Why Complaining is Bad for Your Health (naturalhealingnews.com)
Though it is alright to complain occasionally, one must not let it become a habit. The following Buzzle write-up points out some of the ill-effects of complaining on one's health.
Complaining not only ruins everybody else's day, it ruins the complainer's day, too. The more we complain, the more unhappy we get.
Why Do We Complain?
There are times when nothing seems to be working in our favor. We may use complaining as a coping mechanism when we are genuinely unhappy. However, there are times when we don't put in our best foot forward, and just want things to work our way. We may try to cover for our failings by complaining about the unfairness of it all. These are expressive complaints where the complainer just wants to vent out his/her feelings, with no real intention of solving the problem. The complainer wants to release the pent-up frustration or anger, and expects sympathy and acknowledgment from the listeners. At times, complaints might be instrumental in nature, and might be directed at someone with an objective in mind.
Sometimes, we use complaints as a conversation starter. Conversations that start with a complaint often have a domino effect. Complaining can be contagious. It may cause the listener to include his/her complaints in the conversation as well. Though this may make you feel better, as you may think that you are not the only one facing problems, you are not really looking for solutions. When you are always focusing on the negative, it can become extremely difficult to think about the positive. Those who complain are less likely to enjoy life, whereas people who focus on the positive aspects of life are more likely to have a better social life.
Complaining is also very contagious. It spreads, and it brings others around you down. You’ve heard them — the people who go on and on about their parent, spouse, sibling, neighbor, friend or boss who never stops complaining.
One of the most noticeable examples of contagious complaining is regarding the economy. We can kvetch to our hearts’ content about the current state of the national and global economy, or we can look at it from as many angles as possible and try to determine how to change what’s not working at home (in our own personal economy). The first option allows us to hold a pity party, complete with “poor-me” party hats and “blame-them” noisemakers. The second option enables us to become proactive and powerful within our own microcosm. It also creates room for abundance to enter our lives.
We’ve heard the classic question: Is the glass half full or half empty? In reality, it’s both at the same time. Some people look at the glass and spin the story of how it’s half full; others look at the same glass and spin the story of how it’s half empty. The truth is that it’s just a glass of water — how we perceive it is up to us.
If we want to complain, there will always be things to complain about. If we want to rejoice, there will always be things to rejoice about. The beauty is that the choice is up to us.
Questions:1. Why do people complain? What do you complain most about? How to stop complaining?
2. Listing things that employee complaints? Ways to complain less and be happier?
3. Is it a good idea that using complaining as a coping mechanism when you are unhappy? Does complaining relieve stress or make things worse?
4. Do you complain to about your job/ salary? How to react to low salary?
5. Are you the glass half full person or the half empty person?
The difference between happy & unhappy people?
6. Are you satisfied with your life? Do you think it’s fair?
Have you ever complained the government policy?
7. Are you easily satisfied with your job?
What to do if you hate your job?
8. How to deal with people who always complain?
愛情與麵包
How do you do? Love or Bread? (oveelva24.blogspot.tw) Love or bread, which one is important? Young people tend to choose love. However, when time passes, they may prefer bread. This question can always initiate a long and minute argument, while it never seems able to draw to a conclusion.
There are some reasons for young people to choose love. They think bread is just material, and what matters most is heart. Bread cannot buy time, happiness, and especially the person who you want for the rest of your life. If the person is poor, as long as he is willing to work hard, will he stay poor forever? Nothing is impossible when you are with the one you love so much. Without love, even if you have all the money in the world, you would not be able to enjoy it. Moreover, love is an emotion supporting our life. When you lose the person or the thing that you regard as the most precious, it is so miserable. You can overcome all bad feelings when you are with your lover, even when you are in different places. Just knowing that you love, and are loved, and then it can make all the differences. They think to find a true soul mate is more important than to find bread.
However, sadly to say, bread is the staff of life. Real life is a direct pressure, and it is said that poverty makes a couple pessimistic. Money cannot do everything, but you can do nothing without it. When you have trouble in daily life, will you still only think of love? No matter how steady the love is, it will finally be defeated by reality. For example, as a mother of three children, putting food on the table and providing a roof over the lovely babies are very important. Hence, it is true that love is important, but bread is far more important than love.
You may first recognize what you truly want. Seriously, I believe that there is a need for both love and bread. Isn’t it because of the love for your family that you want to survive and bring home the bread?
Quesdtions:
1. Love or bread, which one is important?
2. What do you think is more important in life: love or money?
Do you think that love can last forever?
3. Can you survive without money? How to live without money
Can you survive without love? How to live without love?
4. Can money buy love? Prove?
5. How to know if you’re girlfriend/boyfriend likes you for money and popularity?
6. Would you choose to be married into extreme wealthy family or ordinary family? How to marry a billionaire?
7. Should you break up with him or her for financial reasons? Do you still love you lover if he or she go bankrupt?
8. Do women look down on men who earn less than they do?
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