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1.遠離是非 得到快樂
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遠離是非 得到快樂
Things You Need To Let Go To Find Happiness keepinspiring.me
What do you need to be happy? All too
often, we list the things we want: a bigger house, a cooler car, a trip around
the world, money for retirement, a new friend or lover.
But one thing you do have the power to do
is let go of things you don’t want or need. Whether out of habit or because of
peer pressure or family pressure, we often cling to poisonous thoughts,
feelings, and individuals.
Our unrealistic expectations set us up for
failure, and our addiction to toxic people and activities brings us down. And
then we wonder why it’s so hard to be happy.
Letting go isn’t easy, but you can do it.
And once you let go of even just one toxic thing in your life, you will
instantly get a boost toward greater happiness! Here are 30 things to drop now
and forever for a better life.
A grudge
Psychologists and priests around the globe
regularly advise their patients and congregants to forgive their enemies.
Sometimes that advice is hard to understand, however, and it’s easy to lose
sight of why it is sound advice. After all, some people don’t deserve our
forgiveness, do they?
Your pride
Pride is a good thing in certain contexts.
Taken to extremes, however, it can be a destructive force that can ruin you
professionally and personally. If your pride gets in the way, you may refuse4
to see your mistakes, and that means you will never learn.
This can stop you from improving at your
work, or from seeing the other side in a fight with a partner, friend, or
colleague. Pride can destroy relationships. So let it go before it does any
more to erode your happiness.
The belief that you could get rich one day
Growing up, who doesn’t dream about
becoming a billionaire? Whether you envisioned winning the lottery, publishing
the next bestseller, or becoming a corporate CEO, you probably thought one day
you’d be rolling in riches.
As you get older, though, the doubts start
to set in, nagging away at you. And eventually one day you might realize just
how unlikely the get-rich dream really is, especially in our recession economy.
The harsh reality is this: most of us are
not going to get rich. And that is true even with hard work, and even with
genius. Just because you have something great to offer doesn’t mean the world
will value it. That quiet, desperate hope that you will someday become a
billionaire can stop you from appreciating what you have right now.
Right now, we are on the verge of the
greatest retirement crisis imaginable. The vast majority of today’s workers
will not be able to afford to retire. Those who are forced to by their
circumstances will be dependent on charity to survive.
If you can actually afford to live like a
human being for the rest of your life—even if that living is modest—count
yourself very, very fortunate. You do not need to be rich to be happy.
Possessiveness
Jealousy usually stems from insecurity. If
you can let go of insecurity, you can often let go of jealousy, because you no
longer spend all your time worrying about what you are going to lose.
Possessiveness is an emotion closely
related to jealousy. Sometimes it causes it, and other times it results from
it. It’s one emotion which will bring nothing but harm to those you love, and
also to yourself.
Remind yourself when you are feeling possessive
that a relationship is not something you own, but something you share with
another person. You will feel much happier when you leave that ugly emotion
behind you.
You may even discover once you let go of
possessiveness, jealousy, and insecurity, that you never had anything to worry
about.
Judgment
Do you spend a lot of time looking at the
way other people live their lives and criticizing them? There’s nothing wrong
with thinking critically about what people do if it helps you make better
decisions in your own life.
Beyond that point, though, it rarely serves
any purpose except to make you angry or confused. If dwelling on other peoples’
choices is no longer helping you to live your own life in a better way, it is
time to let go of it.
Plus, how many times have you assumed you
understood something only to realize later you had no idea what you were
looking at? Letting go of your judgmental thoughts can help you to open your
mind and learn.
Sometimes if you do that, you can
understand different perspectives and lifestyles. They might even contribute
something to your own life.
Past misfortunes
It is far too easy to lie away staring at
the ceiling each night mulling over the terrible things that have happened to
you. Saying, “Just get over it and move on” isn’t always easily done,
especially if you have real traumas in your past.
Sometimes you cannot control when those
traumas will surface and plague you. But what you can decide to do is stop
consciously feeding into the cycle. Take time to process the events of your
past in an intelligent, cathartic fashion, but do not dwell simply to dwell.
Remember that you cannot turn a page in a
book until you stop reading that page. Letting go of the past is necessary to
have a future. You cannot live in the past or get back the time you lost, but
you can try not to lose more time.4
Your mistakes
Regret is a mixed bag. A lot of people
proudly say, “I never regret anything,” while others dwell endlessly on the
errors they have made. Both of these are extremes, and you should be looking
for a healthy middle ground.
It is actually not a bad thing to look back
at past decisions you made which were bad ones and think, “Yes, I am truly
sorry I did that, and would never do it again.” That kind of regret helps us
move on and become better people. But the kind that constantly draws you
backwards is unhelpful.
Let your penance for your mistakes take the
form of positive action in the future, not endless sorrow and self-loathing. As
you evolve in your life, you transform. You are not the person who made the
mistakes. You are the person who will never make them again. You deserve your
own esteem.
The need for perfection
Perfection is an unattainable summit. No
matter how high you manage to ascend, you will never reach it. This goes for
every aspect of your life, and for your life as a whole. If you refuse to be
satisfied with less, you will forever be unsatisfied. The only way to be happy
is to accept the fact that things will never be perfect.
Every moment is flawed in one way or
another. But that doesn’t mean an imperfect life is without value. Learn to
value your life despite its drawbacks. Strive for the best life you can have,
knowing you will never reach all of your desires.
Toxic people
If you’re looking for a way to simplify
your life and remove stress, one of the best ways to do it is to let go of any
toxic people you have hanging around. It is easy to become attached even to
people we don’t like; hatred is every bit as much of a tie as love.
What you hate defines you as much as what
you love, though. When you pour your energy into something, you are making that
thing important, and that includes your enemies and your “frenemies” as well.
Wouldn’t you rather pour your time and
energy into the people who really matter, the people you love, the ones who
make you happy? Get rid of toxic people and watch how much happier you become.
槍殺教授
UCLA Murderer Mainak Sarkar Killed His
Ex-Wife Before His Former Professor
Before gunning down Ph.D. adviser William
Klug on campus, police say Mainak Sarkar shot a woman inside her
Minneapolis-area home.
LOS ANGELES — Mainak Sarkar murdered his
ex-wife Ashley Hasti in Minnesota before killing his former professor, then
himself, at the University of California, Los Angeles on Wednesday.
WCCO-TV reports Sarkar and Hasti were
married in 2011. Hasti's body was discovered at her home in Brooklyn Park, Minnesota
after a note from Sarkar was discovered asking someone to "check on my
cat." When police searched Sarkar’s home in Minnesota, they discovered a
"kill list," which led them to Hasti's home where she had been dead
for “maybe a couple of days,” according to the local police chief.
Another name on the list was UCLA
engineering professor William S. Klug, who Sarkar shot and killed before
turning the gun on himself. Los Angeles Police Department Chief Charlie Beck
told reporters that a second professor’s name was on Sarkar’s list and that the
doctoral student likely sought to kill him but couldn’t find him. Authorities
have not named the professor.
According to the Los Angeles Times, Sarkar
called Klug a “very sick person” in a since-deleted blog post, writing that he
could not be trusted. Klug had been Sarkar’s adviser at the UCLA engineering
school and he “expressed gratitude to Klug for his help and support” in a 2013
doctoral dissertation, the newspaper reports.
One of the worst days in UCLA history began
when the campus went into lockdown at approximately 10 a.m. Wednesday after
three gunshots were heard.
Freshman Genesis Ramirez was in English
class when her phone and the others around her exploded with text messages from
campus police telling everyone to shelter in place.
“We didn’t know what to do and our
professor said, ‘It’s probably nothing,’” Ramirez told The Daily Beast on
Wednesday.
A call from a colleague changed the
professor’s mind, and he rushed to lock the doors—but they didn’t obey.
“We were really panicked,” Ramirez said.
“We didn’t know what to do.”
Ramirez said students and faculty
improvised, in a scene that was repeated across campus.
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