周六 (8/17)1感恩讓您快樂 2英文片語 3新聞討論

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地點: 快提café  新北市板橋區文化路一段387巷10號

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討論流程:
session1.為甚麼感恩讓您快樂?
session2.英文片語
session3.新聞討論
 

1.為甚麼感恩讓您快樂?

Why Living a Life of Gratitude Can Make You Happy by Leo Babauta.

 “If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, ‘thank you,’ that would suffice.” – Meister Eckhart

Many days, I try to humble myself and hold a 2-minute gratitude session. I simply sit or kneel, with no distractions, close my eyes, and think about what I’m grateful for and who I’m grateful for.

I don’t do it every day, but let me tell you, on the days I do it, it makes me very happy.

Why should that be? Why should the simple act of thinking about who and what I’m grateful for make such a big difference in my life?

Just a few reasons:

 •Because it reminds you of the positive things in your life. It makes you happy about the people in your life, whether they’re loved ones or just a stranger you met who was kind to you in some ways.

 •Because it turns bad things into good things. Having problems at work? Be grateful you have work. Be grateful you have challenges, and that life isn’t boring. Be grateful that you can learn from these challenges. Be thankful they make you a stronger person.

 •Because it reminds you of what’s important. It’s hard to complain about the little things when you give thanks that your children are alive and healthy. It’s hard to get stressed out over paying bills when you are grateful there is a roof over your head.

 •Because it reminds you to thank others. I’ll talk about this more below, but the simple act of saying “thank you” to someone can make a big difference in that person’s life. Calling them, emailing them, stopping by to say thank you … just taking that minute out of your life to tell them why you are grateful toward them is important to them. People like being appreciated for who they are and what they do. It costs you little, but makes someone else happy. And making someone else happy will make you happy.

What do I give thanks for, privately, in my little gratitude session? It varies every day. I thank all the readers of this site, for the encouragement you have given me, for the donations you’ve made that have made me that much closer to realizing my dreams, for the criticism you’ve given that has made this site better … for the time you’ve given me, just reading the articles when you have the chance.

I thank my loved ones, for all they do to me. I thank strangers who’ve shown me little acts of kindness. I thank God, for the life he’s given me. I thank people around the world for the things they’ve done to make the world better. I thank myself, for things that I’ve done (it’s important to recognize your own accomplishments).
Questions:
1. What are the benefits of gratitude?
2. Why saying 'thank you' is very important?

3. What makes you happy?

4. How to thank someone?
5. How often do you say thank you?
6. Are you willing to help other people?

7. Why some people are ungrateful?
  英文片語
2.胡亂瞎買

   Buy a pig in a poke

Buy a pig in a poke的典故。它來自一個滑頭的人耍弄別人的一個故事。這個人說他的口袋裡有一頭小肥豬要出賣，而買主居然笨得不看一眼就買下了，回到家打開袋子，才發現原來裡面裝的是隻貓。

Buy a pig in a poke 胡亂瞎買

---Fig. to buy something without looking inside first.

Examples:

1. If you don't get a good look at the engine of a used car before you buy it, you'll wind up buying a pig in a poke.

2. I just took the salesman's word that this camera worked. I guess I bought a pig in a poke.

a pig in a poke

---something that you buy or accept without first seeing it or knowing what it is like, with the result that it might not be what you want

Examples:

1. Clothes from a catalogue are a pig in a poke. You can't feel the quality of the fabric or know if the clothes will fit.

2. Never buy a pig in the poke.

3.新聞討論

Buddhist charity promotes 'ghost month' as joyous time (By Christie Chen)

Taipei, Aug. 14 (CNA) While "ghost month" is traditionally linked to danger and misfortune, a Buddhist charity group has been trying to change that perception by promoting the period as a joyous and auspicious time. The Buddhist Compassion Relief Tzu Chi Foundation said Wednesday it plans to hold over 900 prayer meetings at home and abroad from the end of July to the end of August to "communicate positive thoughts" and dispel the myths associated with ghost month. At 12 of the prayer meetings, Taiwanese opera companies will perform Buddhist tales to convey positive messages to the public, said the foundation, which has been holding such gatherings for many years. Ghost month, observed during the seventh month on the lunar calendar, is being marked from Aug. 7 to Sept. 4 this year. People usually avoid activities such as swimming, traveling or going out after dark during ghost month, as it is believed that spirits are abroad and on the lookout for souls to capture. The Buddhist charity, however, believes that the seventh month on the lunar calendar is in fact a joyful time. The 15th day of that month marked the end of an annual summer retreat for Buddha's disciples when he was alive, the charity said. On the retreat, the disciples would meditate and lead a conscientious life, Tzu Chi said, urging the public to do away with the negative thoughts associated with the month. In 2012, the foundation organized about 4,000 activities around the world to celebrate ghost month, attracting the participation of over 280,000 people.

周五(8/16) 1人際關係 2.惡妻/惡夫/惡男女友

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人際關係

Tips for Improving Social Interaction   (By Tim Bryce)

1. ENGAGE IN A CONVERSATION

People have a natural curiosity as to what you are all about. The best way to communicate this is to engage in simple conversation. Some people are naturally shy and tend to withdraw from such discourse. If one person is not willing to start a conversation, another should take the initiative simply by asking the other, "How are you?" or "What do you think?"

2. VOLUNTEER

Many people prefer to sit back and watch as others perform the work. Volunteering your time or skills may add an additional burden but it tells others you believe in them and are willing to help out. Such an expression also makes it easy for you to solicit support when you are in need of help.

3. ASK FOR ADVICE

Too often people are too proud (or too stubborn) to ask for directions in our journey through life. But asking for advice from a colleague accomplishes two things: first, you might get the answer you seek, and; second, it says to the person you trust and respect their opinion. By confiding in an individual, the advisor becomes concerned with your best interests. This leads to mutual trust and respect between people.

4. BE COURTEOUS

Your manners and how you interact with others says a lot about a person's character. Basic courtesy means you are socially well adjusted. No, I am not suggesting everyone turns into a "Miss Manners," but attention to basic courtesy can improve your image with others. 

5. BE HONEST

The linchpin to good interpersonal relations is trust. Regardless of our form of discourse, nothing builds trust better than honesty, the basic building block of confidence. Having an honest character conveys an image that you are dependable, that your word is your bond, and you can be trusted to do the right thing. But your reputation can be shattered overnight if you are caught in a lie. Therefore, don't falsify or mislead. If you do not know an answer, do not fabricate one, but make every attempt to find the answer elsewhere.

 Questions:

1. How to improve your social skills

Ways to improve social interaction?

2. How to communicate well with people?

How to speak well and confidently?

3. Whom do you ask for advice?

Are you willing ask for opinion from others?

4. Why is it good to be honest?

Supporting reasons on why it is good to be honest.?

5. Do you trust your friends?

6. How to get your friends to trust you?

 惡妻/惡夫/惡男女友
情人節變調 妻鬧跳樓討禮物

女子怪丈夫沒送情人節禮物，負氣坐在窗邊鬧跳樓
情人節有收到禮物嗎？沒有禮物! 那準備---跳-----   Billy 覺得這則新聞有趣  來聊聊吧
 
How Do I Handle a Difficult Wife? (Eminent leaders)
handling difficult woman What else does a woman want? “I just bought her a car, did the registration in her name and paid six-month salary to a driver who takes her everywhere. Before this, she gets a monthly allowance of N10,000 (that’s not the housekeeping allowance, which is N40,000 per month). I get her clothes and jewellery anytime I travel or from mobile merchants in my office. But, kike is never pleased,” stated Jude, 38 and father of three.

“She is one of the nastiest women on earth. She is so ungrateful and never sees any good in whatever I do. The only moment she is nice is when I give her money or a gift. She would nag about imaginary women I date, coupled with her hostility to my family members.

How to deal with a difficult husband? (Circle of Moms)

My husband is difficult. He is a glass half empty person and has very high standards for everyone. As a result, he is often criticizing and disappointed in me.

He also feels that I take advantage of him financially.

I make a point to always say "thank you" when he buys us dinner or really, anything. He often has a victimized attitude. No matter how much I tell him how I appreciate him, it never seems to be enough.

How to Deal With a Demanding Girlfriend?(By Chelsea )

A demanding girlfriend comes in many forms. She could demand undivided attention at all times, or she could be jealous and materialistic among other flaws that lend to a demanding attitude. This character flaw is a hard one to get over, so knowing how to deal with a demanding girlfriend gives you the ability to decide whether or not she's really the right girl for you.

How to Deal With a Difficult Boyfriend? (By Katie O'Gorman)

Even if you are the most patient of people, dealing with a difficult boyfriend can push you to your limits. While it is normal, even healthy, to fight in relationships, it is also important to ward off trouble before it starts. Learn how to maintain composure and read your boyfriend's feelings before they spiral out of control. Relationships are a two-way street, and both parties need to work toward finding common ground.

Questions:

extra:

Do you think it is important to give expensive gifts?

How to select special  gifts for lovers ?

1. How do you handle a difficult wife? Or a difficult husband?

(image you were marrieed)

2. How to deal with a demanding girlfriend/ boyfriend?

3. How to deal with a difficult boyfriend/ grifriend?

4. What is the best way to get rid of your girlfriend/boyfriend?

5. Ways to tell she'll make a bad wife/husband?

How to pick the right wife/ the right husband?

6. Is your girlfriend material?

How to deal with a material grifriend ?

情人節變調 妻鬧跳樓討禮物【潘姵如、陳冠宇、塗豐駿╱台北報導】

杜姓女子怪丈夫沒送情人節禮物，負氣坐在窗邊鬧跳樓，警消獲報在下方架設大型氣墊。

情人節有收到禮物嗎？北市一名新婚嬌妻，不滿上周她過生日及今天七夕情人節，丈夫只帶她出門吃飯，抱怨都沒有送禮物，丈夫老羞成怒吼道：「就沒有錢是要怎樣？」夫妻倆大吵一架後，妻子竟負氣爬上四樓樓梯間窗戶，雙腳朝外哭著鬧跳樓，幸僵持半小時後，警方趁機將她拉下，丈夫也無奈：「都已經帶她去吃飯慶祝了，這樣還不夠嗎？」 

警方調查，鬧跳樓的杜姓妻子（二十三歲，服務業）與當酒商業務的丈夫（二十四歲）相識三年多，去年九月結婚後，小倆口在林森北路租屋，還養了兩隻寵物狗，因妻子還有九萬元債務，家庭支出多靠丈夫的月薪兩萬八千元支撐，妻子昨被拉下送醫後，丈夫一度氣得拒絕探視，怒說：「幹，我這麼辛苦工作是為了誰！」妻子則是情緒激動須施打鎮定劑。

諮商心理師林萃芬指出，男女的大腦結構不同，男性較無法一心多用，因此婚後可能專心於工作打拼，而忽略妻子的情緒，女性則在經營家庭生活外，仍渴望被關心呵護的感覺，妻子應該是藉由節日，表達被丈夫忽略的不滿情緒。

杜女丈夫向警方說，上周一妻子過生日時，他特地向公司請假，帶她去餐廳吃飯，前晚兩人為提前慶祝七夕情人節，他打算帶妻子出門吃飯，就在他穿鞋準備外出時，見妻子動作慢吞吞，催促她：「還不快來穿鞋！」妻子走向玄關卻又突然回頭，倒頭躺回床上說要睡覺，他氣問：「妳現在是怎樣？」妻子則怒說過生日只吃飯沒送禮，情人節又敷衍比照辦理。