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Make small talk.
As the saying goes, there’s nothing small about small talk. You may feel like you’re allergic to talking to people about the weather or the local sports team, but this is the way you can begin to develop a more serious bond and to get to know people on a deeper level. While you may want to jump right into a discussion of whether or not there’s a God or about your complicated relationship with your mother, you’ll need to be able to make more superficial conversation with people before you can get to a deeper level. Don’t think that you’re above small talk or that you have no time for it; instead, think of it as a way of moving towards truly getting to know people.
Be interested, not interesting.
You may think that the best way to be social is to make people think that you’re an awesome person who they need to spend more time with. Well, this certainly couldn’t hurt, but the fact of the matter is, people are much more likely to want to socialize with people who are interested in them, instead of people who are just interesting in general. While you can certainly reveal information about yourself, one way to socialize more is to show a real interest in people by asking them questions and showing that you care about their lives.
Embrace new people.
People who have trouble being social are usually afraid, distrustful, or just skeptical about new people. They may think that new people have nothing to offer them and that they are better off sticking to the familiar. Well, you should think that, to new people, you are certainly worth getting to know – and that you’re a new person to somebody. Instead of being skeptical of new people until they prove themselves to you, try to assume that most people have good intentions and give them the benefit of the doubt. If you approach new people as potential friends instead of potential enemies, you’ll be on your way to being much more social.
Learn to read people.
Another way to be social when you talk to people is to learn to read them, even when they are saying the opposite of how they feel. You should become a master at decoding body language, and should be able to tell how a person is feeling just from how that person is standing or by the look on his face when he’s not talking. If someone is telling you that he’s doing fine, but you can see that his eyes are puffy or that his clothes look a bit disheveled, then you may find that he actually needs a helping hand.
Taiwanese Ghost Month | International Neighbors
By Yu-Ting
During the Ghost Festival, people pay tribute to ghosts. They prepare food and drink offerings to keep them safe from ghost harassment. Marriages, moving houses, business transactions and other important events are viewed as taboos during this month. It is believed that the ghosts would create obstacles and then make things go wrong. In many parts of Asia, Ghost Festival is a holiday full of taboos and restrictions instead of happiness.
What to avoid during the ghost month?
For the Taiwanese, the Ghost Month is an ominous time. Many activities are said to bring misfortune during this time, especially after dark. Among the taboos are weddings (or it won’t be a happy ending), swimming (or ghosts in the water may drown you), making big business decision, such as investment (or it fails in the end), and moving in to a new home (or ghosts will live with you), whistling (or it could attract ghosts to you), etc.
Over all, we avoid the word “ghost” and say “good brothers” instead to protect ourselves from evil demons. On the other hand, feasts are held, not only in families but at temples all over Taiwan, to feed and entertaining the wandering ghosts. People believe that if the ghosts and ghouls aren’t kept pleasant, they will do some eerie things to the living.
Don’t provoke the Ghost! The Funny experience from my poor friend, Jay
During the ghost month, we seldom go outside after dark. However, my neighbor, Jay, who did not believe in ghosts, always laughed at us, “How could you be so superstitious! We’re in the 21 century.” or “We’re educated people who have definitely never seen a ghost.” Therefore, he didn’t mind any taboo in Ghost month.
However, he changed his faith about ghost one evening during the ghost month. I still remember vividly. It was a rainy night, and he had to pick up his sister, Jane, who took the overnight train. Just on his way to train station, the rain was so heavy that he could barely see what was going on outside. Suddenly, he saw some white stuff move, as if it was floating in the air, and following him. At that moment, his car couldn’t move forward and all he could do was back up. He was so terrified that he pulled over the car then ran to home immediately. I have no idea how many miles he ran before knocking on my door. I cannot forget how frightened he was as if he had seen a ghost when he knocked the door to ask my brother for help. Well, I snickered behind the door and texted to my brother,”
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