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愛情克服一切?
Love doesn’t conquer all
By Amanda Chatel
Love doesn’t conquer all. That’s the biggest myth about love – that love conquers all. I hate hearing that because it’s BS. Love gives you a reason to work hard on your relationship. If you sit on your ass and don’t do your part, love won’t save you. The relationship will fall apart. Don’t depend on love alone. That’s like sending your knight in shining armor to fight a battle in his boxers. He needs armor, a sword and probably a horse, too. See what I mean?
Love means compromise. You might have imagined the person you’d fall in love with would be just like you. They’d enjoy all the same things and you’d do all the same hobbies. Nice dream. Now welcome to reality. Love means compromise. If neither one of you are making any compromises, you’re either still in that disgustingly cute puppy love phase or you’re headed for a big fight. I’m not saying you have to make massive compromises every day. Love means you talk about things and don’t hold grudges when you compromise on which side of the bed to sleep on or doing his hobby one week and yours the next.
Love isn’t perfect. You’re not going to fall in love with the perfect person. Why? They don’t exist. Love is extremely flawed. There are going to be good days and bad days. There will be days when you think you couldn’t possibly tolerate your partner another day. Real love helps you get past the bad times. You look past a person’s flaws and even love some of those flaws. You’re not going to be super, lovey-dovey, romantic movie style happy 24/7. Love isn’t easy or perfect.
You can be yourself. The one thing I like most about love is you can be yourself. If you always feel as if you have to act differently around your significant other, it’s time to break it off. It’s not love. My guess is you love him, but he doesn’t love you. Loving someone means accepting them for who they are. That’s just what love is. You can never be happy with someone who makes you feel like you can’t be you. No matter how much you care about someone, don’t put yourself through that. It’s not worth it.
It has nothing to do with looks. Sure, that guy at the bar is really hot. He even has a six figure a year job. Could it be? He’s great in the sack, too! Good job, you just found the dream guy. It’s fun for a while, but the relationship is missing something. That’s right. It’s missing love. You might think you have a type and that’s all you can date. Erase the image of your perfect guy. I’m not saying to avoid the hot guys, I’m just saying to open you eyes a little more. When you’re miserable with the hot guy, he doesn’t look so great anymore. Opting for a 7 instead of 10 could lead to eternal bliss. When you’re in love, your partner always seems like a 10.
Q:
Can love conquer all?
Is love perfect?
What makes relationship fall apart?
Do you think that love means compromise?
Do you agree the saying that love has nothing to do with looks?
What do to if you fell in love with someone who makes you feel like you can’t be yourself?
How to find the dream guy/the dream girl?
了解自己的EQ
Are You Emotionally Intelligent? Travis Bradberry
Decades of research now point to emotional intelligence as being the critical factor that sets star performers apart from the rest of the pack. The connection is so strong that 90% of top performers have high emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions to achieve positive results.
You Know Your Strengths and Weaknesses
Emotionally intelligent people don’t just understand emotions; they know what they’re good at and what they’re terrible at. They also know who pushes their buttons and the environments (both situations and people) that enable them to succeed. Having a high EQ means you know your strengths and you know how to lean into them and use them to your full advantage while keeping your weaknesses from holding you back.
You Are Difficult to Offend
If you have a firm grasp of whom you are, it’s difficult for someone to say or do something that gets your goat. Emotionally intelligent people are self-confident and open-minded, which creates a pretty thick skin. You may even poke fun at yourself or let other people make jokes about you because you are able to mentally draw the line between humor and degradation.
You Let Go of Mistakes
Emotionally intelligent people distance themselves from their mistakes, but do so without forgetting them. By keeping their mistakes at a safe distance, yet still handy enough to refer to, they are able to adapt and adjust for future success. It takes refined self-awareness to walk this tightrope between dwelling and remembering. Dwelling too long on your mistakes makes you anxious and gun shy, while forgetting about them completely makes you bound to repeat them. The key to balance lies in your ability to transform failures into nuggets of improvement. This creates the tendency to get right back up every time you fall down.
You Don’t Seek Perfection
Emotionally intelligent people won’t set perfection as their target because they know that it doesn’t exist. Human beings, by our very nature, are fallible. When perfection is your goal, you’re always left with a nagging sense of failure that makes you want to give up or reduce your effort. You end up spending your time lamenting what you failed to accomplish and what you should have done differently instead of moving forward, excited about what you've achieved and what you will accomplish in the future.
Q:
Are you emotionally intelligent?
What do you think that top performers have high emotional intelligence?
Why emotional intelligence is important?
How to make decisions to achieve positive results?
Are you difficult to offend?
Do you seek perfection?
Is being a perfectionist really a good thing?
Do you know your strengths and weaknesses?
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