周五 (12/4)1.一個媽媽被判死刑/死刑存廢 2.療癒

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一個媽媽被判死刑/死刑存廢
New Taipei woman sentenced to death for murdering her two children
 
New Taipei, Nov. 26 (CNA) A woman who killed her young son and daughter before attempting suicide earlier this year was sentenced to death by the New Taipei District Court on Wednesday, for a crime described by the court as "extremely cruel and cold-blooded."
 
The 30-year-old woman, surnamed Wu (吳), was a single mother who raised an 8-year-old daughter and 6-year-old son on her own after a divorce.
 
On Feb. 13 this year, after an argument with her brother and his wife, Wu drove her children to a motel in New Taipei's Wugu District to stay overnight. While in the room that night, she attempted to suffocate the children with pillows, but failed as they fought back, according to the court.
 
Two days later, however, Wu drugged her children with sleeping pills before strangling them with a rope in the motel. She later texted her ex-husband a message that read: "I'm gone. I'm going to be with the kids, or they will feel lonely," according to the court.
 
Wu's ex-husband rushed to the motel only to find his children dead and Wu lethargic after taking sleeping pills, antidepressant drugs and alcohol. Wu was rushed to the hospital and treated.
 
During the trial, Wu confessed to committing the murders, saying that she had felt overwhelmed with the burden of caring for two children on her own.
 
"These seven years, I've been looked down on, left to face the pressure of public opinion and all sorts of dirty looks, all while being unable to find a steady job," she said. "It has only been me caring for them 24 hours a day, without any kind of freedom for myself."
 
In its verdict, the court wrote that Wu had committed the "extremely cruel and cold-blooded" murders solely because of stress and dissatisfaction with her personal circumstances, and had failed to show any sign of remorse for her crimes.
 
While acknowledging that there is an ongoing debate over capital punishment in Taiwanese society, the court said it had a responsibility to uphold the "inherent right to life" guaranteed to every child, citing the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child.
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Pro-Con: Should the death penalty be abolished?
By Ashley Nellis
 
The American criminal justice system has been getting some much-needed renovations lately: people with nonviolent and low-level convictions are being diverted from receiving harsh sentences, prison populations are declining in many states and policymakers are open to new approaches to addressing crime.
 
At the deep end of the system we see reforms as well: efforts to eliminate the death penalty are gaining ground and public support for the death penalty is at its lowest point in 40 years. For the first time in Gallup’s polling history on the question, a majority (60%) of Americans say that life imprisonment with no possibility of parole is a better punishment for murder than the death penalty. Ten of the current Democratic presidential candidates publicly support abolishing the death penalty.
 
The declining support for the death penalty is indeed a victory and comes about as a result of successful abolition campaigns that bring together unlikely allies.
 
Exonerations based on new evidence, exorbitant costs and the drawn-out appeals process means far fewer people are being sentenced to death than in the past and executions have become increasingly uncommon. Death row currently comprises 2,500 people, reflecting a steady decline in the size of death row for nearly 20 years. Maintenance of the death penalty has become difficult to justify as concerns about efficacy, deterrence value and morality converge.
 
But the presence or absence of the death penalty should not be our sole barometer for a proportionate sentencing regime. The sentence of life without parole — touted as “the humane alternative” to death — is highly problematic for many of these same reasons, plus additional ones.
 
The well-documented deficiencies of the death penalty process should raise serious concerns about sentences of life imprisonment, sentences that receive substandard critical review. On this point, Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor recently expressed her uneasiness with life sentences without parole, writing, “A statute that shields itself from judicial scrutiny of sentences of life without the possibility of parole raises serious constitutional concerns.”
 
Capital punishment is routinely set apart from all other sentences in terms of the judiciary’s willingness to regulate it, based on the notion that “death is different.” This has led to a separate, heightened system of review of death-eligible cases.
 
Take, for example, the fact that attorneys in death penalty cases often receive specialized litigation training. And while procedural errors and substandard representation still occur with these protections in place, there is an established protocol for review when such claims are made. But the heightened standard of review does not take place with life imprisonment, creating an increased likelihood that innocent individuals will be convicted. In the absence of a rigorous review process, one cannot know precisely how widespread the errors in life imprisonment are.
 
Capital defendants sentenced to death also have a right to state-appointed counsel for appellate reviews, but those sentenced to life imprisonment do not. In addition, appeals are time-barred in all but death penalty cases. Even with stringent regulations around the death penalty, errors are rampant. Just imagine the scale of errors in life imprisonment among the 53,000 people serving their sentence, 21 times the number of people on death row.
 
The logical inference from the U.S. Supreme Court’s categorical finding “death is different” is that all sentences other than death are not different and can thus be held to a different (lower) level of scrutiny. (The sole instance where this categorical ban has been reconsidered comes from recent rulings disqualifying most juveniles from receiving life without parole on the basis of the categorical ban that “children are different.”)
 
In public polling on support for the death penalty, the only alternative punishment offered is life imprisonment with no chance for release. But why must we limit punishment considerations for our most serious crimes to only these two terminal sentences which are, in the end, the same: both result of an individual dying in prison at the hand of the state?
 
There are many other sentencing options that could be made available. Those that afford regular review and a meaningful opportunity for parole are ideal. Sanctions can accommodate a legitimate desire to punish, but allow for the chance for evaluation at regular intervals.
 
Though it seems counterintuitive, the science on offending tells us that in most cases, even individuals who commit serious crimes grow beyond their poor judgment and learn to abide by the law. The United States should follow the lead of other Western democracies in abolishing both the death penalty and life without parole.
 
Genny Rojas was 4 years old when her aunt and uncle, Veronica and Ivan Gonzales, tortured and murdered her. They suspended her alive by a hook on the closet wall in their apartment. They shook her violently, strangled her, beat her with a hairbrush and handcuffed her for days. She died after she was forced into a scalding bathtub for three minutes.
 
A California jury sentenced Veronica and Ivan to death, and the California Supreme Court upheld their convictions. If anyone deserved the ultimate punishment, they did.
 
There are, to be sure, heartfelt arguments for people to be against the death penalty, not the least of which are religious, moral or other reasons and beliefs. There are also valid arguments regarding the historical use of the death penalty against minorities, especially in the South.
 
Yet a majority of Americans, quite reasonably, support the death penalty in appropriate cases and believe that, despite its imperfections, it is constitutional.
 
The Supreme Court has held the death penalty to be constitutional. The Fifth and 14th amendments carry express approval of the death penalty: a person may not be “deprived of life, liberty or property without due process of law.”
 
A majority of states (29) have the death penalty on the books. Similarly, the federal government and the military have the ultimate punishment for the most heinous crimes.
 
Since 1976, when the Supreme Court reinstated the punishment, there have been 1,512 executions, with whites making up the majority of defendants executed (55%), followed by blacks (34%). Whites make up the majority of victims in death penalty cases (76%), followed by blacks (15%). A majority of Americans support the death penalty, and have since polling began in 1938.
Q:
Should We Abolish the Death Penalty?
 

療愈
6 Tips for Healing Emotional Wounds
By Margaret Achieng, Freelance writer
 
Emotional restoration is viable. Get unstuck with those pointers to heal your emotional wounds. Do you ever marvel if healing from emotional wounds is honestly possible? Can a person definitely heal from trauma, rejection, despair, a broken heart? Perhaps you’ve been hurting for a long term and things don’t seem to be getting better. Perhaps you feel caught like you’ve attempted the entirety, and it hasn’t helped or possibly you experience like you’re too old or it’s too overdue to change.
 
When you feel so broken and defeated, the project of rebuilding or reinventing yourself and your life may be overwhelming. It’s natural to have doubt and to be surprised if emotional healing is absolutely possible.
 
1. Emotional healing is feasible.
I want to guarantee you that emotional restoration is possible. As a therapist, “I see human beings make extraordinary recoveries, becoming healthful, glad, and extra completely themselves – regularly in ways they can’t imagine.”As told by one therapist. However, it’s real, not all of our returns to emotional health. A few individuals maintain to revel in deep emotional ache, unhealthy behaviours and relationships, and battle with negative, distorted thoughts. In my 20+ years, one psychotherapist and social employee, said,” I’ve observed a few commonalities among those who heal absolutely from their emotional wounds and ache. I hope those reflections and guidelines will assist you to heal, as properly”.
2. Tips for recuperation from
 
Take baby steps. Seeking to make too many changes all of sudden can backfire. You can end up crushed if you set unrealistic expectancies. And dramatic adjustments are regularly unsustainable. Making micro-modifications – small, doable, incremental modifications – create emotions, wish, fulfilment and encouragement that is crucial to carry you through your recovery process. You may learn more about making micro-modifications right here.
Keep in mind that you must not heal 100% at once to improve your life. Many people mistakenly believe that emotional healing is not a big deal any more, this notion can be misleading and overwhelming. But most importantly, it’s not accurate. Any modest quantity of recovery will improve the first-class of your existence. Take it one step at a time and you’ll register small improvements for your mood, capability to cope with triggers, relationships, vanity, and capacity to complete your day-to-day activities.
 
3. Be patient and persistent..
 
Recuperation is lots of labour. We need to be patient and allow for the time needed to benefit new insights and skills. And we need to be persistent and keep going even if it gets difficult, be inclined to try new processes, and challenge yourself with new ways. Set sensible expectancies. I’m a big believer in the importance of setting practical expectancies. When we don’t, we end up upset and pissed off frequently, at yourself, which doesn’t assist you to heal.
 
One of the most common unrealistic expectancies that I see is looking forward to progress to be always forward. Nobody simply gets more potent and stronger, healthier and healthier. Development is much more likely steppes step backwards. And, virtually, don’t be surprised if every so often it steps backwards and one leap forward. This isn’t a failure, it’s a reality. And sensible expectations coupled with patience, staying power, and self-compass forwarding cause ahead development, it simply may additionally consist of a few detours and be slower than you’d like.
4. View setbacks as a part of the technique and learning the possibilities.
 
Not only are setbacks normal, however, but they’re also additionally regular, we learn more of what doesn’t work and what does. So, rather than trying to avoid setbacks or relapses, except that they’re a part of the method and undertaking you’re to be curious about what you can learn to help you move forward and toward greater recovery and self-love. Prioritize self-care and self-compassion. As you ask a whole lot from yourself, you need to provide a lot to yourself. And working a lot on emotional restoration takes a lousy lot of strength, time, and on occasion cash. With a purpose to keep going, you need to truly take note of your emotions and your physical sensations in your mind such as tight muscle mass, complications, fatigue, and so on, due to the fact those are your body’s way of telling you what it wishes. Take more time to pay attention and take desirable care of yourself.
5. Be inclined to system your feelings from your the past.
 
Seeking to keep away from what took place in your past doesn’t work. The one’s feelings have a tendency to stick around, occasionally, mendacity dormant or numbed for a while, however, they finally burst back into our recognition with a vengeance. That is why therapists so often talk about desiring to “feel your emotions”. We want to feel them and give them space before they lose their strength over us with time and absolutely become part of the past. You could slowly work on sitting quietly, permitting your feelings to resurface, talking about them, and exploring what they’re about. To a lot of people, that’s pretty hard and working with a therapist can be beneficial.
 
Ask for assistance. Recovery isn’t meant to be performed in isolation. It isn’t easy to ask for assistance, in particular, if people have betrayed before. But reaching out for assistance has a lot of advantages – emotional guide, steerage, and the ability to slow down the disgrace. And assistance can take much paperwork depending on your desires, so I’m hoping you’ll take it like every other type of self-care and ask for the sort of help that best meets your wishes.
6. The Way to Heal emotional wounds and recovery of emotional ache.
Recuperation Meditation In case you feel discouraged, a guided meditation or mantra permits you to shift your mind in the direction of more hope, advantageous outlook. You may experiment with the quick recovery meditation written underneath or attempt developing one which in particular demands your own situations and wishes.
Q: what are the steps for healing the past wounds and emotional trauma?

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周五 (11/27)1.他人 如何影響我們的快樂 2.新聞的影響

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How Others Influence Your Happiness
University of Wisconsin Hospitals and Clinics Authority
 
UW Health psychologist Shilagh Mirgain explains how other's happiness affects our own
 
 Is your happiness dependent on your neighbor’s? To some degree, yes.
 
“Happiness isn’t just a personal experience, it is actually affected by the individuals around you,” explains UW Health psychologist Shilagh Mirgain, PhD.
 
Mirgain uses the description of a ripple effect. Like when a pebble is dropped into the water causing ripples – our words, actions and feelings affect those around us, who in turn affect individuals who come into contact with them, and so on.
 
 “How an individual feels can ripple through his or her social groups and actually influence how the group feels in general,” she says. “In some ways, our emotional states are like a virus – we can spread the positive and negative experience to those around us, even with strangers.”
 
 
She points to research done over a period of time that found the happiness of an individual extends up to three degrees of separation (that is - our level of happiness impacts the happiness levels of the friends of our friends’ friends.) Similarly if you have a friend, relative or neighbor who lives within a mile and becomes happy, this increases the probability that you will be happy by 25 percent.
The Impact of Negative Emotions
 
 
Think about how your own mood can be impacted by a sales clerk who smiles, is helpful and kind versus one who is rude and unhelpful. In one case, the clerk’s happiness creates a positive connection between you, while the other experience may leave you feeling frustrated or even angry. In both cases, a complete stranger’s attitudes influenced your own and you may in turn, pass that attitude along to others – either through your good mood or your irritation.
 
 
In the case of negative emotions, Mirgain explains that they can actually have a greater impact than positive ones. When comparing the effects of a positive relationship to a negative one, the de-energizing connection (or negative) has an impact that is four to seven times greater than a positive or energizing relationship. One place where this is easily seen is in the workplace.
 
 
“Research has shown that a ‘toxic’ co-worker – someone who is always negative, gossips about others or has a poor attitude – can actually be damaging to a workplace,” she says. “The negativity may lead to an environment where there is less information sharing, more conflict among team members, less trust and a lower performance by all members overall.”
 
 
Dealing with a negative co-worker can leave others feeling emotionally tired, unhappy and dissatisfied, which is why it’s important to address the negativity rather than try to ignore it. The same is true when dealing with a negative friend or family member. In both cases, it may not be possible to stop all interactions, but it’s important to have a strategy for when you do need to interact. Mirgain explains that it starts by creating physical and emotional distance from the individuals.
Facebook Live: Owning Your "Ripple Effect"
Dr. Mirgain recently held a Facebook Live session to talk about owning our "ripple effect."
 
“Consider the ways you can minimize interactions with the person and set boundaries,” she says.
 
 
Managers may consider reassigning projects to limit the interactions the individual has with the overall team. Co-workers can consider not engaging the individual beyond the minimum necessary. And if it is a friend or family member, limit conversations to those topics you known won’t trigger the negativity.
 
 
“It can be challenging, but don’t let yourself get sucked into the negativity by joining in with it, such as complaining, gossiping or even by dwelling on the person’s behavior. It will only bring you down,” Mirgain comments. “Remember that the other person’s behavior has very little to do with you – they are dealing with their own issues.”
Tips for Staying Positive
 
 
While it may seem like we’re at the mercy of others’ attitudes, Mirgain notes that we do have some control – we can choose how we respond. To start, she offers some tips:
 
 
Share Your Feelings
 
 
When something gets under our skin, we can spend a lot of mental energy thinking about it. Instead, Mirgain suggests finding someone you trust and sharing your thoughts and feelings. It can take the sting out of the hurt and help you get moving in a positive direction again.
 
 
Talk to Yourself
 
 
Think about what words you can tell yourself to help gain some perspective on the situation or that can help calm you down when a “hot button” issue gets brought up. A simple phrase to remind yourself like “let it go” or “breathe deep” can help refocus your thoughts.
 
 
Surround Yourself with Positivity
 
 
Your time is a valuable and limited resource. Just like any investment, choose wisely how you are going to spend it. Limit the time you spend with negative people and situations and instead, focus on the positive. It may mean you limit the amount of time you spend with someone, which can be particularly difficult when it is a loved one. But negative emotions – like positive ones – can impact your overall health and sense of well-being. While it may feel selfish on some level, you are taking the steps you need to care for your own health.
 
 
Get Some Sleep
 
 
Mirgain points to two studies on the effects of poor sleep and a couple’s ability to resolve conflict in their relationship. Essentially, couples who experienced poor sleep experienced more conflict in their relationships,were less empathetic toward the other person when trying to resolve the issue and less likely to achieve resolution. When you’re tired, you don’t have the mental energy needed to redirect negative emotions and can more easily be overwhelmed by them. So get the sleep you need so you have the energy to deal with any issues.
新聞的影響
You Asked: Is It Bad for You to Read the News Constantly?
Markham Heid  time.com
 
A recent survey from the American Psychological Association found that, for many Americans, “news consumption has a downside.”
 
More than half of Americans say the news causes them stress, and many report feeling anxiety, fatigue or sleep loss as a result, the survey shows. Yet one in 10 adults checks the news every hour, and fully 20% of Americans report “constantly” monitoring their social media feeds—which often exposes them to the latest news headlines, whether they like it or not.
 
Of course, many people feel it’s important to stay informed. And it’s understandable that news you find concerning could produce stress and anxiety. But recent changes to the way everyone gets their news—coupled with the style of news that dominates today—may not be good for mental and even physical health.
 
“The way that news is presented and the way that we access news has changed significantly over the last 15 to 20 years,” says Graham Davey, a professor emeritus of psychology at Sussex University in the UK and editor-in-chief of the Journal of Experimental Psychopathology. “These changes have often been detrimental to general mental health.”
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Davey says today’s news is “increasingly visual and shocking,” and points to the inclusion of smartphone videos and audio clips as examples. These bystander-captured media can be so intense that they can cause symptoms of acute stress—like problems sleeping, mood swings or aggressive behavior—or even PTSD, he says.
 
Some of Davey’s research has shown that negative TV news is a significant mood-changer, and the moods it tends to produce are sadness and anxiety. “Our studies also showed that this change in mood exacerbates the viewer’s own personal worries, even when those worries are not directly relevant to the news stories being broadcast,” he says.
 
While increased anxiety and stress are reason enough to be wary of overdoing it when it comes to the news, these and other mental health afflictions can also fuel physical ailments. Stress-related hormones, namely cortisol, have been linked to inflammation associated with rheumatoid arthritis, cardiovascular disease and other serious health concerns.
 
So if the evidence suggests the news can stress people out, why do they keep going back for more? For one thing, it’s entertaining, Davey says. The human brain is also wired to pay attention to information that scares or unsettles us—a concept known as “negativity bias“.
 
“In a state of nature, our survival depends on finding rewards and avoiding harm, but avoiding harm takes priority,” says Loretta Breuning, a former professor of management at California State University, East Bay and author of Habits of a Happy Brain.
 
Breuning explains that the human brain is attracted to troubling information because it’s programmed to detect threats, not to overlook them. “This can make it hard for us to ignore the negatives and seek out the positives around us,” she says. “Our brain is predisposed to go negative, and the news we consume reflects this.”
 
While your brain may find the latest news enthralling, it’s hard to argue that all of that news is truly illuminating. Breuning says much of the opinion and commentary that passes for news analysis is the equivalent of lunchroom gossip. “There’s this idea of following the news in order to be an informed citizen, but a lot of what you see today is gossip elevated to a sophisticated level,” she says. And if the news you consume is getting you worked up or worried—and some would say this is exactly the goal of much of today’s coverage—it’s probably not doing your health any favors, she says.
 
But other experts say the effect news has on a person’s health varies from one individual to another.
 
“News is not an infectious and contagious pathogen like anthrax or the Ebola virus that impacts humans in relatively predicable ways,” says Chris Peters, an associate professor of media and communication at Aalborg University Copenhagen. “It’s extremely complicated—if not impossible—to predict how people in the aggregate will respond to news.”
 
He says we shouldn’t focus on the amount of news we consume each day, but rather on the ways in which we engage with news in relation to our everyday lives and the people who fill them. If you find your news habit is messing with your relationship or well-being, some changes to the ways you interact with the news may be helpful.
 
“Try to be aware of how [the news] changes your mood or makes your thoughts more negative,” Davey advises. If you notice a news-induced surge of pessimism, taking a breather with mood-lifting activities like listening to music, exercising or watching something that makes you laugh may all help counteract those dark vibes.
 
You could also pare back your news habit. “Most of us these days have news alerts set on our smartphones, and 24-hour news on continuously in the background,” he says. “That’s probably far too much.”
 
Breuning agrees, and recommends limiting your news consumption to one block of time each day—say, at lunch or before dinner—if not less. At the very least, don’t watch or read the news before bed, she says.
 
Staying aware and informed is a good thing. But when it comes to your health, too much news can spell trouble.
 

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(週六) 10/21 1.有魅力的人2.兩篇新聞時事討論 3.幫助入眠法

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10 Traits of Exceptionally Charming People  huffpost.com
 
Sure, everyone knows blunt, impolite, and even rude people who are somehow extremely successful. (I know a bunch of them.)
 
But since we’re all more likely to do business and build professional and personal relationships with people we like, we’re naturally drawn to people who are polite, modest, agreeable, kind. In short, people who are charming.
 
I know a bunch of them too, and here’s how they do it:
 
1. They always show they’re genuinely glad to meet you. When you feel someone “gets” you, respecting your opinion, your point of view, your experience — whatever you’re communicating — then you naturally feel more important. The other person doesn’t have to agree with you; they just have to show they respect you.
 
How?
 
They maintain eye contact. They smile when you smile. They frown when you frown. They nod your head when you nod. In simple, nonverbal ways, they mimic your behavior — not slavishly, but because they’re focused on what you’re saying.
 
That feedback loop helps two people bond — and the ability to bond is the essence of charm.
 
2. They sometimes show a little vulnerability. Two Masters of the Business Universe meet for the first time. Instantly, they play an unstated but nonetheless obvious game of “Who’s More Successful?” They work hard to one-up the other. After all, life is about winning, right?
 
Charming people don’t try to win any unstated competitions with people they meet. In fact, they actively try to lose. They’re complimentary. They’re impressed. They’re even willing to admit a weakness or a failure.
 
It’s really easy. Say you meet Admiral Trump and he says, “I just closed a fabulous deal to build the world’s best golf course on the most amazing oceanfront property on the planet.” Don’t try to win. Instead say, “That’s awesome. I’m jealous. I’ve wanted to build a small recreation facility for years, but can’t line up the financing. How did you pull off such a huge deal?”
 
Charming people are confident enough to be unafraid to show a little vulnerability. They know that while some people may be, at least temporarily, impressed by what’s artificial, everyone sincerely likes and appreciates the genuine.
 
3. They consistently search for agreement instead of contradiction. We’re trained to discuss, to challenge, to advocate for the devil, because exchanging opinions, especially different opinions, is how we separate the wheat from the idea chaff. Automatic agreement doesn’t help.
 
Unfortunately, going contrary is an easy habit to fall into. It’s easy to automatically look for points of disagreement rather than agreement. It’s easy to automatically take a different side.
 
And it’s easy to end up in what feels like an argument.
 
Charming people don’t actively (or unknowingly) look to disagree; they look for points of agreement. Then, if it’s appropriate, they gently share a different point of view — and in that way, help create an outstanding conversation.
 
4. They (selectively) use the power of touch. Nonsexual touch can be incredibly powerful. (I’m aware that sexual touch can be powerful too, thanks.) Touch can influence behavior, increase the chances of compliance, make the person doing the touching seem more attractive and friendly, and can even help you make a sale.
 
For example, in one experiment the participants tried to convey 12 different emotions by touching another blindfolded participant on the forearm. The rate of accuracy for perceiving emotions like fear, anger, gratitude, sympathy, love, and disgust ranged from 43 percent to 83 percent — without a word being spoken.
 
Say you’re congratulating someone; shaking hands or (possibly better yet, depending on the situation) patting them gently on the shoulder or upper arm can help reinforce the sincerity of your words.
 
5. They often dine out on their foibles. Charming people willingly admit their mistakes. They don’t mind serving as a cautionary tale. They don’t mind being a source of laughter, for others and for themselves.
 
And they’re also not afraid to look a little silly. Skating in a cowboy outfit may be a little extreme, but charming people don’t mind occasionally being in a situation where they aren’t at their best.
 
(And oddly enough, people tend to respect them more for that — not less.)
 
When you own your foibles, people don’t laugh at you. They laugh with you. And they realize it’s OK to let down their own guards and meet you at a genuine level.
 
6. They’re masters of social jiu-jitsu. Some people have a knack for getting you to talk openly yourself. They ask open-ended questions. They sincerely want to know what you think, and that makes you open up to a surprising degree. You feel like the most interesting man (or woman) in the world.
 
And you like them for making you feel that way.
 
As soon as you learn something about someone, ask why they do it. Or how. Or what they like about it, or what they’ve learned from it. Charming people ask sincere questions that make it easy to answer in a thoughtful, introspective way. They make you think, in a good way, about yourself, and in the process make you feel charming too.
 
7. They always pass the waiter test. Some people put on a great show in certain situations, but they don’t try nearly as hard when they think a person is beneath them. I like to call it the waiter test: If you really want to know how an individual treats people, take him to lunch. How he interacts with the waiter is a much better indication of his interpersonal skills than how he interacts with you.
 
Charming people treat everyone the same way: as deserving of respect and kindness.
 
8. They’re great with names. If there’s anything worse than that sinking feeling you get when you forget someone’s name, especially someone’s name you really should remember, it’s realizing that another person has forgotten your name—and maybe doesn’t even remember who you are.
 
Charming people remember names and even small details, often to a surprising degree. The fact they remember instantly makes us feel a little prouder and a little better about ourselves. And that makes us feel better about them.
 
Charming people remember names, but ...
 
9. They never name drop. I have a friend who somehow manages to squeeze the fact he once met Jeff Gordon into every conversation.
 
“I’m planning to weather treat my deck this weekend,” I’ll say.
 
“You know, I was sitting on my deck last weekend listening to the race ... Jeff Gordon was leading for a while but he had engine trouble. If I know Jeff Gordon — and I do — I bet he was really disappointed.”
 
Charming people may know cool people, but they don’t talk about it. And that only adds to their charm.
了解優缺點
How to Identify Your Strengths and Weaknesses
Jonathan Michael
 
What are you good at?
 
That’s a question we all want to know about ourselves, as well as the question that occasionally comes after it: What aren’t you good at?
 
If you don’t know how to answer those questions about yourself, keep reading—I’ll help you come to a better knowledge of yourself.
 
1. First, create two lists
 
Before you use any outside sources to help identify your strengths and weaknesses, I’d recommend that you spend about 30 minutes alone creating two lists.
 
Your first list is going to be centered on your business or entrepreneurship goals. Call it something like, “Skills Needed to Succeed.”
 
Don’t worry about whether you’ve thought of every possible skill required for your business to succeed. This is meant to be an overview, and is fairly general. Depending on your business, it might list things like, “an understanding of the market,” “business development,” “website development,” or “product expertise.” Once you’ve completed your list, highlight the skills that you already have, and put a star next to the ones you think you’ll need to develop. Then, set this list aside—you’ll come back to it later.
 
The next list you’re going to create requires you to be completely honest about yourself. You can create two columns, one called “Strengths” and the other called “Weaknesses.”
 
Depending on your personality, you’ll find one of these columns a lot easier to fill out. I can only encourage you by suggesting that you do your best to be objective. Don’t beat yourself up over what you think are major flaws, and don’t overestimate how great your strengths are. Just write them down, and move on.
 
You also don’t need to have a comprehensive list of 100 strengths and weaknesses. If you’ve included more than 10-15 items in each column, then you’re probably starting to focus too much on strengths and weaknesses that aren’t that significant.
 
Examples of what you might add to this list range from aspects of your character, like “calm under pressure” or “achievement-driven,” to technical skills you may have, like “HTML expertise” or “project management experience.”
 
The purpose of this list will be to start off with some general ideas that you have about yourself, and then get input from other sources to help you refine your list.
 
To help you think about what to include in your strengths and weaknesses, try asking yourself questions like:
 
    What am I good at?
    What have others complimented me about?
    What have others had to help me with on more than one occasion?
    Which projects and tasks seem to drain my energy?
    Which projects have I spent hours on without getting tired?
    What are my hobbies, and why do I like doing them?
 
After you’ve spent some time honestly assessing your strengths and weaknesses, it’s time to get input from those closest to you: a significant other, your mentor, close friends, or family members.
 
2. Talk to people you trust
 
The problem with using a list of strengths and weaknesses that only you’ve completed is that you have a biased opinion of yourself. Most people think too highly of themselves, or too little of themselves.
 
If you’re like me, then you somehow manage to do both at the same time. We all need some kind of “sounding board” to help us gain clarity and get closer to the truth about ourselves. That’s where other people come in handy.
 
Try thinking of three to five people whose opinions you trust, and who have had the chance to live or work with you for an extended period of time. You want people who have observed your behavior and character in a number of different situations. For most people, that group will include a significant other, perhaps a mentor or advisor, a best friend, one or more siblings, or your parent(s).
 
The length of your relationships isn’t the only thing to consider. The most important thing is whether or not you value or trust their opinion of you. Some friends and family members will be too biased—they either think everything you do is amazing, or their opinions have been hurtful and destructive in the past. Carefully select people who have a good track record of being balanced and helpful, even when they’ve needed to tell you something that you didn’t want to hear.
 
Once you’ve got a group of people selected, reach out to them. You can go out to coffee with each of them, or simply send an email with some questions and ask for their honest feedback.
 
When you reach out to them, make sure you give some context as to why you’re asking for their opinion. Tell them that you want to start a business, and that in order to be successful, you’re trying to take stock of your strengths and weaknesses. Ask them what it is about you that they think will contribute to your success. Then, ask them to tell you the weaknesses you have that may cause you to fail.
 
As you receive feedback, start adding more details to your two lists. You’ll start to see that some of the strengths and weaknesses you listed are confirmed by those you trust, while others that you listed aren’t as significant to the people who have spent time with you.
 
3. Take a personality test
 
In addition to the time you’ve spent thinking about yourself and the opinions you’ve gathered from others, personality tests are another useful resource to help you identify strengths and weaknesses. Here are some of my favorites:
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI):
 
The MBTI test is the gold standard for corporate-level personality tests. Several years ago, my previous employer paid for an instructor to administer the tests and coach us through our results (I’m an ENFP, in case you were wondering).
 
The test measures you within a framework of four areas: energy (introvert versus extrovert), decision-making, taking in information, and approaching the outside world.
 
You can take the official test for $49.95, but if you’d like to start with a free version of a similar kind of test, try the Jung Personality Test.
DISC Personality Testing
 
Another highly favored, corporate-level personality test. At another job, I went on a two-day work retreat with my coworkers. Amidst the full schedule of ice-breakers, ropes course excursions, and games, we also discussed which DISC type we were, and how we could best relate to each other (I’m a D/SI, by the way).
 
Again, there’s a full assessment that you can purchase for $29, or you can try their free assessment.
StrengthsFinder 2.0
 
When I was in college, I was on the executive team of our student government. We were required to read two books that were developed by the Gallup Organization: “First, Break All the Rules” and “Now, Discover Your Strengths” (which has since been republished as StrengthsFinder 2.0).
 
Included in the books was a code to take the Strengths Finder test, which determines your top five “talent themes” (mine were Achiever, Ideation, Harmony, Learner, and Woo). You’ll need to buy the book—the Kindle ebook is only $10.99—in order to get an access code for the test.
 
However, out of all these personality tests, the StrengthsFinder test is most geared toward helping you understanding the unique talents you have to offer the world.
How to Fascinate
 
Most recently, I helped the team at Palo Alto Software complete a new personal assessment test created by Sally Hogshead for her book, “How the World Sees You.” After answering 28 questions, this test will place you in one of 49 possible “Archetypes.”
 
What makes this test unique is that it approaches the results from an aspect of branding: What makes you unique, and how should you use that to communicate your strengths to others? The results also give you your “dormant” advantage, which is another way of discussing a possible weakness.
 
Again, if you buy the book, you’ll get an access code for a full report, but you can also take the test for free.
Are You Entrepreneur Material?
 
This one’s more for fun. It’s our new Bplans Quiz, and when you answer seven questions, we’ll tell you whether or not you’re ready to start your own business.
 
This one’s meant to be light-hearted, but don’t be surprised if it ends up being fairly accurate, and gives you some ideas about how to grow and develop new skills.
 
Disclaimer: Personality tests are a bit like horoscopes—they’re just general enough that they can apply to as many people as possible. More often than not, your result will be mostly accurate to how you see yourself, while missing the unique details that really make you who you are.
 
If you can combine the broad strokes of a personality test with the fine details provided by your own self-assessment and input from others, you’ll start to get a pretty good picture of your strengths and your weaknesses. Personality tests are also really useful for giving you some common language and terms to express your strengths and weaknesses.
 
4. Try new things
 
One problem with identifying strengths and weaknesses comes when you have a lack of experience. In some cases, you might look at your list of weaknesses and notice that it mostly boils down to “I don’t know, I’ve never tried.” For instance, how do you know if you have an athletic or artistic ability if you’ve never tried to do something athletic or artistic?
 
I’m a big believer in pushing yourself to grow by doing things you’ve never done before. To be honest, if you’re reluctant to try new things, then here’s your instant personality test result: don’t be an entrepreneur.
 
However, if you’re interested in trying new things to identify your strengths and weaknesses, here are some groups of experiences that won’t require a lot of time or money:
Creative experiences:
 
    Painting/Drawing: Grab a brush, some cheap paints, and some paper (or a canvas), and follow along as you watch a YouTube tutorial video.
    Singing: Maybe you’ve avoided a karaoke bar so far, but push past your fear of embarrassment, and sing some of your favorite songs.
    Dancing: YouTube will come in handy again, as there are thousands of dance tutorial videos. In the privacy of your own home, you can practice again and again until you think you’ve got a dance down.
    Video: We live in an incredibly exciting time where many of us have the basic equipment required to make a video with movie-level quality, right in our pocket. Challenge yourself to create a 15 or 30 second video with one primary objective: get your viewers to have an emotional response.
   
 
10 Traits of Exceptionally Charming People  huffpost.com
 
Sure, everyone knows blunt, impolite, and even rude people who are somehow extremely successful. (I know a bunch of them.)
 
But since we’re all more likely to do business and build professional and personal relationships with people we like, we’re naturally drawn to people who are polite, modest, agreeable, kind. In short, people who are charming.
 
I know a bunch of them too, and here’s how they do it:
 
1. They always show they’re genuinely glad to meet you. When you feel someone “gets” you, respecting your opinion, your point of view, your experience — whatever you’re communicating — then you naturally feel more important. The other person doesn’t have to agree with you; they just have to show they respect you.
 
How?
 
They maintain eye contact. They smile when you smile. They frown when you frown. They nod your head when you nod. In simple, nonverbal ways, they mimic your behavior — not slavishly, but because they’re focused on what you’re saying.
 
That feedback loop helps two people bond — and the ability to bond is the essence of charm.
 
2. They sometimes show a little vulnerability. Two Masters of the Business Universe meet for the first time. Instantly, they play an unstated but nonetheless obvious game of “Who’s More Successful?” They work hard to one-up the other. After all, life is about winning, right?
 
Charming people don’t try to win any unstated competitions with people they meet. In fact, they actively try to lose. They’re complimentary. They’re impressed. They’re even willing to admit a weakness or a failure.
 
It’s really easy. Say you meet Admiral Trump and he says, “I just closed a fabulous deal to build the world’s best golf course on the most amazing oceanfront property on the planet.” Don’t try to win. Instead say, “That’s awesome. I’m jealous. I’ve wanted to build a small recreation facility for years, but can’t line up the financing. How did you pull off such a huge deal?”
 
Charming people are confident enough to be unafraid to show a little vulnerability. They know that while some people may be, at least temporarily, impressed by what’s artificial, everyone sincerely likes and appreciates the genuine.
 
3. They consistently search for agreement instead of contradiction. We’re trained to discuss, to challenge, to advocate for the devil, because exchanging opinions, especially different opinions, is how we separate the wheat from the idea chaff. Automatic agreement doesn’t help.
 
Unfortunately, going contrary is an easy habit to fall into. It’s easy to automatically look for points of disagreement rather than agreement. It’s easy to automatically take a different side.
 
And it’s easy to end up in what feels like an argument.
 
Charming people don’t actively (or unknowingly) look to disagree; they look for points of agreement. Then, if it’s appropriate, they gently share a different point of view — and in that way, help create an outstanding conversation.
 
4. They (selectively) use the power of touch. Nonsexual touch can be incredibly powerful. (I’m aware that sexual touch can be powerful too, thanks.) Touch can influence behavior, increase the chances of compliance, make the person doing the touching seem more attractive and friendly, and can even help you make a sale.
 
For example, in one experiment the participants tried to convey 12 different emotions by touching another blindfolded participant on the forearm. The rate of accuracy for perceiving emotions like fear, anger, gratitude, sympathy, love, and disgust ranged from 43 percent to 83 percent — without a word being spoken.
 
Say you’re congratulating someone; shaking hands or (possibly better yet, depending on the situation) patting them gently on the shoulder or upper arm can help reinforce the sincerity of your words.
 
5. They often dine out on their foibles. Charming people willingly admit their mistakes. They don’t mind serving as a cautionary tale. They don’t mind being a source of laughter, for others and for themselves.
 
And they’re also not afraid to look a little silly. Skating in a cowboy outfit may be a little extreme, but charming people don’t mind occasionally being in a situation where they aren’t at their best.
 
(And oddly enough, people tend to respect them more for that — not less.)
 
When you own your foibles, people don’t laugh at you. They laugh with you. And they realize it’s OK to let down their own guards and meet you at a genuine level.
 
6. They’re masters of social jiu-jitsu. Some people have a knack for getting you to talk openly yourself. They ask open-ended questions. They sincerely want to know what you think, and that makes you open up to a surprising degree. You feel like the most interesting man (or woman) in the world.
 
And you like them for making you feel that way.
 
As soon as you learn something about someone, ask why they do it. Or how. Or what they like about it, or what they’ve learned from it. Charming people ask sincere questions that make it easy to answer in a thoughtful, introspective way. They make you think, in a good way, about yourself, and in the process make you feel charming too.
 
7. They always pass the waiter test. Some people put on a great show in certain situations, but they don’t try nearly as hard when they think a person is beneath them. I like to call it the waiter test: If you really want to know how an individual treats people, take him to lunch. How he interacts with the waiter is a much better indication of his interpersonal skills than how he interacts with you.
 
Charming people treat everyone the same way: as deserving of respect and kindness.
 
8. They’re great with names. If there’s anything worse than that sinking feeling you get when you forget someone’s name, especially someone’s name you really should remember, it’s realizing that another person has forgotten your name—and maybe doesn’t even remember who you are.
 
Charming people remember names and even small details, often to a surprising degree. The fact they remember instantly makes us feel a little prouder and a little better about ourselves. And that makes us feel better about them.
 
Charming people remember names, but ...
 
9. They never name drop. I have a friend who somehow manages to squeeze the fact he once met Jeff Gordon into every conversation.
 
“I’m planning to weather treat my deck this weekend,” I’ll say.
 
“You know, I was sitting on my deck last weekend listening to the race ... Jeff Gordon was leading for a while but he had engine trouble. If I know Jeff Gordon — and I do — I bet he was really disappointed.”
 
Charming people may know cool people, but they don’t talk about it. And that only adds to their charm.

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Nearly 25% of Taiwanese experience insomnia | Taiwan News
 
TAIPEI (Taiwan News) — Nearly a quarter of Taiwanese have trouble falling asleep at night, according to a survey conducted by the National Suicide Prevention Center (NSPC) in July.
 
The survey results, released Saturday (Sept. 26) during the 2020 National Health Research Institutes (NHRI) Forum, showed that 23.3 percent of Taiwanese aged 15 and older had suffered insomnia in the week prior to taking the survey. Additionally, 4.2 million people had used sleeping aids on a regular basis, with the consumption of sleeping pills this year estimated to top 920 million.
 
NSPC Director Lee Ming-been (李明濱) noted that the percentage of Taiwanese experiencing sleeping difficulties is the lowest since 2006, but it is still very high. He added that this year's survey results were consistent with those of previous years and show that nearly one out of every four Taiwanese has insomnia.
 
Lee said the convenience of the country's healthcare system may have contributed to this prevalence. He said it is important for the government to consider limiting access to the medications, especially since they are used by 30 to 40 percent of Taiwanese who attempt suicide.
 
Lee emphasized that sleeping pills are not the only way to reduce sleep issues and that a heavy dependency on sedatives is cause for concern. He said the key to overcoming insomnia is identifying its main cause and creating a restful environment through relief strategies and behavioral treatment, reported Cnews.
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What Causes Insomnia? | Sleep Foundation
 
Insomnia is a sleep disorder that affects as many as 35% of adults. It is marked by problems getting to sleep, staying asleep through the night, and sleeping as long as you would like into the morning. It can have serious effects, leading to excessive daytime sleepiness, a higher risk of auto accidents, and widespread health effects from sleep deprivation.
 
Common causes of insomnia include stress, an irregular sleep schedule, poor sleeping habits, mental health disorders like anxiety and depression, physical illnesses and pain, medications, neurological problems, and specific sleep disorders. For many people, a combination of these factors can initiate and exacerbate insomnia.
Is All Insomnia the Same?
 
Not all insomnia is the same; people can experience the condition in distinct ways1. Short-term insomnia happens only over a brief period while chronic insomnia lasts for three months or more. For some people, the primary problem is falling asleep (sleep onset) while others struggle with staying asleep (sleep maintenance).
 
How a person is affected by insomnia can vary significantly based on its cause, severity, and how it is influenced by underlying health conditions.
What Are Common Causes of Insomnia?
 
There are numerous potential causes of insomnia, and in many cases, multiple factors can be involved. Poor sleep can also trigger or worsen other health conditions, creating a complex chain of cause-and-effect for insomnia.
 
On a holistic level, insomnia is believed to be caused by a state of hyperarousal2 that disrupts falling asleep or staying asleep. Hyperarousal can be both mental and physical, and it can be triggered by a range of circumstances and health issues.
Insomnia and Stress
 
Stress can provoke a profound reaction in the body3 that poses a challenge to quality sleep. This stress response can come from work, school, and social relationships. Exposure to traumatic situations can create chronic stress, including post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
 
The body’s physical response to stress contributes to hyperarousal, and mental stress can have the same effect. The inability to sleep may itself become a source of stress, making it increasingly harder to break the cycle of stress and insomnia.
 
Researchers believe that some individuals are more vulnerable to stress-induced sleeping problems. These people are considered to have high “sleep reactivity,”4 which is tied to other issues affecting their sleep and their physical and mental health.
Insomnia and Irregular Sleep Schedules
 
In an ideal world, the body’s internal clock, known as its circadian rhythm, closely follows the daily pattern of day and night. In reality, many people have sleep schedules that cause misalignment of their circadian rhythm.
 
Two well-known examples are jet lag and shift work. Jet lag disturbs sleep because a person’s body can’t adjust to a rapid change in time zone. Shift work requires a person to work through the night and sleep during the day. Both can give rise to a disrupted circadian rhythm and insomnia.
 
In some people, circadian rhythms can be shifted forward or backward without a clear cause, resulting in persistent difficulties in sleep timing and overall sleep quality.
Insomnia and Lifestyle
 
Unhealthy habits and routines related to lifestyle and food and drink can increase a person’s risk of insomnia.
 
Various lifestyle choices can bring about sleeping problems:
 
    Keeping the brain stimulated until late in the evening, such as by working late, playing video games, or using other electronic devices.
    Napping late in the afternoon can throw off your sleep timing and make it hard to fall asleep at night.
    Sleeping in later to make up for lost sleep can confuse your body’s internal clock and make it difficult to establish a healthy sleep schedule.
    Using your bed for activities besides sleep can create mental associations between your bed and wakefulness.
 
Though often overlooked, choices about your diet can play a role in sleeping problems like insomnia.
 
Caffeine is a stimulant that can stay in your system for hours, making it harder to get to sleep and potentially contributing to insomnia when used in the afternoon and evening. Nicotine is another stimulant that can negatively affect sleep.
 
Alcohol, which is a sedative that can make you feel sleepy, can actually worsen your sleep by disturbing your sleep cycle and causing fragmented, non-restorative sleep.
 
Eating heavy meals and spicy foods can be hard on your digestive process and have the potential to generate sleeping problems when consumed later in the evening.
Insomnia and Mental Health Disorders
 
Mental health conditions like anxiety, depression, and bipolar disorder frequently give rise to serious sleeping problems. It is estimated that 40% of people with insomnia5 have a mental health disorder.
 
These conditions can incite pervasive negative thoughts and mental hyperarousal that disturbs sleep. In addition, studies indicate that insomnia can exacerbate mood and anxiety disorders6, making symptoms worse and even increasing the risk of suicide7 in people with depression.
Insomnia, Physical Illness, and Pain
 
Almost any condition that causes pain can disrupt sleep5 by making it harder to lie comfortably in bed. Dwelling on pain when sleepless in bed may amplify it, increasing stress and sleeping problems8.
 
Health complications related to Type II diabetes can be part of an underlying cause of insomnia9. Pain from peripheral neuropathy, more frequent need for hydration and urination, and rapid blood sugar changes can interrupt sleep. There is also a correlation between diabetes and other health conditions10 that are known to interfere with sleep including obstructive sleep apnea (OSA) and depression11.
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Top facts about what a dry sense of humor is and how to tell if you have it
Carol Karen
 
Some people enjoy a dry sense of humor while others do not understand it very well. It can be either positive or negative to say that someone has dry humor. Today, we will help you understand what it is, and whether or not you have it.
 
There are different types of humor, and a dry sense of humor is just one type. People who give dry humor jokes are often mistaken because this type is not well understood by many people, and some may even take offense when dry jokes are thrown their way.
Dry humor meaning
 
What is a dry sense of humor? It is a form of humor where a person often says funny things with a serious, calm expression. They do not smile and neither do they laugh or make silly faces.
 
It is also known as deadpan humor because the joke cracker is very impassive and has a matter of fact tone with no or the least display of emotions.
 
The joke may be a mere statement that the person is making about a current situation or occurrence. It is the outrageous and cleverly implied manner in which they make the statement that makes it so funny and sometimes difficult to understand.
 
Normally, it is not-obviously funny and is context or situation-dependent. A witty person says things and feeds jokes into every situation without even knowing that they are being funny.
 
When someone asks, "what is dry humor?" it is important to note that by its name and nature, it is ‘supposed’ to be condescending. For this reason, most people have the misconception that the person delivering the joke is also condescending and arrogant by nature.
 
While this may be true in some cases, it should be understood that the person is merely putting an air of superiority and patronizing behavior so that their joke has the desired effect on the audience.
 
NB: It is the responsibility of the person cracking the joke to ensure that their words do not take a toll on someone who is not as good a sport as he is expected to be. This type of humor does not necessarily need to be offensive or obscene.
 
There is a fine line between dry humor and arrogant, senseless humor, which only an intelligent mind can decipher and use to their own benefit.
 
How to tell if you have a dry sense of humor
 
Some of the unique characteristics of deadpan comedy are listed below. You are a deadpan humorist if you possess these characteristics:
 
    You always use words and phrases that are commonly understood by laypeople.
    You use minimal or no use of facial expressions, body language, props, or any other tool to get the point of the joke across.
    You can state absurd and incorrigible facts in a blatantly honest manner that it becomes hard for the listeners not to laugh.
    You can maintain a very monotonous or unflinching demeanor throughout.
    You almost always use sarcasm and cynicism and your jokes also have a sense of irony.
    A majority of people may consider deadpan humor to be rude because they might not understand it, but that does not worry you much.
    You state simple facts and ideas in an extremely plain way. This is the most distinguishing characteristic of deadpan humor.
 
How to have a dry sense of humor
 
Since we have already explored the dry sense of humor meaning, is it possible for everyone to cultivate and develop it? Well, usually, it comes naturally, but if you really have the potential to develop it, here are some important points that may help you out:
1. Be observant of the world around you
 
Good observational skills are crucial in deadpan comedy. Deeply observe people, their idiosyncrasies, and their situations. This will help you come up with jokes.
2. Master the art of wordplay
 
Playing with common and easy to understand words has great importance. Aim to attract people with your wit.
3. Read widely
 
Adopt the habit of reading the works of great humorists like Robert Benchley. Reading can help you in cultivating a sense of humor that inspires others.
4. Always see the larger picture
 
Do not take life too seriously that it renders resistance to humor. Do not let the monotony of life kill the clown within.
 
Instead, allow yourself to get infected with humor. View the bigger picture despite your worries.
Are deadpan jokes good or bad?
 
Deadpan jokes are a good thing only if they are used correctly and with an appropriate audience. Deadpan comedians are usually very clever and entertaining.
 
If you do not have the correct audience, you are likely to anger many people.
 
Are deadpan jokes good or bad?
 
Deadpan jokes are a good thing only if they are used correctly and with an appropriate audience. Deadpan comedians are usually very clever and entertaining.
 
If you do not have the correct audience, you are likely to anger many people.
 

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Nearly 25% of Taiwanese experience insomnia | Taiwan News
 
TAIPEI (Taiwan News) — Nearly a quarter of Taiwanese have trouble falling asleep at night, according to a survey conducted by the National Suicide Prevention Center (NSPC) in July.
 
The survey results, released Saturday (Sept. 26) during the 2020 National Health Research Institutes (NHRI) Forum, showed that 23.3 percent of Taiwanese aged 15 and older had suffered insomnia in the week prior to taking the survey. Additionally, 4.2 million people had used sleeping aids on a regular basis, with the consumption of sleeping pills this year estimated to top 920 million.
 
NSPC Director Lee Ming-been (李明濱) noted that the percentage of Taiwanese experiencing sleeping difficulties is the lowest since 2006, but it is still very high. He added that this year's survey results were consistent with those of previous years and show that nearly one out of every four Taiwanese has insomnia.
 
Lee said the convenience of the country's healthcare system may have contributed to this prevalence. He said it is important for the government to consider limiting access to the medications, especially since they are used by 30 to 40 percent of Taiwanese who attempt suicide.
 
Lee emphasized that sleeping pills are not the only way to reduce sleep issues and that a heavy dependency on sedatives is cause for concern. He said the key to overcoming insomnia is identifying its main cause and creating a restful environment through relief strategies and behavioral treatment, reported Cnews.
---
What Causes Insomnia? | Sleep Foundation
 
Insomnia is a sleep disorder that affects as many as 35% of adults. It is marked by problems getting to sleep, staying asleep through the night, and sleeping as long as you would like into the morning. It can have serious effects, leading to excessive daytime sleepiness, a higher risk of auto accidents, and widespread health effects from sleep deprivation.
 
Common causes of insomnia include stress, an irregular sleep schedule, poor sleeping habits, mental health disorders like anxiety and depression, physical illnesses and pain, medications, neurological problems, and specific sleep disorders. For many people, a combination of these factors can initiate and exacerbate insomnia.
Is All Insomnia the Same?
 
Not all insomnia is the same; people can experience the condition in distinct ways1. Short-term insomnia happens only over a brief period while chronic insomnia lasts for three months or more. For some people, the primary problem is falling asleep (sleep onset) while others struggle with staying asleep (sleep maintenance).
 
How a person is affected by insomnia can vary significantly based on its cause, severity, and how it is influenced by underlying health conditions.
What Are Common Causes of Insomnia?
 
There are numerous potential causes of insomnia, and in many cases, multiple factors can be involved. Poor sleep can also trigger or worsen other health conditions, creating a complex chain of cause-and-effect for insomnia.
 
On a holistic level, insomnia is believed to be caused by a state of hyperarousal2 that disrupts falling asleep or staying asleep. Hyperarousal can be both mental and physical, and it can be triggered by a range of circumstances and health issues.
Insomnia and Stress
 
Stress can provoke a profound reaction in the body3 that poses a challenge to quality sleep. This stress response can come from work, school, and social relationships. Exposure to traumatic situations can create chronic stress, including post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
 
The body’s physical response to stress contributes to hyperarousal, and mental stress can have the same effect. The inability to sleep may itself become a source of stress, making it increasingly harder to break the cycle of stress and insomnia.
 
Researchers believe that some individuals are more vulnerable to stress-induced sleeping problems. These people are considered to have high “sleep reactivity,”4 which is tied to other issues affecting their sleep and their physical and mental health.
Insomnia and Irregular Sleep Schedules
 
In an ideal world, the body’s internal clock, known as its circadian rhythm, closely follows the daily pattern of day and night. In reality, many people have sleep schedules that cause misalignment of their circadian rhythm.
 
Two well-known examples are jet lag and shift work. Jet lag disturbs sleep because a person’s body can’t adjust to a rapid change in time zone. Shift work requires a person to work through the night and sleep during the day. Both can give rise to a disrupted circadian rhythm and insomnia.
 
In some people, circadian rhythms can be shifted forward or backward without a clear cause, resulting in persistent difficulties in sleep timing and overall sleep quality.
Insomnia and Lifestyle
 
Unhealthy habits and routines related to lifestyle and food and drink can increase a person’s risk of insomnia.
 
Various lifestyle choices can bring about sleeping problems:
 
    Keeping the brain stimulated until late in the evening, such as by working late, playing video games, or using other electronic devices.
    Napping late in the afternoon can throw off your sleep timing and make it hard to fall asleep at night.
    Sleeping in later to make up for lost sleep can confuse your body’s internal clock and make it difficult to establish a healthy sleep schedule.
    Using your bed for activities besides sleep can create mental associations between your bed and wakefulness.
 
Though often overlooked, choices about your diet can play a role in sleeping problems like insomnia.
 
Caffeine is a stimulant that can stay in your system for hours, making it harder to get to sleep and potentially contributing to insomnia when used in the afternoon and evening. Nicotine is another stimulant that can negatively affect sleep.
 
Alcohol, which is a sedative that can make you feel sleepy, can actually worsen your sleep by disturbing your sleep cycle and causing fragmented, non-restorative sleep.
 
Eating heavy meals and spicy foods can be hard on your digestive process and have the potential to generate sleeping problems when consumed later in the evening.
Insomnia and Mental Health Disorders
 
Mental health conditions like anxiety, depression, and bipolar disorder frequently give rise to serious sleeping problems. It is estimated that 40% of people with insomnia5 have a mental health disorder.
 
These conditions can incite pervasive negative thoughts and mental hyperarousal that disturbs sleep. In addition, studies indicate that insomnia can exacerbate mood and anxiety disorders6, making symptoms worse and even increasing the risk of suicide7 in people with depression.
Insomnia, Physical Illness, and Pain
 
Almost any condition that causes pain can disrupt sleep5 by making it harder to lie comfortably in bed. Dwelling on pain when sleepless in bed may amplify it, increasing stress and sleeping problems8.
 
Health complications related to Type II diabetes can be part of an underlying cause of insomnia9. Pain from peripheral neuropathy, more frequent need for hydration and urination, and rapid blood sugar changes can interrupt sleep. There is also a correlation between diabetes and other health conditions10 that are known to interfere with sleep including obstructive sleep apnea (OSA) and depression11.

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Top facts about what a dry sense of humor is and how to tell if you have it
Carol Karen
 
Some people enjoy a dry sense of humor while others do not understand it very well. It can be either positive or negative to say that someone has dry humor. Today, we will help you understand what it is, and whether or not you have it.
 
There are different types of humor, and a dry sense of humor is just one type. People who give dry humor jokes are often mistaken because this type is not well understood by many people, and some may even take offense when dry jokes are thrown their way.
Dry humor meaning
 
What is a dry sense of humor? It is a form of humor where a person often says funny things with a serious, calm expression. They do not smile and neither do they laugh or make silly faces.
 
It is also known as deadpan humor because the joke cracker is very impassive and has a matter of fact tone with no or the least display of emotions.
 
The joke may be a mere statement that the person is making about a current situation or occurrence. It is the outrageous and cleverly implied manner in which they make the statement that makes it so funny and sometimes difficult to understand.
 
Normally, it is not-obviously funny and is context or situation-dependent. A witty person says things and feeds jokes into every situation without even knowing that they are being funny.
 
When someone asks, "what is dry humor?" it is important to note that by its name and nature, it is ‘supposed’ to be condescending. For this reason, most people have the misconception that the person delivering the joke is also condescending and arrogant by nature.
 
While this may be true in some cases, it should be understood that the person is merely putting an air of superiority and patronizing behavior so that their joke has the desired effect on the audience.
 
NB: It is the responsibility of the person cracking the joke to ensure that their words do not take a toll on someone who is not as good a sport as he is expected to be. This type of humor does not necessarily need to be offensive or obscene.
 
There is a fine line between dry humor and arrogant, senseless humor, which only an intelligent mind can decipher and use to their own benefit.
 
How to tell if you have a dry sense of humor
 
Some of the unique characteristics of deadpan comedy are listed below. You are a deadpan humorist if you possess these characteristics:
 
    You always use words and phrases that are commonly understood by laypeople.
    You use minimal or no use of facial expressions, body language, props, or any other tool to get the point of the joke across.
    You can state absurd and incorrigible facts in a blatantly honest manner that it becomes hard for the listeners not to laugh.
    You can maintain a very monotonous or unflinching demeanor throughout.
    You almost always use sarcasm and cynicism and your jokes also have a sense of irony.
    A majority of people may consider deadpan humor to be rude because they might not understand it, but that does not worry you much.
    You state simple facts and ideas in an extremely plain way. This is the most distinguishing characteristic of deadpan humor.
 
How to have a dry sense of humor
 
Since we have already explored the dry sense of humor meaning, is it possible for everyone to cultivate and develop it? Well, usually, it comes naturally, but if you really have the potential to develop it, here are some important points that may help you out:
1. Be observant of the world around you
 
Good observational skills are crucial in deadpan comedy. Deeply observe people, their idiosyncrasies, and their situations. This will help you come up with jokes.
2. Master the art of wordplay
 
Playing with common and easy to understand words has great importance. Aim to attract people with your wit.
3. Read widely
 
Adopt the habit of reading the works of great humorists like Robert Benchley. Reading can help you in cultivating a sense of humor that inspires others.
4. Always see the larger picture
 
Do not take life too seriously that it renders resistance to humor. Do not let the monotony of life kill the clown within.
 
Instead, allow yourself to get infected with humor. View the bigger picture despite your worries.
Are deadpan jokes good or bad?
 
Deadpan jokes are a good thing only if they are used correctly and with an appropriate audience. Deadpan comedians are usually very clever and entertaining.
 
If you do not have the correct audience, you are likely to anger many people.
 
Are deadpan jokes good or bad?
 
Deadpan jokes are a good thing only if they are used correctly and with an appropriate audience. Deadpan comedians are usually very clever and entertaining.
 
If you do not have the correct audience, you are likely to anger many people.
 

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