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16 Struggles Of Being A Person With No Filter
Kim Quindlen
1. Sometimes you feel like you are the reluctant source of entertainment when you’re hanging out with your friends. It often feels like they’re all just sitting there waiting for you to say or do something ridiculous. But you’re just trying to enjoy your fries and your beer without saying something inappropriate or making someone cry.
2. Sometimes your friends crack up when you inappropriately blurt things out, but sometimes they get really offended. And you have no way to predict which way they are going to react.
3. People often can’t tell if you’re being serious or you’re joking. You’re open about everything and you never hold anything back, and sometimes you’re so honest that people think you can’t possibly be serious. Your friends are used to you being up front, so they’ll believe anything you say, even if it’s completely insane and ridiculous.
4. You’re the friend that people describe by saying “Just wait until you meet so-and-so. They’re hilarious!” So then you’re introduced to your friend’s friend, and they just sit there staring at you like you’re an animal in the zoo, waiting for you to do something crazy or say something nuts.
5. The struggle is real during job interviews. Sometimes your answer to a simple question like “What is your biggest weakness?” turns into a long-winded story about that time you got in trouble for underage drinking in high school. And you have no idea how you got to this point, or where you’re headed. But you just Can’t. Stop. Talking.
6. Talking to someone in person is much different for you than talking via text or any other device. When you’re texting or chatting with someone on your computer, you have a chance to look at what you’re saying and stop your words from tumbling out of your mouth uncontrollably. But the minute you’re talking to someone in person, you suffer from severe Word Vomit.
7. Going on a date is a nightmare for you. You want to be yourself, but then you get in your own head, worrying that you’re talking too much about random things, like your kickball team or Serbia. Your date could ask a question as simple as “What do you like to do in your spare time?” and you somehow end up on a 20-minute rant about Adam Sandler movies.
8. You get anxiety any time you are around older adults. Because things you talk about or words you use around your friends are often not okay in the company of elders. And it’s just awkward for everyone.
9. You hate going to parties or social gatherings of any kind, because you know you’re going to say something to insult somebody. And you will have no clue you upset someone until it gets back to you later. And at that point, it’s too late to apologize. (It’s too late… eh, eh, eh).
10. Sometimes you’ll say something completely normal and uninteresting, like “I need some ketchup for this burger” and your friends act like it’s the funniest thing in the world. They basically act like you’re the most entertaining person in the universe, no matter what you say or do, so you sometimes don’t even bother to try to be interesting.
11. You occasionally weird people out with how openly you talk about your life and your personal experiences. But you don’t give it another second’s thought. If you want to talk about your messy break-up or your dysfunctional family, that’s exactly what you’re going to do. They can walk away if it freaks them out that much.
12. People always come to you for advice, and they count on you to be honest. Even if means that you have to answer an extremely uncomfortable question. Your friends count on you to tell them the things they need to hear, and you feel pressured to tell the truth, even if you come off sounding mean or harsh.
13. Your life is a constant battle of flirting the line between being honest versus being inappropriate.
14. Whenever you open your mouth, people immediately look like they’re expecting some kind of show. You just say something like “It’s cold outside” and they still laugh for some reason.
15. You have a hard time not acknowledging things that are weird or abnormal or inappropriate or unintentionally funny. Particularly in social settings, when something weird or funny or strange happens and most people are inclined to ignore it or pretend they didn’t notice, you feel the need to acknowledge it and talk about it immediately.
16. Yes or no questions are just not a thing for you. You cannot give one-word answers. It’s not an option. Everything requires a completely unnecessary explanation, and you’ve resigned yourself to the fact that that will never change. TC mark
日本校園選美黑暗面
The bright side, and dark, of Japan's university beauty contests | The Japan Times
Shusuke Murai japantimes
What do campus beauty contests mean to students?
For the students, a beauty pageant is a way to show the world what they are capable of, said Kyohei Matsumoto, 22, of Aoyama Gakuin University in Tokyo.
Matsumoto heads a group of Aoyama Gakuin students who are organizing the annual Miss Aoyama contest, which it says is Japan’s oldest university beauty pageant. The first Miss Aoyama contest was organized in 1977, Matsumoto said.
“The good thing about the contest is that everything is organized by students from scratch, from where to hold the event to what to do at the contest and how to promote it,” Matsumoto said.
For female nominees, being named a candidate is a huge plus for those who dream of working as TV broadcasters because they become campus celebrities. Winning is considered a significant stepping stone to entering such a highly coveted career.
Several TV announcers have taken this route: 1996 runner-up Miss Aoyama Christel Takigawa became a freelance anchorwoman, and 1999 Miss Keio Minako Nakano and 2011 Miss Sophia University Reina Uchida have become news announcers at Fuji TV.
What about the universities?
Matsumoto believes the schools view beauty contests as publicity tools that can be used to attract more prospective students. About 200 universities hold them.
When are the contests held and what are the criteria?
Although procedures vary from place to place, beauty contests are often billed as the main event of a university’s autumn festival.
About three to 10 nominees are selected, with the winner decided by both online and physical voting at the contest site. They are also usually open to the public, meaning nonstudents can vote as well. Candidates are judged by appearance, personality, skills, stage performances and social media presence.
Some universities hold a male pageant in conjunction with the female one. Others hold contests for men who dress like women, and vice versa.
One school, Tokyo Institute of Technology, where nearly 90 percent of the undergraduates are male, holds an annual Mr. Beauty contest to recognize the most beautiful cross-dresser.
Why do the pageants have such a high profile?
University beauty pageants have become increasingly important to big business.
For some companies, university beauty pageants are considered as an effective way to promote products to students, who have become a difficult demographic to reach because they watch less TV, said Masaya Hasegawa of You Can Pass Co., an advertising agency specializing in marketing to students.
Companies, especially cosmetics makers, apparel companies and waxing salons, sign up to sponsor pageants at major universities. They provide products to the nominees for free while asking them to spread positive messages about them on social media in return.
For instance, one of this year’s candidates for the Miss Aoyama contest has about 10,000 followers on Twitter.
“Young people know that TV celebrities are out of their reach. … They know that beautiful celebrities are not using the shampoo they are advertising,” Hasegawa said. But if that same product is promoted by a student, the message becomes more appealing, he said.
Other firms offer eye-popping prizes to the nominees just to create a buzz online, Hasegawa said.
For example, some of the companies that sponsored the Miss Aoyama contest in 2015 gave away trips to Hawaii or parcels of land to the finalists. Another offered to give a nominee a job.
While praising commercial support, Matsumoto of Aoyama Gakuin pointed to the risk of the pageants being hijacked.
“I’m concerned the event will become too commercialized,” Matsumoto said. “The event would be no longer ours if we only did things just to make companies happy. That is not what we are hoping for.”
Does everyone support the contests?
In 2011, a plan to launch a beauty pageant at International Christian University in western Tokyo was scrapped after drawing the ire of students, alumni and others opposed to the idea.
“We stand against beauty pageants because they have a history of reinforcing a unitary concept of ‘women’s beauty,’ which is highly racialized, somatically normative, and classed, as well as a history of functioning as a tool for sexual objectification of women,” a group opposed to the event said in a statement written in English.
Some universities, like Meiji University in Tokyo, organize the contests like a fashion show instead of a beauty contest. Others, like elite Waseda University, don’t allow students to hold official beauty contests in its name.
