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Don't Criticize, Condemn, or Complain
(This article was created by guest-writer Tyler Manoukian)
When Dale Carnegie began teaching 100 years ago, nobody, not even he could imagine what has become of his legacy. Carnegie taught hundreds of lectures to thousands of students who sought the wisdom he had learned to harness.
He developed a set of thirty principles in a codex called “How to Win Friends and Influence People” 75 years ago that iterated his philosophy on how to win friends and influence people. Ask anyone, even current CEO of the Carnegie Empire, Peter Handal and he’ll tell you that the elder Carnegie’s secret to success was influencing people. “You can change people’s behavior by changing your attitude towards them,” said Handal of Carnegie’s philosophy.
100 years later, Dale Carnegie Training works to provide leaders and employees in corporations and government agencies with the skills necessary to influence people the exact same way Dale Carnegie himself prescribed those skills. Dale Carnegie Training allows teams and individuals the opportunity to attend leadership training seminars as well.
The first principle that Dale Carnegie offered to his audience was “Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain.” This ideal teaches us to be kind and thoughtful when considering other peoples’ feelings. Its about showing respect to get respect – treating others the way you want to be treated. This principle encourages an open mind when talking other people.
Don’t criticize a person for having a different opinion than you because everyone’s opinion matters regardless of whether there is 100 percent agreement. If you skip right to criticizing, you will never get anything accomplished. The most common natural reaction for someone is to clam up and shy away from a conversation with you. This is especially important in the workplace when trying to settle a conflict. Conflict resolution does not happen by criticizing your fellow team members.
Don’t condemn your coworker or friend for doing something you don’t believe was right. There may be a reason why he or she decided to do things that way. And you won’t know that unless you approach your friend with an open mind and a cool head. Condemning another person’s actions without knowing the full circumstance of that action is immature and short-sighted.
Don’t complain about a decision that was made or about a problem you are having. Instead work actively to solve it. Ask yourself what’s the worst that could possibly happen, and then look for a solution. Someone once told me that ‘complacency is the enemy of progress.’ Complaining about your job or something that happened is going to prevent you from solving the problem and its going to get you a lot of annoyed looks from your cohorts. People don’t want to hear you complain about something that happened in the past, they want to hear how or what you did to solve it.
Without jumping to conclusions, I task you to apply this principle to your life. Look closely at the difference between the two options afterwards and post a comment here letting us know how it turned out. If you follow this guideline, you will feel less stressed and more willing to try this again in the future because it worked for you once before. I encourage you to try this because you’ll walk away from the situation with a good feeling, a high level of productivity and a positive working relationship with your coworker.
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Tips to Prevent Neck Pain
Steven Yeomans, DC, FACO
Muscle strain and resulting muscle spasm is often caused by an underlying neck problem, such as spinal stenosis, arthritis, or disc degeneration and can be triggered from trauma but frequently occurs insidiously, or for no obvious or identifiable reason.
See Neck Strain: Causes and Remedies
Whether your neck pain is from a chronic condition or if you've just woken up with a stiff neck, the following tips should help you experience less pain.
Follow these 10 tips to protect your neck from injury:
Selecting the right pillow height for your sleeping position can help to keep your cervical spine in neutral alignment and prevent pain.
Try a new pillow.
In terms of comfort and support for your neck while you sleep, there are many options and you may need some trial and error to find what works best for you. As a general rule, it is best to use a pillow that keeps your cervical spine in neutral alignment—meaning, the natural curve of your neck is supported and maintained.
See Pillows for Neck Pain
There are a number of options, and what works best for you will largely be determined on the cause of your neck problem as well as your sleep preferences. Here are a few examples:
Some people find that their neck pain decreases when they lie down on their back with the head supported by a relatively flat pillow, or with an orthopedic pillow that has a deeper depression where the head lies and extra support under the neck.
Other people find that support with a pillow when side-lying is more comfortable.
Some prefer sitting in a recliner, or in an adjustable bed with the upper part of the body at an incline. In this reclining position, they can use a small or relatively flat pillow.
If you're like most people, you change your sleep position during the night, so be sure to have a pillow—or more than one pillow—that works for each of your sleep positions.
If you prefer to sleep on your side, make sure your pillow is not too high—usually around 4 to 6 inches thick, depending on the density of the pillow material and the distance between the neck and point of the shoulder. This height should typically prevent your head and neck from turning or bending unnaturally to either side.
The bottom line is if it’s not comfortable, it’s not a good “fit”!
Learn more about sleeping positions: Best Pillows for Different Sleeping Positions
Make sure your computer monitor is at eye level.
Sit comfortably in front of your computer and close your eyes. When you open them, your gaze should be directly in the top-third of your computer screen. If you find you have to look down, you need to raise your monitor up.
Laptops most often require you to angle your head downward to see the screen, so connecting your laptop to a separate monitor, or screen, is often very helpful.
Avoid neck strain from texting.
Texting or looking down at your cell phone or mobile device for any length of time puts excessive strain on your neck.
See How Does Text Neck Cause Pain?
Over time, the added stress on the joints, ligaments, and discs in your neck can lead to premature degenerative changes in your neck. Tips to avoid neck damage from texting include raising the phone or mobile device to eye level, minimizing texting time, resting your hands and device on a pillow, and taking frequent breaks.
Use a headset.
If you spend a lot of time on the phone, be sure to avoid tilting your head to the side or cradling your phone in the crook of your neck.
Any type of hands-free device, such as a headset or ear piece, is a great way to talk on the phone without being tempted to hold your phone incorrectly. There is also a newer device that lays around your neck so you can keep it on all day—
Exercise and stretch your neck.
Keep your neck muscles strong by doing short sets of strengthening and stretching exercises throughout the day. One of the simplest exercises to do is the chin tuck exercise
This exercise helps strengthen the muscles that pull the head into alignment over the shoulders. It also stretches the scalene and suboccipital muscles.
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