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週六(7/19)1.為什麼喜歡漂亮事物? 2.失戀療癒
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為什麼喜歡漂亮事物?
The
Attraction of Beauty
We are attracted to beautiful people and
things. We gravitate to what is aesthetically pleasing. This effect is often so
strong that it colours our general perceptions and thoughts about beautiful
people (and products). In other words, we come to believe that beautiful things
are "better" on a number of non-physical levels as well - including
quality, morality, intelligence, etc.
Our general tendency to decide "what
is beautiful is good" was first systematically studied by Dion, Berscheid,
and Walster in 1972. The researchers asked both male and female college
students to look at pictures of men and women who were either good-looking,
average, or below-average. The students were then asked to give their
impression of the individuals' personalities from the photos.
Students' responses to Dion and associates
indicated that the good-looking photographed individuals were indeed seen as
more attractive. In addition, beautiful people were judged by the students to
have more socially desirable personalities. They were also assumed to have
better jobs and be better relationship partners. Later meta-analysis by
Feingold (1992) supports these findings as well. Across numerous studies, he
found that good-looking people were seen as more sociable, dominant, sexually warm,
mentally healthy, intelligent, and socially skilled. (lawsofattraction.com)
失戀療癒
10 steps to heal a broken heart
• ACCEPT THE PAIN
Accept that you will have to go through some pain. It is an unavoidable truth that if you loved enough to be heartbroken, you have to experience some suffering.
When you lose something that mattered to you, it is natural and important to feel sad about it: that feeling is an essential part of the healing process.
The problem with broken-hearted people is that they seem to be reliving their misery over and over again. If you cannot seem to break the cycle of painful memories, the chances are that you are locked into repeating dysfunctional patterns of behaviour. Your pain has become a mental habit. This habit can, and must, be broken.
This is not to belittle the strength of your feelings or the importance of the habits you've built up during your relationship. Without habit, none of us would function. But there comes a time when the pain becomes unhealthy.
When you enter your bedroom at night, you switch on the light without thinking. If you obsess about your ex, and feel unhappy all the time, it's likely that your unconscious mind is 'switching on' your emotions in exactly the same way.
Without realising it, you have programmed yourself to feel a pang of grief every time you hear that tune you danced to, or see your ex's empty chair across the kitchen table.
• CHANGE YOUR HABITS
Now you have to break those connections. Turn off the music that reminds you of your ex. Make your home look and feel different from when your loved one was around. Move the furniture.
Take up a new activity. And keep moving: exercise is the single most effective therapy for depression.
The point of these changes is to break up the old associations and give yourself a new environment for your new life. The changes you make don't have to be permanent. Even if it is just using a different shampoo and deleting your ex's number from the memory of your mobile, change something. Now.
• CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS
The next step is to do the same thing on the inside - transform your habits of thought. In a relationship, we build up a huge array of such habits. When the love affair ends, these patterns can still be running.
To change your thinking habits, you need to understand a little more about them.
Have you ever witnessed the same event as someone else, and later found out their account of it was completely different from yours? Each of you saw the event through a 'frame', made up of your personal beliefs, feelings and internal habits.
If you are finding it devastatingly difficult to handle the end of your relationship, you may need to change this 'frame'. You will need to reframe your heartbreak. Stop seeing it as the end of your happiness. Instead, turn it into a challenge; view it as an opportunity.
Being heartbroken can make you feel worthless and hopeless - but that is because the frame you are using is too narrow. Learning to see your situation with a different frame is a wonderful liberation.
• VIEW YOUR RELATIONSHIP FROM THE OUTSIDE
The following exercise will help you look at your circumstances from different points of view, so you gain helpful insights.
1. Think about the break-up of your relationship. What are the judgments or generalisations you have made about yourself and your ex?
2. Now think of someone you admire - a character from history or a real friend. Imagine they are watching a movie of this part of your life, and step into their shoes to watch it instead. Imagine what their comments would be.
3. Now imagine that a neutral observer is watching the movie of your life. Step into their shoes and watch it from there.
4. Notice the differences that you see from each point of view. Which ones are helpful? Which ones make you feel better? Use these perspectives to view your relationship in a new light.
Part1.
Questions:
Why are people attracted to beautiful
things?
Why we love beautiful things
Why do people love attractive people so
much?
Is being beautiful a good social skill?
Why men are sexually attracted to beautiful
women?
The pros and cons of being an attractive woman/men?
What is your own standard for beauty?
'What does the perfect face look like?
How to be more attractive to men/women?
Men prefer to marry less attractive women
or attractive women?
Part2.
Questions:
Steps to heal a broken heart?
What to do when your girlfriend/boyfriend
dumps you?
How do you gain back your ex-girlfriend
/ex-boyfriend if she left you?
Do you want your girlfriend /boyfriend back
after she dumped you?
What do you do when your girlfriend /boyfriend
cheats on you?
What to do when you feel sad and lonely?
How do you find a new girlfriend/boyfriend?
How to help a friend with a broken heart?
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