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‘Why won’t you apologize?’
By Dannye Romine Powell
Is there someone in your life who owes you an apology?
Or, by chance, is there someone in your life to whom you owe an apology?
Either way, it’s downright tricky.
According to a book due in January, “Why Won’t You Apologize? Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts,” by Harriet Lerner, apologies matter.
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“I’m sorry,” are the two most healing words n the English language, says Lerner. “When they are spoken as part of a wholehearted apology, these words are the greatest gift we can give to the person we have offended.”
But, according to Lerner, some people can’t apologize. In this book, she tells you why. (The person might be too shame-based, among other reasons).
She also tells you the five best ways to ruin an apology (for one, watch out for the sneaky little add-on of “but”).
She gives suggestions on how to respond to criticism (”I want you to know I’m going to keep thinking about what you’ve told me.”)
Why Apologies Are Difficult
With all these negative consequences, why do some people still refuse to apologize?
First, apologies take courage. When you admit that you were wrong, it puts you in a vulnerable position, which can open you up to attack or blame. Some people struggle to show this courage.
Alternatively, you may be so full of shame and embarrassment over your actions that you can't bring yourself to face the other person.
Or, you may be following the advice "never apologize, never explain." It's up to you if you want to be this arrogant, but, if you do, don't expect to be seen as a wise or an inspiring leader.
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Foreign worker films Taiwanese care...
Taiwan News
TAIPEI (Taiwan News) -- A foreign caregiver has released video on social media of a Taiwanese caregiver cursing, slapping and choking an elderly disabled patient.
Early this morning, a foreign caregiver surnamed Lu (呂) uploaded two videos to the Facebook Group Breaking News Commune (爆料公社) showing a Hakka-speaking Taiwanese caregiver curse, choke, slap and kick an elderly woman in a wheelchair. Lu told UDN that the video was shot when a colleague took her to Taichung's Dongshi District to take over for a Taiwanese caregiver, who was responsible for providing care for an elderly woman surnamed Liu (劉), who was wheelchair-bound and wearing a nasal cannula.
The Taiwanese caregiver began demonstrating the "procedures" for caring for Liu, but the foreign caregiver quickly came to the conclusion that her Taiwanese counterpart's behavior was a clear case of abuse. The foreign caregiver refused to take the position and instead secretly videoed the abuse the Taiwanese woman dealt out on her helpless patient, before posting the footage on various social media groups to seek help for the "grandma."
Taiwanese caregiver slapping her patient. (Still from Breaking News Commune)
The first video starts with the Taiwanese caregiver cursing in Hakka and saying "still running to another person's house to eat." She then slaps Liu in the face and as she tries to lift her hand up, the caregiver grabs it and twists it back down.
Liu makes a moaning sound and the caregiver slaps her in the face. The patient moans again, only to be slapped again and have her hands twisted back down.
Caregiver twisting hand over her patient. (Still from Breaking News Commune)
Liu then tries to kick the caregiver to release the grip she has on her wrists, and her tormentor shouts in Hakka "don't do that." The invalid woman then tries to kick again, and the caregiver shouts "Come on! Kick it again, come on, kick it again! I am waiting for you! In fact, I will bend your fingers, come on, say it again!"
The caregiver then forcefully kicks her patient's feet at least four times.
Because the caregiver behaved cruelly, the Department of Social Welfare will continue to monitor the situation. They said that if the cousin continues to take care Liu, she must receive family education and a nursing training course. If they do not see any improvement in the situation, they will file a protection order or apply for resettlement for Liu, according to the Apple Daily report.
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