周五(11/29) 1. 多元成家/三人行?2.謝罪大王

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1. 多元成家/三人行不行?
最近媒體談論一個熱門話題 "多元成家 "方案    讓Billy想未來同性婚姻如果合法

那麼就是可能男男結婚 或是女女結婚  Billy想有沒有可能是男男男 男女男 或是 女男女結婚
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勿搶先發表 造成本會困擾 謝謝合作) 
Taiwan`s 11th annual LGBT Pride March in Taipei City

TAIPEI, Oct 30 2013 (IPS) - Taiwan could become the first Asian state to legalise same-sex and other “pluralistic“ forms of marriage if a wide-ranging package of changes to the civil code are approved by the national legislature.

Taiwan offers one of Asia`s most progressive environments for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) rights as both male and female same-sex activity are legal. But same-sex couples are deprived of legal protections encoded in the Civil Code for traditional male-female married households.

Why shouldn't three people get married?

Three Brazilians in love have their nation up in arms over whether their relationship, now enshrined in a three-way marriage, is legal. The public notary who conducted their marriage says there's no reason the threesome – or "thruple", as the internet has charmingly labelled it – shouldn't enjoy the same kinds of rights imparted upon two people who get hitched. But traditionalists are not impressed: lawyer Regina Beatriz Tavares da Silva, of the Commission for the Rights of the Family, has it "absurd and totally illegal".

Speaking of absurd, shall we take a moment to consider traditional marriage? We do adore it: in the UK, just under half the population has chosen to pledge to love another person as long as they both shall live, or as long as they don't get divorced. And yet as we shoehorn ourselves into two-by-two formation, we're not that good at keeping our promises: as Helen Croydon has pointed out, breaking the boundaries of monogamy is far from unusual. Plenty of marriages have three people in them. They're just not legal ones.

A good old-fashioned monogamous marriage works beautifully for some. But even the most successful marriages are special and unique and incredibly weird. For much as we have a sweet collective imagining of what a happy union entails, the reality is that they all deviate from the fantasy norm, pretty much from the time that the certificate is signed, the chicken is noshed and the bouquet is chucked. The government can dictate that two people should be in a marriage, but it can't legislate what will make them feel happy or stable or emotionally complete together. And if we accept that, as we do every time we allow anyone the freedom to make a decision about who they'll marry, and furthermore allow them the freedom to call each other by execrable pet names in public, then does it not begin to seem strange, just a bit, that we do allow the government to dictate how many people are allowed to pledge to be together forever? Perhaps even as strange as it is for government to dictate who can do it based on their gender?

 Is it possible that if we allowed more people to marry simultaneously that more marriages might be successful? Fewer breakups over infidelity might occur, for example, if those who found themselves in love with more than one person didn't have to choose or conceal their feelings. And relaxing the expectation that one partner should fulfil all of one's needs – good sex, complementary taste in television and shared preference for dogs over cats may just be too much to ask for – might mean that people who opt for a portfolio of other halves (or thirds) could outdo the rest of us in happiness.)

Questions:

1. Do you support same sex marriage? Should gay marriage be legalized?

2. What are the pros and cons of gay marriage?

3. Why shouldn't three people get married ?

4. Is it possible that if we allowed more people to marry?

5. What should parents do who think their children are gay?

6. What do you think about gay parades?

7. What do you think of seeing two men kissing in public?(or two girls)

            

2.謝罪大王

前一陣子 有部電影"謝罪大王"  有專家教您 如何道歉  各種道歉方法 尤其是男女之間 Billy邀您來聊聊    推薦一下  高明而又不失尊嚴的道歉方法

How to Apologize Appropriately (mindtools)

Step 1: Express Remorse

Every apology needs to start with two magic words: "I'm sorry," or "I apologize." This is essential, because these words express remorse over your actions.

For example, you could say: "I'm sorry that I snapped at you yesterday. I feel embarrassed and ashamed by the way I acted."

Your words need to be sincere and authentic  . Be honest with yourself, and with the other person, about why you want to apologize. Never make an apology when you have ulterior motives, or if you see it as a means to an end.

Timeliness is also important here. Apologize as soon as you realize that you've wronged someone else.

Step 2: Admit Responsibility

Next, admit responsibility for your actions or behavior, and acknowledge what you did.

 

Here, you need to empathize   with the person you wronged, and demonstrate that you understand how you made her feel.

Don't make assumptions – instead, simply try to put yourself in that person's shoes and imagine how she felt.

 

For example: "I know that I hurt your feelings yesterday when I snapped at you. I'm sure this embarrassed you, especially since everyone else on the team was there. I was wrong to treat you like that."

Step 3: Make Amends

When you make amends  , you take action to make the situation right.

Here are two examples:

"If there's anything that I can do to make this up to you, please just ask."

"I realize that I was wrong to doubt your ability to chair our staff meeting. I'd like you to lead the team through tomorrow's meeting to demonstrate your skills."

Think carefully about this step. Token gestures or empty promises will do more harm than good. Because you feel guilty, you might also be tempted to give more than what's appropriate – so be proportionate in what you offer.

 Step 4: Promise That it Won't Happen Again

 

Your last step is to explain that you won't repeat the action or behavior.

 This step is important because you reassure the other person that you're going to change your behavior. This helps you rebuild trust   and repair the relationship.

 

You could say: "From now on, I'm going to manage my stress better, so that I don't snap at you and the rest of the team. And, I want you to call me out if I do this again."

Make sure that you honor this commitment in the days or weeks to come – if you promise to change your behavior, but don't follow through, others will question your reputation and your trustworthiness.

Questions:

1. How to apologize? How to say sorry properly and gracefully?

2. How to apologize to a girl?

3. What are the apologies benefit? If you say sorry?

4. Tips for apologizing to your partner?

5. Do you admit mistakes, when you are wrong?

6. What to do if you make a mistake at work? How to get someone to forgive you?

7. When someone does something wrong or hurts you, do you forgive the person?

8. Do you think it would ruin the relationship if you forget saying sorry?

 

熱門話題－多元成家 更須為孩子考慮   中國時報 林文鈞／新聞學系學生

 　每個人都有愛人及被愛權利，在愛情裡，性別不該是一種阻礙，不管異性或同性戀都該被尊重，同性戀婚姻在某些國家已合法，是目前國際社會一大趨勢。

　多元成家民法修正草案，提出是否要結婚、要和誰結婚，都是基本人權，主張不分性別、性傾向的人都可以結婚，婚姻不是成家的唯一選項，彈性多元的伴侶制度不管是戀人、朋友、親戚（直系血親除外），婚姻制度是兩個家庭的結合，而伴侶制度只著重兩人的結合，也就是說伴侶婚姻的契約只限於伴侶雙方。

　我支持多元成家，但目前多元成家配套方案尚未完善，如：伴侶間不像婚姻制度一般，要雙方協議才可離婚，伴侶制度只要其中一人想結束這個關係，那對方也只能默默接受。伴侶制中的孩子，若家長不負責任地說分就分，不需對彼此負責，最為無辜的就是孩子。婚姻制度裡對另一半不忠，通姦罪是成立的，但若在伴侶制度中，通姦罪卻是不成立，這是否間接代表通姦合法化？

台灣反「多元成家」聯盟：幸福孩子「有爸也有媽」 陳協成 / 基督日報記者 

 每個孩子都是一男一女基因所生。無論是成長心理學還是社會學專家都告訴人們，除了基因外，身心靈健全的孩子，父和母的影響二者皆不可或缺。

 台灣由多個宗教團體組成的愛護家庭大聯盟將於11月30日為下一代的幸福走上凱道舉行大型集會，為孩子爭取「有爸爸和媽媽的家」。

 同運團體近日大力宣傳，謂多元成家是要擴大家的定義，是保護家庭云云。但護家盟明確地向媒體指出：多元成家法案是「毁家廢婚」。

 雖然他們不反對或歧視同性戀，但同運推動的法案則令人無法接受，因為他們所說要為同性戀者爭取的權益實質他們本身已擁有，例如諸如要讓同志戀人能成「手術緊急聯絡人」，實質台灣法律上只要是「同居人士」而不限定是配偶或親屬，都可簽署。

 又例如，現時台灣單身人士可收養小孩，即任何同性戀人士均有領養的機會。

 再諸如，民法規定「雖非親屬而以永久共同生活為目的同居一家者，視為家屬」，事實上同性戀者現時可用信託方法經過律師公證處理同性伴侶的遺產。

 護家盟指出，對於同性戀婚姻帶來的那些權利，現時法律基本絕大部份都能處理，根本不涉及修法的需要。但是一旦修法，家庭的定義將完全被毁掉，得不償失。

 駁同運人士近日大力指宗教人士為自己宗教教義反對同性戀，此論點實為謬誤，因為反對聲音並非單以宗教衡量，焦點更多是探討結婚對國家及社會所帶來的利弊，對公眾及社會作出提醒及警誡。 

謝罪大王

 

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1.性騷擾

Diego Mayor Bob Filner has agreed to resign Aug. 30 after 17 allegations of sexual harassment.

 (CNN) -- So far, 18 women have come forward to say that San Diego Mayor Bob Filner acted inappropriately, with accusations ranging from one woman's claim that the mayor gave her "tush a pat," to another woman's assertion that he "put in me what I guess now is the famous headlock."

-- Sharon Bernie-Cloward: The president of the San Diego Port Tenants Association, Bernie-Cloward claims that when Filner was running for mayor in 2012, he approached her at a political event. "He touched me, actually groped me on my backside inappropriately," Bernie-Cloward told public television station KPBS. "I was left there startled and fearful."

-- Lisa Curtin: Curtin, the director of government and military education at San Diego City College, told KPBS that Filner grabbed her hand, fingered her wedding ring and asked if it was real. She also said he tried to kiss her; she said she moved her head and she felt his tongue on her cheek.

-- Joyce Gattas: A dean at San Diego State University, Gattas told KPBS that she had several "interactions" with Filner "where he's held me too tight, a kiss on the cheek, which is inappropriate, hands on the knee that last too long."

-- Emily Gilbert: Gilbert told CNN that she was hired to sing at a fund-raising event in December. Afterward, she said, the mayor grabbed her, slid his hand down the small of her back and gave her "tush a pat."

-- Patti Roscoe: A prominent businesswoman in San Diego's tourism and hospitality industry, Roscoe told KPBS that on numerous occasions, Filner "put in me what I guess now is the famous headlock ... I felt fearful, even as well as I knew him, because it was an invasion into my space ... And he would come in and try to kiss me on the lips and I'd have to squirm to get away."

not asking you out on a business lunch. I'm asking you out on a date."

 Questions:

1. What is sexual harassment? What do you think of sexual harassment?

2. How do prevent sexual harassment in the workplace?

3. What do you think of sexual harassment - women harassing men?

4. What can an employee do about sexual harassment? Are you dare to standing up to sexual harassment?

5. How to fight sexual harassment on public buses/transportations?

6. What are some examples of sexual harassment? Can you giving examples of sexually harassing behavior?

7. How to handle verbal sexual harassment in the workplace?

2.新聞討論
China air zone 
Japan and S Korea defy China air zone  Japan and South Korea both fly planes unannounced through China's newly-declared air defence zone, officials from both nations say.
Q: what do you think about "China new air zone" ?
Beyond Beauty' prompts gov't action
The Minister of the Research, Development and Evaluation Commission (RDEC), Sung Yu-hsieh (宋餘俠), said yesterday that inspiring documentary “Beyond Beauty: Taiwan From Above,” has prompted the government to assemble a task force, as well as drafting 16 topics of discussion that covers 3 major issues.
Q: what do you think about this documentary film and the  secenryof Taiwan?

Rice firm mislabeled its product 3 times in 3 months, says COA

Chyuan Shun Food Enterprise Co. (泉順食品) was found to have mislabeled its popular rice product Sunsuivi (山水米) three times in less than three months, the Council of Agriculture (COA) said, adding that it will revoke the firm's license should it violate regulations again. 
Q: what do you think about the mislabeled rice products?

Infant's salt overdose deathAuthorities seek 2nd suspect over infant's salt overdose death
Investigators are looking for a second suspect in the death of a 3-month-old infant, after the infant's aunt admitted to having added salt to her niece's formula.
Q: What do you think about this news?
 3.口語練習 講義現場分發

高雄 高先生昨日 來電問到 “高潮迭起” 英文應如何表達  

青年先生 為您提供一點淺見如下:

         

Cliffhanger---高潮迭起 (局勢或劇情)達到最刺激的部分--- A cliffhanger is a situation or part of a play or film that is very exciting or frightening because you are left for a long time not knowing what will happen next.  

 例句:

1. That movie is a real cliffhanger.  那部电影高潮迭起，扣人心弦。

2. The game was a real cliffhanger.  這場比赛真是高潮迭起。
 

3. The election is likely to be a cliff-hanger. 那個選舉可真是高潮迭起。
 

Climax--- (使)接近高潮;(使)達到頂点 The event that climaxes a sequence of events is an exciting or important event that comes at the end. You can also say that a sequence of events climaxes with a particular event. 

 
例句:
 

1. The festival will climax on Sunday with a singing concert.
 

星期天的演唱會將把這次得節慶推向高潮。

 

2. The story works up to a climax as it draws to a close. 
 

故事快到结束時逐漸達到了高潮。

 

3. Climaxes arise repeatedly during the movie. 高潮迭起


 
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2013/11/28

beyond reproach無可指責/ 無可挑剔---not to be criticized These were men of outstanding character who were beyond reproach.

例句:  

1. His conduct has been beyond reproach.       

他的行為無可指責. 
 

2. Bill’s manners are beyond reproach -- I've never met anyone so polite. 

比利的舉止非常得體,無可挑剔, 我從未見過像他那麼彬彬有禮的人. 
 

3. What he has done is utterly beyond reproach.     

他所做的事完全是無可指責
 

4. This stand of ours is beyond reproach.     

我們的這個立場是無可非議的.

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