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[讚賞加油站] 表達感激的好處
Street Compliments: A Very Public Display Of True Affection huffing post
Sometimes, complimenting someone can be a little uncomfortable — but rarely is it as awkward as it probably felt for the people in this video.
They were the lucky victims of online publication SoulPancake's pop-up project called "Street Compliments," which involves the "complimenter" standing in a soundbooth, and the "complimentee" squirming in embarrassment between giant set of yellow headphones set up on a street corner.
It's actually kind of awesome, since it forces people to tell each other what they really love about each other. And it gets very touching — we're not talking "OMG, I love your new shoes" kind of compliments here. Our favourite? When a teenager actually tells her dad she doesn't hate him.
Benefits of Gratitude Amy Morin
Gratitude opens the door to more relationships. Not only does saying “thank you” constitute good manners, but showing appreciation can help you win new friends, according to a 2014 study published in Emotion. The study found that thanking a new acquaintance makes them more likely to seek an ongoing relationship. So whether you thank a stranger for holding the door or send a thank-you note to that colleague who helped you with a project, acknowledging other people’s contributions can lead to new opportunities.
Gratitude improves physical health. Grateful people experience fewer aches and pains and report feeling healthier than other people, according to a 2012 study published in Personality and Individual Differences. Not surprisingly, grateful people are also more likely to take care of their health. They exercise more often and are more likely to attend regular check-ups, which is likely to contribute to further longevity.
Q:
What are the ways to show appreciation and gratitude for others?
What are the tips for giving effective praise?
How to gracefully accept a compliment?
Reasons why we should compliments?
What are the benefits of expressing gratitude?
How to make new friends?
Theme Restaurants in Taipei
If you like food AND funny things, there are restaurants in Taipei you must absolutely try. First because it is an occasion to travel to different parts of the city in search for food, and second, because you might never see restaurants like this in your home country!
Modern Toilets
You might wonder, what the hell is that thing? Well, it is a restaurant that has toilets and, in a certain extent, poop as a theme. While certain people might avoid the topic of toilets when possible, some people actually decided they would make a whole restaurant on that theme, no shame! Being a fan of funny, stupid things, I really wanted to try this one.
When I arrived, waiters came to me straight away and placed me at a table on the second floor. I was given a menu and a glass of water. Good thing is, the menu is in English so you will have no problems deciding what to take. It is mostly foreign food that is served here, with a lot of pasta with different sauces, steak meals, but also hot pot meals (probably the most Chinese thing on the menu). If you take a “classic theme meal”, you will have a drink and a dessert included. I went after lunch hours so it wasn’t very busy.
I decided to try one of the classic theme meals and opted for the Modern Toilet Beef Curry (NT$ 270). And my thirst for funny stupid thing was quenched as they served me (very quickly, I must say) my food on a tray. And here it was, my beef curry proudly cooked on a toilet ‘plate’. The toilet is actually a stove so there is a flame that keeps you meal warm and hot for about three minutes before dying out. The meal includes the beef curry with potatoes and carrots, seaweed soup, a bowl of rice, a tea drink and a dessert so I would say the final price of NT$270 is rather correct.
Hello Kitty Sweets
If you are travelling in Taiwan, then you certainly have noticed the insane love that Taiwanese people have for the Japanese kitty. It’s almost everywhere, and after while it becomes harder and harder to resist the cute little thing. Some people took it a step further and decided to dedicate a whole restaurant to the cat.
When I arrived I was greeted by one of the waitresses.
They put me on a single table on the first floor and bring me the menu. The waitresses speak English. I choose the orange and strawberry cheese cake as well as a hazelnut coffee. Buying a cake gives you a free drink but you can only choose two and coffee is not amongst the ones offered so I pay an extra NT$50 for it but in my opinion it’s not the end of the world. Before being served what I ordered, I’m given a hello kitty pudding as a starter, on the house.
Q:
What do you think the modern toilets food restaurant?
Can you recommend some theme restaurants in Taipei?
What are the typical Taiwanese food you would recommend to foreign visitors?
What type of cuisine do you like the most? Why?(ex: Italian food)
Why Taiwanese like eating? Do you like to eat out? Why?
Why some people crazy about hello kitty?
康健雜誌15期 作者 ： 李 瑟
一句讚美，讓一個放牛班的學生成為化學家︰ 一句讚美，讓原本羞澀的留學生， 成為廣受年輕人喜愛的心理學者； 讚美的力量，鼓勵的火花， 曾經讓許多人的生命，有了奇蹟似的改變…
人類天性渴望認同
每個人天生都渴望得到他人的讚賞；同樣的，也都懼怕責難。心理學家兼哲學家威廉詹姆斯說：「人類性情中最強烈的，是渴望受人認同。」許多心理學家，以動物的訓練做實驗，來比較做好事給予褒獎 ，以及做錯事給予懲罰，都一再發現褒獎的效果好過於懲罰，一味批評是無法期待好效果的，倒不如重視對方的情緒反應。
人際關係專家卡內基曾經說過，對於被人認可，覺得自己很重要，是人之異於禽獸的主要特性。如果祖先沒有這種重要性的需求，人類的文明大約會在原地踏步。使一位未受教育的貧窮小孩發憤圖強的，就是這種「重要感的需求」。范仲淹就著月光發奮夜讀，放牛孩子王冕用樹枝勤練畫技終成畫家。
一.讚美要真誠，而且不能期望有所回報
中華日報副主筆吳涵碧剛進報社，就被指定為兒童寫歷史故事，前途不被看好，別人教她買書抄一抄即可，但吳涵碧查古書，做了好幾抽屜的卡片，寫出現代版的歷史故事。當時的韓國大使朱撫松的夫人，也就是著名的記者兼作家徐鐘佩，回台灣拜望老師馬星野，提到她「在報上謮到吳姐姐講故事非常好」，馬星野很訝異地跟徐鐘佩說；「作者就是我的外甥呀。」
「這是我進社會得到的第一個大鼓勵，若她先知道我是誰的親戚而讚美，感覺會不一樣的，更何況是我最崇拜的新聞界前輩，」吳涵碧說，有時碰到挫折不想再寫時，「想到徐阿姨喜歡，就一直寫下去。」20年來共寫了一千一百多個故事連載，出書50本。
在「窈窕淑女」原著小說裡，作者蕭伯納安排外表邋遢、談吐舉止粗俗的賣花女，雖獲教授調教，卻跟上校私奔，她說：「你才是真正把我變成淑女的人，我在教授面前仍忍不住想做粗魯動作，但你的真心讚賞，使我想活出你心目中的樣子。」
二.敏銳認知別人的優點
黑幼龍40歲時是個工程師，有兩個部屬，但在認識了光啟社的丁松筠神父後，丁神父告訴黑幼龍，「你有潛能做領導人物，因為你勇於從錯誤中學習，可有所作為，應走出來換行。」點醒了黑幼龍重新思考，「我自己都不知道自己的領導潛力。」
六個月後黑幼龍做光啟社副社長，帶領不同部門150個人，還製作了膾炙人口的「新武器大觀」等電視節目，雖然薪水只有以前一半，卻自覺像找到一塊園地，發現自己許多新本事，以及滿足感與歸屬感，既不覺得累也不覺得苦。這次經驗促使黑幼龍後來走入訓練人才潛能的行業。
當侯文詠還是醫學院學生時，寫了篇「不考試真好」，吳涵碧邊看邊笑，覺得「這人真有趣，找他寫故事書，一定叫好又叫座」，想辦法得到他的電話，天天打給他，半年後侯文詠的弟弟接聽電話，才知他去澎湖服兵役。吳涵碧又費力打通軍用電話，跟侯文詠說出她對他的讚賞。
這番「全省大通緝」後，侯文詠持續替中華日報寫文章，後來出書，果然受讀者歡迎。吳涵碧說，當她經過書店，看到不論大人小孩也在邊看邊笑，「我知道自己做對了，看到別人好，就要對他講出來，其實每個人都應如此，做別人的啦啦隊長。」她謙稱她是從徐鐘佩學來的。
讚美像打靶，三個同心圓，從最外圈的「外表」，到最二層的「成就與性格」，到第三圈的「潛力（連本人都未察覺的潛能）」，一般人能打中第二圈，就已不得了，丁松筠與吳涵碧為何還能打中第三圈，識人所未識？
答案就在觀察。丁松筠說，他平時就對人感興趣、有關心，就會留意，只要細心觀察一定可以找出他的優點，當然也可以找出缺點，就看你的方向。
會關心別人，會對他留意，源於愛心，或深信不疑的想法。丁松筠十歲喪父後，懷疑人生的意義，但從母親對他的愛，以及思索人生方向，終而從聖經得到答案，「效仿耶穌，有很多愛的能力，我希望我能在認識一個人40分鐘後，一定讓他知道他特別可愛的一面，多年下來，成為習慣。」
在他看來，甜言蜜語固然直接講出來，但間接也很重要，看著他，仔細聽他說，重視他說的每句話，注意他的身體狀況，例如他腳痛，表現你的關心。丁松筠做到了心理學家所說的原則，「專注的傾聽，是我們所能給人的最高讚詞」。
吳涵碧受從小喜歡看故書書，覺得其實大人也有童心，一心想出版「大人小孩都愛看的書」，但坊間兒童讀物傾向說教，很多大人又不懂幽默，「只會講黃色笑話」，所以一看到候文詠的作品，如獲至寶。
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