周二聚會 4/23 1. 避免衝突 2.旅行的好處
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避免衝突
How
to Avoid Conflict (By Theresa Smith, eHow )
Conflict is part of everyday life and can
range from a small disagreement at the office to yelling at a not so conscientious
driver. Although we tend to get over many small conflicts pretty well, when conflict
arises in our personal lives and relationships it is can be much harder
to deal with.
1 Bite your tongue rather
than say something harsh in the heat of the moment that you don't mean.
Remember the old adage, if you don't have anything nice to say then
don't say anything at all. Sometimes, during an argument is not the right
time to try to make your point.
2 Be
willing to listen because sometimes that is the easiest way to resolve a
conflict. Let your loved one express her feelings to you. You cannot fight
feelings and feelings are not wrong. You cannot change the way that a person
feels but you can acknowledge her feelings and try to understand them.
3 Set boundaries because everyone needs
those no matter how close the relationship may be. Respect each other's privacy
and space. Not everything involving your significant other is your business.
Sure, you share a lot but it is not a necessity to know everything that he does
at every moment. it is not fair and will surely lead to conflict when those
boundaries are not respected.
4 Be
grateful and don't take your significant other for granted. Thank her
for all that she does. Let him know that you appreciate him keeping things
fixed around the house. Thank her for cooking dinner, doing the laundry and
doing a great job with the kids. All of those nice things that you enjoy should
not be handled as the significant other doing her duty. Just say thanks every
once in a while for his being the person that he is.
5 Don't
overreact to an overreact to an already volatile situation, particularly when
the other person may be seeking a confrontation. Don't fall into negative
behaviors. Keep a cool head and think things out before reacting. Ask yourself
if it is worth the fight. Don't react in a way that you will have to apologize
for later.
Questions:
1 . What causes conflict? And how to avoid
conflict?
2. How to resolve a conflict at work?
3. How to resolve conflicts in your
relationships effective
4. Can you control your anger?
5. Is silence as a good or bad tool to
resolve conflicts?
6. Ways to managing disagreements?
旅行的好處
The
Benefits of Traveling ( ineedmotivation.com)
Traveling gives us the opportunity to
disconnect from our regular life. You get to forget your problems/issues for a
few weeks, it can also help you figure things out that you would not have
understood without the distance traveling can give you. We all have crazy
schedules, work and a family to take care of, going away alone or with some
friends can give you distance and perhaps even make you realize how important
these people are for you. Like the saying says: we never know what we have
until we lose it.
Another great benefit is the relaxation you
get to do. It’s nice to live life to its fullest and enjoy a stress free time
with yourself. Going on vacation lets us recharge our “batteries” by
disconnecting us from our regular life. When we come back we feel invigorated
and we are happy to be back in our day to day routine. It’s a very good stress
remover that has a lot more to give than most people are willing to accept.
Traveling increases our knowledge and
widens our perspective. To view new customs, different ways of living is
fantastic for the mind. It gives us a new perspective about life and especially
our life, it can help us change some of our habits or even create new ones.
When I travel I usually make it a point to try new food, some cultures don’t
have fries in their diet and they are all skinny, others use spices to give
taste and not oils or fats. Discovering different values and ways to get by in
life is really interesting. You also need to visit exotic new places and
discover what this wonderful world has to offer.
New experiencesincrease our resourcefulness
by living situations you would never encounter at home, this is great
experience for you when you come back to your routine. I have noticed that
people who traveled a lot in life were ready to embrace change and have a
natural ability of overcoming problems that others would frown upon.
When traveling with friends or family it
creates memories for a lifetime. These memories will create a bond that nothing
can erase no matter what happens with the friendship/relationship. It can also
give a new perspective on the relationship and cement the bond forever. It also
gives nice stories to tell people afterwards, you can create photo albums about
your trips and when you feel nostalgic you can take an hour of your life and
experience the trips again by looking at your pictures.
Questions:
1. What are the benefits of traveling?
2. How often do you travel or go on
vacation?
3. Can travelling make you healthier? Why?
4. Ways to relax yourself?
5. Do you dare to break out of your comfort
zone and to do sth new?
6. What kind of adventure do you want to
have?
如何避免衝突 (勞委會職訓局)
提供您五大法則，說明如何預防不愉快的衝突發生，讓您可以有效的避開無謂的衝突。
建立有效的溝通管道
很多衝突都是因為缺乏良好溝通管道或方式而產生，因此若能在衝突發生前，就能建立起良好的溝通管道，也就能減少衝突的發生。建立正式的溝通管道包括：定期召開會議讓大家暢所欲言；舉辦非正式聚會讓大家能輕鬆表達自己的意見；請立場公正的上司來協助處理對立雙方的衝突。當有良好的溝通管道與途徑時，相信大家都可以有效的溝通來避免無謂的衝突產生，達到預防衝突發生的目的。
嘗試去解決問題
衝突通常是因為問題的產生而爆發，若是能在發生衝突前，將問題找出來並加以解決，這樣一來就能減少衝突的發生。您可以利用以下方式嘗試去解決問題，一、分析問題發生的原因；二、依循過去經驗或擬定一個方案來解決問題；三、驗證解決問題的方案是否恰當；四、得到解決問題的最佳方案。當您最後獲得最佳解決方案後，建議您將它詳細描述記錄下來，做為日後的標準作業方式，避免下次遇到問題時，再重新尋求解決方案。
建立良好的人際關係
良好的人際關係不但是職場成功的通用法則，也是能避免及預防衝突發生的好方法，但要如何擁有良好的人際關係呢？與人交往時，盡量站在對方的角度，將心比心的為他人設想。與人溝通時當一位好聽眾，用心傾聽對方的想法與感受。在工作中要善於處理自己的情緒，切勿將負面情緒帶給他人，以免影響上班氣氛。擁有好人緣，衝突自然就不容易發生。
勿當衝突引爆點
在工作場合中，任何人的言行舉止都會被人看在眼裡，若是一不注意，就很有可能因為一句話或一個動作而導致衝突引爆。因此，在工作中首先要遵守「多做事，少說話」的原則，對於八卦傳言聽聽就好，不要再傳遞給他人，說話時也要先思考，不要太早做出結論，以免說了不該說的話。更重要的是要做到基本的職場倫理，尊重他人的專業與職務位階，不以下犯上。把握這些重點，也是降低衝突引爆的方式之一。
旅遊的好處
(http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_5d8006cd0100buvt.html)
一家人出門遠遊，就有利於化解矛盾。愛情，在婚後需要加固，夫妻一起去旅行就是一種極好的加固方式見多識廣、心胸開闊、 其一，旅遊熏陶著人的情操，增長人的見識。中國古代哲學家荀子說：“不登高山，不知天之高也；不臨深溪，不知地之厚也。”中國人常用“不知天高地厚”來貶說別人不知好歹，沒有見識。《莊子·秋水》篇開頭頗有寓意：秋水暴漲，河伯見百川灌河，浩瀚奔涌的氣勢頗是欣慰，以為天下之美盡為己有。當他順流而東到了大海，抬頭一看，無邊無涯，於是望洋興嘆，向海神承認自己淺陋，見笑于大方。古人有“讀萬卷書，行萬里路”的說法，以為“白首死章句”的儒生是沒有出息的，當博採眾長，遊歷多思，才可能有成就。屈原、司馬遷、李白、徐霞客、李時珍、張衡等等，哪一個不是行于江山之助，才成就了人生的功業？
其二，旅遊錘鍊人的意志，開拓人的智慧。宋代王安石遊褒禪山，未及洞底，就退出來，以致“不得極乎遊山水之樂”。於是他悟出：“天下奇偉瑰怪非常之觀、常在險遠，非有志者不能至也。”蘇軾遊石鍾山，欲究石鍾山命名之由，便月夜泛舟絕壁下，聞流水與石竅激蕩共鳴之聲，開釋了疑問。凡此種種是極大的審美享受。在此尋幽訪勝的經歷中，個人意志得以鍛鍊，智慧又進了一步，為人類文明又增加一道亮色。後人在拜讀他們的大作之時，品其文，賞其念，心智也得以昇華。
其三，對山川的愛戀還激發人們對祖國的愛、對生活的愛。當代偉人毛澤東面對茫茫雪原，在詩歌中嘆道：“江山如此多嬌，引無數英雄競折腰。”昔日的秦皇漢武、唐宗宋祖、成吉思汗，無不為山河鞠躬盡瘁。唐朝大詩人李白雲遊山水，詩可驚鬼神，仍“舉頭望明月、低頭思故鄉”。其真摯令人感動。對土地真摯的愛已深深地融入了人類的血液，成為人類生活的支柱。
所有的自然景觀，無論是否人工的直接改造，歸納起來不過兩大類：壯觀和優美，它們都以形體、色彩、光影、聲響等因素構成。不管人類是有意還是無意地面對它，景觀都給予人的身心以潛移默化地影響和一定的享受。因此，今人、古人、中國人、外國人都愛旅遊，這是人類情意傾注之必然。
大地山川是美的，而人類的勞動更美。當代著名日本畫家東山魁夷說：“風景之美，不僅僅意味著大地自然本身的優越，也體現了當代民族文化歷史和精神。”對此，馬克思的論述更為深刻。馬克思說：“周圍的，可以感覺得到的世界完全不是從來就如此或永遠不改的東西，而是工業化與社會狀態的產物，是許多世代活動的結果。”在人類發展過程中，人類不斷按自己的需要改造世界，或耕種、或修築、或題咏鐫刻，或尋幽勘探。幾千年來數不清的人類勞動，累積在這美麗的土地，這是何等的美麗和壯闊：北京的故宮、西安古城、埃及的金字塔、法國的凱旋門……不一而足。
讓我們走出家門，走進大自然，仔細端詳吧！這是我們的大地，我們的母親
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