio Careers: a Trend That's Here to Stay!     
 | Jobs.ca   Audrey Neveu  

Accountant, writer, lecturer, or professor: we can be all of these at once. More and more workers aspire to having a multifaceted career, several jobs or positions, at once. Called a “portfolio careers”, it is gaining in popularity. Companies wanting to take advantage of the talents of these multi-tasking workers will have to learn to adapt to it.

Though quite demanding, and not made for everyone, the portfolio-career trend is ideal to fulfill someone’s different career aspirations. Some people are content with devoting themselves to their full-time job, but others wish to pursue several goals at once.

This could take the form of a full-time job with perks, or even a mix of part-time, temporary, and contract jobs, etc. For example, a computer specialist can teach programming at a local CEGEP, while giving conferences in their area. An accountant can satisfy their thirst for creativity by running a small jewellery business part-time. According to Marci Alboher, author of the book, One Person/Multiple Careers, many workers make one of their occupations their main source of income, around which their secondary activities gravitate.

A Rapidly-Changing Job Market

While the job market is undergoing major changes, the portfolio-career trend is set to take off. According to a PricewaterhouseCoopers survey among nearly 10,000 people in China, India, Germany, the United Kingdom and the United States, the greatest wish of 29% of those polled is to take control of their career. Two out of five believe that the traditional job, in which one climbs a company ladder during decades, will soon disappear. Instead, workers will have their own personal brand and sell their skills to those who need them.

This view is shared by human resource professionals, according to another PwC survey conducted among some 480 of them. Forty-six percent of these HR professionals believe that in 2022, at least 20% of the salary mass will be made up of contract workers and temporary employees.

Q:

Do you think that portfolio careers is a trend?

Is multi-tasking workers a good idea?

Are you content with yourself to your full-time job?

Why some workers aspire to having several jobs or positions, at once? 

How to climb a company ladder in a short cut?

How to learn skills to you need?

What are your opinion about a rapidly-changing job market?

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週日(4/23)1.抱怨與健康2.愛情與麵包 下午4:30--6:30

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抱怨與健康

Why Complaining is Bad for Your Health (naturalhealingnews.com)

Though it is alright to complain occasionally, one must not let it become a habit. The following Buzzle write-up points out some of the ill-effects of complaining on one's health.

Complaining not only ruins everybody else's day, it ruins the complainer's day, too. The more we complain, the more unhappy we get.

Why Do We Complain?

There are times when nothing seems to be working in our favor. We may use complaining as a coping mechanism when we are genuinely unhappy. However, there are times when we don't put in our best foot forward, and just want things to work our way. We may try to cover for our failings by complaining about the unfairness of it all. These are expressive complaints where the complainer just wants to vent out his/her feelings, with no real intention of solving the problem. The complainer wants to release the pent-up frustration or anger, and expects sympathy and acknowledgment from the listeners. At times, complaints might be instrumental in nature, and might be directed at someone with an objective in mind.

Sometimes, we use complaints as a conversation starter. Conversations that start with a complaint often have a domino effect. Complaining can be contagious. It may cause the listener to include his/her complaints in the conversation as well. Though this may make you feel better, as you may think that you are not the only one facing problems, you are not really looking for solutions. When you are always focusing on the negative, it can become extremely difficult to think about the positive. Those who complain are less likely to enjoy life, whereas people who focus on the positive aspects of life are more likely to have a better social life.

Complaining is also very contagious. It spreads, and it brings others around you down. You’ve heard them — the people who go on and on about their parent, spouse, sibling, neighbor, friend or boss who never stops complaining.

One of the most noticeable examples of contagious complaining is regarding the economy. We can kvetch to our hearts’ content about the current state of the national and global economy, or we can look at it from as many angles as possible and try to determine how to change what’s not working at home (in our own personal economy). The first option allows us to hold a pity party, complete with “poor-me” party hats and “blame-them” noisemakers. The second option enables us to become proactive and powerful within our own microcosm. It also creates room for abundance to enter our lives.

We’ve heard the classic question: Is the glass half full or half empty? In reality, it’s both at the same time. Some people look at the glass and spin the story of how it’s half full; others look at the same glass and spin the story of how it’s half empty. The truth is that it’s just a glass of water — how we perceive it is up to us.

If we want to complain, there will always be things to complain about. If we want to rejoice, there will always be things to rejoice about. The beauty is that the choice is up to us.

Questions:1. Why do people complain? What do you complain most about?
How to stop complaining?

2. Listing things that employee complaints? Ways to complain less and be happier?

3. Is it a good idea that using complaining as a coping mechanism when you are unhappy? Does complaining relieve stress or make things worse?

4. Do you complain to about your job/ salary? How to react to low salary?

5. Are you the glass half full person or the half empty person?

The difference between happy & unhappy people?

6. Are you satisfied with your life? Do you think it’s fair?

Have you ever complained the government policy?

7. Are you easily satisfied with your job?

What to do if you hate your job?

8. How to deal with people who always complain?

               

愛情與麵包

How do you do? Love or Bread? (oveelva24.blogspot.tw)
       Love or bread, which one is important? Young people tend to choose love. However, when time passes, they may prefer bread. This question can always initiate a long and minute argument, while it never seems able to draw to a conclusion.

        There are some reasons for young people to choose love. They think bread is just material, and what matters most is heart. Bread cannot buy time, happiness, and especially the person who you want for the rest of your life. If the person is poor, as long as he is willing to work hard, will he stay poor forever? Nothing is impossible when you are with the one you love so much. Without love, even if you have all the money in the world, you would not be able to enjoy it. Moreover, love is an emotion supporting our life. When you lose the person or the thing that you regard as the most precious, it is so miserable. You can overcome all bad feelings when you are with your lover, even when you are in different places. Just knowing that you love, and are loved, and then it can make all the differences. They think to find a true soul mate is more important than to find bread.

        However, sadly to say, bread is the staff of life. Real life is a direct pressure, and it is said that poverty makes a couple pessimistic. Money cannot do everything, but you can do nothing without it. When you have trouble in daily life, will you still only think of love? No matter how steady the love is, it will finally be defeated by reality. For example, as a mother of three children, putting food on the table and providing a roof over the lovely babies are very important. Hence, it is true that love is important, but bread is far more important than love.

        You may first recognize what you truly want. Seriously, I believe that there is a need for both love and bread. Isn’t it because of the love for your family that you want to survive and bring home the bread?

Quesdtions:

1. Love or bread, which one is important?

2. What do you think is more important in life: love or money?

Do you think that love can last forever?

3. Can you survive without money? How to live without money

Can you survive without love? How to live without love?

4. Can money buy love? Prove?

5. How to know if you’re girlfriend/boyfriend likes you for money and popularity?

6. Would you choose to be married into extreme wealthy family or ordinary family?
How to marry a billionaire?

7. Should you break up with him or her for financial reasons?
Do you still love you lover if he or she go bankrupt?

8. Do women look down on men who earn less than they do?

 想要變得完全不快樂，沒有比抱怨更好的方法。

──Gil Friedman

文．吳淡如
康健雜誌 14期

「這裡也塞，那裡也塞，都是市政府無能，交通變成這個樣子……，」打從一上車開始，這位司機就開始喋喋不休的抱怨，也不時緊急剎車，好像在測驗我的平衡感好不好。就在我驚魂未定時，他鑽進了一條單行道，逆向行駛。
「這……這是單行道，」我以為他沒有看到指標，小心提醒他。然後，很坦然的闖過一個紅燈……。「我經驗老到啦，這裡沒有照相，也沒有警察，沒關係……」他老神在在的說。
下車後的我發了一晌呆，站在馬路旁思考他的邏輯……，如果他有邏輯的話，他的推理方式應該是：
一切都是他們的錯，我跟他們一起生活，他們犯錯，導致我不得不跟著犯錯。
「這個工作真不是人做的。」和一位老朋友偶遇。他不知不覺談起他充滿鬥爭的工作環境，剝削勞工的「變態」老板，以及個性扭曲、沒一個值得信任的同事，有時縐著眉頭，有時無奈苦笑──從一個旁聽者看來，他講得很投入，很有樂在其中的意味。
但是，他可能忘記了，他所說的事情，我已經聽過好幾遍了。每一次遇見他，他就老調重彈，好像除了他的工作，沒有別的話題。

屈指一算，他在那個「不是人待的工作」也待了八年啦。「既然那麼難待，為什麼不換工作？」幾年前，我問過有碩士學位的他。
又惹來一堆抱怨，說工作不好找，我不知民間疾苦。
另一種「休閒活動」
後來我了解，他只是想抱怨而已。抱怨，變成他工作之外的「休閒活動」。對他來說，或許很有趣，對重覆聽抱怨的人而言，真的需要一點耐力。
「我們家的小孩都很不喜歡回家，」有個平日相當樂觀、有活力的女孩在中秋節前夕對我說，「一到了要團圓的日子，我的頭就開始痛。因為，父母會希望我們這些在外頭工作的小孩都回去，但是，每次回去，都讓我不知如何是好。我的祖父母會在我媽看不到的時候對我抱怨我媽，我媽在我祖父母和我爸看不到抱怨我祖母和我爸，我爸在我面前抱怨政府，如果我們有人沒回去，他們就一起抱怨那個人……。搞得我真不知道如何是好，這種情況從我小時候就開始了。」
我想，她的運氣不算壞，生在一個「抱怨家族」，她算是出淤泥而不染了。不過，那種「有家不想回」的痛苦，真不是常人所能體會。
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任何一個怨天尤人的人，總企圖找到認同他想法的傢伙。用負面方式尋找認同，大概可以使他們深覺自己因抱怨而出眾，因痛苦而偉大。

有次在我的網站上也看到一個署名努力想活得快樂的人的留話，大意是說他努力想讓自己活得快樂，但政府昏庸，官員蹣跚，交通混亂，人事複雜，地球上天災人禍不斷發生。在他看來，世界上快樂的人都是因為無知膚淺和不知民間疾苦。
看樣子他一定要等到世界變成天堂，他才願意快樂。
或許世界變成天堂，他又會抱怨活得太無聊，生命沒有意義。
我一向不喜歡那些「我活得不好，所以也要企圖讓大家不要太好過」的人，蓄意散播陰暗面的人，心態中未免都有些「己溺人溺」的卑鄙意圖，因而不願意給他回函。不快樂是他的權利，他有權利選擇，但內在選擇往快樂的路或往不快樂的路上走，是我們的自由。
喏，抱怨自然有它的「好處」，因為怪別人很容易，隨時隨地可以找到可以抱怨的地方。不想讀書可以怪老師教得差，人際關係不好可以怪大家不了解你，吃得太胖可以怪媽媽或老婆煮得東西太營養，同事高升可以怪老闆偏心，受殘破的婚姻折磨半輩子是因為傳統壓力，而自己升了職可以怪老板故意加重自己的工作，中了統一發票也可以抱怨自己還要繳獎金稅。
唉，我還聽過一位想當偉大小說家卻從沒寫出任何東西出來的人抱怨，自己沒生在大時代，沒有戰亂，沒有流離顛沛，所以沒有靈感。

跟人生玩捉迷藏？
如果我們的情緒像一間屋子，那麼，抱怨就像蟑螂和螞蟻一樣，如果你不肯清除它們，它們就會出現在每一個你不想看到的地方。若你再不加以阻止，他們還會用一種近乎細菌增殖的速度增生，終有一天，你會覺得，沒看到幾隻蟑螂螞蟻，怎麼會有點怪怪的。
有些人，靠抱怨來引人注意，或獲得同情。有些人，為抱怨漆上「建設性批評」金漆。
有人還拿抱怨當溝通。沒有建設性、不肯做一點內省的溝通，其實只是化了粧易了容的抱怨。為什麼你想溝通，而另一半總是面有懼色？問題就在這裡。
無論如何，抱怨是負面效應。愈抱怨，就會發現值得抱怨的事情愈來愈多。愈花時間抱怨，愈少時間改良。一肚子怨氣的人，總是散發著一種天怒人怨的氣質。會讓你覺得，跟他相處，老是有一塊黑壓壓的雲鎮住你的大好晴天，離開他，周遭慢慢回到太平盛世。這樣的人，恐怕還會不知不覺的花時間抱怨自己人緣不好呢。
一般人會認為，抱怨是一種發洩的方式，出出氣，有益健康，我可不這麼想。每個人都曾抱怨過某些人，某些事，但如果抱怨的內容經年累月不斷的重覆，那麼，就是自己有問題，而且不肯面對問題，只是企圖用抱怨來挪掉正視問題的眼光。抱怨有時只是一種障眼法，拖延時間，讓你和自己所要的人生玩捉迷藏遊戲。
我們應當建立一種自覺：抱怨一個問題超過三次，那意味著，我們必須找到問題所在。如果讓你不快樂的問題大到無法改善，問題絕對不存在於你抱怨的地方，不在外頭，只在心裡面。
   以前,我也是個常常愛抱怨的人,覺得都是別人不好別人的錯,千錯萬錯我沒錯.....
身邊也不少朋友像文章裡頭寫到的一樣,時常在抱怨東抱怨西的
也真的不外乎,工作、感情、家人朋友等等....
我的覺得抱怨是很正常的行為,人人都會有的~
但是久了覺得抱怨好像真的不會比較好耶,而且並不是每個朋友、同學及同事都很喜歡聽這些東西
聽久了,也會覺得反正你就是個愛抱怨的人,反而應該是你自己有問題,可憐之人必有可恨之處,這句話是有它的道理~
真的應該學學老莊的清靜無為,有些東西該計較而且要斤斤計較,有些就 Let it be吧~
畢竟人不可能完美的,是吧?
不囉哩叭唆下來,真的比較輕鬆,也比較樂活~
所以孔子說:「四十而不惑，五十而知天命，六十而耳順，七十 而從心所欲，不踰矩。」
可能也有它的道理,要等到四十歲以後有些東西才會看的比較開吧~(也可能已經認命了....)
真的不要拿抱怨來疲累別人也傷害自己~   

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My Egg Boy

A 32 years old single woman longs for love. An 183 days old frozen egg longs to be born. She fights flat out to look for a right man, or at least, a right sperm. Stored in liquid nitrogen,he eagerly waits to be born every day. They are each other's closest companion, and they are waiting for a chance of life. She falls in love with a man and goes to Nordic with this guy to make sure that he is the right person - - He falls in love with a frozen sperm and wishes to give her a big real hug one day. Can he be born? Will her love be a happy ending?

The REAL reason why women are freezing their eggs    dailymail.co.uk

    More women than ever are freezing their eggs as part of 'lifestyle choice'

    It has previously been blamed on busy women putting their careers first

    New research suggests women throw themselves into it as a distraction

    Suggests they are unwilling to settle for anything but the perfect father

They are often portrayed as hard-hearted individuals who are putting motherhood on hold in order to climb the career ladder.

But women who freeze their eggs are actually waiting for a man who is perfect father material to come along.

Researcher Kylie Baldwin, who asked a group of women why they froze their eggs, said: 'I think they were looking for a hands-on father.

'And it was the absence of this particular type of potential father, not just the absence of any partner, that led them to freeze the eggs.

Egg freezing was introduced to give cancer patients the possibility of still having children but it is becoming increasingly common for lifestyle reasons

'It's not just about not having the right partner, it's about having the right dad for their child.'

Interestingly, some of the women were in a relationships – but froze their eggs because they didn't believe their partner was father material and were hoping someone better would come along.

Egg freezing was introduced to give cancer patients who face the risk of being left infertile by their treatment the possibility of still having children later in life.

But it is becoming increasingly common for lifestyle reasons and business is booming.

Q:

“When a woman is in a dilemma between love and career’ how to make chose?

Dose love always has a happy ending?

How to make sure that he or she is the right person for you?

What are the reasons that why women are freezing their eggs?

Why many women that they are unwilling to settle?

Do you think that mordent life make us change our 'lifestyle choice'?

How to find an ideal lover?

視整個宇宙、為自己的老師

Learn from Every Experience You Have Ever Had          By Harrison Barnes

One of the greatest things you can do for yourself is to learn from every single experience you have ever had. Each and every day you are having experiences, and you choose what to do with them. The wisest people are the ones who see every experience as an opportunity to learn. Smart people can transform even the smallest experiences into lessons that drive them to become better at everything they undertake in the future. You, too, can learn from your experiences and, in so doing, benefit tremendously.

In every experience, there are things that did and did not work for you. Your objective is to learn from what happened. The more you learn from your experiences, the more effective you will be at whatever you do in your career and life.

Three Masters!         moralstories26.com

Best Moral Stories for Ways to Learn in Life Once there was a great Sufi saint. In his last days, someone asked him about his master.

Saint said, “I had thousands and thousands of masters and if i even try to tell you about each of them, it will take months or years and it is too late for that. But since you asked i will certainly tell you about three master..”

# Among three of them One master was a Thief.

Once while wandering around in a desert i got lost and till i found a way and reached village it was too late. Everything was closed and there was no one outside.

At last i found a man who was trying to make hole in a wall. I went to ward him asked him if i could find a place to stay. He replied to that it will be difficult to find a place to stay at this time of night but you cans tay with me, if its ok with you to stay with a thief. I stayed with him for a month.

Each night he would say me that, “I am going to work. You can rest and pray.”

When he came back i would ask him, “Did you get anything today?”

He would reply, “No not tonight but tomorrow i will try again. God Willing.”

Even after daily disappointment he never lost hope and he was always happy.

When i was meditating for years and still nothing changed, many moments came where i would get so desperate and hopeless that i thought of leaving all this and then suddenly i would remember words of that thief that, “God willing, Tomorrow it is going to happen. ”

# Second master was a Dog

Once i was going along side of a river, there i saw a dog who was very thirsty. I saw that as dog looked into river to drink water, it saw his own image and got afraid. Seeing his own reflection dog barked and ran away. But because dog was too thirsty he would come back. This happened many time but finally despite his fear, dog jumped into water.

Seeing this i knew that it was a message from God. It means that one has to go forward despite all of his fears.

# Third master was Little boy

As i entered a town i saw a little kid carrying a lit candle in his hands.

I asked him, “Have you lit this candle yourself? ”

He replied, “Yes sir.”

I said, “There was time when candle was not lit and when it was lit but can you show me the source from which light came?”

Boy laughed and blew out the candle and said ,”You have seen light go? can you tell me where it had gone?? ”

Boy continued, “Ok, i will tell you it had gone to the same place where it emerged. It had returned to the source.”

This shattered my ego and at that moment i felt how stupid i was. And since then i just dropped all my Knowledge-ability.

I had no master but this doesn’t means that i was not a disciple. I accepted this whole universe, whole existence as my master.

Q:

How to learn from experiences?

Where can you gaining opportunities to learn?

What your past experience taught you?

Can we learn something from strangers?

What are the benefits of learning new things?

What to do when feel hopeless?

Can you learn something from a thief, little boy

or a dog?

曾經有一位偉大的蘇菲派（伊斯蘭神秘主義派別的總稱）聖人。在他生命快結束時，有人讓他說說他的老師。聖人說：“既然你問了，我就給你講講我的三位老師。”

這三個人中有一個是小偷。

曾經有一次我在沙漠中迷路了，後來我找到一條路，走到村子時已經很晚了。所有店門都關了，外面一個人都沒有。最後我發現有一個人正在牆上挖洞，我問他我能否找到一個歇腳的地方，他說這麼晚了很難找到待的地方，但如果我願意和小偷待在一起的話我可以和他一起。然後我和他一起待了一個月。

每天晚上他都跟我說：“我要去工作了，你可以休息祈禱。”他回來時我會問他：“你今天有收穫嗎？”他回答說：“今晚沒有收穫，但明天我會再試試，上天保佑。”甚至在每天都很失望的時候，他也從未失去希望，總是很開心。

我冥想好多年仍沒進展時，有好多次我都很絕望，看不到一絲希望，我想過要放棄所有，但我會突然想起那個小偷的話：“上天保佑，明天夢想就能實現。”

第二位老師是一隻狗

有一次我沿著河邊走，看見一隻狗很渴。每次這只狗看向水裡想要喝水時，它都會看見自己的倒影，很害怕。看著自己的倒影狗就叫著跑開。但它實在太渴了，還得回來。這樣重複了好多次，但最終雖然仍然恐懼，但它跳進了河裡。

看到這些，我知道了這是上帝的暗示，意思是一個人要戰勝所有恐懼勇往直前。

第三位老師是一個小男孩

我走進一個小鎮時看到一個小孩兒手裡拿著一支點燃的蠟燭。我問他：“這支蠟燭是你自己點的嗎？”他說：“是的，先生。”我說：“有時蠟燭不亮，有時卻亮，你能告訴我光亮是從哪裡來的嗎？”小男孩笑著把蠟燭吹滅了，說：“你看見光亮消失了吧？你能告訴我它去哪兒了嗎？”

小男孩繼續說道：“好吧，我告訴你它回到了來的地方。”我的自負蕩然無存，那時我想自己多愚蠢啊。從那時起，我放下了自己所有的小聰明。

我沒有老師，但這不代表我沒有在學習。我把整個宇宙、所有存在都視為自己的老師。

道理：在這個世界上，有很多東西值得學習，你可以從很多事情上學到東西。你要找到自己的老師，學會如何去學習。

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