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How to make people like you: 5 science-based conversation hacks theweek.com
1. Encourage people to talk about themselves
It gives their brain as much pleasure as food or money:
Talking about ourselves — whether in a personal conversation or through social media sites like Facebook and Twitter — triggers the same sensation of pleasure in the brain as food or money, researchers reported Monday…
"Self-disclosure is extra rewarding," said Harvard neuroscientist Diana Tamir, who conducted the experiments with Harvard colleague Jason Mitchell. Their findings were published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. "People were even willing to forgo money in order to talk about themselves," Ms. Tamir said.
2. To give feedback, ask questions
If you use questions to guide people toward the errors in their thinking process and allow them to come up with the solution themselves, they're less likely to feel threatened and more likely to follow through.
It's not you searching for problems; it's him searching for gaps in his thinking process. You want people to look for assumptions or decisions that don't make sense upon further reflection…The more you can help people find their own insights, the easier it will be to help others be effective, even when someone has lost the plot on an important project. Bringing other people to insight means letting go of "constructive performance feedback," and replacing it with "facilitating positive change."
3. Ask for advice
Stanford professor Jeffrey Pfeffer, persuasion expert Robert Cialdini and many others have all recommended asking for advice as a powerful way to influence others and warm them to you.
New research shows that advice seeking is a surprisingly effective strategy for exercising influence when we lack authority. In one experiment, researcher Katie Liljenquist had people negotiate the possible sale of commercial property. When the sellers focused on their goal of getting the highest possible price, only eight percent reached a successful agreement. When the sellers asked the buyers for advice on how to meet their goals, 42 percent reached a successful agreement. Asking for advice encouraged greater cooperation and information sharing, turning a potentially contentious negotiation into a win-win deal.
4. Gossip — but positively
Research shows what you say about others colors how people see you. Compliment other people, and you're likely to be seen positively. Complain, and you're likely to be associated with those negative traits you hate:
When you gossip about another person, listeners unconsciously associate you with the characteristics you are describing, ultimately leading to those characteristics' being "transferred" to you. So, say positive and pleasant things about friends and colleagues, and you are seen as a nice person. In contrast, constantly complain about their failings, and people will unconsciously apply the negative traits and incompetence to you.
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Colors That Give Good First Impressions | By Samantha Kemp
In only a few seconds, many people determine whether they will be interested in you or have disdain for you. Certain colors trigger an emotional response and learning which colors give the best impression will help you in meeting new people, landing a job and interesting a potential romantic partner.
Navy and Gray
Navy is the go-to color for interviews. It appears serious, while not drab. Wear a navy suit or slacks to an interview or important business meeting to give a good impression of your professionalism, work ethic and attentiveness to the situation. Gray works in a similar nature. Men should wear a darker gray suit, while women can wear a lighter tone gray pantsuit for a good interview outfit.
Black
Black is a strong color and, likewise, emits a strong message. If you wear black, some people will think that you are serious and powerful. Black is a dominant color in fashion and can also make people think that you are in style. However, black can also appear drab at times. Counteract any negative association with black by wearing bright accessories or accent pieces. For example, women can carry a bright purse or wear a bright scarf. Men can tuck in a colorful handkerchief or wear a bright tie.
Purple
Purple is commonly seen in royal images and is therefore associated with a regal or luxurious lifestyle. It is also a color that shows loyalty. Wear this color if you are meeting new friends or potential romantic partners to give off an air of sophistication and a trustworthy nature. This color can also give off a good first impression during a negotiations process at work.
Red
Red is a bold color and should only be worn in situations when you are trying to give a good first impression. Red is associated with anger and aggressiveness such as you see in a bull pen. Wear this color if you want your client to appreciate your aggressive nature to land an important deal or be the dominant figure in a work conflict.
Yellow
Yellow color tones make a good impression if the person wearing it has a warm coloring. Warm complexions usually have an undertone that is red, peach or yellow. Gold, brown, yellow and ivory clothing and makeup complement a person with a warm complexion. These colors give off a happy and rich impression.
White
White is a soft color that evokes the impression of innocence. It also helps to tone down bolder and darker colors. White is an appropriate color for many work and social functions that involve a first meeting.
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