帶給他人快樂
Ways to brighten someone's day
Rappler.com
Learn a new recipe and make it for your family or that special someone
Learning a new recipe that you can cook for your loved ones or for your significant other. They’ll appreciate the effort you put in learning the recipe and that you made it yourself — especially when they know that cooking isn’t your thing.
A little compliment wouldn't hurt
If you notice someone wearing a nice dress or a new pair of shoes, tell them. This just might be what they need to boost their confidence.
Treat a friend to lunch or dinner
Call up an old friend or someone you have cancelled on before and make the effort to schedule another date to catch up. Make sure you don’t cancel on this one.
Bring some food for your officemates
Choose a day where everyone is glued to their laptops and have no time to step out of the office to buy food. You can order some pizza or, if you have extra time, you can cook or bake for them and bring the finish product to your office.
Someone's birthday? Give him or her a handwritten card
Whatever happened to handwritten cards and letters? Anyone who has received snail mail will appreciate anything handwritten. Nothing is more thoughtful than sending something you made yourself.
Donate your old clothes, books and other things you barely use
A pair of pants from high school will no longer have any use for you, unless you managed to stay in the same size. Find a charity you can donate to or give them to someone you know still has use for them.
Offer your friend a ride to the nearest terminal
Not everyone has the luxury of driving to and from work or a night out. Some even prefer to use public transportation to avoid the traffic, finding parking space and the high cost of gas. If you’re driving home and the terminal is not out of the way, make a little detour and offer him or her a ride to the terminal.
Q:
What are the ways to brighten someone's day?
Have you ever made a meal for your family?
Have ever treated a friend to lunch or dinner?
Why compliment important?
What are the gifts you gave for someone's birthday?
Have you ever donated your old clothes, books and other things you barely use?
Have ever offer your friend a ride to somewhere?
大腦對失敗的反應
This Is What Happens to Your Brain When You Fail
psychologytoday
Four months after graduating college among the top of my class, I failed. I moved to Vancouver (link is external) to be with my boyfriend and travel somewhere. I tried to be Lululemon’s Senior Director of Marketing, but somehow that didn’t work out. So I wound up a legal secretary—a job that was, for me, unfulfilling and unrelated to my passions.
It got worse. I scrambled to sidestep my situation and applied to several top tier PhD programs. I didn’t get in to any. I’d been so promising.
After nine months in Canada, I moved back home and flunked my seven-year relationship.
Nietzsche claimed—now a cliché—that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. And that year did yield some good: if I hadn’t experienced it, I couldn’t empathize with my millennial readers; I might not have even begun writing for them. But overall it was a failure on all fronts. My soggy year in Vancouver was the embodiment of when it rains, it pours.
I’ve since learned I wasn’t alone. In fact, not only is this kind of failure spiral common, it’s biological.
When animals, be them tadpole or human, win at something, their brains release testosterone and dopamine. With time and repetition, this signal morphs the brain’s structure and chemical configuration to make successful animals smarter, better trained, more confident ,and more likely to succeed in the future. Biologists call it the Winner Effect (link is external).
The not-yet-named Loser Effect is equally cyclical: contrary to Nietzsche's adage, what doesn’t kill you often makes you weaker. In one study (link is external), monkeys who made a mistake in a trial—even after mastering the task on par with other monkeys—later performed worse than monkeys who made no mistakes. “In other words,” explains Scientific American (link is external), they were “thrown off by mistakes instead of learning from them.” Some research (link is external) similarly suggests that failure can impede concentration, thereby sabotaging future performance. Students arbitrarily told they failed compared to their peers later displayed worse reading comprehension.
Finally, when we fail once, we’re more likely to fail again at the same goal—and sometimes more catastrophically. In one study (link is external), dieters fed pizza and convinced they’d “ruined” their daily diet goal ate 50 percent more cookies immediately afterward than those not on diets at all. When we fall short of our goals once, our brains say “Abandon ship! (link is external)”
Q:
What happens to your brain when you fail?
Why do not fear failure?
What do you do when things keep getting worse?
How to find back your passions when things failed?
What can you learn from mistakes?
Do you agree this saying that “when we fail once, we’re more likely to fail again?
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