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4 Types of Difficult People and How to Deal scienceofpeople.com
We all have someone in our life who drives us nuts! And they are exhausting, frustrating and annoying to deal with—but I have some ways to help.
Here are some ideas for how you can handle the difficult person in your life:
1. Identify the 4 Types
There are 4 different types of difficult people. Think about the person in your life and figure out which category they are in:
Downers are also known as Negative Nancy’s or Debbie Downers. They always have something bad to say. They complain, critique and judge. They are almost impossible to please.
Better Thans are also known as Know It All’s, One Upper’s or Show-Offs. They like to try to impress you, name-drop and compare.
Passives are also known as Push-Overs, Yes Men and Weaklings. They don’t contribute much to conversations or people around them and let others do the hard work.
Tanks are also known as being explosive, a handful or bossy. They want their way and will do anything to get it.
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2. Don’t Try to Change Them
When we meet a difficult person, or if we have one in our family or circle of friends our instinct is to try to change them. We try to encourage Downers to be more positive, Passives to stand up for themselves, Tanks to calm down and Better Thans to be more humble. This never works! In fact, when you try to change someone they tend to resent you, dig in their heels, and get worse.
3. Try to Understand Them
The way to disengage a difficult person is to try to understand where they are coming from. I try to find their value language. A value language is what someone values most. It is what drives their decisions. For some people it is money; for others, it is power or knowledge. This not only helps me understand them, but also helps them relax and become more open minded. For example, sometimes Tanks just want to explain their opinion. If you let them talk to you, that might help them not blow up or try to dominate a situation.
4. Don’t Let Them Be Toxic
Some difficult people can be toxic. Toxic people can be passive aggressive, mean or hurtful. So if you have to deal with them, you can understand where they are coming from and then keep your distance. Toxic relationships are harmful so you need to create a buffer zone by surrounding yourself with good friends, seeing them less and if you have to be with them, do it for the minimum amount of time.
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Women's self-defense classes offered in Taipei following string of murders
Taiwan News
TAIPEI (Taiwan News) -- In response to the recent string of gruesome murders, MOWES (Moving Women Establishment), a community space advocating for female empowerment located in Taipei's Da'an District, had their first self-defense class for women on June 27.
Founder and co-founder of the space, Maja Ho(侯梅婷) and Kai Hsieh (謝鎧安), organized these sessions as a response to the 14 female homicides in the past month involving violent encounters with men.
"These incidents were shocking, I didn’t expect them to happen -- especially in Taiwan” said self-defense teacher and Tae-Kwon Do instructor, Russell Stuart. He conducted the first class starting by teaching the women how to detect warning signs and different release techniques to get away from aggressive wrist grabs and posterior grabs.
They learned how to use their body weight against an attacker and how to target key body parts, such as the eyes, nose, knees and legs, to disorient them. “You never really know what could happen so you have to prepare yourself the best you can for every situation,” said Stuart.
The following classes will be covering other types of defense techniques used in more extreme cases where the victim is either being pinned down or on in choke-hold. MOWES will be holding monthly community gatherings to address issues of safety and violence prevention.
"We believe safety is a community effort, everyone needs to make sure each person is safe” said Ho and Hsieh. The classes are open to men as well in order to address violence against both genders and provide education for techniques to avoid such situations.
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