周六(6/30)1. 什麼 會讓兩人更親密? 2. 如何有說服力? 下午4:00-6:00

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什麼 會讓兩人更親密?

 Things That Ultimately Bring Two People Closer    relrules.com

    Two people in a relationship are always investing something, big or small, in their relationship to keep it healthy and strong. That is how time is passed and more is learned about each other. Date nights are set for the sole purpose of having to spend more time together to have fun and to be closer to each other in different ways.

There are some things that every couple should try together to spend a good time. They are rather silly and not so dreamy tasks but they are guaranteed to give you two the quality time you always look for to spend with each other.

    Learn Together:

It might sound clich but taking classes together can be a fun experience for two people who subconsciously wish to be more about each other. Learning new skills like playing a guitar or learning a foreign language with the person you have feelings for can be a moving experience. It is actually said to have brought people closer and there is no wonder why.

    Go on The Typical Date:

Every once in a while, you should go on a typical date with your partner. A candle-lit dinner with both of you wearing formal dresses, a movie together and then a long walk home, just to remind yourselves of the spark that once brought you together. You can talk about how silly and corny it is while doing it to make it more fun, to laugh together.

    Get Over Fears Together:

Try to do things that bring you closer to each other, like conquering fears together. Discover what scares you two the most and go on a spree to get over them holding hands. Sit on the edge of a cliff if you two are afraid of heights or watch a horror movie in 3D if horror movies tend make both you scream your lungs out because it would make you trust each other better.

    Go To Concerts:

It is not the greatest idea but going to concerts together to yell out with your favorite bands together can make you see more of each other. It is tried and tested. The comfortable space between you two grows and confidence is built. Going to concerts at least thrice a year is a great idea. You can take your friends too if that’s how you roll.

    Take Trips:

Take little trips with your significant other; they don’t have to be the most expensive experiences, just a hike around the city carrying a little bag of your clothes and other belongings. Spend a day or two in a nearby hotel to see things differently but with each other. Such little experiences make a great difference. 

 

如何有說服力?

How to Be Persuasive wikihow.com

    Stay calm. Keep calm and turn on the charm. Seriously though, if you start shouting or get all whiny, no one is going to listen to you anymore. It becomes like tuning out a small child. Keep calm and friendly in your demeanor and you'll be fine.

    Develop an emotional bond.

    If you can, it's best to get to know your audience before you try to persuade them of anything. Develop a bond with them, because if they trust you, they'll be much more likely to listen to you. Even if it's just a half hour of trust building, anything helps.

        Depending on the situation, how you bond with them may change. A good basic place to start would be to say, "Can I take you out for a cup of coffee?" While you're having coffee, talk to them about what's been going on in their life and the exciting or challenging things they have coming up. Offer them some solid advice and help them if you see an opening. Try not to persuade them during this meeting unless your matter is urgent. Take them out another time at least a week later, catch up on what you talked about previously, then get to work persuading.

    Look at where they're from.

    Look at where your audience is coming from. Are they poor, rich, middle class? Do they live in the city, suburbs or the country? Do they come from this country or are they from somewhere else? Where do they work? Our background heavily influences how we perceive arguments and what arguments work best on us.

        For example, if you're trying to persuade someone who's rich to buy something that looks low-class, sell it as "kitsch" or "Americana". To a lower class person, sell it realistically as a useful item.

    Evaluate how they think of themselves.

    Do they think of themselves as educated, logical people? Do they view themselves in a more emotional manner, like the hero of their own life story? How they see themselves will heavily influence what type of evidence you show them when you try to persuade them.

        Talk with them for a while and do your best to get them to talk about themselves. Listen to how they describe themselves or what they do. Do they emphasize what degree they have? Do they mention their church involvement? Do they talk about their kids?

        Another trick to seeing how they process information is to work them into a discussion of politics. See how they talk about the issues. This can reveal a lot about how they think.

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周四(6/30)1.超商每年丟70億食物!2.繭居族

板橋站區文化路一段421巷11弄1號 (陽光甜味咖啡館)

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超商每年丟70億食物!

NT$7 billion worth of foods wasted every year: Taiwan's convenience store franchise association

Taiwan News

TAIPEI (Taiwan News) — Convenience stores such as 7-11 and FamilyMart have become a necessity for people living in Taiwan. Apart from selling groceries and snacks, convenience stores in Taiwan have developed a variety of cooked or fresh foods, including rice rolls, sandwiches, fruit, bento boxes, among many others, for customers to choose from. However, according to an association known as IFRA, as much as NT$7 billion’s worth of foods is left expired on shelves and thrown away due to policies of convenience store chains.

Chen Yen-chia (陳縯家), director of the IFRA, which dedicates itself to promoting the rights of franchise businesses, told United Daily News that four of the major convenience store brands in Taiwan have similar policies that demand franchises to stock up food products that are more than they can reasonably sell.

Chen said because of companies’ insistence that there must always be ample products on shelves, roughly five percent of cooked or fresh foods ordered into a franchise store are wasted on a daily basis.

The companies will say they’d rather have products left unsold than see an empty shelf, according to Chen.

The IFRA estimated that each franchise store can throw away roughly NT$2,000 worth of foods every day, which means that there is approximately NT$7 billion worth of foods discarded in over 10,000 franchise stores in Taiwan every year.

As a result, the IFRA started a campaign last month, calling for the four major convenience store brands to abandon the policies that force franchise stores to order unreasonable quantities of fresh and cooked foods. As of now, more than 300 stores have joined forces to support the campaign.

Nevertheless, some convenience store chains denied IFRA’s accusation, saying that they utilized statistics to decide and adjust the quantities of foods each franchise store should order, reported UDN.

Lee Ying-yuan (李應元), minister of the Environmental Protection Administration, said theoretically, convenience stores have mechanisms to control order quantities for their franchise stores. However, the agency is aware of the complaints made by franchise businesses and is therefore willing to offer assistance for both convenience store companies and their franchises in order to find out the best way to reduce food waste, added the minister.

 

繭居族

In Japan, hundreds of thousands of young people are refusing to leave their homes — Quartz

Lila MacLellan

The phenomenon, called “hikikomori,” is defined by the Japanese Health, Labor and Welfare Ministry as people who haven’t left their homes or interacted with others for at least six months. Of the 541,000 people between age 15 and 39 who fit that description, 34% have spent seven years or more in self-isolation. Another 29% have lived in reclusion for three to five years.

Hikikomori (the term is used for both the condition and its subjects) surfaced as a phenomenon in Japan in the 1990s. At the time, some experts estimated that about one million people, mostly young men in their 20s, were spending their days locked up in their bedrooms, reading manga (comic books), watching TV, or playing video games. They refused to work or go to school and often didn’t communicate with family members, let alone friends.

There’s no standard course of treatment. Doctors believe the condition, which is not yet classified as an official disorder, is caused by a mix of psychological and societal influences. It’s far more common in men, who face more cultural pressure to succeed socially and professionally than women do. According to the New York Times:

    “Men start to feel the pressure in junior high school, and their success is largely defined in a couple of years,” said James Roberson, a cultural anthropologist at Tokyo Jogakkan College and an editor of the book “Men and Masculinities in Contemporary Japan.” “Hikikomori is a resistance to that pressure. Some of them are saying: ‘To hell with it. I don’t like it and I don’t do well.”‘

To fail at work or school is to risk social exclusion, something that can be avoided by voluntarily withdrawing from the world. For some, personal setbacks lead to feelings of severe inadequacy, triggering crippling anxiety.

In 2010, a Japanese cabinet report estimated there were just under 700,000 hikikomori in Japan, which suggests that their numbers are shrinking. Experts say the government’s findings are unreliable, however, since its survey only included people aged 15 to 39. Tens of thousands of men with the condition have likely aged out of the report’s demographic window. What’s more, although hikikomori usually begins in adolescence or in one’s twenties, it can also strike in mid-life. Last winter, the Japan Times reported that a growing number of men in their mid-40s were falling through “widening cracks in the social fabric,” and exhibiting “hikikomori-like behaviors,” usually after being laid off from work.

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週二(6/16)1. 擁抱 讓你活更久! 2. 選擇對的朋友

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擁抱 讓你活更久!

How Cuddling Can Help You Live Longer

By Judy Tan Editor's Pick

Relationships change with age and as you get older, you may feel increasingly isolated. Incorporating human touch through cuddling can help you live a longer, healthier life.

In the United States, one third of people ages 65 and up live alone. If you live by yourself, you may be missing out on all the hugging, kissing and touching that comes from spending time with others. This is a problem because touch not only feels great, it's also mentally and emotionally fulfilling. If you're looking for an easy way to incorporate touch into your life, consider cuddling.

Who Should Cuddle?

Everyone can benefit from the healing powers of touch! If you are lonely, in a relationship or suffering from high levels of stress, you will find cuddling to be an especially useful method of coping.

Why Should You Cuddle?

When you're feeling stressed, your body responds by producing a steroid hormone called cortisol. The more cortisol your body emits, the harder it is for you to fight off viruses and inflammation. When cortisol activates, it also shuts down non-essential systems, like your immune system.

When you experience touch, your brain releases a hormone called oxytocin (otherwise known as the “cuddle hormone.”) As your oxytocin levels increase, the amount of cortisol in your body decreases, making it easier for you to fight off infection.

Increasing immune health isn't the only way cuddling can improve your quality of life. Here are some other important benefits of cuddling:

    Touch is proven to help you battle diseases like fibromyalgia and arthritis

    Scientists believe that spooning your partner can lead to a better night's sleep – the more you cuddle, the more oxytocin your body releases, allowing you to relax and drift off to dreamland

    When you experience touch, your brain produces hormones like serotonin and dopamine . These hormones boost your mood, lessen feelings of depression and help your body feel amazing

Help! You Don't Have Anyone to Cuddle With

That's okay! Just because you live alone or enjoy a solitary lifestyle does not mean you are excluded from enjoying the healing benefits of touch. Here are some alternative ways of incorporating touch into your life:

    Pay for a massage

    Stroke an animal

    Hug or hold hands with a friend

    Ask someone to brush your hair or scratch your back

    Get a haircut (make sure to ask your stylist for a scalp massage)

 

選擇對的朋友

How to Choose the Right Friends

Building healthy friendships is an important part of your social life. Friends can have a major influence on how you think, feel, and behave.[1] You should look for friends that have good qualities and seek out new friends that are positive and supportive. Also, try to avoid negative friends so you can maintain a healthy, active social life.

    Make sure your friends offer emotional support and guidance. Good friends will be willing to support you on a consistent basis, through your high points and your low points. Your friends should offer to support you during any difficult emotional times and be there for you in a real, genuine way. They may also offer guidance and advice when you need it.

        You should consider if you feel supported by your friends and if so, in what ways. Maybe you remember a time where you were going through a rough break up and your friends checked in on you every day. Maybe your friends also tried to distract you from your emotions by taking you out for fun outings or by spending time with you one on one.

      

 Good friends may also offer good advice and guidance during a confusing or hard time. Your friends should only offer advice when you ask for it and be willing to support you, even if they do not agree with your decision at the time. They may not like your decision to move away for school, for example, but they should still try to support you the best they can, as a friend.

    Decide if your friends bring out the best in you. Your friends should also encourage you to develop into the best version of yourself you can be. They should help you focus on how you can be yourself and achieve your goals. Your friends should act as your own personal cheer squad, where they proudly encourage you to go after what you want.

        For example, maybe you are determined to get into medical school. Your friends may encourage you by asking about your studies and by helping you prepare your applications. They may also help you relieve the stress of the applications by taking you out to dinner and celebrate you when you get into school.

spend time volunteering with a group of people who are all supporting a cause you believe in. You may connect with certain individuals and spend time after volunteering talking over a cup of coffee or a drink. This could then lead to a friendships with someone who you know shares the same values and beliefs as you.

Turn an acquaintance into a friend.  You can try to turn the acquaintance into a friend by inviting them out for coffee or for dinner one on one where you can get to know each other on a deeper level. During the meeting, you should ask thoughtful questions and be a good listener to show the person that you can be a good person to get to know and hang out with.

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周六(6/23)1.聞香更快樂! 2.處理 鬧情緒 下午4:00-6:00

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聞香更快樂!

Studies Show Smells Make People Happy   | Reader's Digest  

The key to happiness might be right under your nose.

Pine

Research has found that this festive aroma, often associated with the winter holidays, helps to reduce stress. A study conducted at Japan’s Kyoto University took a deeper look at a Japanese custom of taking a soothing forest stroll known as shinrin-yoku, or “forest bathing,” and found that depression and anxiety were significantly reduced in participants on days when they walked through the country’s pine-filled woods. Don’t miss these other ways nature is medicine for your brain.

Citrus

If you’re in need of a pick-me-up, try sniffing some citrus. The smell of the vitamin C-packed fruits has been shown to boost energy and alertness, and studies have revealed that lemon scents in particular can reduce stress and leave a positive impression on others. (Here are 8 more ways to make a good impression.) Thanks to over 50 years of advertising and marketing campaigns for household cleaners like Joy dish soap, we tend to associate citrus smells as clean and pleasant. Learn how to clean with lemon instead of chemicals to make your whole home smell happy.

Sunscreen

If the smell of sunscreen reminds you of bright beach days and tropical getaways, you’re not alone. This scent’s positive effects are rooted in its association with stress-free vacation time, when you are typically more relaxed and happy than usual. Check out these other 50 tiny changes that will make you happier.

Fresh-cut grass

Put mowing the lawn at the top of your to-do list, if only because researchers in Australia have found that a chemical released by freshly cut grass can cause people to become more relaxed and even feel joy. (Maybe we should add mowing the lawn to these 22 tricks for making every morning happier.) They’ve even bottled the scent into a spray-on fragrance. The smell is so powerful that is said to prevent mental decline as you age. Try these other 8 things you can do today for a healthier brain while you age.

Flowers

That saying about stopping to smell the roses? Maybe it should be changed to lavender or jasmine instead. Lavender is well-documented for its calming effects, even easing insomnia and depression (find out what really happens when you use lavender for stress relief), and jasmine also has been shown to boost moods. Check out these other 23 ways to lift your spirits instantly.

 

處理 鬧情緒

Ways to Get Your Unwanted Emotions Under Control          psychologytoday.com

Emotions are a vital part of our everyday lives. Whether you’re having a good laugh over a text message or feeling frustrated in rush hour traffic, you know that the highs and lows you experience can significantly affect your well-being.

Your ability to regulate those emotions, in turn, affects how you’re perceived by the people around you. If you’re laughing at that text during a serious meeting, you’re likely to get resentful looks from others in the room. On the other hand, if you react with rage at a driver who cuts you off in traffic, you can engender unwanted attention, and perhaps even risk your life.

Calming yourself down when you’re frustrated, of course, may be more easily said than done. If you tend to fly off the handle when aggravated, and express your outrage to everyone within earshot (or on the other end of an email), your emotions could be costing you important relationships, your job, and even your health.

    Select the situation. Avoid circumstances that trigger unwanted emotions. If you know that you're most likely to get angry when you’re in a hurry (and you become angry when others force you to wait), then don’t leave things for the last minute. Get out of the house or office 10 minutes before you need to, and you won’t be bothered so much by pedestrians, cars, or slow elevators. Similarly, if there’s an acquaintance you find completely annoying, then figure out a way to keep from bumping into that person.

  

 Modify the situation. Perhaps the emotion you’re trying to reduce is disappointment. You’re always hoping, for example, to serve the “perfect” meal for friends and family, but invariably something goes wrong because you’ve aimed too high. Modify the situation by finding recipes that are within your range of ability so that you can pull off the meal. You may not be able to construct the ideal soufflé, but you manage a pretty good frittata.

  Shift your attentional focus. Let’s say that you constantly feel inferior to the people around you who always look great. You’re at the gym, and can’t help but notice the regulars on the weight machines who manage to lift three times as much as you can. Drawn to them like a magnet, you can’t help but watch with wonder and envy at what they’re able to accomplish. Shifting your focus away from them and onto your fellow gym rats who pack less punch will help you feel more confident about your own abilities. Even better, focus on what you’re doing, and in the process, you’ll eventually gain some of the strength you desire.

   

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