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Benefits Of Having A Great Life Mentor In Your Lifetime Tom Casano lifehack
Everyone needs at least one great life mentor in their lifetime. They’ll give you advice and inspiration that will completely change your future. They’ll give you easy shortcuts that will help you get on the right path again quickly. They’ll even be a role model and guide whom you can follow.
Life mentors are not only the professional ones we usually think of, like teachers and coaches, but also every day people in our lives. For example, some of your current mentors include your friends, family members, neighbors, and colleagues.
They Will Support You After a Setback
Have you ever felt really down after a defeat, rejection, or failure? Your life mentor supports you when you’re feeling down. They listen to you, and remind you of the big successes you’ve already had in the past. They remind you that while you feel a little down right now, you’ve got to keep your head up, because you still have a bright future ahead of you.
They Can Give You Honest Feedback
It’s easy to delude and deceive ourselves, and it’s tremendously beneficial to have someone else to be a real mirror in your life. Your life mentors show you who you really are, so that you can see your weaknesses and work on them. They’ll show you where you need to improve, especially when you’re not fully aware of it yet. They won’t sugar-coat it for you, but they also won’t hurt you in the process either.
They Help Clarify Your Situation
When you’re feeling lost or confused, it’s sometimes really hard to define your situation when you’re thinking about it on your own. Getting out outside of your head, and seeing your situation through your mentor’s eyes will help you to get clear on where you are now, how you got here, and where you want to go. When you feel lost, you only need to get clear on where you are now and where you want to go.
They Give You the Map and Guide You
When you’re feeling lost and you don’t know where you’re going, it’s really refreshing when someone else can help navigate you. When your mentor shows you the path that you need to go down, it makes continuing your journey so much easier. They know where you want to go and how to help direct you there. You just need to trust that they can offer some advice to help guide you.
They Are Your Role Model
Your mentor shows you that it was really possible for them and that they achieved it. And that means that you can achieve the same thing too. Arnold Schwarzenegger followed Reg Park, Martin Luther King, Jr. followed Ghandi. Your mentor is someone that you can model and copy. They are a living, breathing blueprint for you to imitate for your own needs. Thankfully, you don’t have to re-invent the wheel, but you can follow in their footsteps.
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低頭族傷感情
What is phubbing, and is it ruining your relationships? By Lulu Chang digitaltrends
According to new research, the act of phubbing, or phone snubbing, is a very real epidemic in the United States, and aside from being rude and inconsiderate, may also come with a few more insidious results.
As per results published in the journal “Computers in Human Behavior,” not only can ignoring your partner in favor of your phone damage your relationship, it can also lead to depression and lower rates of overall life satisfaction for the, um, phubbee. So put down your phone and start paying attention to the people sitting right next to you.
In conducting their research, Professor James Roberts of Baylor University’s Hankamer School of Business and his team surveyed 453 adults across the country in two separate experiments. In the first, 308 participants were asked to identify “phubbing” behaviors, asking respondents questions like, “My partner places his or her cellphone where they can see it when we are together,” and “My partner glances at his/her cellphone when talking to me.” The answers to these questions helped researchers develop a 9-item scale indicating the occurrence of phubbing.
The second experiment, which involved 145 adults, delved deeper into phubbing’s effects, as couples were asked to identify which of the behaviors they’d experienced within their relationships, and then how secure they felt in their relationships, how satisfied they were, and how anxious and/or depressed they felt as a result of their partners’ behaviors.
In a rather “well duh” sort of conclusion, Roberts found that “when people perceived their partners to be phubbers — they spend more time paying attention to their phones — that created conflict in the relationship.” What is surprising, however, is the frequency with which this sort of behavior occurs. According to survey results, 46.3 percent of respondents said they’d experienced phubbing at the hands of their significant other, and 22.6 percent admitted that phubbing led to problems in the relationship.
And even if it’s as seemingly inconsequential as looking down at your phone every once in a while, study results suggest that these few seconds start to weigh heavily on your partner’s mind, eventually contributing to an overall feeling of dissatisfaction, or perhaps inadequacy, within the relationship.
In an interview with Yahoo Health, Roberts noted, “We found that the ones that reported higher partner phubbing fought more with their partner and were less satisfied with their relationship than those who reported less phubbing.” In fact, 37 percent of survey respondents said they felt depressed at least some of the time, and much of this, authors believe, can be attributed to our collective addictions to our phones.
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Are you a phubber? Is it impolite doing pubbing?
Why pubbing ruining your relationships?
Do you get angry when your friends pubbing?
What can you do about phone addicts?
How to avoid talking to people you don't want to talk to?
How to have good smartphone manners?
What are the signs that you may be addicted to your smart phone?
人生導師何處尋？
作者：羅思
有些字，會帶給人一種溫暖，幸福，可以依靠的感覺。對於我來說，「mentor」就是其中一個這樣的字。就字面直接翻譯，「mentor」是導師的意思，但它比班級導師所指的「導師」有更深刻的內涵，它指的是人生的導師，生命裡的良師益友，啟蒙者。
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有些字，會帶給人一種溫暖，幸福，可以依靠的感覺。對於我來說，「mentor」就是其中一個這樣的字。就字面直接翻譯，「mentor」是導師的意思，但它比班級導師所指的「導師」有更深刻的內涵，它指的是人生的導師，生命裡的良師益友，啟蒙者。這個字源自於希臘神話裡的人物，奧德修斯參加特洛伊戰爭前，將兒子泰勒馬科斯托付給曼特(Mentor)。在曼特的指導與關懷下，泰勒馬科斯長大成為一位守護家園的好青年。從此之後曼特—mentor，就成為良師益友的代名詞。
在我最近翻譯的一本書裡，不斷的出現「mentor」這個字，這本書的作者是史丹佛大學教授威廉．戴蒙，他是位研究青少年發展的大師級人物，他發現能夠活出生命意義的人，必定在他一生之中遇到過一位以上的mentor，而且這樣的人生導師通常來自於家庭之外。我在翻譯到有關於人生導師的一些段落時，經常想起了「陪我走到世界盡頭」這一部電影的內容。這部電影裡的雜貨店老闆，完美的詮釋了mentor這個字的內涵。
這部電影講的是一位住在巴黎藍街的猶太男孩，和街上一位穆斯林老人之間的故事。猶太男孩摩摩，是個剛步入青春期，在家裡得不到溫暖的憂鬱男孩，他經常到穆斯林老人開的雜貨店買東西，也順便偷東西。老人看在眼裡，卻不點破，每天跟他展開幾句輕鬆的對話，慢慢地改變了他們彼此的人生。
電影中的雜貨店老闆，是我看過最有智慧的人物之一。為人父母的，應該可以從他身上得到許多啟發。
**關於快樂、幸福與愛的追求
有一次，老人問摩摩:「 你為什麼都不笑?」摩摩說:「微笑是有錢人的東西，是快樂的人才擁有的。」老人回答:「 你錯了。是微笑讓人快樂的，不信你試試看。」
男孩開始嘗試微笑，運氣果然開始變好，學校老師對他變溫柔，心儀的鄰家女孩開始願意跟他親近，他感覺世界有了改變，唯獨回到家裡對父親微笑，父親一臉嚴肅的要他把嘴巴張大一點，冷冰冰的對他說:「你牙齒有問題，要裝牙齒矯正器．．．」被老爸澆了一盆冷水的摩摩，來到了雜貨店，難過的摩摩看見老人一副自在的樣子便問他:「讓自己快樂，你是怎麼辦到的?」
老人回答:「我很清楚自己可蘭經裡的內容。」
摩摩說:「我應該哪天把可蘭經偷來看看，雖然身為猶太人不應該這麼做?」
老人接著問:「對你，當個猶太人有何意義?」
摩摩回答:「我不知道，對我爸而言就是整天悶悶不樂，卻是阻止我成為另一種人。」
後來摩摩回家開始偷偷研究可蘭經，一知半解的不是很懂，他和老人聊起:「我偷偷的念可蘭經，可是看不懂。」老人回答:「在學習時，不能只看書，還要去請教別人。」
在摩摩的父親失業自殺留下他獨自一人之後，摩摩請雜貨店老闆收養他，老人欣然答應。不久，他們展一場回鄉之旅，從巴黎的藍街一路開車旅行到雜貨店老闆在土耳其的故鄉，那是他們心中的可蘭經所在地。旅程的一路上，精彩的人生對話不斷展開。
行經瑞士時，老人對摩摩說了一段有趣的觀察。「你若想知道所到國家是否有錢，你只要看看他們的垃圾桶就夠了。有錢的國家的垃圾桶裡沒有垃圾。垃圾桶旁邊有垃圾的國家算中等，那裏有很多觀光客會去。有垃圾沒垃圾桶的國家就很窮。」
到了希臘，老人要摩摩聞聞幸福的味道。在希臘神殿的遺跡裡，老人發表了一段他對自己這一生的看法:「盡管我一生努力工作，但總以自己緩慢的步調為主，從不汲汲於營利賺錢，和招來大批顧客上門。花時間過日子，這才是幸福真正的祕方。」
車子開到土耳其，一步步接近心中可蘭經的故鄉，摩摩對老人說:「希望你不要覺得難過，但我想念藍街，我就是沒辦法不想。」老人這時對摩摩說:「我一定要教你跳舞。。。。。男人的心就像關在籠子裡的鳥，當你跳舞，心就會跟著唱歌，接著心也會飛上天。」
老人所指的跳舞，是伊斯蘭教蘇菲教派的一種旋轉舞蹈，近乎一種宗教祈禱的儀式。他帶著摩摩到蘇菲教派的教堂裡欣賞這種舞蹈，並對摩摩解釋:「他們圍著他們的心旋轉，天神在哪?就在他們心中。如同祈禱文一般，他們失去可以依循的方向，以如此沉重的負擔作為平衡，他們成為明亮的火炬，他們在大火中燃燒自己。」
在這一段蘇菲旋轉舞蹈之後，摩摩對老人說:「我的煩惱一掃而空，遠離所有的怨恨，禱告就是這樣的嗎?」
看到電影裡的這一段，我流下了眼淚，摩摩終於可以放下對藍街的牽絆，那些痛苦的，讓他感到怨恨的:母親的遺棄，父親的冷漠，愛人的背叛，貧窮的自卑，青春的虛空．．． 那條曾經拘禁了他，卻也是他生命全部的巴黎藍街。而如今，他找到了心中的寧靜，在蘇菲舞蹈的旋轉中。
關於這部電影，可以談的還很多，最後我想分享的，是老人在摩摩發現他喜歡的女孩愛上別人時，安慰他的一段話:「你對她的愛，永遠屬於你，就算她拒絕也不能改變這事實，她只是無福消受而已。你所付出的將永遠屬於你，你所擁有的永遠也不會消失。」
生命中若能遇到一位像雜貨店老人這樣的mentor，該是多麼大的恩賜？
我也不禁思考，如果那位猶太小男孩，來到你的商店裡，你能給他甚麼樣的指引？或是我，我能給他甚麼樣的指引？
你每天都在做這件事！"phubbing"這個字是什麼意思？ 希平方
自2007年智慧型手機上市以來，這項創新科技已大大改變了現代人的生活。餐桌上不見寒暄交流，只見人們爭先拍攝食物、各自打卡；大眾運輸上也鮮見乘客閱讀，大多都忙著滑手機，沉浸在自己的世界。在台灣，我們稱呼這種人為「低頭族」，英文又怎麼說呢？
為了想出一個能夠完美反映現代生活的詞，澳洲麥考瑞字典編纂團隊邀請了語言學界專家、作家、以及詩人們一同腦力激盪，也藉此宣傳新產品。
你每天都在做這件事！
經過這些精明腦袋的努力之下，由 phone（電話）和 snub（冷落、怠慢）組合而成的phubbing一字誕生了，釋義為「顧著滑手機忽略某人的動作」；低頭族則稱作phubber。在公布這個新字的同時，麥考瑞字典編纂團隊也開始了一項「別再低頭（Stop Phubbing）」的活動，呼籲大家要適時放下科技產品，轉而擁抱人性。
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