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周六(5/25)1.生命需要放下! 2. 接受不完美的勇氣 PM 7:00-9:00

星期六 聚會時間 晚上7:00-9:00
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生命需要放下!
Learning to Let Go of Past Hurts
By John M. Grohol, Psy.D.

Ways to Let Go of Past Hurts

The only way you can accept new joy and happiness into your life is to make space for it. If your heart is filled full-up with pain and hurt, how can you be open to anything new?
1. Make the decision to let it go.

Things don’t disappear on their own. You need to make the commitment to “let it go.” If you don’t make this conscious choice up-front, you could end up self-sabotaging any effort to move on from this past hurt.

Making the conscious decision to let it go also means accepting you have a choice to let it go. To stop reliving the past pain, to stop going over the details of the story in your head every time you think of the other person (after you finish step 2 below). This is empowering to most people, knowing that it is their choice to either hold on to the pain, or to live a future life without it.
2. Express your pain — and your responsibility.

Express the pain the hurt made you feel, whether it’s directly to the other person, or through just getting it out of your system (like venting to a friend, or writing in a journal, or writing a letter you never send to the other person). Get it all out of your system at once. Doing so will also help you understand what — specifically — your hurt is about.

We don’t live in a world of black and whites, even when sometimes it feels like we do. While you may not have had the same amount of responsibility for the hurt you experienced, there may have been a small part of the hurt that you are also partially responsible for. What could you have done differently next time? Are you an active participant in your own life, or simply a hopeless victim? Will you let your pain become your identity? Or are you someone deeper and more complex than that??
3. Stop being the victim and blaming others.

Being the victim feels good — it’s like being on the winning team of you against the world. But guess what? The world largely doesn’t care, so you need to get over yourself. Yes, you’re special. Yes, your feelings matter. But don’t confuse with “your feelings matter” to “your feelings should override all else, and nothing else matters.” Your feelings are just one part of this large thing we call life, which is all interwoven and complex. And messy.

In every moment, you have that choice — to continue to feel bad about another person’s actions, or to start feeling good. You need to take responsibility for your own happiness, and not put such power into the hands of another person. Why would you let the person who hurt you — in the past — have such power, right here, right now?

No amount of rumination of analyses have ever fixed a relationship problem. Never. Not in the entirety of the world’s history. So why choose to engage in so much thought and devote so much energy to a person who you feel has wronged you?

4. Focus on the present — the here and now — and joy.

Now it’s time to let go. Let go of the past, and stop reliving it. Stop telling yourself that story where the protagonist — you — is forever the victim of this other person’s horrible actions. You can’t undo the past, all you can do is to make today the best day of your life.

When you focus on the here and now, you have less time to think about the past. When the past memories creep into your consciousness (as they are bound to do from time to time), acknowledge them for a moment. And then bring yourself gently back into the present moment. Some people find it easier to do this with a conscious cue, such as saying to yourself, “It’s alright. That was the past, and now I’m focused on my own happiness and doing _______________.”
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接受不完美的勇氣

5 Tips to Accept Your Imperfections, No Matter How Different You Feel
Kate-Toholka

1. See your perceived flaws in a whole new light.

Nothing is ever completely good or completely bad. In fact, everything is in perfect, harmonious balance. Find the benefit of that one thing you have trouble accepting, and change your perception to see that it’s not so bad having it after all.

2. Practice gratitude daily.

We all have so much to be grateful for. Gratitude helps to cultivate a positive mindset, which will help you to accept yourself for who you really are.

Create a daily gratitude journal and list three things for which you are grateful. Do this in the morning to start your day on a positive note.

3. Recognize that you are not your thoughts.

We get so lost in the story that goes through our minds. Our egoistic mind is, in fact, our greatest storyteller. And too often, we believe everything it tells us.

Learn to recognize that thoughts are created by an egoistic, survival-focused mind. It sees the threat in everything. Start to separate yourself by asking your mind this: “Does this thought serve me and my purpose? Does this thought actually help me?”

4. Be vulnerable with others.

You will be pleasantly surprised to know that you are not alone in this big, beautiful world. Someone out there has gone through your tribulations and trials, and they will understand what you are going through.

We can feel so alone with our ego at times, so sharing with others can help us to see the light at the end of the tunnel. It also helps us to change our perception, as others can guide us to a different angle.

5. Look after yourself.

Eat a nourishing diet, move regularly, rest often, and be mindful. We, too often, underestimate how the mind and body work both ways. By looking after your body, you are creating a sacred environment for your true being. It makes acceptance a lot easier when you look after the house your soul resides in.

It wasn’t until I started applying these five tips that I finally began the arduous process of accepting every little part of me, including that ever so tough one of my hearing loss. Every day, I accept myself a little more.



週四 (5/23)1.傷害你自尊的友誼! 2.同性戀廣告照片

板區文化路一段421巷11弄1號 (陽光甜味咖啡館)
新埔捷運站1號出口 旁邊7-11巷子進入20公尺 看到夏朵美髮左轉    PM 7:00-9:30
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傷害你自尊的友誼!
Signs Your Friendship Hurts Your Self-Esteem
Lara Rutherford-Morrison bustle

Sometimes it’s easy to forget the simple truth that you do not have to stay friends with anyone with whom you don’t want to. I get that it can feel almost impossible to cut ties with friends, especially ones that you’ve grown up with or have known a very long time, but you can and you should if a friendship isn’t bringing anything remotely good into your life, and that goes double if your friend is making you feel bad about yourself. When you have a friend who is bad for your self esteem, it can be hard to let go of the friendship precisely because your friend has damaged your sense of self-worth, and you therefore don’t think you deserve better. But if you recognize these signs of a self-esteem-wrecking relationship in one of your friendships, it’s time to seriously consider getting the hell out of there:

You friend criticizes and belittles you.

We rely on good friends to deliver cold, hard truths when we need it (like “I’m sorry to break your heart, but you are not among the blessed few who can rock drop crotch pants” or “Lady, you have a PATTERN when it comes to the people you date, and the pattern is that you love douchebags.”). But there’s a difference between a friend who helps you see important truths that you may not be able to see yourself, and a friend who is simply mean. If you have a friend who constantly seems to pick at you — criticizing everything from the way you look and speak to the way you live your life — that person isn’t a friend.

 You worry more about your friend’s approval than your own opinion.

When you feel really emotionally beaten down by someone, it’s easy to become dependent on that person for approval. It’s a twisted reaction, but one that makes sense; after all, if someone is constantly telling you that what you do is bad, then that person must be an authority on what’s good, right? (Wrong.)

If you find yourself thinking, “I wonder if [Insert name of judgmental friend here] would approve of this?” every time you have to make a decision, think about why you’re so concerned with what that person thinks. Is it because you actually believe that friend could be helpful, or because you’re so used to that person tearing you down that you’re afraid to give him or her a reason to criticize you?

 Their “teasing” isn’t funny. It actually makes you feel like crap.

One of the best aspects of a good friendship is having someone who can tease you with love and help you not to take yourself too seriously. But, at some point in our lives, we’ve all experienced that line of teasing that slides right past “funny” and hits mean” instead. If your not-very-good friend’s teasing consistently makes you feel uncomfortable and bad about yourself, ask him or her to stop. If you get a response like “Don’t be so sensitive” or “It’s just a joke” and the teasing continues, go find a friend who doesn’t go out of his or her way to make you feel awful.

You get a lot of backhanded compliments.

If you get a new haircut, and your friend responds by saying, “OMG, your hair looks so much better! It used to make your chin look so pointy!”, stop being friends with that person right now. Backhanded compliments are passive aggressive ways of simultaneously making people feel bad about themselves while also making them question whether or not they’re allowed to feel angry (They are). A real compliment will make you feel good, The End.

 You feel better when he or she isn’t around.

If you feel better about yourself and your life when your friend isn’t around — If you feel a rush of relief when you’re done hanging out with that person — that’s a very strong sign that your friend needs to go.

Remember: Friendships are voluntary. If your friend makes you feel bad about yourself, if he or she makes you question your worth, or if you just don’t enjoy his or her company, it’s time to pull back from this toxic relationship and start investing in friendships that actually make you happy.
 Cathay Pacific's gay-themed Move Beyond image (screenshot from Big Love Alliance Facebook page).
同性戀廣告照片
Disappearance of gay-themed airline ad causes... | Taiwan News

TAIPEI (Taiwan News) – Just days after Taiwan became the first country in Asia to legalize same-sex marriage, a furor erupted in Hong Kong about an apparent ban on a gay-themed image in a massive new promotion campaign for the territory’s main airline.

Cathay Pacific launched a series of photos to emphasize its replacing the slogan “Life Well Travelled” with “Move Beyond.”

While the slogan was first criticized as incomplete, it was the photo of two men in suits strolling hand in hand along a beach with the tagline “Move Beyond Labels” which caused a ruckus.

Hong Kong’s subway system, the MTR, and the city’s airport, one of the main transit hubs in the world, reportedly banned the picture from their billboards. The apparent decision provoked widespread outrage, with critics pointing out statements by the companies in favor of diversity.

The backlash led to a campaign by gay rights group Big Love Alliance encouraging same-sex couples to take pictures of themselves, a move which was also followed by celebrities in the community.

Following the outcry, the MTR seemed to shift responsibility away to the agency handling its advertising, JCDecaux of France, the South China Morning Post reported.

The company mentioned clauses in its contract with the MTR which referred to potentially controversial or offensive subjects.

The airport operator said the picture with the male couple was not among those that had been submitted for billboards at the airport.

Cathay Pacific meanwhile, did not directly comment on the uproar, but emphasized the diversity of both its staff and its passengers and its own policies of inclusion. During a meeting about its rebranding campaign, the airline had reportedly told personnel that one of the key messages was “to fly with pride for our LGBT community allies,” the South China Morning Post reported.


Despite all the explanations facing the backlash, in the end, nobody was actually able to say if and when the ad would appear at MTR stations and at Hong Kong Airport.

周二(5/21)1.求助的藝術 2.時間銀行

板區文化路一段421巷11弄1號 (陽光甜味咖啡館)
新埔捷運站1號出口 旁邊7-11巷子進入20公尺 看到夏朵美髮左轉    PM 7:00-9:30
「how to ask for a favor」的圖片搜尋結果
求助的藝術
How to Ask for a Favor  wikihow

One of the reasons we make friends and acquaintances is so that we'll have a network of people who can help us when we run into difficulty. Unfortunately, even if you've got plenty of potential helpers at your disposal, asking for a favor can be a difficult thing to do. For many of us, it's hard to admit that we need help with something, even if the consequences for proceeding without that help are major.

Asking a Favor Courteously

    Approach your helper at an appropriate time. If you ask someone for a favor at an inconvenient time, you can embarrass or even anger him or her. You also might decrease the chances he or she will say yes. If you're going to ask your teacher for help with your math homework, don't ask in the middle of his lecture. Definitely don't ask right after he's learned his house has burned down! In general, try not to interrupt someone's work nor their moments of joy or sadness.
      
    Tell them you're looking for a favor. The sooner you mention your intentions, the better. It's polite to be up-front about you want, but it's also a smart use of your time. If you ask for a favor at the end of a long conversation and your helper says s/he can't help you, you've wasted time you could have spent looking for another helper. It's simple - all you need to say is something like, "Hey, I was wondering if I could ask you a favor" within your first few sentences. Then, simply launch into your request! Your potential helper will probably appreciate that you weren't sneaky about what you wanted!

    Word your request for a favor carefully. You want to be polite and gracious while also being crystal clear about what you want. Explain the facts of the situation. Leave nothing to guessing. Then, without dallying, explain what you need this person's help with. Ask them plainly if they'll help you in the form of a simply-worded question. Don't allow any chance of misunderstanding. If this issue is important enough to require a favor, you should address it head-on. Say "Do you think you can help me with my math homework for an hour tomorrow?", not "Hey, if you want to show me some math stuff, that's cool!"

    Get to the point. Don't procrastinate - the longer you wait before bringing up your need for a favor, the bigger chance you have of losing your nerve and leaving the conversation without even having asked. If you let this happen, you'll be back to square one! Make your greeting, exchange one or two short pleasantries, move to a quiet area if you need to, then immediately tell this person that you're looking for a favor. Don't let him or her get away before you gather the courage to ask!

    Flatter your helper. Let this person know that they're the only person who's good enough for the job - even if they're not. Compliment this person's abilities - in our example, we might say something like, "Could you please help me with my math homework? You're crazy good at trigonometry - didn't you get an A on the last test?" Your praise can range from subtle to gushing, depending on how desperate you are for help!
 「tme bank」的圖片搜尋結果
時間銀行
Time banking - what is it and why should you bother? - Crowdsourcing Week
Epi Ludvik Nekaj

What’s your time worth? Some people might struggle to answer that question. But for time bank members it’s a no-brainer: one hour of time equals one Time Credit.

Time banking is an old concept that dovetails neatly with the sharing economy. Members offer their skills and services in exchange for Time Credits, which can be spent on everything from language lessons to childcare, all provided by other members. Everyone’s hour is worth exactly the same, regardless of whether they’re teaching someone how to play the tuba or painting a fence.

Although the world’s first official time bank was started in Japan in 1973 by Teruko Mizushima, the concept can be traced back to The National Equitable Labour Exchange, founded by Robert Owen, a Welsh socialist and labour reformer, in London in 1832. It issued ‘Labour Notes’ similar to banknotes, denominated in units of 1 – 80 hours. Time bank style labour movements also sprang up in the US during the Great Depression. But it was Edgar Cahn, CEO of Timebanks USA, who really helped to popularize the idea when he created ‘Time Dollars’ and promoted them as a means of strengthening community bonds.

Today time banks are founded on five core values:

    Everyone is an asset
    Some work is beyond a monetary price
    Reciprocity in helping
    Social networks (and I would say productivity platforms) are necessary
    A respect for all human beings

Thousands of them are scattered around the world. In the UK, for example, over 290 time banks are part of Timebanking UK, covering over 32,000 members (you can find your nearest one with Timebanking UK’s search facility). Digital technologies have also helped spread their reach, drawing in everyone from underemployed millennials to stay-at-home parents. Anyone can join in a few clicks, and mobile applications and online platforms make it easy to track and assign tasks.

The stagnant state of the global economy has worked in time banks’ favour. People are increasingly keen to find alternative ways of leveraging their skills and resources through the crowd economy. For instance, if you can’t find someone who’ll pay you cash to teach them a language or mentor their child, why not see if you can find someone who’ll pay you in time?

time bank

I believe there are countless people who stand to gain from time banking, especially those, such as care-givers, whose skills are undervalued by the market economy. It taps into the wealth of goodwill within the community, allowing anyone to exchange things they’re good at doing for the help they need. Those who are more used to being the recipients of services also gain confidence, social contact and skills through helping others. And it’s an ideal outlet for people who want to volunteer but who can’t, for whatever reason, take on a role with a charity.


In future, time banks could be a valuable means for people to ‘pay in’ time in their youth and spend it in their old age. Time banks could also help to plug gaps in public service provision, ensuring people are still cared for when the state isn’t up to the task.

星期六 聚會時間 晚上7:00-9:00
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新埔捷運站1號出口 旁邊7-11巷子進入20公尺 看到夏朵美髮


生命需要放下!
Learning to Let Go of Past Hurts
By John M. Grohol, Psy.D.

Ways to Let Go of Past Hurts

The only way you can accept new joy and happiness into your life is to make space for it. If your heart is filled full-up with pain and hurt, how can you be open to anything new?
1. Make the decision to let it go.

Things don’t disappear on their own. You need to make the commitment to “let it go.” If you don’t make this conscious choice up-front, you could end up self-sabotaging any effort to move on from this past hurt.

Making the conscious decision to let it go also means accepting you have a choice to let it go. To stop reliving the past pain, to stop going over the details of the story in your head every time you think of the other person (after you finish step 2 below). This is empowering to most people, knowing that it is their choice to either hold on to the pain, or to live a future life without it.
2. Express your pain — and your responsibility.

Express the pain the hurt made you feel, whether it’s directly to the other person, or through just getting it out of your system (like venting to a friend, or writing in a journal, or writing a letter you never send to the other person). Get it all out of your system at once. Doing so will also help you understand what — specifically — your hurt is about.

We don’t live in a world of black and whites, even when sometimes it feels like we do. While you may not have had the same amount of responsibility for the hurt you experienced, there may have been a small part of the hurt that you are also partially responsible for. What could you have done differently next time? Are you an active participant in your own life, or simply a hopeless victim? Will you let your pain become your identity? Or are you someone deeper and more complex than that??
3. Stop being the victim and blaming others.

Being the victim feels good — it’s like being on the winning team of you against the world. But guess what? The world largely doesn’t care, so you need to get over yourself. Yes, you’re special. Yes, your feelings matter. But don’t confuse with “your feelings matter” to “your feelings should override all else, and nothing else matters.” Your feelings are just one part of this large thing we call life, which is all interwoven and complex. And messy.

In every moment, you have that choice — to continue to feel bad about another person’s actions, or to start feeling good. You need to take responsibility for your own happiness, and not put such power into the hands of another person. Why would you let the person who hurt you — in the past — have such power, right here, right now?

No amount of rumination of analyses have ever fixed a relationship problem. Never. Not in the entirety of the world’s history. So why choose to engage in so much thought and devote so much energy to a person who you feel has wronged you?

4. Focus on the present — the here and now — and joy.

Now it’s time to let go. Let go of the past, and stop reliving it. Stop telling yourself that story where the protagonist — you — is forever the victim of this other person’s horrible actions. You can’t undo the past, all you can do is to make today the best day of your life.

When you focus on the here and now, you have less time to think about the past. When the past memories creep into your consciousness (as they are bound to do from time to time), acknowledge them for a moment. And then bring yourself gently back into the present moment. Some people find it easier to do this with a conscious cue, such as saying to yourself, “It’s alright. That was the past, and now I’m focused on my own happiness and doing _______________.”


周六(5/18)1.早鳥 易成功快樂? 2.無人商店 行不行? PM 7:00-9:00

星期六 聚會時間 晚上7:00-9:00
板橋區文化路一段421巷11弄1號 (陽光甜味咖啡館)
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早鳥 易成功快樂?
 Reasons Why Early Birds Are Exceptionally Successful
By Peter EconomyThe Leadership Guy

1. You may be a natural born early bird

According to researchers, about 10 percent of us are born early birds. If that's the case for you, then going along with your natural biological wiring will make you more effective--and more successful.

2. You're in good company

Many of today's most successful businesspeople are early birds, including PepsiCo CEO Indra Nooyi (4:00 AM), Apple CEO Tim Cook (4:30 AM), Richard Branson (5:45 AM), and Starbucks CEO Howard Schultz (4:30 AM).

3. There's a better chance you'll eat a good breakfast

According to a study conducted by the Harvard School of Public Health, people who don't eat breakfast have an increased risk of heart disease. If you're an early bird, you have more time in the morning to eat a good breakfast before you head off to work.

4. You're healthier

An article in a publication of the American Psychological Association revealed that early bird sleep patterns lead to better health outcomes.

5. Your mornings are extremely productive

Although they tend to burn out by the afternoon, the mornings of early birds are usually very productive.

6. You just might be more proactive

According to research conducted at Harvard University, early birds are more proactive--and therefore more productive and more successful.

7. You tend not to be overweight

Researchers at Drexel University found that early birds have a lower body mass index (BMI) than night owls.

8. You squeeze more time out of each day

If you wake up just one hour earlier each day, that amounts to 15 extra days of time each year--that's extra time to exercise, meditate, eat breakfast, catch up on the news, or to do whatever you like.

9. Early birds are happier

According to researchers at the University of Toronto, early birds are happier than the rest of us. And who doesn't want to be happier?
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無人商店 行不行?
Unmanned stores in China still working on a seamless shopper experience
Zen Soo

Unmanned store operators in China are using advanced technologies to enable human-free check out, while collecting valuable data in the process

A BingoBox unmanned convenience store in Shanghai. There are 200 stores in China, with plans to go international next year. Photo: Thomas YauA BingoBox unmanned convenience store in Shanghai. There are 200 stores in China, with plans to go international next year. Photo: Thomas Yau
A BingoBox unmanned convenience store in Shanghai. There are 200 stores in China, with plans to go international next year.

At first glance, there is nothing unusual about BingoBox’s convenience store – shelves stacked with snacks line the walls, tempting passers-by through the glass windows. But upon closer inspection, BingoBox is no ordinary store. The door unlocks only after customers scan a QR code to enter, and there is no cashier to tally up purchases – just a lone checkout counter in a corner.

The Shanghai-based company is one of many unmanned store operators opening outlets all over China, hoping to improve slim profit margins in the retail business by reducing staff costs.

If capital costs rise quickly, that puts greater pressure on low-margin businesses like convenience stores and supermarkets,” said Andrew Song, an analyst at Guotai Junan Securities.

In China, wages and manpower costs have been rising relatively quickly.”

However, the futuristic vision of shopping without a check out person is still a work in progress.


A Post reporter who visited a BingoBox store in Shanghai was briefly locked in when trying to exit without making a purchase. Although a sign near the exit stated that empty-handed customers can leave by scanning a QR code, no QR code was to be found. Repeated calls to the customer service hotline went unanswered.