周六(12/2) 1.生活危機處理 2.縱火者下午 4:00-6:00

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生活危機處理

Ways to Cope During a Life Crisis     by Paul Browning  pickthebrain

One of the great things about a life crisis is you get to find out what works. When life is easy and no major challenges are on the horizon, you can read all about affirmations, pray, meditate, firewalk or just read self-help manuals written by big-name gurus. Then life throws you a major health challenge, the end of a relationship, the death of somebody close to you and an unexpected job loss.

Tactic 1 – Run Toward, NOT Away If there is no growth without discomfort, why do so many people run away when things become uncomfortable? They avoid public speaking, they panic when the partner they know is wrong for them threatens to leave and they beg to keep the job they don’t even like. When my father was diagnosed with a terminal illness and when my marriage ended, I was taking the situation to the end and imagining myself coping. Well, not just coping but moving on with my life and being happy. Everything must come to an end and real peace of mind comes when you accept this.

Tactic 2 – Do What You Don’t Want to Do During a life crisis, you will be tempted to crawl into your bed and pull the sheets over your head. You may even want to turn to alcohol, drugs, food or something else to help numb the pain. Instead, do this:

◾Feed your body fresh, organic food

◾Exercise every day, even if it is just walking

◾Read books that inspire you

◾See a comedy show and laugh

If you have some spare cash, get a nice haircut and treat yourself to a new outfit. The temptation will be to neglect yourself, but you must do the opposite and invest in yourself.

Tactic 3– Avoid Pity Parties Your friends and family will not want to see you suffer and at times like this, you will be thankful for a support network. When I was having my major crisis, I would spend every night on the phone with friends and relatives talking about what I was going through. Here’s the thing though; is talking about how terrible you feel helping you at all? Sometimes we can fall into the trap of becoming a victim in the story of our life. If you can, share your problem with a professional counselor or hypnotherapist who is there to help you move on with your life. Spend the time with your family and friends doing fun stuff.

Q:

What are the ways to cope life crisis?

Do exercise and read books help handling life crisis?

How to overcome your difficulties?

How to be strong in life?

How to deal with an unexpected job loss?

What are the problem solving skills do you have?

縱火者

What is Arson?  wisegeek

Arson is defined as the willful act of setting something on fire, usually a home or another type of structure. People commit arson for a variety of reasons, and the crime is severely punished all over the world because it puts lives and property at risk. In some parts of the world, if someone dies in a fire that was deliberately set, it is considered to be murder, rather than manslaughter or negligent homicide, because arson is deemed to be such a reprehensible act. In all instances, a conviction carries a prison term.

Motives for arson vary. In many instances, a property owner commits this crime in an attempt to collect the value of the property, which is usually insured against fire. Arson is also committed to cover up evidence of another crime, and some individuals even undertake it for entertainment or thrills. Some vandals also set property on fire, sometimes not with the express purpose of burning a building down, but with the idea of more general property damage in mind.

Some people with mental illness engage in fire setting as part of their mental condition. Usually, they start out with small objects in contained spaces, but if the tendency is left unchecked, they may graduate to arson. When fire setting is part of a mental illness, it is usually treated through psychotherapy and behavioral therapy, both attempts to get at the roots of an anti-social behavior. In rare instances, an arsonist may be confined in a mental treatment facility until he or she is better.

Although the motives for arson are sometimes complex, the law is usually crystal clear: anyone who deliberately sets fire to something will be punished for it. In some regions, a fire that is caused by extreme negligence or disregard will also be classified as arson. The penalty for committing this crime often depends on things like how much property was damaged, the total value of the damages, and whether or not people were trapped in the fire. The intent also plays a role, such as whether the fire was set to defraud an insurance agency, cover up a crime, was part of a revenge crime, or was designed to entertain or amuse the arsonist, for example.

Most parts of the world have arson investigators, who inspect the sites of suspicious fires to determine the cause of the fire and whether or not it was deliberate. This job can sometimes be quite difficult, especially when evidence is obscured by the efforts of those trying to put out or clean up the fire. Arson investigators use a variety of techniques to examine the sites of fires including chemical analysis of evidence, the use of sniffer dogs, and simple powers of observation.

Q:

What do you think that news reported the arson case recently?

Do you think Taiwan is a safe country?

Reasons why Taiwan is an awesome place to live?

Reasons why people will commit arson?

Why do people commit crime?           

How to help someone with mental health problems?

How to deal with anti-social behavior?

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週四(12/7) 臭豆腐歷史/豬血糕

板橋區文化路段421巷11弄1號 (陽光甜味咖啡館)

新埔捷運站1號出口 旁邊7-11巷子進入20公尺 看到夏朵美髮院  左轉     PM7:00--9:30

臭豆腐歷史/豬血糕

Pig's blood cake   Wikipedia

Pig's blood cake is a street food delicacy served on a stick from market stalls in Taiwan. It is made with pork blood, sticky rice and soy broth. It is fried or steamed and coated in peanut flour. It is eaten as a snack. It can also be cooked in a hot pot. It is served hot by street vendors who keep it warmed in a wooden box or metal steamer.

Stinky tofu

Stinky tofu is a Chinese form of fermented tofu that has a strong odor. It is usually sold at night markets or roadside stands as a snack, or in lunch bars as a side dish, rather than in restaurants.

Production

Unlike cheese, stinky tofu fermentation does not have a fixed formula for starter bacteria; wide regional and individual variations exist in manufacturing and preparation.

The traditional method of producing stinky tofu is to prepare a brine made from fermented milk, vegetables, and meat; the brine can also include dried shrimp, amaranth greens, mustard greens, bamboo shoots, and Chinese herbs. The brine fermentation can take as long as several months.

Modern factories often use quicker methods to mass-produce stinky tofu. Fresh tofu is marinated in prepared brine for only a day or two, especially for fried or boiled cooking purposes.The process only adds odor to the marinated tofu instead of letting it ferment completely.

History

According to a Chinese legend, a scholar named Wang Zhi from Hunag Shan in Anhui Province invented stinky tofu during the Qing dynasty.After failing the imperial examination, Wang stayed in Beijing and relied on selling tofu to make a living. One day, having a huge quantity of unsold tofu on his hands, he cut the tofu into small cubes and put them into an earthen jar. After several days, he opened up the jar and found out that the tofu had turned greenish and become extremely smelly. Initially perceiving the tofu to taste extremely foul, he found out that it was surprisingly delicious so he decided to start selling it at his store. The stinky Tofu that Wang Zhi invented gained popularity and was later served at the imperial Qing Dynasty palace. The Empress Cixi later named the delicacy “imperial green cubes.”

Q:

Have you ever tried pig's blood cake?

What do you think the street food in Taiwan?

What do you think the street vendors in Taiwan?

Have you ever tried stinky tofu?

What are the weird food you’ve tried?

What do you think about Chinese herbs?

What do you think about night markets?

How often you eat out?

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週二(11/28) 1.九型人格? 2.流感是甚麼?

板橋區文化路段421巷11弄1號 (陽光甜味咖啡館)
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九型人格 分析

Introduction to the Enneagram, and its nine personality types.    eclecticenergies.com

The Enneagram is a personality typing system that consists of nine different types. Everyone is considered to be one single type, although one can have traits belonging to other ones. While it's uncertain whether this type is genetically determined, many believe it is already in place at birth.

Type 1 - The Reformer

Perfectionists, responsible, fixated on improvement

Ones are essentially looking to make things better, as they think nothing is ever quite good enough. This makes them perfectionists who want to reform and improve, who desire to make order out of the omnipresent chaos.

Type 2 - The Helper

Helpers who need to be needed

Twos essentially feel that they are worthy insofar as they are helpful to others. Love is their highest ideal. Selflessness is their duty. Giving to others is their reason for being. Involved, socially aware, usually extroverted.

Type 3 - The Achiever

Focused on the presentation of success, to attain validation

Threes need to be validated in order to feel worthy; they pursue success and want to be admired. They are frequently hard working, competetive and are highly focused in the pursuit of their goals, whether their goal is to be the most successful salesman in the company or the "sexiest" woman in their social circle.

Type 4 - The Individualist

Identity seekers, who feel unique and different

Fours build their identities around their perception of themselves as being somehow different or unique; they are thus self-consciously individualistic. They tend to see their difference from others as being both a gift and a curse - a gift, because it sets them apart from those they perceive as being somehow "common," and a curse, as it so often seems to separate them from the simpler forms of happiness that others so readily seem to enjoy.

Type 5 - The Investigator

Thinkers who tend to withdraw and observe

Fives essentially fear that they don't have enough inner strength to face life, so they tend to withdraw, to retreat into the safety and security of the mind where they can mentally prepare for their emergence into the world. Fives feel comfortable and at home in the realm of thought.

Type 6 - The Loyalist

Conflicted between trust and distrust

Sixes essentially feel insecure, as though there is nothing quite steady enough to hold onto. At the core of the type Six personality is a kind of fear or anxiety. Sixes don't trust easily; they are often ambivalent about others, until the person has absolutely proven herself, at which point they are likely to respond with steadfast loyalty.

Type 7 - The Enthusiast

Pleasure seekers and planners, in search of distraction

Sevens are essentially concerned that their lives be an exciting adventure. They are future oriented, restless people who are generally convinced that something better is just around the corner. They are quick thinkers who have a great deal of energy and who make lots of plans. They tend to be extroverted, multi-talented, creative and open minded.

Type 8 - The Challenger

Taking charge, because they don't want to be controlled

Eights are essentially unwilling to be controlled, either by others or by their circumstances; they fully intend to be masters of their fate. Eights are strong willed, decisive, practical, tough minded and energetic. They also tend to be domineering; their unwillingness to be controlled by others frequently manifests in the need to control others instead.

Type 9 - The Peacemaker

Keeping peace and harmony

Nines essentially feel a need for peace and harmony. They tend to avoid conflict at all costs, whether it be internal or interpersonal. As the potential for conflict in life is virtually ubiquitous, the Nine's desire to avoid it generally results in some degree of withdrawal from life.

Q:

What is your opinion about enneagram?

What is the personality type you fit in?

Does the personality type is genetically determined?

Pros and cons of being a perfectionist?

Pros and cons of being an individualist?

Pros and cons of being a loyalist

Is it good to be a challenger?

How to keep peace and harmony in life?

流感是甚麼?

What is Influenza?

Written By: Deborah wisegeek

Influenza, or the flu, is a viral infection affecting the respiratory tract. Symptoms include fever, runny nose, stuffed up sinuses, fatigue, headache, cough, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, and achy muscles and joints. These are considered to be flu-like symptoms, however, and people who have one or more of them doesn't necessarily have this infection. Someone who suspects that he or she has the flu should see a medical professional since, not only is the virus contagious, but if not treated, it could become severe and even fatal.

When an infected person sneezes or coughs around other people, he or she can spread the influenza virus. Particles are passed through the air, where they will infect those with whom they come in contact. If an infected person uses a telephone, the virus can also be passed on to the next person to use the phone. Since the infected person may not know she has the illness, he she can touch many items without realizing she has passed the virus along to others.

There's no cure for influenza, but a flu shot is available every year. The elderly, pregnant, and children are especially urged to protect themselves in this manner. Those with compromised immune systems or chronic ailments, such as asthma, should also get the shot each year.

Infected people need to take care not to pass on the virus to others. In addition to covering the mouth and nose when they cough or sneeze, they should frequently wash their hands and do their best not to come in contact with other people. Anyone suffering from the virus is urged to stay home from work or school. Even the busiest employer would usually much rather an infected person stay home than start a work-place epidemic. A large number of people can become sick if just one infected person rides a crowded subway or goes to a movie theater.

The best thing that a person who is suffering from the flu can do is stay home, drink plenty of fluids and rest. If a doctor's visit is required, a prescription for an anti-viral may be issued. Alcohol and cigarettes or other tobacco products can lower a person's immunity, so people should avoid these products at least until after recovery.

Q:

What is influenza?

How to avoid catching a cold or the flu?

What to do if you get sick?

How to boost your immune system?

Do we easily get infected from public areas?

Why workplace safety is important

What are the good health habits can help stop germs?

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周六(11/25) 1.衝突紛爭之解決2.朋友如何影響你 下午 4:00-6:00

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衝突紛爭之解決

Resolving Your Conflict With Another    wikihow

    Remain calm

    Tempers will stand in the way of working through your differences. After all, the goal is making peace with one another, not getting revenge. Respectfully communicate to them, through a mediator if necessary, that you should both take some time to calm down. Then agree on a time and a place to discuss and resolve your conflict.

     

    Make a list of your concerns

 Before you meet with the other person, sit down and write out exactly what you think led to the conflict. Try to take personal history and personality out of the equation as much as possible. Think about the root of the problem and what specifically you need to change.

    Allow the other person to talk.

    You will still be able to make all of your points, but make sure to let the other person state his or her concerns as well. Let them talk, even if you disagree, because interrupting will only add to the conflict. It is most important for each of you to figure out the conflict you disagree on than the ‘correct’ solution. Working toward accepting each other’s differing views is at the center of this process.

    Stay away from negative talk.

    Focus on the positive things instead of saying things like, "can't," "don't" or "no." The negative words will only make the conflict harder to resolve. They dwell on the conflict rather than the solution. At the end of the day, what you need the other person to accept is how you want to move forward.

        For example, don’t tell the other person: “I don’t like the way you borrow my car without asking.” While this may be an important aspect of your conflict, in the solutions phase of the conflict resolution, it keeps you dwelling on the past.

     

    Look for compromise.

    In many conflicts, no one person is completely wrong, so try to find a compromise that you can both be happy with. Always try to be the ‘bigger person’ by finding a resolution that satisfies both of you. Don’t let this turn into a competition to see who can be ‘more reasonable,’ however.

       Q:

What are the tips for resolving conflict?

How to remain calm during any argument or conflict situation?

How to stay away from negative talk?

How to compromise?

How to control your temper?

朋友如何影響你

Ways Your Friends Influence You  (Elizabeth Mitchell)

1. Your Eating Habits

“Have you ever gone to a restaurant with the healthiest of intentions — a salad followed by grilled fish and steamed vegetables — only to find yourself halfway through a bacon cheeseburger and onion rings? Or, on the other hand, have you ever listened to everyone at your table order a salad with grilled chicken, only to hear yourself echo their order?” As it turns out, eating is a contagious behavior.

In fact, a study published in the New England Journal of Medicine, which analyzed data from 32 years, found that your chances of becoming obese actually increase by 57% if you have a friend that’s obese.

2. Your Exercise Regimen

One of the best ways friends influence each other is to encourage, irritate, remind, show up, and be there for exercise, says Anne Kelly, President of Junonia. “Research proves that having friends to exercise with really improves both persons’ health, even if that friend is just a walking canine companion.” Vice versa, if your friends aren’t physically active at all, it’s likely that exercise will become less of a priority for you.

3. Your Self-Esteem

Think about it: we tend to compare ourselves to the people in our social group, and the social group we wish we were in, so if our friends have more than us (money, looks, things, etc.), then we tend to feel worse about ourselves and our lives, notes Dr. Don Nations, professional coach, consultant and the founder of DNA Coaching. “On the other hand, if we have a bit more than most of the people in our group, we tend to feel better about our lives.”

4.. Your Style

Along with your geographic area, your family, and the media, friends have a big influence on what you wear, says style consultant and author of Steal This Style, Sherrie Mathieson. “The more important fitting in is for you, the greater your friends' influence will be. So when it comes to your clothes, whatever style it is that you’re used to seeing on a day-to-day basis, the more likely it is you’ll adopt this look for yourself.”

5. Your Career

 “How many times have you heard, or said, ‘It’s who you know,’ when speaking of someone successful?” It’s true, says Tina B. Tessina, PhD, psychotherapist and author of Money, Sex and Kids. “In order to succeed in many things, you need to know the people who have the power in that field. Throughout your school years, you build friendships with people who will turn out to be the powerful ones.

Questions:

1. Do you think that friends influence your eating habits?

Do you think that your chances of becoming obese increasing if you have a friend that’s obese?

2. Do you tend to compare yourself to your fiends?

3. Do you think that friends influence your style to your clothes?

4. Do you think that friends influence your self-esteem and your career??

5. Do you have celebrities’ friends?

6. Is it fair to have an opposite sex friend after marriage?

7. How to end a friendship - cutting off a bad friend? How to deal with toxic friends?

 

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